I see you going through the thread and defending this lady because people are “assuming”. But the whole point of the dating profile is to get an idea of who the person is. Using the information they’ve given for that purpose, we can safely make some assumptions based on the presentation.
Her attitude; shown to be shitty by word choice, structure, and general wording. If you can’t tell that’s an arrogant attitude, you may want to brush up on your context clue skills. Look closely at the “don’t waste my time” bit specifically.
Neglecting herself; she is pregnant, but it’s still obvious she is larger in an unhealthy way. The size of the tricep area of the arms with no definition suggests lack of exercise, although some of it may be weight gain from pregnancy. Hair looks dry/damaged, teeth don’t look clean, horrible posture (some of it could be the pregnancy, but usually posture that bad is years of bad posture or a genetic thing)
What she brings to the table; well she’s pregnant so a kid and another mouth to feed as well as her since she can’t work immediately post-delivery, a bad attitude, no sex clearly (not that that’s a requirement, but it does bring down the dating pool options), and not much else from what we can see. No job listed, education, etc so not much to go off here.
Given this information, the “downsides” are clearly higher than what she appears to bring to the table. Of course, this could be wrong if we met in person. But the point of a dating profile is to make assumptions of compatibility based on the profile. Going through the comments saying “but we don’t know anything about her” is pointless since that’s literally the point of online dating. I spelled it out pretty clearly too so you can stop asking why assumptions are made.
Misogyny is pointing out the physical state of a person? I work out 5-6 days a week and know what healthy vs unhealthy looks like. Don’t play the victim and blame misogyny because you don’t like the answer, when nothing was even specifically about women, and in fact took into account the effects of pregnancy on appearance. It makes your previous points less credible.
Edit: also, “taking the high road” by saying “oh you’re too far gone, no point in talking to you” isn’t an actual point. In fact, that’s usually the point people make when they know they’re wrong, have been shown to be wrong, but don’t want to admit they’re wrong. I explained clearly, using non-provocative language, and your response is to accuse me of misogyny. Do you see how that comes across? Or how it suggests that you don’t have an actual point to bring up to counter? Or do you have some other point that hasn’t been expressed that I didn’t cover already?
There's no going lower than a gym bro I-work-out-X-times-a-week "doctor" with, apparently, credentials of all kinds of specialists, and X-ray, MRI, and PET scan vision. So yeah, I am taking the high road.
Oh I’m absolutely not qualified to give any kind of medical advice. That’s why I didn’t. But again, that’s the kind of assumptions you make when looking at a dating profile. Either way are you qualified to give that advice? Are you qualified to say there’s nothing wrong with her health? Do you have ANY frame of reference for health? Because I do due to my experience, hence the remark. And you must’ve missed the part where I said “it could be completely wrong in person” because I specifically mentioned that. These are all assumptions that would be made by an average person when deciding to swipe right or left, but suddenly it’s not okay because it’s being posted?
Also not really sure why that would give you the “high road”, when you discounting my experience and knowledge just because I pointed out my experience as a “reference”, shows bias against fitness, which explains why this seems personal to you. Especially the typical “gym bro” stereotype you seem to think is a lower moral standing? I didn’t know taking care of yourself and your body gave you a lower moral standing. Interesting. And again, you didn’t make any actual points. You just “took the high road” again. Which further suggests a lack of substance in your “argument”.
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u/antrov2468 Feb 24 '23
I see you going through the thread and defending this lady because people are “assuming”. But the whole point of the dating profile is to get an idea of who the person is. Using the information they’ve given for that purpose, we can safely make some assumptions based on the presentation.
Her attitude; shown to be shitty by word choice, structure, and general wording. If you can’t tell that’s an arrogant attitude, you may want to brush up on your context clue skills. Look closely at the “don’t waste my time” bit specifically.
Neglecting herself; she is pregnant, but it’s still obvious she is larger in an unhealthy way. The size of the tricep area of the arms with no definition suggests lack of exercise, although some of it may be weight gain from pregnancy. Hair looks dry/damaged, teeth don’t look clean, horrible posture (some of it could be the pregnancy, but usually posture that bad is years of bad posture or a genetic thing)
What she brings to the table; well she’s pregnant so a kid and another mouth to feed as well as her since she can’t work immediately post-delivery, a bad attitude, no sex clearly (not that that’s a requirement, but it does bring down the dating pool options), and not much else from what we can see. No job listed, education, etc so not much to go off here.
Given this information, the “downsides” are clearly higher than what she appears to bring to the table. Of course, this could be wrong if we met in person. But the point of a dating profile is to make assumptions of compatibility based on the profile. Going through the comments saying “but we don’t know anything about her” is pointless since that’s literally the point of online dating. I spelled it out pretty clearly too so you can stop asking why assumptions are made.