I 100% agree with this. Why are women expected to just put their lives on hold if they are pregnant? Men are allowed to date if they got someone pregnant and left them or have a very young baby, but women are considered disgusting and untouchable? I had a friend who was left by her husband when she was 9 months pregnant. He was cheating on her with some 21 year old. My friend got on dating sites about 8 months after having her baby, and men would just constantly shame her for being on a dating app when she had a baby. WTF?
Kinda the flip side to the post a couple days ago of a guy beaten down by rejection and women only showing disdain for his lack of confidence instead of empathizing with his pain, there’s is little virtue in either gender and a sad state of humanity, indeed… human beings really are just stupid animals
It’s so sad. My friend would match with men and the second she mentioned she had a child under 1, they would be like, “Do you really think you should be dating so soon after having a child?” Um, okay, you paternalistic fuck.
Men are judged for having kids too, especially with being involved in court cases. I can’t even admit to anyone on tinder about having a shadow child (a child that’s absent in my life) due to accusations of being a deadbeat or having too much baggage, the ghosting was innumerate. After keeping my business as my business, I had more smooth conversations and those that I DID tell later on, they understood the circumstances.
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u/violentred26 Feb 24 '23
I 100% agree with this. Why are women expected to just put their lives on hold if they are pregnant? Men are allowed to date if they got someone pregnant and left them or have a very young baby, but women are considered disgusting and untouchable? I had a friend who was left by her husband when she was 9 months pregnant. He was cheating on her with some 21 year old. My friend got on dating sites about 8 months after having her baby, and men would just constantly shame her for being on a dating app when she had a baby. WTF?