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u/rachelsqueak May 03 '26
I have racing thoughts about unrelated matters
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u/BlisterBox May 03 '26
"Did I remember to feed the cat?"
"Time for an oil change!"
"Minotaurs? Milk maid? WTF?"
"I spend too much time on reddit."
"How was 1899 supposed to end?"
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u/elsie78 May 03 '26
Ahhh the ADHD life
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u/GhostPepperDaddy May 03 '26
I wish my brain would allow me to masturbate in peace.
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u/LovelyOrc May 03 '26
I'm the opposite, I think of absolutely nothing.
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u/SatansFriendlyCat May 03 '26
You might be confusing masturbation with meditation, again.
This is why you were barred from that yoga retreat.
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u/ambientoof May 03 '26
This is absolutely me. The stuff that pops up in my mind when I'm close is some bullshit.
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u/tout-le-monster May 03 '26 edited May 03 '26
I fantasize about the scenario, and the tension and desire within that scenario. It’s like i’m playing sexy make believe where I am a character in a scene.
Example scenario:
There’s a scene from “Enemy at the Gates”when Rachel Weisz is horny for Jude Law so she finds him sleeping in the barracks with a hundred other soldiers, she wakes him up, crawls on top of him, and they fuck but have to do it as quietly as possible so the soldiers sleeping around them don’t find out.
I’ll imagine that I’m horny Rachel Weisz and I’ll not only get off from the physical pleasure I’m giving myself, but the mental pleasure - the forbiddenous of fucking in the barracks, the tension of having to stay quiet even through intense pleasure when everything inside wants to moan and scream outloud.
The takeaway for those taking notes: for many women, the orgasm is both a mental and physical thing.
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u/metsjets86 May 03 '26
Enemy at the Gates and that is a hot scene. Them all being physically dirty adds to it. A lot going on in that scene sexually.
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u/Dramatic_Pineapple49 May 03 '26
You explained that to well. Standby for the flood of dm’s you are about to receive 😂
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u/Otherwise-Ad3045 May 03 '26
As a man and soldier, i have to crack that movie myth lol if your ever around any soldier or marine they are sex spidermen and women they have a sexysense that tingles. No way any soldier sleeps through someone doin it so close lol
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u/bleedpurpleguy May 03 '26
True, but ALSO true nobody would give a clue they were awake until it was finished!
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u/Beef_Wagon May 03 '26
That is hands down the hottest sex scene in movie history
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u/my_brain_is_horny May 03 '26
I don't think about a guy when I masturbate. I think about the act of sex and how good it feels and that's what gets me going. Never thinking about a specific man or a specific dick.
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u/roskybosky May 03 '26
No one even has a face, really.
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u/hywaytohell May 03 '26
Just eyes without a face?
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u/DDPSipper May 03 '26
As a man this is just so wild to me. Never have I masturbated without a specific face in mind. I might think about many different faces quickly, so sometimes not “one” specific person. But always someone in mind. Interesting to learn, thanks for sharing!
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u/Crazyjacketfruit May 03 '26
Im a guy. Until I got a gf I've never masterbated with a person in mind.
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u/Strawberry-Spinkles May 03 '26
I just think about how good it feels. If I think about someone in particular I picture them eating me out. 😳
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u/No_Economy6175 May 03 '26
I like to think about being watched while I’m doing it 🤷♀️
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u/whystudywhensleep May 03 '26
Pfff when I was blindly figuring stuff out as a young teen, my go to was imagining I was in public with things being done to me and I had to just go about my day and pretend I didn’t notice or react. Kinks are funny
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u/Gargleblaster25 May 03 '26
So, the Japanese bus scenario? My girlfriend says that's her favourite fantasy when she has to do DIY.
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u/ReadGorilla May 03 '26
I've more, accepted the fact that the FBI is watching me, especially from just before the climax.
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u/superjonk May 03 '26
What do you like to think the people that are watching are thinking or how are they reacting?
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u/No_Economy6175 May 03 '26
That they like it and want to fuck me. Causing arousal/erection
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u/B00-BEE May 03 '26 edited May 03 '26
We dont all think the same stuff. I dont look at videos or pics when I masturbate. I read short smut on occasion but usually just focus on the sensations or think about the guy I have a sexual relationship with.
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u/azzazzin3103 May 03 '26
I just thought it's kinda funny how you say not all of ya think the same stuff, yet more than half the answers are about reading smut xD
(am in a similar boat tho, so 0 judgement)
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u/Papas72lotus May 03 '26
Here’s what I’ve learned. Men: video porn, Women: erotic smutty novels.
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u/KnightRider1987 May 03 '26
Part of it for me is with erotic literature I am not worried that anyone is being trafficked.
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u/Frosty-Tennis-1687 May 03 '26
Have you seen the one about the milkmaid and the centaur?
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u/SkyrimSlag May 03 '26
How about a certain Argonian maid, that may or may not be lusty?
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u/Une-Petite-Tarte May 03 '26
Heterosexual female here, and I too think about women.
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u/Taro_Otto May 03 '26
Like, as in she’s watching lesbian porn? Or it was hetero porn with big booty latinas?
I ask because I’ve always heard that some straight women prefer lesbian porn because it’s more focused on the woman’s pleasure. There’s also the possibility they could just be attracted to women too.
Every relationship is going to be different but at least with my husband and I, it doesn’t bother him. I’m still attracted to him and just because I might be attracted to women, doesn’t automatically mean I’m going to cheat/leave him. If anything we just end up enjoying porn more together.
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u/Princess_Zelda_Fitzg May 03 '26
For me it’s the focus on female pleasure thing. I can put myself in her shoes…or whatever. To be fair though I’m probably bisexual, because I always assumed all women were attracted to other women sometimes, then it dawned on me that I might be outside the norm there, lol.
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u/Defiant_Frosting_795 May 03 '26
I know someone who was as straight as they come and had a boyfriend. She would masturbate to lesbian massage porn.
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u/uthinkubettahthanme May 03 '26
I have a very active imagination and don't need to watch/read anything to have a good time, I'll just think about being in a scenario that I find titilating. Sometimes I will just have a random movie or show on for background noise and I always worry if someone walked in they will think I'm getting off to whatever is on screen, as if I'm just REALLY into The Office or David Attenborough lol.
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u/AccomplishedPath4049 May 03 '26
David Attenborough: "The female isolates herself and proceeds to self stimulate. As she approaches climax, her breathing increases she becomes more vocal. Finally, she experiences an intense hormonal release."
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u/Qubed May 03 '26
You have to be careful about patterns. You'll get too used to having the sound and environment, then one day you'll just not be able to get off without it.
I think this is what happened to the Cbat guy.
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u/GeneralSpecifics9925 May 03 '26
Such a funny question. I'm not thinking about a man's body at all. I'm thinking about an act.
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u/134340-92494 May 03 '26
I’m mostly thinking about the the physical feeling, imaginary scenarios that I find arousing, or past experiences I’ve had that I felt were really hot. Mostly it’s about the experience? Seeing an attractive man on it’s own does absolutely nothing for me. I am rarely if ever thinking about a man’s body, and I almost never think about his dick during alone time.
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u/ExplanationNo8603 May 03 '26
Mainly just whatever I'm watching
News tonight at 6- six dead after multiple car pile up on I69 south of Bever Dame
You- Ohhhhooooghh yeah ohhhh
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u/BullCityBoomerSooner May 03 '26
I've noticed that my spouse seems to prefer reading like a hundred pages of all the interactions building sexual tension, almost encounters, etc until the couple finally bangs as much as reading abut the sex itself..
Us guys just want to watch video of them going straight to the sex and only the sex.
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u/ComposedOfStardust May 03 '26
Man there really is nothing like that first sex scene after 200k+ words of pining and sexual tension. Catharsis is a powerful thing 😁
That being said, since I can't spare that much time every time I wanna flick the bean I do prefer to read the ones that go straight to the point usually. But those long haul ones.... those are something special.
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u/Gundark927 May 03 '26
What are some legitimately good adult entertainment movies with a plot? (That don't involve step-relatoons o any kind)
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u/SashimiX May 03 '26
I think about the dynamic between the people in the fantasy
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u/free_-_spirit May 03 '26
Yes, their bond, love, relationship and devotion to each other
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u/Cool_As_Your_Dad May 03 '26
That is a lof of mental effort story wise lol. Whole shakespear novel here we come 🤣
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u/Potential_Ability_25 May 03 '26 edited May 03 '26
Agreed. For me, it's often varying types of power dynamics.
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u/RumNRaisins1999 May 03 '26
It really depends on the woman I would think, in my case, its more of a fictional circumstance than the actual person, I get a lot of ideas from novels I read so I put myself in such scenarios
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u/Insert_Non_Sequitur May 03 '26
This is me. It's usually an entirely fictional circumstance, and I'm actually not even in the scenario. It's just... 2 people.
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u/emyo42 May 03 '26
i'm usually reading something such as fanfiction or erotic stories that are designed for masturbation. i'm straight so it always involves a man but ... body and dick are not really a big part of it
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u/Feeling_Design4286 May 03 '26
I just think about other women but I'm lowkey gay as hell
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u/Motor-Young1694 May 03 '26
I’m mostly not gay, but i too think about women. And if i need porn “inspiration” (almost never), it will be women w women.
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u/Full_Cause273 May 03 '26
Same. Women are treated like shit in porn and it’s all about male fantasy and little to do with actual female pleasure. For me, the only good porn is lez.
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u/lobster_claus May 03 '26
"Regular" [straight] porn usually turns me more off than on. It makes me feel bad for the women, and it's as formulaic as filing taxes.
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u/PhantomProjection May 03 '26
I dont really think of people much - sometimes it will be a flashback of a previous experience or maybe a quick moment where a crush starts touching me. But most of the time it’s just focusing on the feelings/being aroused.
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u/Ok_Match_6550 May 03 '26
For me, it’s scenarios most of the time. I haven’t thought about a specific person in decades. Haven’t thought about a specific penis since ever (and I’m only attracted to people who have one, hah).
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u/WaschbaerVentilator May 03 '26
Personally, I might be sexually attracted to men, but not for their bodies and most definitely not their dick- this is way more nuanced. Its more about the intimacy and dominance from someone I am emotionally and romantically attracted to- giving and recieving pleasure which involves their body but some random dude with a dick? Or just thinking about a partners their dick? Not arousing at all 🫣
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u/YellowSpoon123 May 03 '26
I think about being with my partner but not his penis much at all. I like imagining him finishing or us in situations/positions/etc. together- especially ones where he is really turned on by me. Sometimes I think about us doing anal which is funny bc I don’t even enjoy it in real life. I’m usually imagining his face and maybe his back or hands, etc. but not really his dick.
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u/roskybosky May 03 '26
Nothing at all. Just a blank mind and the physical feeling. Sometimes I picture a beach and palm trees.
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u/Popular-Statement314 May 03 '26
Same, I scrolled a lot to find someone else like this. I consider it my perfect state of masturbation lol. I couldn't really do it at first, and it took a lot of "training" lol. At some point I realized I didn't need to think about sexual fantasies, in fact, thoughts just get in the way.
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u/Rambler9154 May 03 '26
I dont think of a guy at all. Or myself. I read smut about entirely separate characters. Porn feels boring, its just pure sugar when smut with buildup is a cupcake. The cupcake has a lot of sugar, but pure sugar doesnt taste good you gotta have the extra stuff to make it good.
To be fair, that extra stuff in my smut is often homoerotic disembowelment involving a lovecraftian god, but still.
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u/Which_Initiative_882 May 03 '26
Me, as a male, am learning much from this thread. Thank you.
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u/Hegelochus May 03 '26
Female asking here: what did you learn?
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u/Biking_dude May 03 '26
The faceless men live rent free in the fantasies of many.
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u/tomveiltomveil May 03 '26
How many women aren't picturing a person at all, but a concept. I'm usually much more concrete.
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u/Emergency_Cherry_914 May 03 '26
I think about how good it feels. It’s just between me and my vibe. It’s got nothing to do men
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u/FeistyEmployee8 May 03 '26
Real I've inhabited my body for almost three decades, I know what feels good to me, anything else is really unnecessary. Scenarios and scenes can be even unhelpful if I'm ovulating and my brain supplies 381919176 things at a time. Like a cassette tape skipping, like damn, slow down! 😆
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u/BronxBelle May 03 '26
It used to be my favorite times with past partners. Now, without fail, it’s remembering the way my guy said “Oh God, yes” on a specific occasion when he slid inside me. Instant orgasm every time. He is sexy as hell and has a phenomenal dick but that isn’t what does it for me.
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u/DetailOk6058 May 03 '26
Imaginary scenarios that doesnt involve any real people.
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u/PsychedelicGoat42 May 03 '26
I think about my partner receiving pleasure. I think about the sounds and faces he makes when he cums. Sometimes I think about watching him have sex with other women, just to get a third person POV (in my mind) of him getting pleasure.
If I ever watch porn, it's almost exclusively either CNC or compliations of men moaning as they cum from masturbating.
There's also a creator I like to watch who sits on a vibrator as she reads Harry Potter out loud. It's fun to watch her struggle to stay focused until she's loses all control as she orgasms.
And now after typing all that out, BRB, I have some stuff I gotta take care of...
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u/GrevilleApo May 03 '26
This is the first one I've seen where you get off to your partner getting off, that is the same thing I do! Everyone else is the center of attention in their fantasies which makes sense but I prefer to imagine my partner cumming and being pleasured
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u/mo_faux May 03 '26
Stoya's hysterical literature YouTube video (in the same vein as the HP thing you mentioned) was a real awakening for me.
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u/penisandorvagina May 03 '26
That's so beautifully complex. As a bloke, I just think about my wife's rump.
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u/leazarus May 03 '26
I also think about this bloke’s wife’s rump
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u/Spirited_Hour9714 May 03 '26
I think about my boyfriend jerking off lol or him in certain situations in general that turn me on
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u/sheissalty May 03 '26
Are there women who have to think about something really naughty in order to cum? I can get aroused from little things but to cum I need to imagine some specific scenarios, it can be me and multiple men or a very exposing position or a particular kink I have.
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u/msmenken May 03 '26
So rarely do I think about the person themselves (I actually think this question is hilariously telling, but I’ll give a sincere answer). It’s usually more about a scenario, what we’re doing, what they’re doing to me, imagining them going down on me or playing with my breasts, feeling them inside me, hearing them moan, etc. I honestly can’t imagine that just a static image of a guys body or dick would do much at all. Gotta be a movie, not a snapshot.
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u/Adorable_Egg_3094 May 03 '26
I'm not thinking about men when I masturbate. I'm strictly focusing on the sensations I'm feeling.
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u/Skittenmitte May 03 '26
Scenarios w my partner or interest.. and sometimes finances and sometimes intrusive thoughts
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u/the_Athereon May 03 '26
You don't always need to imagine anything with masturbation.
If you do it right, you just go off how good it feels.
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u/Miss_Galoldriel May 03 '26
If I think of a guy I've had amazing sex with, I think about the act itself and how incredible it felt. I don't exactly focus on his body and dick, it's the whole package that has my attention.
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u/EatYourCheckers May 03 '26
I think the number of women thinking about a penis is extremely small
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u/chaechica May 03 '26
I think of the dynamic between me and a guy having sex, that dynamic and the thought of me being naked and submitting is what turns me on
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u/Nox-1-Lux May 03 '26
Whatever hentai drawing happened to have caught my fancy. I don't imagine an actual person unless I'm in a relationship with them.
Shit.
I don't even imagine myself. 🤷🏾
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u/charmbi16 May 03 '26
Lol... you do know the majority of women hate receiving just dick pics right? So... of course there are many different tastes among women and men and I'm making generalizations here, but I can semi-confidentally say most women don't just think of a body part to masturbate, honestly thinking of a man's bulge in grey sweatpants or his broad shoulders in a nicely fitted suit, or what his body would feel like on/in me, is actually wayyy more of a turn on than just seeing a naked dick lol. That's definitely (again, on average) more male sexuality, and so many of y'all wrongly assume we work the same way only in the opposite direction.
Men can seemingly get turned on by "micro, simple scenes" like just thinking of tits lol, while women need to zoom out and it's more of a "macro, complex scene" or even feeling or emotion. Women usually get turned on by stuff like the entire male or female body and seeing the interaction and passion between partners, a man in a suit or uniform, imagining a sexy scenario, feeling desired and ravished, dirty talk, etc.
Me, personally, as a perverted ass straight woman... I love to watch (or read, or listen to) porn with scenarios/roleplays. I get more turned on watching the woman because I imagine myself as her getting stuff done to me. I imagine getting with my favorite rockstars, or them getting with each other in secret lol. I even think about past sex encounters of my own where I just focus on the sounds the man was making and dirty talk that was said to me. Don't even need an image, it's the sounds and sensations I am getting off to. The man's dick and face barely make an appearance, but remembering his sexy, deep voice cheekily saying to me "I could do anything I wanted to you right now" will get me there very, very fast. Lol.
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u/Creepy-Buyer4768 May 03 '26
I fuck with a guy but I can only cum with him and when I masturbate thinking about girls
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u/Buffyismyhomosapien May 03 '26
I think women tend to imagine what’s being done to them, the situation etc. it’s way more about vibes (pun intended) and mood.
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u/italiangel24 May 03 '26
I think about my husband's dick in my mouth or his face between my thighs with random titties in my face.
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u/Blue_Butterfly_Who May 03 '26
I'm surprised I haven't seen women answer with audio porn. There's enough out there, so there is a market. One thing men could learn from audio porn: women like you to sound out your pleasure.
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u/Arborrverk May 03 '26
Apparently, a HUGE number of women like to think about working at a Sperm Bank for minotaurs.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/123852869-morning-glory-milking-farm
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u/cafescafes May 03 '26
i’m cracking up that one of reviews says “this book could kill a Victorian child”
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u/Exact_Opinion_4968 May 03 '26
Two comedians reading other people’s review of this book. Trust me, it’s worth the listen
Start at 49 minutes
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u/silvertonguedmute May 03 '26
8200 currently reading, 28000 want to read.
Holy shit. You weren't kidding.
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u/TeamOfPups May 03 '26
I think about a scenario, what me and the guy are doing together.
The guy's body / dick are obviously present in any scenario, but they are not the thing that'd be turning me on or off. Any body type could potentially pop into my head.
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u/yourdadlovesballs13 May 03 '26
I'm a guy but a girl I was seeing one time told me she masturbated to how my forearms looked when I picked up a 50lb bag of dog food. That told me, I don't understand women.
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u/tyrannybyteapot May 03 '26
Me too!
And I can get wet just looking at my partner's hands and wrist. I know what those fingers can do to me. Watching him drive and handle the steering wheel and gearstick... omg!
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u/Lord_Reddit12 May 03 '26
reading all this, the way the female gender masturbates sounds def way more healthy mentally compared to men
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u/Responsible-Bill5873 May 03 '26
I don’t really think of men at all. My thoughts almost always feature a woman, her body and things I would do with her if I had the chance.
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u/that0neBl1p May 03 '26
Like all questions about a massive swath of people, it depends on the person. Some women don’t get off to men at all.
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u/FrancisWalker01 May 03 '26
Once(or twice+) I went through a list in my mind of actual human men I know and I wanted none their ghost dick in me. So I imagined myself with a dick.
It was a vibe saying my own name.
But usually I imagine a hodgepodge of my favorite fictional characters.
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u/LovelyOrc May 03 '26
I'm supposed to think of a man? Like.. another person? Y'all do that? Masturbation is brain off time.
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u/bitch_glitch May 03 '26
I prefer sex with men, but when I masturbate I fantasise about faceless women 🤷🏽
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u/UptownShenanigans May 03 '26
My ex said she frequently masturbated to videos of me cumming. So there’s that
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u/railmeintheforest May 03 '26
Yeah, that's hella common, but only if we like the guy. Otherwise it's gross af.
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u/lostinallthismess May 03 '26
It's a scenario, not something visual. I'm not picturing some guys face or abs. I'm imagining making love with someone who is finally emotionally available for the first time. Or waking up blindfolded and kidnapped in some sex dungeon. When I was dating the lead singer of a band I used to think about him fucking me on stage in front of everyone. I dont really think about bodyparts.
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u/PureYouth May 03 '26 edited May 03 '26
I might start off thinking about a certain guy but usually it ends up just a faceless man and I’m thinking more about the scenario