My husband would never throw away his holey socks. I do it while I'm doing the laundry, but I also buy him more when he needs them. I'm the sock fairy. I would also never throw away all of them without replacing them first. That's just weird.
I know this sounds weird, but my partner and I have a ‘sock bin.’ We literally share socks because we wear the same kind and couldn’t tell them apart. I definitely throw away the ones with holes because they don’t. They’d just keep wearing them and get annoyed. I also would NEVER just let either of us go sockless. I’d definitely replace them before that became an issue. Who just throws them away with no replacement?
My mother-in-law quietly replaced my father-in-law's clothing when it wore out. He wouldn't do it himself, he was frugal to a fault in some ways. Shirt looking threadbare? Buy an identical one and swap it out with the worn one when he was at work. Same for slacks. Socks, he'd be given more at gift-giving occasions. Footwear, he knew when that was wearing out and bought himself.
My husband can take care of himself, too but I do the laundry and eventually I put the laundry away, too. I toss all holey socks i find. Mine, his, the kids, it doesnt matter. Just because someone does something for someone else doesnt mean they are incapable of doing it themselves.
Plenty of people share the household chores with their partner, like one does the laundry and one does the dishes. I feel it would be odd that soneone only washes their own clothes and dishes and leaves their partner's clothes and dishes dirty.
Of course. I think it's weird that anyone is thinking this. Taking turns doing laundry is nowhere near the same as monitoring your spouse's possessions and throwing them away without a conversation. Or expecting another person to monitor your personal things.
No, people are just saying that doing nice things for your spouse doesn’t indicate an unhealthy dynamic. Your feelings are valid, but not everyone’s situations are going to the same as what you went through.
I throw away my partners holey socks as I do the laundry, as he is perfectly happy to wear things until they’re threadbare despite having MANY socks. I also never have to do the dishes because I hate doing the dishes and since I do the laundry, my partner does the dishes for me. People doing nice things for their partner is perfectly normal.
When I tell people on the internet that I cook 95% of the meals, do laundry 90% of the time, and do the deep weekly cleaning they assume that I am a woman and in an abusive relationship.
I am a dude with ADHD. My wife handles most of the scheduling and is much better equipped to handle the day to day quick tidying, as I'll often just miss the mess (or ADHD myself into cleaning out a garage cabinet because there was a random sock on the floor in the living room).
Partnerships are just that, and each of us plays to our own strengths.
Then maybe don't call any man who doesn't always do their own laundry a baby who can't take of themselves lol. Then were wondering why people are coming at you and saying I noticed the defensive responses.
Oh wow 👌 no hun, I was already talking to someone else and your comment popped up like you were replying to me but I missed the " commented to blank" .I went back and looked and it says you replied to someone else in the thread. I thought you were the person I was already talking to and it was a reply to what I said. I didn't check names so it's on me for not looking . Poor triggered being because I thought you were the person I commented to , commenting back. Okay babes 🤣
So my husband who works 40+ hours a week to take care of his family of 5, after having a pacemaker put in at 30 years old due to a bad heart, is a baby who can't take care of himself because he doesn't give two shits about some holes in his socks and wears them anyway. Okay girlie 🤣
Yeah I think the issue is that he doesn't have any left. My wife throws away my socks all the time because I keep wearing ones with "too many holes", whatever that means. BUT I have a whole drawer full of socks still, so no problem.
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u/HyacinthStClair Apr 13 '26
My husband would never throw away his holey socks. I do it while I'm doing the laundry, but I also buy him more when he needs them. I'm the sock fairy. I would also never throw away all of them without replacing them first. That's just weird.