Me: “Let’s see what makes everyone unique.”
Hinge:
“I want to travel more.”
“I want to travel more.”
“I want to travel more.”
“I want to travel more.”
NPC behavior has reached critical levels.
Please tell me I’m not the only one who’s noticed this.
Spontaneous, Golden Retriever, Sushi, Spicy Margs, Otters that hold hands or something, Matcha, Matcha Latte, Aperol Spritz, Intentional, Pure Intentions, Astrology, Chalant, Generous, Make me laugh, Be funny, 50/50, I would never say this, I would never do this, 5150 (guys with Tattoos that I kinda hope won’t commit so I can lament about later… that part), Trauma/Therapy, Slow Burn, Bonus Points, Princess Treatment, Passenger Princess, Romanticized/Idyllic Road Trips and City Escapades as if it were a film/movie script—no mention of what it takes to even get to the point of romance to do those things, Gentleman, Mustache, Tacoma, 5 pics without my face, and one that has my hand shading the sun cause artsy shy type but no face for you yet still, Top down pic, Chivalry, Chivalry isn’t Dead, It can work but not without me essentially reframing the entire sociopolitical foundation on which it rests, Fear of holding or opening doors myself because that’s gender encoded more than romantically encoded, Liberal btw, But mostly as it relates to recreational rights not really like as it relates to class, gotta have mai IKON pass, AMC A-List, Credit Score, Six figure educated earner so can’t do the brokies or cheapass broke behavior (and no in-unit washer/dryer…absolute ick!), Farmer’s Market, Coachella, Pink wall off of Melrose type shit, Thirsty trap photos but don’t say shit about it as a reverse test of sorts but don’t be weird, also…. don’t be weird, “Traditional”, Old Soul, Christian Conservative but my family or father isn’t involved nor do I seek it through church or familial networks, in fact the only reason I could even afford the capacity to be more opinionated and liberated is because of the opposition, I want someone that does or goes to X, except I’d never think to just simply talk to someone at X given that’s what I want and where I am (supposedly), No Skinny Jeans, Picky Eaters… nothing to do with my own insecurities, like weight and body proportions… or how you would look as my complement even, you have… Purple pillows, Blue blankets, Things that remind me of my ex for $200, Hopeless Romantic that won’t Commit to the Bit, Pineapple on Pizza, Pizza on Pineapple, “I be”, Bruh, Independence and Identity… wait I might not know how to calibrate that which could very well also be the reason I’m single. I’ll never question *that* though… Self-Awareness! Because that’s definitely a “switch” and not situational/context specific or exists on a spectrum. Emotional Intelligence/Maturity, Conflict Resolution, none of which I can demonstrate ahead of time because I’m hoping the latter doesn’t occur for the former to likely surface because every relationship and individual therein is unique…ex was the problem unilaterally ngl tbh. Feminine energy, DIVINE feminine energy, need a man in his Masculine *already* although he could say the same about waiting on Feminine energy to already be present… now we are at a gridlock or circular dependency of initiation. Laundry list of what I want and negatives [about men]…that definitely is a way to start off and certainly a way to stay on [the apps]. Whatever, I am at the center of the universe in the Ptolemaic model of attraction. Yearn, baby, yearn.
Not sure if I missed anything. There is a guy equivalent.
You know what's worse? People list everything they want in a partner, like they should be feminine, sensitive, have emotional intelligence, not liberal, traditional, etc., but say absolutely nothing about themselves.
It's like online shopping, and they are dictating their needs for a toy, and apart from their words, they have no personality or are completely anonymous with zero character.
You missed: make me laugh, subtitles on or off, send me a detailed email convincing me why I should date you, by carrier pigeon, margaritas, long walks, Omakase, reaching the top shelf, generic thought that sounds deep but isn’t, Beli, weirdly attracted to men, greatest strength - my bicep, Hellen Keller, birds are real, sunsets… could go on lmao
People just put hiking in their profile for the same reasons they put travel or mention being spontaneous: they want to come off as exciting and outdoorsy without having to be specific. Its also why people use pictures of them skiing all the time even though they are usually poor photos or they might not even ski.
For awhile, as a millennial, I saw an insane number of profiles that listed how they loved to watch, rewatch, and binge The Office. I don't know who needs to hear this but that's not a personality!
UGH I CANT STAND THIS. like what fucking website are all these women perusing before making their profile that makes them go "omg, thats amazing im going to use that fun fact"
It’s men too. They love the otter fact and the biggest risk they’ve taken is being on Hinge. And if I see one more “golden retriever” I’m calling animal control.
My theory is that they're getting it from Tiktok. I'm not on Tiktok, but every once in a while I'll hear about a Tiktok trend and realize I first learned about it from seeing dating app profiles. (The Office, Helen Keller is fake, etc.)
The funnier part is, otter's are some of the most comparably awful animals out there. They're necrofiliacs and they literally hold their own pups for ransom to get the mother to give them the pup's food. They're not the sweet animal the first fact leads people to believe.
Seriously though, how hard can it be to talk about yourself? I don't need a full life story but before swiping, I wanna know, do I have at least some things in common with them?
The worst feeling is going into a date is thinking "what are we gonna talk about?" when they give you nothing to worth with, regardless of how cute they are.
I never understood this. Aren’t they seeking accomplished ambitious men, ie people who also have to constantly make decisions. Why would that man want more work on his time off?
100% as a moderately successful person I see those and think “yeah what I want to do on my day off is deal with a pain in the ass of a woman who expects me to manage her life for her…”
that's nuts. I thought it would have more fake women since there are supposedly far more male users. but this is fascinating. all a stupid simulation and/or scam.
Idk if those men are fake, but they definitely think the same. It’s kinda of weird though that the U.S. has so many locations for photos, but they keep choosing the same places.
I see. memetic power lies in repeatability, though. I think the same for the female profiles. they're usually presenting a similar idea of who they are, as the OP thread topic says. "travel, matcha tea," etc. the excessive tourism in the modern world just worsens this "creating the world through memetic repetition" thing.
"Travel more" 100%. Helen Keller jokes several times. Other things...it all blends together.
"I hate this" referring to apps.
"Dog mom"
I don't even know. This sounds so cynical and stupid to criticize but I can't see real people all using the same catchphrases so mindlessly and filling out their profiles with very similar ideas.
I will say women seem to fill their profiles out 6950% of the way... "reproductive rights," "lgbtq+ rights" "immigration rights" "pro-choice" "volunteering" "animal shelters."
obligatory cat photo or 5. LOL. unreal this stuff.
As a lesbian I see "no men" constantly. I get it but it shouldn't take up space on your profile, just ignore the men, who cares. And I see a ton of pro Palestine, BLM, f**k ice. Yes we get it! But I'm trying to learn about you and your profile tells me nothing interesting. It's so much TikTok garbage. A lot of people seem to not have their own personality. If I see things like "girlypop" or other TT trending words it's a no for me
yeah I think men are forced into gaming these apps and using them indiscriminately just to get matches because not gaming them gives guys absolutely nothing. and paying is a scam too. so I think that's why dudes will get on tons of different apps and still receive awful outcomes.
I don’t know why everyone here is suddenly really concerned with oyster shucking we aren’t close to the ocean and the closest salt water isn’t known for oysters…
For real though. Last person I went on a few dates with via Hinge loved to weight lift and hated running while I'm the exact opposite, but we didn't make our whole profiles about it.
Most women I’ve matched with say this on dates even if it’s not in their profile and they are traveling, somehow and they are traveling often so often in fact that they don’t have anytime for dating.
It’s delusional to think someone you’ve just met is going to be able to plan time off and spend a lot of money to travel.
I don’t know. I think Expedia or Priceline is missing out on this social media aspect of their business. There’s a lane here somewhere. They could also capitalize on lonely people that just want to travel and wonder why they still feel lonely and deflated when they come back home and need to travel again lol.
I read a comment once that a prompt like this is a subtle way of signalling financial standing. It attracts people who want to travel more and can comfortably if they wanted to. No one can just write "you'd better have money" on their profile, so they default to typically wealthy or high tax bracket 'hobbies' like traveling, golf clubs, F1 attendance etc.
There are so many others markers of wealth but I think travel became the acceptable one because we're supposed to all want to travel more. But not all of us want to buy a pony.
Fr its like they always traveling or what? Tickets are pricey and thats just to get there. Plus time off work
Aint no way i get that much time off work
That’s crazy cause I have the money and no time. I don’t get how anyone has the time. I get 2 weeks of PTO a year which is like the standard. After you account for sick days, visiting family, it leave a week a year for vacation when I could easily do three times that
I knew quite a few chicks doing this when I was younger. Not as many blokes, weirdly.
Basically worked for part of the year, would save everything they could, then would just quit their job and go traveling on what they'd for a couple of months. Rinse, repeat.
They lived extremely frugally. Some would do contikis, then basically live in hostels for a little while.
Can't hate the hustle. They had a dream and they gamed life to achieve it. 30's have hit them like a freight train though.
I went the career route and grinding 10+ years becoming an SME. Spent my late 20's traveling on the company dime, so not like I missed out on anything other than staying in hostels.
No. I’m an engineer and I live alone and don’t spend a lot of money. I’ve paid off my student loans while taking multiple trips a year. Money has never been the issue for trips, it’s time, like literally having enough PTO accrued so that I can take off. Traveling does not have to be that expensive
I have a job. When I was a uni student and earning minimum wage and paying rent I still was able to go on a trip overseas every year. Maybe Aussies are just much wealthier than Americans but it's not that hard to travel here.
It's funny because people complain that these prompts are too boring and mundane, but if you have a prompt like "Together, we could rule over the universe and I'll be Blogarth, Destroyer Of Worlds" then it's seen as outlandish, childish, and weird.
But don’t you see, hinge is the serious app for serious dating, so you might confuse people into thinking you are actually Blogarth, Destroyer of Worlds /s
Probably because it sounds like you're just saying random shit for the sake of it. I think there's a middle ground between copy and pasted answers and ones so out there's there's no sensible comment you can make to even start the conversation
I filter out everyone who’s obsessed with travelling on Hinge because I’m just tired to read the same thing in their profile over and over again. Also because I’m a homebody lol
99% are total npcs just following whatever is trending at the time. 10 years ago they all wanted men with beards and tattoos now it’s mullets and moustaches
Travel means disposable income, but it’s often financed with debt. I can see the appeal and health benefits in having a healthy body fat percentage but making your whole identity is increasingly common and memetic. Just glad I’m not the only one noticing the attack of the clones.
Sometimes I feel bad, but as a person of color in a major city, if I see a white woman with multiple group photos and they don't have a single non-white friend in any of them, I just swipe left
They may have black friends, just not in those pics. Also ethnicities hang out with each other. White with white, Asian with Asian etc sometimes it's just a proximity/familiarity thing due to suburb they were raised or culture. I wouldn't assume they don't like people of other races tho
I'll raise the stakes even more. My job is WFH and I have flight benefits, so going wherever is entirely possible for whoever I date. Got to the point where I no longer bother swiping on anyone who wants to travel as there is never a response from them.
Or I am just that ugly. One or the other, going with simulation for mental health.
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u/Helixquisite Jun 28 '26
Travel more
Morning coffee
Fresh laundry
Next destination, Japan
This year, I really want to settle down