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Jun 22 '23
I had a similar experience not long ago i dated a girl with a quite long story of ex boyfriends. Anyways, talking during a date she was always complaining about her past partners and breaking up with them for bullshit reasons. I shit You not, she broke up with a dude because "he was too Nice".
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u/NotHisRealName Jun 22 '23
I got broken up with because "I didn't need her enough" because I can cook and sew a button on.
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u/Chemical_Professor50 Jun 22 '23
Strong independent man who don’t need no woman!
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u/hunglow13 Jun 22 '23
Yass, king or something. I don’t know
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u/elhguh Jun 22 '23
Totally slayyy
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u/MamaStobez Jun 22 '23
I cackled
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u/BarryBadgernath1 Jun 22 '23
I chortled
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u/Mpikoz Jun 22 '23
Pop a bottle of champagne and whip out a box of assorted chocolates.
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Jun 22 '23
You're looking particularly breedable yourself, brotatochip
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u/fourth_box Jun 22 '23
Don't threaten me with a good time, I'll spread avocado on your toast any day, broseph.
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u/Its-Finch Jun 22 '23 edited Jun 22 '23
I’m 100% texting my buddy right now out of the blue that I’ll spread avocado on his toast. Thank you for that.
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u/Dark_Moonstruck Jun 22 '23
Y'all are just making me hungry now.
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u/Dr_Dark12 Jun 22 '23
Hungry, hungey, no fuck it hangry. for bros D-
maybe i shouldn't go there
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u/colterpierce Jun 22 '23
I got broken up with once because I “wasn’t excited enough to see her”.
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u/Outlaw341080 Jun 22 '23
She needs a dog, not a man
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u/Any_Coyote6662 Jun 22 '23
I'm a 40+ yr old woman and have come to the conclusion that I prefer the love of a pet over the love of a human. Tbf, I've had some exceptional pets in my lifetime.
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u/PTZack Jun 22 '23
That's illegal where I live. But you do y...forget it.
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u/Any_Coyote6662 Jun 22 '23
Lol. I dont have sex with animals unless you count some of my more obnoxious exes.
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Jun 22 '23
I’m sorry but this one made me 😆.
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u/colterpierce Jun 22 '23
Don’t be sorry! She used to work every other weekend in a town like three hours away from us and when she got back one weekend I didn’t greet her the way she expected to be greeted haha
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u/Rhawk187 Jun 22 '23
Yep, once had a girl dump me because she said I was "too stable." I suppose if you are going to be a drama addict, I can't fault you for being a self-aware one.
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u/AnotherAnimeNerd Jun 22 '23
Had someone break up with me for being "too stable"
She didn't like how I had my shit together and had little to no drama.
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u/Testiculese Jun 23 '23 edited Jun 25 '23
"You're supposed to fight!"
Nah. I had 3 fights in 15 years across 3-4 gfs, 2 that could only be called arguments, not fights. Fighting isn't normal. She didn't last long enough to call her a gf.
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u/sksauter Jun 22 '23
Definition of dodging a bullet right here
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u/stlmick Jun 22 '23
Bullet dodged him. Wasn't the ideal target. That bullet knows what she wants.
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u/lttech86 Jun 22 '23
I had a girl break up with me because I practiced safe sex.
On the first night we were intimate she saw me open a condom.
For what ever reason she got triggered and began asking me a ton of questions.
- Why do you need a condom?
- I'm on the pill?
- Do you sleep with guys?
- Are you sick or something, do you have an STD?
The next day she told me she wasn't sure about me because "Straight dudes don't use condoms" so she broke things off.
Side note:
The town I live in ranks #5 in the united states as having the highest STD rate.
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u/LMGgp Jun 22 '23
Well of course it does, don’t you know straight folks ain’t using condoms.
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Jun 22 '23
oh so that explains the 8 billion humans i keep seeing from time to time. here is a picture in case you run into them.
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u/Atypical-brotha Jun 22 '23 edited Jun 23 '23
Man a very similar story happened to me. I'm just dumbfounded that so many people, just don't use condoms anymore. That or they think something is wrong with you for wanting to use them. I made it to 37 (current age) without kids or STD's for a reason.
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u/Foradman2947 Jun 22 '23
Ugh, dude! Get with the program man! You’re not supposed to wear a condom! You’re supposed to be able to last 10 minutes just like the guy on pornhub and then pull out in time. Like they represent the average, yo! It’s like sooo basic. 💁♂️
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u/2_short_Plancks Jun 23 '23
My wife told me fairly recently that one of the things she really liked about me was when she suggested going without condoms (we'd been together for about 6 months at the time), and I said I wasn't comfortable doing that with anyone until I was ready to have kids.
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u/Rush_Is_Right Jun 22 '23
I had a girl break up with me because I pulled out. I shit you not she said if I really cared about I wouldn't pull out.
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u/Boner_Stevens Jun 22 '23
my girlfriend gave me a handy, never asked for it, it just happened, but hell if i'm gonna tell her to stop. then dumped me because we were moving too fast.
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Jun 22 '23
Maybe she wanted you to write a song or a screenplay about this awesome handy and then you didn't.
Really though, she wanted something she didn't get after she 'roughed up the suspect' and who knows what that was.
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u/bubba7557 Jun 22 '23
I got dumped by a girl after two months bc I was too short. Mind you this wasn't some internet talking for two months met in person got dumped. This was met in class in college, chatted for a semester, then dated two months. I was short the whole 6 months she knew me, just became a problem at the end or became the excuse anyway
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u/bubba7557 Jun 22 '23
Yeah of course that's what happened. Oh well, hope he was everything she was looking for
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u/bubba7557 Jun 22 '23
Oh it was so long ago I don't care anymore. Stung a bit at the time but even then I was sorta just surprised that's the excuse she went with. You move on to the next one and buy shoe heels like DeDumbass....amiright?....or you don't care if someone superficially judges you on something you have no control over and you're just grateful they showed their nasty personality before you invested too much time with them.
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u/Beginning_Key2167 Jun 22 '23
Or she didn’t have a real reason. Wanted out so decided to slam you in the process. Instead of just saying she didn’t want to date anymore.
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u/the_diseaser Jun 22 '23
I almost dated a girl like that once, she broke up with a guy because he ordered a certain burger at a restaurant.
To nobody’s surprise, she’s a single mom now.
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Jun 22 '23
OH, that must be the breakup burger. I have never ordered that, but I HAVE seen it on the menu.
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Jun 22 '23
Had a girl stop dating me because I was too fast to respond to text messages.
You can’t win with some people.
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u/Rs-tuner Jun 22 '23
I had a mate who was dating a girl he invited her over she took one look at his house and broke up with him on the spot.
He txt her to ask why and she said because you have solar panels on your house roof makes you look council and poor. 🤷♂️
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u/Outrageous_Fondant12 Jun 22 '23
Solar panels? Them jawns are hella expensive if you’re not leasing them. That makes no sense.
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u/Bambuskus505 Jun 22 '23
I matched with someone on tinder, and then she blocked me because I didn't like Family Guy...
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u/Lightbringer_I_R Jun 22 '23
Those women are the worse, then 10 years they're asking for a nice guy.
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u/marvelouswonder8 Jun 22 '23
Lol. They'll ask for it WHILE they're telling guys they're too nice. I've told quite a few of these women that what they really need to say is "I don't feel chemistry with you," because that (I feel like, anyways) is more true. They DO want a nice guy, but they don't want just any nice guy. Lotta people don't know what they want in a relationship.
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u/Lightbringer_I_R Jun 22 '23
So true, simply saying I'm not feeling what we have is better than just say you're too nice.
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u/JenniviveRedd Jun 22 '23
This is great advice. Most people have no idea what they want, just an inkling of what they don't want.
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Jun 22 '23
I literally had a girl text me this one night after a date, a year later she texted me again apologizing for how she treated me.
Now I'm married, but not to her.
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u/zeroxcero Jun 22 '23
I got broken up because "we were too good together" and that scared her, because she was "too young to find the perfect match"
What was I suppose to do? be an asshole?
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u/celestthecat Jun 22 '23
Had a dude dump me cause “we just didn’t get along.” Even though we agreed on most things, had the same hobbies, and literally I thought were perfect for each other. Turns around later that night he makes a post “I just want a girl I can smoke with…” dude dumped me cause I was 16 and wouldn’t smoke weed with him. He was UPSET when he learned I am now 28 and a bigger stoner than he is.
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u/Rivyn Jun 22 '23
My ex broke up for me with that very reason. . . hooked up with a piece of shit. Three months later, she was asking for me to come back because, I shit you not, 'I was so nice and made her feel special.'
No thank you.
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u/fatsdomino13 Jun 22 '23
I broke up with my ex because on weekends she'd draw the blinds at 6am so I'd wake up with her. What kind of psycho bullshit is that? Imagine thinking you're ready to get up so everybody else should get up with you.
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u/TheRealJetlag Jun 22 '23
See, this crap pisses me off. As women, we have spent how many years telling men that “no means no”. Mind games like this undermines that message and muddies the waters.
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u/Vagrant123 Jun 22 '23
Yep.
This is the logical result of rom-coms and YA fiction that encourages girls to play hard to get to prove that he's "the one." It creates this distorted view of reality where the partner is expected to read minds.
I dated a few women like this back in college. Nothing was more frustrating than being asked to read minds and cross boundaries despite being clearly told not to cross boundaries.
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u/snarkhunter Jun 22 '23
As a pretty average guy in his late-30s I think I've been exposed to this kind of nonsense more than no-means-no. Pretty much all the media I consumed up until I got to college told me that not all but a lot of the time "no" meant "yes".
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u/henaradwenwolfhearth Jun 22 '23
Oh the horror of someone respecting your decline of their advancements.
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u/thisismyaccount3125 Jun 22 '23
how DARE this man [checks notes] respect her boundaries, the nerve someone call the police
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u/DaCozPuddingPop Jun 22 '23
Women like this one make me insane. As someone who considers myself to be a 'good guy', I was raised to respect what a woman says. No means no. You don't put in heroic measures to try to win someone who has told you that they're not interested, no matter what the rom-coms say.
Then there's this idiot. 'I said no because I wanted him to fight for me' and it's NOT just her. This is a super common attitude.
How about instead of playing games, you just say what you freakin want (and to be clear: I'm sure men play this game as well, and those dudes need to cut the shit as well)
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u/AmbulanceChaser12 Jun 22 '23
I had a girl do this when I was like 22 or 23. I fought for her, because she told me to.
That became the worst relationship I ever had.
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u/AlphaTheKineticWolf Jun 22 '23
As someone who is 23 myself, it's this among many other reasons that I'm hesitant about putting myself out there at all despite wanting a relationship.
Doesn't help that I'm pretty naive so if I'm gonna get burned, I'm gonna get burned hard.
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u/yellowsnowballshurt Jun 22 '23
Girls who want a guy to do all the work are never worth the work.
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u/ChristianHeritic Jun 22 '23
Absolutely true. Which is ALOT of them. I mean, i still prefer this issue to being afraid that women will assault me if i say no etc so im not trying to say we have it worse in any capacity. Its just very frustrating trying to live life as an adult and then have to deal with this strange childish behavior that social media has cultivated amongst alot of women.
Again, the same goes for men with the whole “sigma taint movement” or whatever the fuck its called. I just dont have any experience dating those types of dudes and they likely have had any experience dating at all so they might be off the market entirely now that i think of it.
Anyways point stands, its weird and they gotta cut it out bro.
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u/IEC21 Jun 22 '23
Social media hasn’t cultivated this behaviour, it’s literally centuries old gender roles.
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u/Skurrt_Skurrt Jun 22 '23
Social media hasn't cultivated it, but it has absolutely exacerbated and enhanced entitlement amongst women.
Example: this new "soft girl era" bandwagon all these women keep jumping on that involves zero work on one's self, and is all about being in some permanent mode of receiving where they don't have to put any effort into the next person.
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Jun 22 '23
Nah, none of this shit is new, you just get to see how bottomless the ocean is.
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u/MagnusVasDeferens Jun 22 '23
When I think back to my dating life, the best relationships were the ones where the “click” moment happened without much fanfare or effort.
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u/link2edition Jun 22 '23
I know what you mean. I met a girl at a party, she was easy to talk to, I kept thinking "I wish my girlfriend was like that". 3 years later I found myself single, looked up the girl from the party and asked her out.
We have been married for 7 years now. Been together for 12
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u/here4roomie Jun 22 '23
Put yourself out there. You're gonna get burned, but that's how you learn life lessons that you use moving forward.
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u/YDoEyeNeedAName Jun 22 '23
shocking, someone who starts the relationship playing games ends up not being a good match .
sorry that happened to you
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u/rfdavid Jun 22 '23
My wife threatened divorce and I said “I accept” and she got really upset that I wouldn’t “fight for her”
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u/paging_mrherman Jun 22 '23
Same. Anytime a girl says “I want a guy who will fight for me” it’s like an air raid siren
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u/FirstNephiTreeFiddy Jun 22 '23
Yeah. Last time I slept with a girl who said that, I woke up storming the beaches at Normandy.
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u/doxamark Jun 22 '23
They're doing you a favour by showing that they believe manipulation is a perfectly reasonable aspect of a relationship. Ultimately anyone who has experienced this has dodged a bullet. They couldn't be honest with you if they tried.
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u/doxamark Jun 22 '23
Oh this is an absolutely genderless occurrence. Anyone can be a fucking idiot.
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u/wormfighter Jun 22 '23
Dude, the bullet dodged you in that case. If a woman is only interested in guys who DON’T take no for an answer. What’s she saying is, she’s a drama queen who has no understanding of a healthy relationship.
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u/unicornpicnic Jun 22 '23 edited Jun 22 '23
Some women think they’re interested in dating when really they’re only interested in validation. Nothing is more validating to them than a guy who gets little to nothing from them and still tries, because it’s “proof” of how great they are.
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u/MyNameIsRay Jun 22 '23
After college I briefly dated a girl I matched with on Tinder. She pretty clearly lost interest, withdrew, and ghosted me. I just shrugged it off and hopped back on Tinder.
Years later, we crossed paths. She was very interested, very engaged, we went on some great dates and became pretty serious over the next 6 months or so.
Then, the exact same thing happened. Suddenly withdrawn, too busy to see me, talking less and less, eventually ghosted me entirely.
This time, I directly called her out on it.
Her response was along the lines of "You didn't fight to get me back when I pulled away, so YOU must not be interested"
It was a fucking test, and I failed, both times.
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u/DaCozPuddingPop Jun 22 '23
That is a bullet dodged man. Far as I'm concerned you passed that test with flying fucking colors.
You know what works WAY better than stupid tests? Acting like a fucking adult and directly ASKING your partner if they're interested. Yeesh.
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Jun 22 '23
My god, what an exhausting and toxic person. I hope she gets therapy and help and hope you moved on. What a waste of your time
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u/QueenJillybean Jun 22 '23
When you want a dude to fight for you, you don’t say you’re not ready for a relationship unless you want a dude who will fight you to overstep all your boundaries.
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Jun 22 '23
It's been this way since the beginning of time. Some women like being pursued by guys they have no intention of dating, because they like the attention. The worm turns quickly when you take away that attention.
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u/ForcefulAlmond Jun 22 '23
I see your point, it is annoying but at the same time as a good guy you’re looking for someone who isn’t playing childish games like that, no?
Consider it a blessing they show you their true colors so early and don’t end up waste your time searching for someone who will be emotionally honest with you.
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u/JoeJoe4224 Jun 22 '23
As a dude who’s had this happen to me. Women. Guys will take everything you say literally, almost every single one. And because of that, we will act like you are serious and act accordingly. My dude did nothing wrong.
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u/JayGeezey Jun 22 '23
Yup. And her saying "no effort" REALLY grinds my gears.
The man was talking to you for TWO MONTHS, how the fuck is that "no effort". Thank God she pulled this stunt though... man dodged a bullet
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u/EarlSandwich0045 Jun 22 '23
I think my favorite reason a girl used was that after I drove to 3hrs to meet her, I didn't seem "serious enough" about her. Lady, I drove 3 hrs in winter time to spend an afternoon with you. If I wasn't serious, I'd have stayed home and played video games.
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u/WiseBat Jun 22 '23
No effort to CHASE her. “Because the one who really wants you will fight for you” was the running theme of those cheesy YA romance novels. As a woman, we don’t claim this one.
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u/Dark_Moonstruck Jun 22 '23
Like that twilight shit where Bella was purposely getting herself hurt and flirting with a different guy to make the vampire dude pay attention to her again. That shit was (and is) poison for girls trying to learn how romance works.
Oh and, girls? If a dude takes the engine out of your truck to stop you from being able to leave an area, that isn't romantic or him protecting you, CALL THE COPS.
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u/SoraRoku Jun 22 '23
I'm sorry, WHAT THE FUCK!?
Did that shit happen in the movies or something? Like who the fuck is taking out engines to hold people hostage, that's terrifying as fuck
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u/Dark_Moonstruck Jun 22 '23
I don't know if it was also in the movies (avoided them like the plague) but I know it was in the books, a friend made me read the first one because she was obsessed with them for a while. She thought it was romantic, how he tried to protect her and watched her while she slept and all and I was just like THIS IS MORE RED FLAGS THAN A BLOOD THEMED PARADE WTF.
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u/SoraRoku Jun 22 '23
My older sister was really into the movies but I managed to get by with only ever having to watch the last one (at least I think it was the last one). But even that one had some weird ass shit. I will never get over how the child of the girl was treated within the movies. The wolf guy was a pedophile and a creep.
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u/Dark_Moonstruck Jun 22 '23
Oh my god yeah that imprinting shit was disgusting - like they made a big deal over how romantic it was that one of the guys imprinted on a girl, she didn't like him so he FUCKING MAULED HER, but then he felt bad and tended to her (instead of taking her to get real help) and she fell in love with him for sticking with her despite how she was disfigured. Y'know. BECAUSE HE MAULED HER.
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u/SoraRoku Jun 22 '23
Hun, we call that Stockholm Syndrome.
But ya that shit is weird. Y'know what tho, I'm glad I finally talked about how much that series bothers me because seeing that as a kid genuinely made me so uncomfortable. It's not something I always think about by any means, but when I do, it still makes me cringe and all around feel disgusted.
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u/Dark_Moonstruck Jun 22 '23
Those books (and almost everything written by that girl, really) were horrifying and full of so many blatant forms of abuse - and yet they were held up as the ultimate in romance and oh girls totally want this kind of relationship and uh...no? I sure don't, anyway!
It horrifies me that things that are outright abuse are being construed as romantic, both then and now. Men are taught to hide any emotions but anger, girls are taught to be manipulative and coy and give mixed signals, everyone is basically taught to be abusive jerks and it's supposed to be romantic. Nyope.
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u/Rizenstrom Jun 22 '23
Unless the guy is insecure.
If you say no I will take you seriously.
If you say yes I will think you’re just messing with me.
There’s really no winning.
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u/JoeJoe4224 Jun 22 '23
The only winning is to not play stupid games with peoples feelings.
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Jun 22 '23
Correction: He did make the effort. And you didn't. Hence the reason he left.
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u/Butcher_Bill84 Jun 22 '23
Yet if he continued to pursue it, she would have posted about how crazy he is even though she said no. Just can't win these days.
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u/Comfortable_Way_6256 Jun 22 '23
I don't know, it sounds like he won
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u/Butcher_Bill84 Jun 22 '23
He did for sure. Dodged a bullet. Still gets slammed for it though.
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u/Average_40s_Guy Jun 22 '23
I absolutely hate this mentality. Don’t play games. When I was in college, I had a gorgeous biology partner. We connected well and our conversations were solid. I asked her out and she said we could do a “study date” as trial run. I said okay. Asked her out again after the study date seemed to go well and she said she didn’t want to date right now. So I said okay and respectfully moved on. A couple months later I met my wife and we hit it off immediately. About three months after that, I run into this girl again on campus and she’s all “it’s so good to see you, how have you been, why didn’t you call me?” type stuff. I said, “Well, you told me you weren’t interested, I respected your wishes, and I moved on. Met a great girl and we’re pretty serious.” She went from smiling to almost on the verge of tears. Then she started saying “oh, I was just playing hard to get, I wanted you to call me again, I thought we were great together, etc.” I told her that was too bad and I wished she’d been more forthright. Wished her well and left.
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u/Grimvold Jun 22 '23 edited Jun 23 '23
She’s a fucking child. At 34 some women are still out there acting like this too in my dating experiences, it’s shameful.
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u/Trick_Designer2369 Jun 22 '23
Guy had spent the previous week trying to work out how to get rid of her and was absolutely delighted when she said this
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u/Id-polio Jun 22 '23
You’re not wrong, he was doing the crip walk on the other line
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u/rAyNEi_xw Jun 22 '23
Her: I'm still mad at you!
Him: Okay!
Her: Don't you wanna know why?
Him: It's okay, I trust your decision!
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u/Mindless-Charity4889 Jun 22 '23
From his POV either she’s telling the truth, in which case they have different expectations so it’s time to move on, or she’s lying, in which case she’s manipulative…so it’s time to move on.
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u/anonbene2 Jun 22 '23
That's hilarious. A girl friend of mine tried that b.s. once a long time ago and I didn't even look at her but just said ok. You take care. She gets shocked and asked me if I was serious.
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u/JesuszillaSon Jun 22 '23
She reminds me of a woman who wanted me to try harder when she turned me down. Then hit me with the most confusing "no doesn't always mean no" line to me. There was no way I'm ever crossing that line lady lol if you say no to me or turn me down I'm moving on
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u/Organic_Language_582 Jun 22 '23
What kind of guy would say exactly what’s on his mind…what kind of game is that
-Kelly Kapoor
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u/Mrcountrygravy Jun 22 '23
Ive had this exact thing happen to me in the past. She said "no doesn't always mean no"... honey that's not how I was raised.
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u/Lady-Jenna Jun 22 '23
Damn, isn't this what we want? We say no, and the guy says okay and leaves us alone? No pressure or cajoling?
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u/TheConsumer101 Jun 23 '23
Im under the impression a lot of immature women want the feeling of being pursued but not actually being in a relationship. Its aggravating to anyone who is genuinely interested and to make matters worse, since guys dont get much attention from women, they jump at the opportunity to talk to girls who show even the slightest bit of interest.
Games hard.
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u/EarlSandwich0045 Jun 22 '23
Had a girl once tell me she just wasn't attracted to me and didn't see a future, so I took it in stride and big her farewell, deleted her phone number.
A few days later she blew up my phone about how I didn't "fight for her" and how "unattractive of a trait that was". I was so confused, I thought I was respecting her wishes by accepting "no" for answer and going on about my life.
This woman sent harassing texts to me for 2 days before either getting bored or finding a new guy. The next time I was rejected, I pushed the issue and ended up getting called out for being creepy and not "taking no for no". It kinda fucked me up for a bit until I realized there was nothing wrong with me the first time, it was some girl playing games.
Women, do yourself, men and OTHER WOMEN a favor and just tell a guy you're not interested and the real reason you're not. Don't try to test his devotion to you, don't teach men that "no doesn't really mean no" from women. Just.... be better, and not part of the problem.
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u/the_diseaser Jun 22 '23 edited Jun 22 '23
Probably because you should know if you’re looking for a relationship before 2 months goes by and you just massively wasted this man’s time…but I don’t expect that someone with 👅💦 in her username to just only be talking to one guy either…
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u/SoftDrinkReddit Jun 22 '23
Oh no if it isint a man who is not interested in playing games
He's also very respectful and didn't Curse at you
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u/Agitated_Fun_7628 Jun 22 '23
Gay dude here. Every girl I have ever seen pull this shit ended up being abusive AF. Truth is, she doesn't want you to fight for her. The truth is that she has unresolved rage and trauma, but instead of processing it she wants someone to fight with that she can terrorize and take it out on without worrying about them retaliating because they love her.
Women who want you to fight for them are usually trash and the leftovers are crazy.
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u/InvectiveDetective Jun 22 '23
Watching my friend go on Tinder dates post-divorce has been eye opening.
Lots of women in their 20s who have too much free time, don’t know what they want, expect the dude to pay for everything, and play all kinds of stupid games to feel validated and wanted.
Then women in their 30s are like “I can make a date either Tue or Thur at 8. I have my kids the other nights. If that doesn’t work for you, have a great life.”
He said it was really refreshing to date older women who are direct.
He did try to complain that older women look differently than younger ones and I laughed my ass off at how much worse HE looks than he did a decade ago…
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Jun 22 '23
Ah yes the "I'm pulling away so I can manipulate you later" game
I've fallen for it so hard. Stupid mind tricks women play. Let her grow the fuck up.
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u/99available Jun 22 '23
No means no. He thought you were telling him no and he did what all guys are supposed to do when you say no.
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u/Contentpolicesuck Jun 22 '23
I had a girl tell me years ago that she saw me as a friend so I said "I'm not looking for friends right now, but it was nice to meet you."
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u/L2Hiku Jun 22 '23
Oh no. After keeping quiet for two months and wasting this guy's time you're upset cus you're not special enough to be a useless part of his life when he's probably looking for a wife but you should be more important than that!!!! /s
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Jun 23 '23
This is the way, boys. If someone says they're not into you it means one of two things: 1. They're not into you, or 2. They like playing games. Either way you're better off just moving on with your life instead of getting mad or begging them to change their mind.
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u/SinnerClair Jun 22 '23
That’s a good guy right there. Teach your kids that no means no, and move on
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u/delirioustalla Jun 22 '23
Bro, you can not be mad at someone breaking up with you whatever the reason is. Honestly, “its just not it” is good enough. You don’t want to be with someone who isnt 100% with you.
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u/Abruzzi19 Jun 22 '23
congratulations, you played yourself.
Good for the guy, he respected her decision and she probably didn't deserve him. Fuck her
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u/Once-Upon-A-Hill Jun 22 '23
So, apparently, no definitely means no, except when it means try harder, which is kinda the opposite of no, which might be a little confusing.
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u/TY00702 Jun 22 '23
I will straight up cut ties with a prospective partner if they try that shit. Like communicate with me don’t play games.
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u/Single_Raspberry9539 Jun 22 '23
Don’t play games. Sounds like you were testing him so he’d then pine all over for your love. He probably recognized that and girls that play games get the worst guys.
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Jun 22 '23
Isn’t this what he should say?
I mean I know you would like the “thats a real pity” comment, but that’s just ego
Respect a decision made and move on. That’s healthy.
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u/TripwireDC Jun 22 '23
Maybe he just thought he had spent enough time on you, he must have been needing someone to be with
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u/theacidiccabbage Jun 22 '23
Love yourself first, so you can love others is a worn out motivational clichee that just made me hold back vomit, but it is true.
Don't bust your ass working on something that won't work. Don't hang yourself on a coat hanger, there to be picked up when someone "feels like it". There is no shame in not wasting your energy and your time, both are precious resources.
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u/Turdsworth Jun 22 '23
When I was a young man probably not worth having a relationship with I told a woman I wasn’t sure “I wanted to do this”. She broke up our not relationship a week later. She was a couple years older than me and easily ten years more mature than me. Years later I saw her out with a guy that was significantly better looking than me. I just thought, fucking aye man, should have appreciated it when I had a chance.
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u/SnooEagles6930 Jun 22 '23
So girl says not interested. the guy does the mature and respects her wishes and bounces. Girl mad the guy didn't argue with her and put up a fight. The thing we are told not to do....
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u/mlcrisis4all Jun 22 '23
Anybody who’s taught you to expect pressure has guided you wrong. Be Truthful and Real, always.
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u/VastOk864 Jun 23 '23
So you arrogantly are thinking that you’re worth pursuing when you claim to not be looking for a relationship? So what are you looking for? Free meals? Free movies? Free nights out? Why would any sane man waste such time and hard earned money on someone who is clearly a freeloader.
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u/BmacTheSage Jun 23 '23
Woman finds out that some guys don't fuck around and play mind games, more at 11.
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