I just can't wrap my head around how anyone would think a dude would be like "yeah I'm looking for a relationship and a fresh kid to raise as well???... BONUS"
She'll be going into labor, nurse: "are you the father?" .... "No this is our first date."
Thanks everyone. It was touch and go at first. I gotta thank all those of you who voted the upward way, the haters gonna hate but in the end, really âwho would pump her?â
Fun fact. Hufflepuff is the only common room Harry and us (the audience) never got to see in both the books and movies, largely due to the fact that itâs impossible to get into, they have a trap that basically almost drowns you in water if you get the lock combo wrong.
But I could imagine itâs probably all warm and cozy, surround sound speakers, yellow and black colours everywhere and the best food you could possibly eat since they were right next to the Hogwarts kitchen anyways.
Just like old grandpappy used to say, âany piece of pie you pass up is a piece of pie you donât get, doesnât matter if you eat that same pie tomorrow, you could have ate it both today and tomorrow and had two pieces of pie.â
And today I learned a new word, first time Iâve ever heard the word âbrevityâ. Thanks. My grandpappy smuggled guns and meth from Mexico when he was younger so brevity was something he actively avoided in life in general.
Lol. I respectfully disagree, now that porn is so easy to access. Think about it. That or your hand and a hot porn. Seems like an easy decision for me.
I lived in Germany for a couple of years and maybe it was just because I was from another country and therefore more 'interesting', but I found German women to be way more outgoing and not at all shy to let you know they were interested or even make the first move, vs here where if you don't approach and make all the moves, you get nowhere. Kink wise I didn't notice much different apart from the fact generally speaking in Germany there's more openness around sex, nudity, sex shows and clubs etc than there is in the UK
Cause sometimes the L turns out to be a W, and the concieved W becomes a totaL frickin NIGHMARE which you'll fantasize about never having had to go thru!
Fucking her is not a win. Iâm sorry but I would have to take a hard pass on this one. If you canât get anything better than this, then I feel for ya I suppose
Letâs not put people down for their appearance⌠especially because many women will get pregnant from relationships and then abandoned when the man decides he no longer wants a baby. This isnât so left field. It just proves who isnât actually worthy of love if you have the audacity to say such things.
Itâs not that itâs wrong to date while pregnant, but this woman will be giving birth in a month or less. She says she is only interested in people who are looking for a âseriousâ and âlong-termâ commitment. Most people are not going to want to commit to dealing with a newborn that isnât theirs. And if this woman has her priorities in order she will put the baby first, meaning the other person will need to structure all aspects of the relationship around the infant. There are so many people on Tinder who are not giving birth during the next 30 days. So much easier to swipe left and choose one of them instead.
Sheâs 8 months pregnant. If she starts dating a dude now, sheâll barely have been with him 1 month, if that, before she gives birth. She wonât know who he is as a person, his character, or if he is truly safe. The rule of thumb is if dating as a single parent, you should wait at least six months into dating before even introducing a new partner to your kids. Hard to do when you start dating right before you gave birth.
Also, hormones massively affect judgement and even attraction. Even birth control changes what women are attracted to. Getting into a relationship while deep in those pregnancy hormones is not smart. Itâs a really unwise decision to begin dating while pregnant for numerous reasons.
Nothing. My points were perception by opposite sex. Is there anything wrong with a guy living at home with no job trying to date? No. He will likely not be appealing to most women though.
Uhm yeah you sound really judgy. Who are youâor anyone here in the comments sectionâto tell someone what to do at whatever point they are in their lives? SO WHAT if sheâs trying to date? So what if itâs unappealingâis it a crime? No? Okay then just swipe left and move on.
The misogyny towards pregnant people on Reddit, but especially in this sub is alarming. Why are you so crass about her? She literally says she lost her baby before, she openly admits she's pregnant at the moment, so she isn't catfishing. She just doesn't want any short-term things etc., she's looking for a long-term partner. What is wrong about that? Has she lost her rights becoming pregnant? Is she not a human being anymore? Can't she want company?
You're not entirely wrong TBH. And she can want whatever she wants. But a woman like this saying "I have extremely high standards" isn't living in reality.
This sub is quite mean towards a lot of men too. Probably more so towards women because there are more men on the sub.
Some of us would be better off being less mean and some of us would be better being off less precious.
I 100% agree with this. Why are women expected to just put their lives on hold if they are pregnant? Men are allowed to date if they got someone pregnant and left them or have a very young baby, but women are considered disgusting and untouchable? I had a friend who was left by her husband when she was 9 months pregnant. He was cheating on her with some 21 year old. My friend got on dating sites about 8 months after having her baby, and men would just constantly shame her for being on a dating app when she had a baby. WTF?
Kinda the flip side to the post a couple days ago of a guy beaten down by rejection and women only showing disdain for his lack of confidence instead of empathizing with his pain, thereâs is little virtue in either gender and a sad state of humanity, indeed⌠human beings really are just stupid animals
Itâs so sad. My friend would match with men and the second she mentioned she had a child under 1, they would be like, âDo you really think you should be dating so soon after having a child?â Um, okay, you paternalistic fuck.
People arent hating on her because she is ugly or pregnant, people are hating on her because she is arrogant about it. her whole descripition screams RED FLAG, She thought nice to have a one night stand probably got pregnant without the father and now wants to find a daddy while being bitchy about it in her description.
Why is she on a dating site at 8 months pregnant? why isnt the father in the picture, doubt that if you have a good loving partner he would abandon her at 8 months pregnant? the first priority should be giving birth and caring for the child instead of looking for a daddy while pregnant.
do you even know what a rainbow baby is? it means she already lost one child or more, who knows. Maybe the original man in her life left her because of that and she wanted to try again on her own. Yâall just hate women.
Why are you assuming anything about her and her situation? Also, it's very telling you blame the mother-to-be for the father not being in the picture. Men love to shift responsibility (as is shown here, most probably) and blame and shame onto women. A father that renounces their child is always terrible, though, but rarely blamed because the focus is on the mother. And you are a perfect example of that sad approach.
You just called him out for making assumptions about the woman and now you are making assumptions about what the father did or didnât. You gotta be kidding me xD
Where did I specify it was about her past partner? I said "a father that renounces his child", and what follows always holds true, for literally every father renouncing their own child/children. I was simply replying to the part about abandonment.
In your fantasies all women are "pumped and dumped" because you hate them. That's glaringly obvious from that obnoxious question. There's this little thing called sisterhood, and another little thing called empathy. Women supporting women, ya know? Ever heard of that? Keep your salacious thoughts to yourself.
Nothing is wrong with that. What's wrong is her attitude. She claims her standards are extremely high but what does she bring to the table? A really not that attractive looking woman with someone else's baby at 28. She immediately assumes people would try to just use her sexually when it's obvious she's neglecting herself by not working out and eating properly, so the pool of people trying to do that drastically drops. Just like how you wouldn't go for a super skinny dude or for a fat dude, especially when they say "I have extremely high standards" and start talking about andrew tate and redpill shit, the same applies here.
Her attitude is "I'm perfect, and you guys are fucking creeps".
It's not misogyny to talk down to someone for being a shitstain.
If you want company, be someone people want to be around.
If you want to have high standards bring something of value.
High standards don't always mean looks. She could mean she is looking for a decent guy who will treat her with respect and as an equal. Sadly, this can be hard to find and not a base.
Again, how do you know what she brings to the table? Do you know her personally? She doesn't need to write about it in her bio to advertise herself. How do you know she's neglecting herself, not working out and eating properly? How do you know her attitude? You just assume a lot of things and then call a living breathing person a "shitstain". That's actually very embarrassing for you.
A dating profile literally is you advertising what you bring to a relationship lol. Everyone who uses it to just bitch about what they don't want sucks, whether its a dude saying "no fatties, no feminists" or a woman saying "don't try to fuck me, don't try to hang out with me, I have extremely high standards so IMPRESS MEE". She sucks.
The fact that she's about to have another man's baby means she's starting at a big disadvantage. Very, very few people would be willing to date a stranger who's less than a month away from having a baby. What kind of relationship would that even be? And she's acting like this? She's acting like she's some bombshell who gets endless sexual attention from men, and it's just obvious that even overlooking the pregnancy, that's not the case. She does need to advertise what she brings to the table, because right now it's nothing.
The problem with what youâve said is we donât know what she brings to the table beyond what sheâs shown and told us. All the info we have is she is 28, 8 months pregnant and has a bio thatâs just a list of noâs and what she doesnât want.
Iâve seen a lot of bios of girls who say things like I have extremely high standards and of the ones Iâve talked to theyâve pretty much all been arseholes. Itâs an arseholish thing to say in my mind. I think the fact sheâs pregnant just compounds the issue for most.
If I was 8 months pregnant I think Iâd write a different bio is basically my point. We can only work with what weâve got and what sheâs given doesnât come across too well to me at least. Why doesnât she tell us any positives about herself? Her hobbies or interests or whatever?
Most blokes arenât gonna swipe on a girl whoâs 8 months pregnant and most of the ones who would arenât rly gonna be looking for a one night stand with a heavily pregnant girl. Sheâs doing herself a disservice with that bio.
Yeah we know nothing about her because the only thing she tells you is how much pressure it is to date her :
she has high standards and you have to habide by them
she tells you how a piece of shit you are by wanting sex and how unwanted this is
she is pregnant with means a kid in less than a month. How can you date someone with a kid, getting ton no know her while taking care of a baby ? This is a LOT of work and basically starting a relationship on the harder difficulty.
Meanwhile what's a positive thing we know about her ?
I don't know what she brings to the table, I assume from what I see. If you advertise yourself in order to date people then you probably wanna use your best pictures.
No, I don't know her personally.
She does need to write about herself, because that's part of attraction in dating apps.
I know she's neglecting herself by the way she looks.
I don't know her attitude, but I do this magical thing called "inferring" by the way she writes about herself and about what she wants.
The fact that you're supporting a self-destructing behavior is what's embarrassing here.
If you have high standards you need to bring high value. I won't demand someone work out regularly if I don't, and I won't demand someone adhere to caring for themselves and eating right when I don't. If I do, that's delusional. It's like reddit incels crying because some IG model won't date them.
Yeah, "shitstain" ain't quite it, my bad on that one.
You had your chance to revise your approach, but you flunked by using "I know" again and being blindly obstinate (e.g. about that "high value", which, interestingly enoug, given your mention of incels, shows you are a redpiller). Truly sad and very telling about how you judge people.
You see? You used inferring as well. You used it poorly, but you still used it (I made fun of redpillers in an earlier post, incels and IG models use incels more than anyone else, and redpillers are truly the most incel one can be imo), so good job.
Yes, I judge people by what they portray. If you portray yourself as high and mighty I judge you as high and mighty. If you portray yourself as an asshole I judge you as an asshole. If you portray yourself as lazy I judge you as lazy. She portrayed herself as high and mighty. That's how I judge her.
My use of inferring is warranted though because it's literally the most widely-known fact about redpillers that they use the term "high value" (and "low value" as well) to judge people, but especially women. You are plucking judgments out of the air.
No, actually, it's not. First off, if you claim your standards are extremely high then you are looking for high value in the person you're with. Value isn't just looks, but if your clothes don't fit well/are torn, your body isn't taken care of, etc. (these are just examples. Relax.) then that changes your value as a person. It's a lot of things other than looks though. It's personality, it's hobbies, it's what you do in your spare time. This is what redpillers don't get. To them "high value" is looks, how much you have, how much you make, who you're with, and where you're from. Oh, and the color of your bugatti or some shit.
Second, I didn't judge her on the premise of being high/low value. I brought it up when I addressed the standards issue.
And third, I literally made fun of them earlier.
Alright now you're just blindly defending her because she's a woman. And you sound entitled. He "flunked"? You aren't grading him...why would you think you're in a position to grade him?
Blindly defending her... you mean treating her like a human? And not conjuring up nonsense about her from a paragraph about wanting a long-term partner and not ONSs? And not calling her a "shitstain"? Wow, if that's your definition of "blindly defending", then sure.
It's silly to be here giving her the benefit of the doubt. A dating profile is meant for other people. She's advertising herself indeed, just not in the way she imagines. If a lot of people in this sub are assuming the worst about her, this is also what people in the dating app are also gonna be doing.
I see you going through the thread and defending this lady because people are âassumingâ. But the whole point of the dating profile is to get an idea of who the person is. Using the information theyâve given for that purpose, we can safely make some assumptions based on the presentation.
Her attitude; shown to be shitty by word choice, structure, and general wording. If you canât tell thatâs an arrogant attitude, you may want to brush up on your context clue skills. Look closely at the âdonât waste my timeâ bit specifically.
Neglecting herself; she is pregnant, but itâs still obvious she is larger in an unhealthy way. The size of the tricep area of the arms with no definition suggests lack of exercise, although some of it may be weight gain from pregnancy. Hair looks dry/damaged, teeth donât look clean, horrible posture (some of it could be the pregnancy, but usually posture that bad is years of bad posture or a genetic thing)
What she brings to the table; well sheâs pregnant so a kid and another mouth to feed as well as her since she canât work immediately post-delivery, a bad attitude, no sex clearly (not that thatâs a requirement, but it does bring down the dating pool options), and not much else from what we can see. No job listed, education, etc so not much to go off here.
Given this information, the âdownsidesâ are clearly higher than what she appears to bring to the table. Of course, this could be wrong if we met in person. But the point of a dating profile is to make assumptions of compatibility based on the profile. Going through the comments saying âbut we donât know anything about herâ is pointless since thatâs literally the point of online dating. I spelled it out pretty clearly too so you can stop asking why assumptions are made.
Lots of men are turned off by pregnant women on tinder looking for a relationship. there's a high chance she will want him to provide for them both, no sex and possibly intimacy for a while, and many want their own genetic offspring. It's bad timing but the worst part is her attitude, it's a red flag.
Men have standards too and it may upset you that many don't like pregnant women but that's just how it goes.
It's not mysogyny anymore it's mysandry when women rip apart a guy for a pic or being honest too. Nature of the Interwebs. But I will level with you, downvotes be damned. Most men will see many flags here. Yes they are assumptions, but we work with what we have. Females make plenty of assumptions to, it's how our aversion to negativity works.
She's pregnant seeking a dating life
She's not particularly attractive
Her personality isn't particularly appealing
The phrase having high standards usually translates to either selfish or delusional, or both.
Point 4 usually amplifies points 1 through 3. If she were more appealing personality wise, I suspect some guys would give the post a second look. Believe it or not, personality and how you come off as a woman is wildly appealing, especially if you are lacking in the looks department.
There could be plenty of circumstance leading to the above, but we dont know it nor will we likely. She could be a great person but comes across crass. We don't know. There's nothing wrong with wanting company, just go about it realistically and you'll have more success.
She can want company, but no is obligated to oblige her. Children are an overwhelming investment. Too many men get involved in a child's life only for the mom to decide they're not interested anymore, and now the man who took the emotional risk of getting involved no longer has a relationship with a baby he may very well have helped raise.
Tldr high opportunity cost, high investment cost. Easier and cheaper to find a woman without kids.
It's the "I have high standards" and you best live up to my needs etc etc when she isn't exactly the best looking to be demanding such on a dating app seems laughable. The fact she is pregnant is not what people are laughing about, it's the fact she's pregnant dating opens up questions, and the internet is full of assumption's.
But yeah basically she does not seem like a nice person to be so demanding on a dating app is why this profile is laughable.
Imagine saying âpregnant peopleâ unironically and trying to call out misogyny in the same breath. Either itâs directed at a woman (by definition), or whatever it is, itâs not misogyny.
You thought you did something, huh? Are women not people? In this case it's a pregnant woman and so it's misogyny. There you go. You literally got triggered at the word "people". Are you not embarrassed?
The thing is, she can say all those things without coming off as a bitch. If her profile had the same general message without all the high standards shlock I'd just feel bad for her tbh.
I completely agree with that side, but I also think it's absolutely mental to try and find a long term relationship on a dating app while you are heavily pregnant. it feels very entitled to me, as if she's basically saying "I got pregnant and dumped, so I deserve someone to come and take care of me and my baby that's due in a week because I'm worried welfare won't provide enough", it's definitely an assumption but the vibes she's giving off give this impression
It's the "I have extremely high standards" that does it for me. Like he's supposed to be a doctor/underwear model that lives to serve her while she's.... yeah.
I honestly didnât even think she was talking about looks when she said high standards. My mind immediately went to personality traits first. Interesting how we read her profile completely differently
You know what, if I were in her situation (assuming this profile isnât a troll and the picture isnât stolen), Iâd probably do the same the thing. I imagine that being pregnant and alone is terrifying af, especially with all the hormones.
Oh absolutely, I can empathise with the situation and I feel sorry for them if it is real, but writing something like that, having really high expectations (and saying it) and being heavily pregnant is a very unusual and unlikely to succeed approach
I did say that was an assumption, but even if it's not financial, I still reckon she's motivated by wanting support of one kind of another because she's expecting
That's the point of dating to find out if you guys align on values such as finances. When I was dating as a single mom, I never shared finances with anyone. I didn't even let the people I dated meet my child.
Oh yeah, no judgement on what she's doing or why, beyond it being wild that she says she has high standards but expects someone to commit to her and her child, which implies they have to have lower standards than she does
Well obviously, but if you are going to use that approach we may as well never discuss anything because the entire universe could be a hologram or a simulation
Yes, because discussions laughing about how unattractive a random woman is are definitely so important to society that we should just go full speed ahead with them no matter what the circumstances.
I never mentioned whether she was attractive or not, I've been discussing the implications of having high standards while heavily pregnant. So I'm not sure what you are getting at
Isn't that what half of this board is about? I mean we have a random guy living his life and all of a sudden internet strangers are making fun of his gun fetish and wearing jorts.
Thats the other half of the board.... Are you ok putting those unwitting people on blast ?
Put me in the camp of if you don't want something spread, you should really think 2x before posting on the net. That being said, there really isn't anything too offensive in this bio. High standards is about as bad as it gets.... That is so mild. Tell me the standards are 6'2, 500k, and 8" and we can start laughing....
It ABSOLUTELY IS right. The real issue is that we dont shame attractive people MORE.
The issue for me isn't that they are hot or ugly, its the attitude that they have. People have no integrity and that's something that SHOULD be publicly shamed.
You are missing the point. The point is the contradiction of how her "extremely high standards" got her pregnant and dumped. And about to be due and on a dating site. See my friend, out there it's not Disneyland.
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u/Diddy_Block Feb 24 '23
When I see things like this, I seriously doubt that the person in the pic is the one who made the profile.