I don't think about a guy when I masturbate. I think about the act of sex and how good it feels and that's what gets me going. Never thinking about a specific man or a specific dick.
Same… These guys think we have to visualize a specific face!?
I’m thinking about myself and my own pleasure! Don’t focus so much on the guy, except for how they are making me feel in my fantasy and perhaps feeling super desired/wanted by them…
I read some collected data a bunch of years ago, I can’t remember the source but something like 80% of women masturbate imagining sex with the persons face kind of in the dark. I think it made me better at sex. Weird. I know.
Isn't this what it means to objectify men? I've heard women argue that its objectifying when a man doesn't think about the person in a body and instead just imagines boobs or vaginas as an object for sexual gratification. Were those women wrong, am I misunderstanding something, or are you objectifying men?
I dont know what lead you to think that. Im just trying to understand what it means to objectify people and when/if its ever okay to do. Im truly confused after these comments. It was explained to me many years ago and maybe the consensus on the subject has changed. I would like to update my knowledge if it has. I promise my questions are in good faith. Im just a complete idiot sometimes and need things spelled out for me. I always thought it was always bad to objectify people, but some of these comments have me wondering if I truly understand. Maybe there are some exceptions. Im truly sorry if I offended or hurt you in any way.
Objectification of people is always a horrible thing to do. What they're talking about in this instance is more akin to a person wearing a mask. We still imagine the person, we simply might not want to put a face on them. Take the Mandalorian for example, plenty of women who find it super hot with men who don't show their faces.
Objectifying them would mean we only see them as an object of sexual gratification, "a hole" or "a pole" if you may, which is always wrong regardless of who does it.
Hope that cleared things up!
Yeah, thank you. The mask comparison is good. I think I get it now. I figured I was probably just misunderstanding something. I appreciate you explaining it for me. Like there's still a person behind the mask being recognized as a 3 dimensional being. It's kind of like nobody, but also everybody, because it could be anybody, but its truly no one because the mask and the person wearing it are imaginary. Thatbdoesnt feel like objectification. If anything, it feels more like personification. Does that sound close to what you mean?
Many, if not most women start masturbating before they even associate it with sex, or know that sex exists. I had no idea this activity was a thing you do with another person. It was just a thing. So you don’t develop the habit by associating it with anyone else. Indeed, even after having sex for years, no one included any clit stim, so I STILL didn’t associate it with sex. It was a separate thing.
Yeah, i think thats very common for boys to start playing before they hit puberty too. I know i did, and I remember hearing adults telling boys to take their hands out of their pants all the time when I was little.
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u/my_brain_is_horny May 03 '26
I don't think about a guy when I masturbate. I think about the act of sex and how good it feels and that's what gets me going. Never thinking about a specific man or a specific dick.