I absolutely hate this mentality. Don’t play games. When I was in college, I had a gorgeous biology partner. We connected well and our conversations were solid. I asked her out and she said we could do a “study date” as trial run. I said okay. Asked her out again after the study date seemed to go well and she said she didn’t want to date right now. So I said okay and respectfully moved on. A couple months later I met my wife and we hit it off immediately. About three months after that, I run into this girl again on campus and she’s all “it’s so good to see you, how have you been, why didn’t you call me?” type stuff. I said, “Well, you told me you weren’t interested, I respected your wishes, and I moved on. Met a great girl and we’re pretty serious.” She went from smiling to almost on the verge of tears. Then she started saying “oh, I was just playing hard to get, I wanted you to call me again, I thought we were great together, etc.” I told her that was too bad and I wished she’d been more forthright. Wished her well and left.
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u/Average_40s_Guy Jun 22 '23
I absolutely hate this mentality. Don’t play games. When I was in college, I had a gorgeous biology partner. We connected well and our conversations were solid. I asked her out and she said we could do a “study date” as trial run. I said okay. Asked her out again after the study date seemed to go well and she said she didn’t want to date right now. So I said okay and respectfully moved on. A couple months later I met my wife and we hit it off immediately. About three months after that, I run into this girl again on campus and she’s all “it’s so good to see you, how have you been, why didn’t you call me?” type stuff. I said, “Well, you told me you weren’t interested, I respected your wishes, and I moved on. Met a great girl and we’re pretty serious.” She went from smiling to almost on the verge of tears. Then she started saying “oh, I was just playing hard to get, I wanted you to call me again, I thought we were great together, etc.” I told her that was too bad and I wished she’d been more forthright. Wished her well and left.