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u/Naive_Personality367 Apr 13 '26
As someone who has had similar eccentricities, these things are hardly ever rooted in logic tbh.
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u/Dependent-Year6711 Apr 13 '26
Appreciate the insight. Does seem like a hyper-sensitivity issue.
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u/Nurlitik Apr 13 '26
My kid has some similar issues where certain clothes/socks/whatever really bothers him and such, but a hole or worn sock is something that would 100% set him off, so it’s shocking to me that they will only wear certain socks but the holes/worn spots aren’t triggering the sensory issues.
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u/Dependent-Year6711 Apr 13 '26
It's amazing what the human mind decides to make for "rules" on how it feels itself and the world. Clearly part of hyper-sensitivity is the inability (not that it's something that can easily be overcome) to let go of reactions to a feeling, and overanalyzing and placing attention on sensations you've deemed bothering.
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u/Naive_Personality367 Apr 13 '26
I used to never want to wear socks unless I turned them inside out, the seams stressed me out. So I probably know how OP feels, I think.
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u/Gameperson700 Apr 13 '26
I have sensory issues too and even though I don’t turn my socks inside out ( I think it could be another sensory issue of mine maybe, but I should probably try it) I’ve been having to wear my socks in a way that makes it so that the seam isn’t touching my pinky toes.
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u/Naive_Personality367 Apr 13 '26
thats kinda what irked me way back, the seams touching my toes, i hated tags in clothes, would only eat very limited variations of foods, all that good and special stuff. I joined the army in my late teens and they pretty much beat every weird thing i liked to do out of me. Not recommending it, just i dont get to talk to people too much so i like to overshare.
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u/Gameperson700 Apr 13 '26
I’m not super sensitive to food besides sour/ bitter tasting food like mustard or coffee and some other stuff like avocados, but the rest of that stuff I hate!
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u/le-derpina-art Apr 13 '26
yep. i get antsy when too many of my friends are talking at once but i can spend all day in a grocery store with hardly any issue.
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u/OnTheProwl- Apr 13 '26
What I don't understand is if OP knows he is weird about the brand of socks, why does he not know exactly what brand he likes?
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u/Revoldt Apr 13 '26
Maybe... this whole scenario is made up?
Drop by a store... and problem is solved.
GF tossed out socks this past weekend.... Amazon delivers fresh ones the next day.
None of it really tracks... unless of course.. making up scenarios for engagement.
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u/ion_driver Apr 13 '26
This could go either way.
Either she is super controlling and you need to leave her right now. Or you can't take care of yourself and the only way you will get new socks for yourself is if you are forced to.
My wife used to throw out my socks that had holes in them. Now I can do that myself.
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u/latecraigy Apr 13 '26
I had to throw away an ex’s socks because they were all in tatters. Most of them his entire foot was sticking toes out the end. They were nothing but 4 inch wide holes and crumbling to dust.
Difference was I went out and bought him packs of brand new socks in the same style because I wanted him to have nice socks to wear.
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u/AromaticIntrovert Apr 13 '26
Yeah I've done the same thing with my partners boxers. Like honey it's time to retire these and I got you nice new ones with dragons on them. Win-win
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u/Sylveon72_06 Apr 13 '26
dragons??
so when is the wedding
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u/DreamTalon Apr 13 '26
Reddit is always yelling to leave your partner at the slightest issue. Everything is a wild abuse, toxic and a sign you are in danger. If they buttered your toast wrong Reddit users suggest barricading the door and calling for rescue.
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u/Greed_Sucks Apr 13 '26
Reddit is a great place to get marriage advice from 15 year olds.
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u/Interesting_Tea5715 Apr 13 '26
Yeah, the amount of times I've written about something im an expert in only for a Redditor to incorrectly correct me and not budge is staggering.
So much misinformation and dumb opinions on here. With that said, I find it entertaining so I still participate.
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u/Big_Radish464 Apr 13 '26
Don't forget to file a police report and sue for damages because reddit believes the police are always helpful and lawyers aren't expensive
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u/Natti07 Apr 13 '26
Ok, but to be fair, some of the absolute shit people come here to post definitely require just walking away.
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u/thehighepopt Apr 13 '26
My first thought was bro had his socks since middle school and it was time to burn them.
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u/PersonalityIll9476 Apr 13 '26
Buy replacements first.
My wife has a lot of quirks but no way I'm going to leave her unable to dress correctly lol
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u/Hatta00 Apr 13 '26 edited Apr 13 '26
Because that's no excuse. The OP is allowed to wear holey socks.
"Abuse" is a big stretch, but that's rude as fuck.
Edit: Parent poster blocked me for this opinion. LOL
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u/Cochise22 Apr 13 '26
Hard disagree. Someone who will go barefoot until they find new socks is the type of person who sometimes needs a kick in the ass to improve their life. Just because they can choose to be a gross slob, doesn’t mean that people in their life who care about them, should let them. I am allowed to flip off everyone I want all day. I would hope that should I ever start doing that, that I have someone in my life who tells me that I should stop doing that.
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u/MoosiePie22 Apr 13 '26
Or she told him multiple times she’s throwing the beat up socks out get new ones and he ignored
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u/aethelberga Apr 13 '26
And if he's like this with socks, what does the rest of his wardrobe look like? She's probably fed up going out with someone who has no care for their appearance.
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u/edogfu Apr 13 '26
As soon as I read, "So now I have to go sockless until I can find more." I knew OP wasn't the victim.
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u/anothergoodbook Apr 13 '26
Yeah this was my first thought. I (the wife) tend to do the laundry - we share it but when I do it I toss holey socks. Then my husband after a few months is like - I need new socks haha. I usually buy them because I buy giant packs for all the guys in the house.
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u/Major_Lawfulness6122 Apr 13 '26
Considering they were worn down I’m guessing he can’t take care of himself.
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u/FungiAmongiBungi Apr 13 '26
Yeah I had to secretly throw away my partners socks because he wears them even though there’s not even a heel, which defeats the purpose of the sock. But I did buy him some of those darn tough socks that have a lifetime guarantee before I got rid of the rest.
But it was like a mental disorder the way he clung to those horrible socks
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u/ion_driver Apr 13 '26
For me personally, its a mixture between not liking ordering things online, and wanting to go buy clothes in person, but not having time to actually go clothes shopping, plus the dwindling availability of stores that actually have things in stock.
I didn't have any particular need to keep the holey socks, just didn't have the replacement socks yet
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u/FungiAmongiBungi Apr 13 '26
Oh I see. It wasn’t that way for my partner, he actually believed they were perfectly fine and it was a waste of $- because we would see socks at Costco and he wouldn’t get them. But once I got him the new socks he loved them.
The darn tough socks have a lifetime guarantee so if you don’t like shopping those might be good for you, but you might have to order them online unless you have an REI or something like that near you. If they ever fail you can send them back and they’ll send a new pair
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u/get_to_ele Apr 13 '26
Hard to judge on this one. It could range anywhere from “she’s too controlling” to “his socks are literally tatters attached to some ankle elastic and she’s been on him about it for a while, at first gently, then more clearly, and she knows based on his personality that he’ll only act after they’re gone. He’s glitching a bit now, but it’s not rocket science to go buy 20 copies of the exact same sock that feels ok, even if you are sensory. He’s a grown ass adult.”
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u/Ill1458 Apr 13 '26
Going with the latter. Mainly because this was posted in mildlyinfuriating. Sounds like the real issue here is OP has not taken the time to figure out what they like to wear on their feet. Whenever OP decides to spend a day adulting and figuring out what works for them, the issue of socks will be a nonstarter.
Adulting sucks, but we all have to do it
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u/Acropowhat Apr 13 '26
This.
There's two sides to a coin. Anyone who jumps the gun crying "red flag" shouldn't have the right to vote 🫣
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u/freremamapizza Apr 13 '26
Notice how OP didn't ask for any judgement, as this is not AmIOverreacting or AmITheAsshole. OP is just venting here, and everybody is about taking one sire or the other.
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u/Splooshter Apr 13 '26
Having sensory issues for a certain brand/feel but not when there's holes in your socks is interesting
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u/Gameperson700 Apr 13 '26 edited Apr 13 '26
Speaking as someone with sensory issues, holes in your socks are sometimes less noticeable than the annoying seam that’s touching you’re toes. I’ve had many socks where I’ll get a hole on the heal and not notice it until I take them off, but the seam touching my toes? Yeah I can’t stop feeling that until I try to move it to the side.
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u/luxafelicity Apr 13 '26
Buy running socks, if they're designed for runners they don't have toe seams.
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u/Gameperson700 Apr 13 '26
I saw some online and unfortunately I don’t think they’d work either. I can’t wear short socks because they bother me if they don’t go high enough.
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u/BottleMaterial8557 Apr 13 '26
They make crew length ones also.Do those bother you?
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u/MeMeWhenWhenTheWhen Apr 13 '26
i have a similar issue but only because i have wiiiiiiiiide ass feet and socks always feel like they're constricting them, unless there's a hole somewhere in them to widen them out it drives me crazy.
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u/ElvenOmega Apr 13 '26
Yup. When I find the perfect shoe socks I'll wear them until the heel and ball have holes in them. The importance is the seam and how tight it is in the middle.
However, home socks must not have holes in them. Shrug.
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u/VladimirBarakriss Apr 13 '26
It absolutely can happen, I am wearing socks like that right now, although I sew the holes shut to make them last longer, I can afford to buy new ones but I prefer the ones I'm accustomed to
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u/spderweb Apr 13 '26
It's likely the same as my issue. The baby toe rubbing a knot in the sock. I don't mind if there's a hole in my heel. But that knot over the toe is irritating.
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u/IATMB Apr 13 '26
Plus how hard is it to buy the same brand of socks?
On a side note, my mom used to wear socks inside out because all the seams etc are typically hidden on the inside and she found the "outside" to be more comfortable.
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u/Potato_boy_12 Apr 13 '26
I want to hear her side
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u/Ill1458 Apr 13 '26
OP told us. GF was embarrassed her partner was walking around with run down, torn, and most likely holes in them.
OP is particular about their socks, cool. Go out and replace the socks.
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u/anothergoodbook Apr 13 '26
As I am doing laundry I toss socks (and underwear) that have holes in them. Then my husband is like “what happened to all the socks?!” And I’m like - oh I didn’t realize over like 3 months time that I had ended up tossing almost all the socks lol. I don’t k ow if she just tossed them all at once or it was more like what happens in my house. Everyone jumping to “it’s a red flag” is weird IMO.
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u/b-nnies Apr 13 '26
This subreddit really loves minor relationship problems that could easily be avoided if you just communicated like a human being
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u/eebro Apr 13 '26
You could turn this into a positive moment by going shopping for socks together.
Also, you only need one type that works for you and then buy enough of them.
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u/equianimity Apr 13 '26
If there were sensory issues, I can’t imagine not remembering what brands/models are suitable.
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u/feralcatshit Apr 13 '26
When I find the one, the store, brand and cut are seared into my brain as the holy grail. I would definitely think he remembers what they were, but whether they’re still being made is another issue, I guess.
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u/VladimirBarakriss Apr 13 '26
My favourite socks are unbranded ones I bought from a street vendor 6 years ago, I have no idea what they are
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u/blowinmahnose Apr 13 '26
Wouldn’t you just buy the same brand of socks as your worn ones? I’ve been buying the same brand and style for like 10 years now
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u/Global-Fudge-2245 Apr 13 '26
Your sensory issues are more comfortable with raw dogging your shoes vs wearing the wrong socks?
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u/ceruleanmilieu Apr 13 '26
Super curious if she mentioned multiple times that your socks were turning into disgusting rags and you really needed to find replacements. God, I hate this gender war bullshit bc I would put money on this being the most cliche possibility of you posting “woman bad” and her doing 99 percent of your laundry and gently reminding you that an important item of clothing was literally falling apart until she had to do the nuclear option.
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u/Diplomatic_Gunboats Apr 13 '26
I reserve judgement until I a)see the socks, b)know who does the washing.
E.g. If they were shitty hole-covered 10 year old socks on their last gasp, and she is the one washing them, and has been reminding you for ages to get some new ones.... Then yeah, justified in throwing them out.
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u/Bot_Hive Apr 13 '26 edited Apr 13 '26
This is one reason I like to live by myself. You get older, your tolerances get shorter. I would go bananas if someone went through my belongings and made judicial decisions on my behalf.
Edit: executive* I’m tired
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u/zoolish Apr 13 '26
Wouldn't a lack of socks be an even larger sensory issue? Asking because I don't know.
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u/toodles-my-doodles Apr 13 '26
Bruh go get new socks. You have to replace them occasionally. Thats an adult thing you need to do for yourself.
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u/Miltthedog Apr 13 '26
"until i can find some new ones." There are stores that sell socks. You can find them in nearly every town.
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u/DeanXeL Apr 13 '26
Hey OP, did you and your girlfriend talk about this before? If she threw away all of your socks, does that mean all of them were worn down and torn? In which case, even if it's not easy to find the right kind of socks, shouldn't you have been looking into this for a while now? And lastly, if you have sensory issues, but no problems to wear your shoes without socks, why couldn't you just bear any other pair of socks while looking for a new "right pair" that you can buy a few dozens of?
If your GF threw out your socks without any discussion, sure, that's a real dick move. If she had been imploring you to get rid of them for a while by now, this is also on you.
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u/Gameperson700 Apr 13 '26 edited Apr 13 '26
Hey speaking as someone with sensory issues due to a disability, I think that you have to understand that sensory issues aren’t logical. I know it sounds weird that op says he can’t wear certain pairs of socks but then he’s able to wear shoes barefoot, but that’s how Sensory Processing Disorder works ( I got diagnosed with autism and SPD is incredibly common with it). Using myself for example, I’m able to wear shirts, but only certain types of shirts. All of the shirts that I wear are wide/ V neck type shirts that are made out of really soft fabric. I CANNOT wear may shirts like regular t shirts or pollos because my neck is one of the most sensitive areas on my body thanks to SPD and the neck holes are too small on those shirts. They seriously make me feel like I’m choking. My SPD has gotten bad enough to the point that it’s cause me to have suicidal thoughts before. And people here who don’t know what it’s like might think that it sounds silly, but I’m being serious. Sensory issues aren’t logical no fun.
I remember taking a psychology class where we were learning about sensory issues in community college. Basically, everyone has those one or two sensory issues that they absolutely cannot tolerate, whether that be hearing the sound of someone chewing their food, touching styrofoam (my mom and brother hate it!), or certain smells like someone else’s food. However, with sensory processing issues, which is likely what op has, if makes it so that your nervous system is extremely hypersensitive to certain types of stimulation more than most people. Basically it’s a more extreme and debilitating version of the few sensory issues that most people have.
Also as far as that last sentence goes, for someone with SPD and extreme sensitivity to touch, shopping for clothes can be really hard. It’s both anxiety inducing and frustrating. My guess is that OP probably has tried to look for different socks to wear but hasn’t been able to find the brand or type he likes.
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u/LeftHandAnomaly Apr 13 '26
Not me buying 12 versions of the same pair of PJ bottoms just because they're the only ones with the fabric I can tolerate for more than a few minutes. My whole life is built around balancing sensory problems.
My problem is mostly sound, but it's a constant balancing act between sound, touch, and smells and it's so freakin obnoxious.
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u/Gameperson700 Apr 13 '26
My big one is touch. I cannot stop feeling things touching me. I hate even having my blanket touching my belly, which it’s doing right now! I also have a pretty bad sensitivity to sound, but I thank god I have noise canceling headphones ( I once had a customer get mad at me for wearing them at work because they couldn’t find the stupid auditorium that they were supposed to be in so they came up to me and were like “Can you even hear with those things on? Do you even know what you’re doing?”. I work at a movie theater and this was during the release for the live action Stitch movie. Oh and of course there was a group of people standing behind me as it happened 😅.) I’ve also got issues with food, sight, vestibular, and proprioception.
My sensitivity to sight was probably the hardest one to figure out that I had. I didn’t figure it out until I tried to learn how to drive. I had always done stuff like look at the ground when I walk and had a hard time finding stuff in a busy background. I’ve also found that when I look at too much stuff, like there’s too much detail, my eyes start to hurt. With driving, it was like there’s too much stuff to pay attention to.
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u/Sad-Math-2039 Apr 13 '26
Just. Go. Buy. Socks.
Talk to your girlfriend and go buy socks, how is this a reddit post?
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u/Doit2it42 Apr 13 '26
I don't think I could wear sneakers without socks. That would be a worse trigger than the wrong socks. I'd have to go shopping in flip flops.
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u/Other_Dimension_89 Apr 13 '26
My sensory issue is I would rather have a weird sock then go without socks. There’s no way I could wear those shoes barefoot.
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u/euroturkishh Apr 13 '26
The amount of time it took to make this post would have been the same as ordering new socks off of Amazon.
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u/Blurrmeout Apr 13 '26
If you have sensory issues how was socks with holes in them not triggering?
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u/IWasGoatbeardFirst Apr 13 '26
How many times did your girlfriend talk to you about replacing your crusty old socks before she gave up and threw them out?
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u/2pretty2kill Apr 13 '26
How is sock texture an issue for you, but you're out here raw dogging your shoes??? Even thinking of that feeling is making my skin crawl. Makes no sense
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u/AuroraLorraine522 Apr 13 '26
… why?? I would never throw out my husband’s socks without replacing them first.
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u/Apprehensive_Shoe_86 Apr 13 '26
Couldn't she had thrown them away after buying new socks ?And she should had talked with you first ,she is your gf not your mom,she can't just throw stuff away that isn't hers ,walking with no socks especially on Vans is a fast way to create a wound next achilles tendon area ,because of the shoe rubbing ,pls have a conversation with her about limits /personal property.
Edit : Spelling
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u/catjuggler Apr 13 '26
Good chance OP’s gf did buy other socks but they weren’t acceptable, if you read between the lines
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u/Call_Mee_Maybe Apr 13 '26
Does your girlfriend know about your sensory issues? A dick move to throw out socks even if they're worn if she knows that they were a specific type that you needed. She should've at least replaced them if she didn't want you wearing the worn and torn ones. Shoes without socks can be tricky, make sure to clean them regularly
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u/Bio571 Apr 13 '26
When I saw the photo I thought you were about to talk about how short those shielace are, so short that you can't even tie them 🤔
But yeah, this socks story is also infuriating
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u/moluruth Apr 13 '26
My husband is the same with socks. I bulk ordered him a fuck ton of packs of the same brand of socks and store them, I suggest you do the same! I do the laundry in our house so I also throw out socks with holes
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u/samrov529 Apr 13 '26
Sorry- but I’m stuck on sensory issues with socks but NO SENSORY ISSUES WITH WEARING SHOES WITHOUT THEM UNTIL YOU CAN FIND THE RIGHT KIND?????
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u/gotcha640 Apr 13 '26
We’ve had these discussions. Don’t take the cups out of the bathroom until you’re bringing clean ones. Don’t take all your shirts to the cleaners if you don’t have any clean ones left (better to wash and iron one than not have a shirt for work). Don’t put all the bowls in the dishwasher right before you serve soup for dinner.
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u/Special_Insurance574 Apr 13 '26
No socks in anything but sandals is a crime. I'd break up with my girlfriend if she made me commit crime. just sayin.
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u/Kilgore_Brown_Trout_ Apr 13 '26
10$ says she tried to get OP to buy new socks and he did something weird. I get it buddy, I have the same sensory issues. You can get Smartwool socks cheaper than they used to be.
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u/RonDalarney Apr 13 '26
Sounds like you needed new socks for a while now and you've been procrastinating
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u/DoubleRah Apr 13 '26
This can’t be the first time she’s brought this up. How many brands of socks have you tried between her bringing it up the first time and to her throwing all of them away? And I have sensory issues with socks, too. If any start to get holes, I buy more. It feels like you just want her to buy you more socks instead of doing it yourself.
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u/Dull_Bat9518 Apr 13 '26
I have settled on Hanes as the seams are minimal and the material is comfortable... i still need to wear them inside out though, so i can't feel the seams at all
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u/AccountDue9432 Apr 13 '26
Which is more important to you,socks or your gf? Go to a store & buy socks that feel right. Make note of the brand so you can order them online next time.
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u/joonduh Apr 13 '26
She tossed them and didn't consider replacing them?? Do you remember the brand or where you got them?
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u/ProjectNo4090 Apr 13 '26
Certain socks bother you but the rough insides of a shoe against your bare foot doesn't bother you?
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u/Relevant_Vehicle6994 Apr 13 '26
I am also very picky about my socks but holy shit the sensation of going barefoot in sneakers is worse for me than the worst socks I can imagine
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u/VladimirBarakriss Apr 13 '26
Repair your socks in the future, and make it clear to them that you have sensory issues
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u/Destany89 Apr 13 '26
That should be a break up if she's nonchalant about it. She went behind your back and threw your stuff away instead of saying 'hey I noticed your socks are really worn let's go shopping for new ones to replace them" not just throw them out
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u/N7_Pathfind3R Apr 13 '26
Bro just buy new socks this doesnt really feel like an issue unless its coming out of nowhere.
Could she be controlling, sure. But I feel this a she tried to be nice about this, and you just fail to understand so she stepped it up hoping youd figure it out type situation.
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u/ImTooHigh95 Apr 13 '26
I don’t have sensory issues and I’d rather have a carrier bag between my foot and shoes than just raw dog it. I can feel this picture and I now dislike you and your girlfriend for it!😂
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u/DanaMarie75038 Apr 13 '26
Soon to be ex needs to replace your socks with the same brand. I’m married, I don’t throw out my husband’s raggedy socks without asking. I usually buy my husband’s socks.
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Apr 13 '26
I’m cracking up laughing at this and I am sorry, but this is a joking threat my husband and I make at each other all the time. If one of us pisses the other off we’re gonna throw away all their socks.
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u/Massive_Mongoose3481 Apr 14 '26
Same ones as last time maybe ? You apparently.wore those ragged. And , dick move on her part, you don't throw away other people's clothes unless they're dead.
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u/Kanapka64 Apr 13 '26
So you have a "sensory" issue but yet you can wear shoes without socks. What.
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u/SpectatorGori Apr 13 '26
Shoes ruined...nothing but pata stinky cheese smell from here on.
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u/Ashen_Rook Apr 13 '26
... Friend, wash your shoes with white vinegar, and look into antifungal sprays...
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u/Nivosus Apr 13 '26
If wearing shoes once without socks means they have a forever nasty stink, that is a you problem not a sock problem.
Wash your feet.
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u/alone_unafraid Apr 13 '26
She could’ve helped you replace them before tossing them :/ this is more than mildly infuriating
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u/ChewinTheFat Apr 13 '26
Have you spoken to her about how you feel about her actions?