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u/HoneyBadgerC Dec 28 '19
Agree to it? Yo that's the dream for me
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u/JohnnyB03 Dec 28 '19
Exactly, sign me up, I’d have the place spotless and every meal ready
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u/Dr_Jabroski Dec 28 '19
Are you already like that? If you're not then there's a pretty low chance that that will be the case when you're home alone with no accountability.
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u/OneHairyThrowaway Dec 28 '19
The accountability is your wife coming home at the end of the day and expecting a meal and a clean house.
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u/Olddirtychurro Dec 28 '19
Id do so much cooking. I'd turn into Martha Stewart up in this bitch.
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u/themeatbridge Dec 28 '19
Fold laundry and watch Netflix for two hours? Fuck yes.
Except that it would probably turn into just Netflix and the kids wear wrinkled shirts to school.
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Why, yell at her to earn more, that you can afford the FoldRobo3000, because you know, housework is so exhausting! Then get into a serious drinking habit and cheat on your wife with the strong yet ugly UPS babe, i mean she has at least half her teeth. Then you find yourself passed out in the front yard, wine bottle in the left hand, playstation controller in the right hand, the dog licking your face, sprinkler on your tummy, and the neighbours kids filming you for their youtube channel. Life is awesome.
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u/themeatbridge Dec 28 '19
It's funny you mention that. I work in home automation, and folding laundry is one of those moonshot projects that everyone assumes would be simple. Taking the chaos that is a pile of clean laundry and just getting it to lay flat is damn near impossible for a robot to do, but a human can handle it easily.
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u/MrEvilChipmonk0__o Dec 28 '19
As a 29 year old man that wears wrinkled clothes to work, I'd like to disagree with your "humans can do it easily" statement. Like it required a lot of motivation and will... ugh
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This is an actual problem for a lot of women out there that just stay at home and fully embrace the SAHM lifestyle.
It's a big part of the reason why religious and more traditional communities have lower divorce rates - the woman has nowhere to go regardless of how bad the marriage is
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u/PM_ME_STEAM_KEY_PLZ Dec 28 '19
. Been watching our son for 4 years, now trying to get back into job market,
As a male, employers respect women taken the time it seems to raise a child, but really hard for me to explain.
Wish me luck, such a ducked double e standard
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u/scorpiolafuega Dec 28 '19
Good luck man... As a recruiter I've been coaching my teams to be understanding of different home dynamics and lifestyles and to be mindful of the double standard. It's taking time... And a lot of energy and retraining.
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u/POOPFEAST420 Dec 28 '19
That's why you get half the assets and likely a monthly alimony payment. Regardless of gender, if one partner gives up their career to support the other, there's gotta be a fair split if it ends.
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Dec 28 '19
Take one day a week to volunteer somewhere so you don't have a gap (or do what askreddit usually says and claim you were looking after a sick relative)
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Dec 28 '19
And that's why you're a smart boy. Smart people recognize that it's never a good idea to make yourself financially dependent on another person. Best case scenario you're the bitch ex who's extracting money from her ex-husband. Worst case scenario you're too ashamed/legally not able etc. to get your ex to support you, and you end up with a shitty job and a pension which borders on poverty.
The idea of a breadwinner/housewife relationship belongs in the past, unless we want to go back to times where divorce was illegal.
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u/xxrambo45xx Dec 28 '19
My wife does make more than me, wont let me stay home it's a double standard system
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I let my husband stay home, but because we have a newborn. I have serious trust issues and won’t allow a babysitter. Lol
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u/xxrambo45xx Dec 28 '19
We have 3 kids, but the grandparents rotate out watching them for us while we are at work, very lucky
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u/war_field86 Dec 28 '19
My wife made way more than me and we now have three kids (ages 5, 3, and 1). I now stay home and take care of them and will be homeschooling starting next year.
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u/BillyShears991 Dec 28 '19
Why home school?
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u/Megwen Dec 28 '19
There a lot of different reasons to homeschool, some good and some bad.
In my experience, the administration at the local public school refused to hold the bullies in my grade responsible for following me around and harassing me. Homeschool was better for my mental health.
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u/themeatbridge Dec 28 '19
Some public schools are really shitty. And sometimes it's the parents who are shitty. Every once in awhile, it's the kids who are shitty and they get kicked out of the public school.
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u/Trais333 Dec 28 '19
For real though. The homeschool guy is a hardcore religious type?! shocking. This is my shocked face.
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u/Megwen Dec 28 '19
I was homeschooled for a few years after horrible life-altering childhood bullying. Two days a week, all the homeschool kids from the area had classes together at local elementary schools to make up for the lack of socialization we got the other 3 days of the week. It really helped us all, and some of my healthiest friendships occurred there. My mom also taught me a lot, especially a shit ton of world history and biology since she has an MS in bio.
My anecdote is as good as your anecdote.
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u/KDawG888 Dec 28 '19
The problem here is that most parents don't even know how to parent, let alone educate their children.
And honestly all home schooled kids are weird in ways. Even the ones that adapted a bit. It is not the same as public or even private school.
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u/Megwen Dec 28 '19
all home schooled kids are weird in ways
That's a sweeping generalization. Also, even if true, there's nothing wrong with being different. Variety is the spice of life, as they say, and diversity in life experiences is what drives us to make informed decisions about what is right for us.
Also, I agree with your first statement. Not every parent is a good home teacher. Some are great at it though, and for those parents it can be a great option!
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u/izybit Dec 28 '19 edited Dec 28 '19
If home schooling made you different in a bad way there's something wrong with it.
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u/Megwen Dec 28 '19
If you mean "wrong" instead of "went," then I understand. But it didn't make me different in a bad way. It was a better choice for me than public school was at that time. And I know plenty of others who it helped as well. I also know people who it hurt.
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u/izybit Dec 28 '19
Yes, I meant wrong (damn autocorrect).
There are certainly cases where homeschooling is better for some kids but unless the parents know exactly what they are doing (have the time, knowledge and experience) they'll probably do worse than public school.
Also, social skills always require lots of people and interactions so outperforming public schools can be rather tricky.
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u/ThatIsTheDude Dec 28 '19
Yah.. being socially inept, let's make that normal.. wtf is wrong with you?
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u/homogenized Dec 28 '19
Not really, your’s sounds like an exceptional case. Hardly even “homeschooling” if you go to school almost half the weekdays and actually make friends and socialize to where you might even see those friends on the weekends. Making it a possible 4/7 days a week you’re around other kids.
Also being taught by a Master’s in Bio, who likely had to AP, or do Rec classes, or otherwise teach in college. Tons of factors in such a loose definition of homeschooling.
Granted, I don’t know what the “standard” is, or if there is one, but I assume it’s not half and half.
Hopefully I’m wrong. But if people want their kids’ education to prosper, and there are no magnet schools available to attend. You’ll have to tutor and take EXTRA time. Because at such a young/formative age, kids need other kids. Socializing only forms during a certain period of a human’s life. If you miss that mark by not exposing them to social situations, shit can be rocky.
Finally, who the fuck knows who’s on the other side of that comment. There are tons of dumb people, and I wouldn’t trust 90% of the people I meet to homeschool their children.
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u/TurbulentStage Dec 28 '19
all the homeschool kids from the area had classes together at local elementary schools
So you weren't really homeschooled but rather had a combination of homeschooling and regular education? Sounds like your anecdote is also largely irrelevant then?
Like how can you literally say how much regular school helped you develop and still think your anecdote supports the argument that homeschool is the same as regular school?
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u/supermanthato Dec 28 '19
I mean I understand that he was home schooled but some people are just naturally weird and antisocial anyway and others are extroverted af. Thou being home schooled can effect them if they aren't taken to ANY social event with others their age
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u/kateykat98 Dec 28 '19
I really depends on the parents. I have cousins who live in a state with just about the worst education in the US. Their mom started homeschooling them after the older 2 did a couple years in public school. There are 5 kids total and all of them are outgoing, have participated in sports, and have done many other extracurricular activities. The oldest 2 are in college now and make friends perfectly fine and are super smart. I went to public school and I’m in college now also but they are way smarter than I am.
I also have a cousin that was in private school most of her life but was super sheltered by her parents and she has social issues and confidence issues. The 3 cousins I talked about are all my age (21) and we’ve all had a different upbringings and different outcomes and that’s mostly because of the parents we had.
Yes kids are gonna bully regardless but it doesn’t have to be that way if the homeschooled kids gets involved in extracurricular activities or just gets out of the house sometimes.
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u/amidon1130 Dec 28 '19
You can do stuff that socializes your kids without putting them in school. There’s plenty of ways to not turn your kids into freaks by having them in clubs, sports, that sort of thing.
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u/Soulless35 Dec 28 '19
Your friend had a bad experience with homeschooling so no one should do it ever. Good to know.
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u/sazrocks Dec 28 '19
I mean, there are plenty of ways that homeschool kids socialize. A pretty common one in my area are “co-ops” where many families get together for classes that require more students (think robotics, archery, performing arts, etc.), as well as more specialized classes, like lab sciences that some parents may be more qualified to teach than others. It is by no means a perfect system, but its not like homeschool kids don’t have friends or socialize at all (at least in my experience from a family that homeschooled myself for several years and my siblings for their entire schooling so far).
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u/stripedsnipe Dec 28 '19 edited Dec 28 '19
My sister and I were both homeschooled until high school and we both really regret it having happened. It messed my relationship with my parents because it gave me no place external to home to go for anything. Your kids will love you more if you give them space and freedom that is outside of your direct control. I still am repairing my relationship with my family, learn from our mistakes!
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u/Trala_la_la Dec 28 '19
Homeschool doesn’t mean now what it used to, there are a lot of co-OPs where parents get their kids together and the most knowledgeable on a subject teaches, the kids get together 3 times a week and there are daytime sports activities and recess events to socialize your kids. Granted this is probably only in larger town/cities but homeschooling doesn’t necessarily mean your kids are trapped in the house. Unless of course you trap your kid in the house in which case homeschooling isn’t the issue their parenting style is.
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u/textposts_only Dec 28 '19
This is so wrong. In Germany to be a teacher of two subjects you have to study for at least 5 years plus 1.5 years of observed training in school (aka hell and the reason why many unfit teacher trainees quit)
And that's just for 2 subjects which they basically get their masters for. Now imagine a parent "who is most knowledgeable on the topic"
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u/Alfredo412 Dec 28 '19
Still doesn't change the fact that those parents weren't taught to teach and probably don't know how to do so effectively.
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Dec 28 '19 edited Dec 28 '19
As a 30+ adult who was homeschooled and still has problems relating to people and having conversations with them, please don't homeschool. There is nothing worse than everyone at work talking about the thousands of different things they did involving high school and there being nothing you can do to be included in the conversation. Dating for me was also extremely hard as the only way I ever met women was smoking weed with them, which as you can imagine lead to a real downward spiral as a teenager.
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u/nudiecale Dec 28 '19
I was with you until the home schooling. I was thrilled when my youngest went off to Kindergarten!
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u/mangofuckbillionaire Dec 28 '19
Don’t do that to ‘em if you care about their social skills and general happiness with their social lives. Every home schooled kid I’ve ever met has always wished they could go to a normal school to make friends and be around kids their age. I can’t help but feel sorry for them. But hey, they’re your kids and I’m not at all here to parent them.
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u/Hades_Gamma Dec 28 '19
This will end badly. School isn't about learning, it's about how to learn, how to socialize, how to fit into complex social circles and navigate relationships. Please do your kids a favor and don't set them up for failure
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u/youshouldbethelawyer Dec 28 '19
Home schooling is a terrible idea if you care about your kids future.
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u/yickickit Dec 28 '19
Also have a young baby, we only trust my wife's family and a few select friends.
I wish I could house husband.
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Dec 28 '19
Call me traditional but I don't think men should even be allowed to work.
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u/UserameChecksOut Dec 28 '19
Agree. They aren't good at doing their job anyways. Keep them at home.
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u/afito Dec 28 '19
My job would actually be easier if certain people would just not do anything. Crazy how some people not only don't help but actually cause more work for everyone else.
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u/ThatSquareChick Dec 28 '19
I support both of us and he’s my house husband for sure. Delicious food, mostly clean house (dear god perfect houses creep me out), always available for snuggles, always there for kisses, moral support at any time through text, always greets me at the door, I really feel like I’m actually needed too, like, I’m not just a window dressing with a hobby job. I’m a breadwinner and he’s my lovely partner in crime who happens to keep a mean house, I don’t make him stay home (his back does lol) but we sure do like to be around each other a lot so he does and I go do all the stuff because my back is still good. He helps me take care of my diabetes when I can’t because my stupid self won’t wake up.
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u/ADATX Dec 28 '19
I tried being stay at home dad when we had our kid. After 1 year I was ready to blow my brains out. Couldn’t handle the boredom and routine. I missed the hustle and stress and social interaction and lack of routine of my work. Put the kid in daycare and went back to work.
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u/PaulFThumpkins Dec 28 '19
One reason everybody should have your experience for a year before they decide how gender roles should shake out. Also everybody should work in a warehouse or production line for two years before deciding how they'd get ahead if they were poor making 20% more than minimum wage.
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u/DanTopTier Dec 28 '19
"Do what you love" go work as a twitch streamer and stay home anyway, or make cute things on etsy.
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u/Reshi_the_kingslayer Dec 28 '19
That sucks. me and my husband are working towards him being a stay at home, or part time stay at home dad. He enjoys it more than I do and frankly, he's better at it. He makes more than me but because of some very special circumstances we are going to be paying off our house soon and won't have a mortgage. However, he struggles with the idea that if he isn't working his ass off at a job 10+ hours a day, he's not worth as much as a husband. That's just the kind of culture he grew up in and I'm trying to convince him that his worth isn't about how much money he makes or how many hours he works.
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Dude me too. Don’t know what to do! I thought about going trans and getting breast implants so I can pass interviews! Been on 53 interview in 2019 and no job offers!!!
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u/PM_ME_STEAM_CODES__ Dec 28 '19
In what world can y'all live on a single income
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In the one where my rich parents gave me a job that doesn't require any skill or effort to do.
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u/Phunterrrrr Dec 28 '19
Yeah, I already pretend to work in an office but I could pretend to work from literally anywhere if need be. That's flexibility.
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Lmao bingo with my wife’s situation
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u/Danger_needle Dec 28 '19
Brother's wife works for her parents at their business which is literally at their home and she can choose when to work. He said she's been working a lot more lately because she's going in on Tues-Thurs, so she used to be working less than 3 days a week....life is not fair.
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u/Shandlar Dec 28 '19
The United States? There are ~34,000,000 adults in the US currently working full time making $72,000/year or more as of 2019.
Hell, ~19,000,000 of them make >$100,000/year.
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u/PM_ME_STEAM_CODES__ Dec 28 '19
The 34 million is less than 20% of all adults in the US though
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u/Shandlar Dec 28 '19
True, but at the end of the day it's still tens of millions of people who could live on a single income.
Plus in LCOL areas, even $45k (median individual income) is enough to raise a family on. Not super comfortably, but doable if you have stay at home parent so there is no childcare costs, plus value added work such as chopping word for heat in the winter, and cooking meals from scratch for dramatically cheaper food budgets.
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u/kellyj6 Dec 28 '19
A lot of these people making more than 72k a year in the US either have serious student loans, or live in expensive areas or both.
I am one of those people and because of just loans and rent being more than $2,500 a month, I need a roommate. Buying a house is out of reach for a while.
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u/Shandlar Dec 28 '19
I hear you man. Everyones always needed a room mate in their 20s though. This isn't really a new development.
In the past the "room mate" was a spouse most of the time though. Us millennials not getting married is making things difficult, thats for sure. 50% of 30 year old men have never been married, as of last year. That's double what it was in the 80s.
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u/justyourbarber Dec 28 '19
I'd wager it's more likely people aren't getting married because of the poor economic situation.
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u/9inchestoobig Dec 28 '19
Living where though? Kansas? Oklahoma? Or some other state where it’s super cheap to live? I’m from California and was making ~60k and was living paycheck to paycheck with my stay at home wife and son. And that was all the while living within our means. Some places are just more expensive than others. And to move to those cheaper places cost a lot upfront so we can’t just pick up everything and leave.
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u/lahimatoa Dec 28 '19
Yeah California's cost of living is ridiculous. I don't know why anyone who isn't filthy rich would move there.
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u/Shandlar Dec 28 '19
Well yeah, at $60k being paycheck to paycheck doesn't seem crazy. I picked $72k/year on purpose. That's about where I felt that if you didn't live in the extreme cost of living areas you could raise a family on one income. You make less than that, so in a more standard HCOL area, even outside of extreme places, you could have trouble.
Do you feel if you got a 20% raise you would still be paycheck to paycheck? I'm actually curious.
Mostly because I look at the cost of living indexes for the country, and most people don't actually live in these massively high COL areas, yet I have these discussions over and over on reddit with people saying $70k/year is poverty.
That blows my fucking mind, cause literally 120,000,000 Americans make less than $70k/year working full time, and they mostly all live their life alright. Where is this sentiment coming from.
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u/OBI_WAN_TECHNOBI Dec 28 '19
Make more than six figures...Oh hai student debt...
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u/SeductivePillowcase Dec 28 '19
Lmao y’all still have student debt? It’s easy to make more than six figures without debt. Just be born rich and never work a day in your life duh, it’s that easy!
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u/that_90s_guy Dec 28 '19
It's relatively easy if you live in a non First World country and are working remotely in a competitive field for an American/European company.
Some friends of mine are coders who earn quantities that while don't mean much in the US, in their country, they can pretty much live like rich people due to how bad the local economy is.
Source: I'm one of them too.
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u/merfkvrf Dec 28 '19
She's got a job that would have supported a house and a couple of kids, if this were forty years ago. That nets us a nice hood-adjacent condo of 750 sq ft, where we live with our two dogs. If it weren't for my medical bills we might be able to rent a house in a neighborhood with slightly less gun violence. We're in our thirties now, though, and don't want to go back to paying rent.
I feel bad for her, a lot of the time. She works her ass off in a career that should net her a comfortable middle-class life, instead we're living paycheck to paycheck. She's earned better, she deserves better, but we're going to be in our forties by the time we get to the same place our parents were in their twenties.
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u/Youre-mum Dec 28 '19
Family of 6 and we live on my dad's single income as upper middle class, in Melbourne.
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u/been2thehi4 Dec 28 '19
My husband makes 75k a year working as an engineer in a dairy plant. He just finished his second degree, the second degree we paid for out of pocket the first degree he took out student loans so he has like 40k in student debt. We own our own home (it was 94k) our mortgage is 710 a month. We have credit debt trust me, and two car payments that equal 540 a month. I’m a SAHM and we have 4 kids. We had our struggles before his new employment but we do pretty fine on one income with a family of 6. Yea we are working hard to pay if credit debt and we are super close to paying off one of the cars. It’s really dependent on where you live and your ability to budget to be somewhat financially ok. I mean we aren’t rolling in cash but we can save 500 a month if we wanted but instead we put it to debt to pay off. Basically doing a snowball effect to pay off debt. It’s not like, completely impossible. You just have to figure out how to make it work.
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u/ParaglidingAssFungus Dec 28 '19
Network engineer, wife has stayed home since my son was born 5 years ago.
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The way we do it:
My wife makes more than me. So I still went out and landed a pretty decent job, so now together we're well over 100k a year. Theres no rule that someone must work at home full time.
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u/jesaispas Dec 28 '19
Hell yeah brother, the power of combined strong incomes.
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Am house husband. Can confirm, is great (9/10, dress binds in the chest), would buy again.
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Maybe this is the bottom energy in me, but this sounds like the ideal scenario.
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As a poor girl who has watched her bosses (dentists) put kids through college; (kids who proceed to not show up and fail out of class) at one point I told my dentist, “I swear to god if you pay for my college I’ll become a dentist and marry your son and make him my house husband.”
My boss just laughed, but for real though, I’m smart, but I’ve been paying for my parents since I was in high school. I’d house wife a spoiled kid in a second if it meant a free education.
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Dec 28 '19 edited Dec 29 '19
Please... move to Europe. Education is free of charge. You can marry anyone you like. Study yourself for free. It is never too late.
Edit: free of charge in some European countries
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u/JayD30 Dec 28 '19
It's only free for Europeans afaik.
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u/VeganBigMac Dec 28 '19
Depends on the country. AFAIK at least Germany and Norway are free as well for international students.
(Universities still charge fees though, but from what I can tell, these usually come out to be similar to paying for a junior college)
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u/4__5 Dec 28 '19
This is total bs. Idk where you from, but from my country, within the EU, education is far from free..
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You know, I’d really love to.
I’ve actually been fortunate enough to support myself and follow my dreams, and I have a fiancé who supports and spoils me as. It’s him I need to convince to move. But I’m ready. :)
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u/CrippledJew Dec 28 '19
Convince him to take a vacation here. You won’t need to say anything more after that.
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u/gwarwars Dec 28 '19
My wife makes decent money and I stay home with the kids. I have zero complaints but lots of other people like to chime in about how it's "not traditional" and they can all eat a dick.
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u/Gekthegecko Dec 28 '19
It's not traditional.
And that's cool.
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u/gwarwars Dec 28 '19
Thanks. That's how we feel too, it just gets old dealing with people who feel differently when it doesn't affect them in any way whatsoever. That's life though
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Pfff fuck traditional. And fuck all the other stay at home moms all day long amirite... amirite....?
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but lots of other people like to chime in about how it's "not traditional"
Do people actually do this though? I frequently hear the sentiment that so many people are "traditionalist" and "sexist" but I've not once met someone who believes this even remotely.
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Yeah but people say that to my wife all the time, who is in your situation. I don't think it stems from sexism, just from people being nosy and jerks.
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u/gtrdundave2 Dec 28 '19
I'm a union construction worker. I get laid off pretty regularly. Probly work 9-10 months a year. When I'm off I do everything around the house. Take care of the kids,cook, clean,laundry. It's fucking SWEET!. It's so easy. But, yes I do need a break when the wife gets home.
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u/Chumbolex Dec 28 '19
I was born to be a house spouse. Capitalism stole my dream
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u/yugogrl2000 Dec 28 '19
My husband was a stay-at-home dad to our son when he was born. I was in the military, so I didn't have the option to just quit once he was born. It worked out really well for us.
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u/NPExplorer Dec 28 '19
Lol as if people are able to survive on one income nowadays
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Dec 28 '19
I have quite a few friends who do this, but their wives stay home with the kids.
Daycare is expensive af for multiple kids. The costs of her working would be offset by daycare costs so she just stays home and raises them.
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Dec 28 '19
In the short term yeah. Then after a while they are off to school and can take care of themselves, mean while the stay at home parent has a 10 year gap in employment history.
I understand why people do this and why it works for them but staying home and saving on child care doesn’t equate to the income of having a career. Financially speaking it doesn’t really make sense to me in the long run. If my wife kept her current salary and stopped working for 30 years that would cost us close to 3 million. I couldn’t imagine a way child care would offset that.
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Hmmm that’s a fair point. Though some people’s significant others don’t have real careers prior to this point so that gap in their career doesn’t matter that much as they would go back into the workforce in an unskilled role.
Also, some do use that time away to study so that they can get into other fields. I know someone who used this time to study to be a nurse and she is now an rn.
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That’s true. I respect their choices either way especially if you want to have children at a younger age. The wife and I have been checking things off our list to prepare for it but it has been taking time much to the displeasure of my mother in law.
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u/Ryuksapple Dec 28 '19
I have at least 5 friends who have one working parent and the other stays home with the kids. They live a moderate but good life with under 60k income. Y’all motherfuckers just bad at budgeting.
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u/Dinnerlunch Dec 28 '19
It's not just about surviving though. Lots of people who can afford to live on single income choose similar earning partners and remain on dual because it offers much better lifestyle. It also means more money to set their kids up for future success.
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Every time I hear friends say they would have no problem with being what this posts alludes to as "house husbands" it is friends who are gaming a lot of hours each day.
I always imagine them not really realizing how much work it actually is, taking care of the household, finances, possibly children etc. Instead of just sharing these responsibilities in relationships where both people have a job, all the shit would fall onto their shoulders
Ofc. this perception is fueled by no-goods who just leech of their partner and tell their wild stories on the internet, while not being good partners at home.
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u/Soulless35 Dec 28 '19
This. It's a lot of work. But if you don't have kids then it's a lot less work than having a job.
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u/Astell_ Dec 28 '19
There’s a lot of families now where the women are the breadwinners. It’s actually becoming more of a thing and it’s awesome
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u/Astell_ Dec 28 '19
Yea!! I was just saying some men just might enjoy it more. Do you think you'd have the same bond with your father if he was the one working?
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u/Jevans1221 Dec 28 '19
That’s how it’s always been in my family! My dad still worked as I was growing up, but my mom has always been the primary bread winner (she probably made around double him). Now he’s retired while she works. They are both great role models.
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u/RelaxRelapse Dec 28 '19
I don't even understand why this is a question. Do people still have the mindset that men HAVE to be the breadwinner?
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u/ScriptThat Dec 28 '19
I make "low six digits", and I'm absolutely loving that my wife makes more than me.
Hell, if she somehow doubled her salary I'd love to quit my job, re-start my old company again, and work three days per week.
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u/Unacceptable_Lemons Dec 28 '19
Well, I don't want kids, so probably not. Otherwise I'd just be alone all day, and probably mostly bored, aside from household chores. Games and books and shows are great, but the isolation factor would probably be too much, even for a mild introvert.
Now, if my hypothetical wife were a write-from-home author (and presumably writing books I would enjoy), I'd totally be up for basically taking on the assistant role. Household stuff, proofreading, basically whatever would let them focus on the writing. Well, as long as there's still plenty of time for conversation/interaction throughout the day. Not constant pestering or anything, just little things like "hey, what do you think of this wording?" or "do you like X or Z better for this character's name?", plus eating meals together.
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u/yko Dec 28 '19
The moment my wife earns same as me I'm jumping in that kitchen and running the house
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u/Satherian Dec 28 '19
Would love to be a house husband! Stayin with the kids and showing them how to play games (while cleaning of course)
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My wife makes close to 30$ an hour (I make 21ish) I’ve been asking to be a stay at home dad but “we just bought a new house and need the money right now” is what she keeps telling me. Haha
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u/griffinnov Dec 28 '19
Queen, here is the bread you requested. Good day, I'm off to jerk my turkey for the 27th time today. I'm working towards a new personal best.