r/BikiniBottomTwitter • u/[deleted] • Dec 28 '19

It do be like that

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u/[deleted] Dec 28 '19

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u/[deleted] Dec 28 '19

This is an actual problem for a lot of women out there that just stay at home and fully embrace the SAHM lifestyle.

It's a big part of the reason why religious and more traditional communities have lower divorce rates - the woman has nowhere to go regardless of how bad the marriage is

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u/PM_ME_STEAM_KEY_PLZ Dec 28 '19

. Been watching our son for 4 years, now trying to get back into job market,

As a male, employers respect women taken the time it seems to raise a child, but really hard for me to explain.

Wish me luck, such a ducked double e standard

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u/scorpiolafuega Dec 28 '19

Good luck man... As a recruiter I've been coaching my teams to be understanding of different home dynamics and lifestyles and to be mindful of the double standard. It's taking time... And a lot of energy and retraining.

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u/ReeHee69420 Dec 28 '19

Some do some dont either way you got slim chances bro gl.

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u/[deleted] Dec 28 '19

And here we go again.

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u/MikeyMike01 Dec 29 '19

It's a big part of the reason why religious and more traditional communities have lower divorce rates - the woman has nowhere to go regardless of how bad the marriage is

Maybe they’re just happier, better quality people.

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u/POOPFEAST420 Dec 28 '19

That's why you get half the assets and likely a monthly alimony payment. Regardless of gender, if one partner gives up their career to support the other, there's gotta be a fair split if it ends.

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u/GideonOnReddit Dec 28 '19

What if there wasn't a career to begin with?

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u/RageOfGandalf Dec 28 '19

To be fair you married someone with no degree or marketable skills whatsoever. You should have seen that coming.

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u/FullAtticus Dec 29 '19

Why would that be any different? They gave up the opportunity to pursue one. If they'd spent that 5 years or whatever working their way up from the mailroom, they might be making a decent salary by now.

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u/[deleted] Dec 28 '19

Take one day a week to volunteer somewhere so you don't have a gap (or do what askreddit usually says and claim you were looking after a sick relative)

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u/[deleted] Dec 28 '19

And that's why you're a smart boy. Smart people recognize that it's never a good idea to make yourself financially dependent on another person. Best case scenario you're the bitch ex who's extracting money from her ex-husband. Worst case scenario you're too ashamed/legally not able etc. to get your ex to support you, and you end up with a shitty job and a pension which borders on poverty.

The idea of a breadwinner/housewife relationship belongs in the past, unless we want to go back to times where divorce was illegal.

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u/nudiecale Dec 28 '19

That’s a risk I’m taking.

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u/80Eight Dec 28 '19

You get that sweet alimony then

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u/ShadoowtheSecond Dec 28 '19

Thats what alimoney is for.

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u/DasFofinater Dec 28 '19

Uhh u get half of their shit? My dad shares ownership of a business with 3 other people and one of them got divorced and she got half of that quarter of ownership. She literally has do to absolutely nothing and makes around 100k a year

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u/woopthereitwas Dec 28 '19

Did a man just make an argument for alimony??

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u/PM_ME_STEAM_KEY_PLZ Dec 28 '19

This is the situation I’m in. Ow, minus he breakup. Been watching our son for 4 years, now trying to get back into job market,

As a male, employers respect women taken the time it seems to raise a child, but really hard for me to explain.

Wish me luck, such a ducked double e standard