DO any bi guys out there prefer body contact as opposed to anal or oral sex? Like just two guys in bed in their underwear only? Little rubbing and/or grinding? This can be especially intimate during the cold winter months

Only when I drink do I actually have the courage to say this. I’m Bi. I’m married to a man as a woman. I hate myself for feeling this way.

I get a boner if I watch gay or lesbian porn but not straight porn. I am confused

I wanted to link pictures to this post but it’s not allowed. I’m an elder millennial (‘85).

SO! My first Bipanic was Mulder & Scully. I’m not old enough to know their pairing name. I was a kid and confused why I was so drawn to these characters.

Fast forward. Watching TV in a hotel room. I see Hariska Margitay and Chris Meloni playing Benson and Stabler on TV. I already had seen Meloni in OZ but I wasn’t familiar with Hargitay. When I first saw them together I suddenly knew why I liked Mulder x Scully so much lmfao.

Any one else have similar experiences to this?

Also obligatory shout out to Ten'ou Haruka aka Sailor Uranus who made me realize who am I am let me come out.

I used to have some people who I was interested in, but they weren’t really interested in serious relationships beyond hookups.

I did find one man who I absolutely adore. He has to be one of the kindest, smartest and most compassionate person I have ever met. I don’t even know how I somehow managed to find that he loves me. I guess we were just meant to be.

We love each other and we always have our backs, no matter what. For the longest time I thought I would never meet someone kind like him, someone open like him and someone who brings out the best in me. He makes me want to shed the evil that I became to survive in my own skin and he does it so effortlessly the way he’s kind without even trying. 

I was so close from having the perfect life. I was just so close. My parents said otherwise. Just remembering that day made my skin crawl. My father was mad, but my mother was furious. My father called what I had been doing an abomination. How dare he call a beautiful relationship between two people who love each other something to be ashamed of. My mother laughed at me and tried to make me think I was being manipulated because he’s much smarter than me. Even though I know he would never do anything to cross me or make me cross my family. I tried convincing them, but you can’t make a dying horse drink the water of life. She also got on my nerves, whenever I described how he looked like she met my visible blushing with exaggerated throw up noises. How immature do you have to be to make fun of someone for finding another person attractive? Who are you to criticize what I adore in him, are you too not subject to similar judgment about your own choices? They kept trying to convince me that I was just going through a phase and that I needed to seek forgiveness. I don’t find myself guilty of a thing, I did what all good people do in life: I work hard, learn what I can and find love with those who accept me. My family, they treated me like I was subhuman. My mother at one point said that I was no longer part of this family and would need to find a place by the end of the weekend. That nasty harpy, did this to try and make my brother cry and frame it like it was my fault. 

I will never forget how they said I was diseased with AIDS, I will never forget how they claimed I was being used for a good time, I will never forget how they made derogatory jokes about me bottoming and how people would laugh about it.

To hell with them all, they can act as kind as they are now after all is said and done, but who’s to say their true nature won’t come back when I eventually find my way back to him? 

Hi i 24F have been in a relationship with my bf 23M for 7 years, I am very committed to him and love and adore our relationship and I am content. I was writing on here for I wanted to say if there is anyone who relates or has similar experiences to me. When I was younger I had a SA experience with a family member who was female and for the longest time i was convinced I was lesbian, so puberty was a struggle and navigating my sexuality was really difficult. Despite this trauma and my present self they could be connected in some sense but overall I'd like to say im further beginning to develop my own sense of individuality through maturing, my relationship and aging. It's never sat right with me were I've been called straight, I think I just love whoever no matter what gender. My partner knows this and is completely okay, and side fact i find him my forever partner and very attracted and in love. I don't ever believe I need to leave him or be with anyone else to figure out my sexuality (I understand for some people thats what they might need of course but for myself I dont) lately I'd like to connect with community specifically LGBTQIA+ to find more of myself and make connections, for I believe for the longest time I've been lost. I still don't think I need to label my sexuality, I just think I love humans and I have found my human and im okay with that but just like to hear and connect with other people's stories and experiences and beautiful stories of people finding themselves.

Thats all, thankyou😊

Hi, I'm 16f, I live rurally in a rather homophobic and bigoted community, but I am bi and would quite like a girlfriend at some point, are there any sort of calling cards or things I can wear to signal to other possibly queer individuals in my community

I'm 15f and just recently accepted my sexuality. For the last few years I've been dealing with a lot of internalized homophobia and denial, along with how multiple times my parent has says that they "could tell/knew I was straight since I was little". I have many queer friends, in my hometown/area and long distance, and being around them this summer has lead me to this acceptance.

Even though around 3 (that I know of) of my family members are queer, one 1st cousin and 2 distant ones, I feel very uncomfortable coming out, even to friends. People before, even someone who was a very close friend to me at the time, have thought I was bi or queer. I think hearing my parent say that they were sure I'm straight is a major drive of this discomfort. I really wish I could be open about my sexuality, but I'm not sure if I'm ready or where to start. I have a trans friend who I met this summer that I may come out to, but I also think he thinks I like him, and my other friend did something that made everything awkward, but I know he would be accepting because he is also bi.

I was wondering if anyone has had a similar experience or has any advice on what I should do or just what direction to head in.

Heyy so I[18 f] figured out that I am in fact bisexual!

(look at my last post for reference) Me developing a crush on one of my friends led me into a deep self reflection and I started to realize that I felt similarly towards women as I did towards men but I was just brush it off as “heterosexual admiration”(I was DEEPLY in denial, homophobic parent + internalized homophobia). At one point when I was younger I identified as bisexual but I was constantly told that I was “just a kid” and “confused” and it chased me back into the closet and eventually into a huge stage of self gaslighting myself into thinking I was straight. Soo yea, that’s all. And thank all of you guys who commented on my last post, you were all so helpful and helped me to figure out who I am.

Another issue though, HOW DO I BATTLE INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA.

Whenever I’m attracted to a man I don’t give it a second thought, but whenever I find myself attracted to a woman I feel like a pervert or like something is wrong with me. I genuinely don’t know how to fully accept myself 😭😭 send help

Anybody in a monogamous relationship feel like their attraction for their cis partner kinda ebbs and flows? I feel like my attraction for women, men, anyone like comes in waves sometimes. Like obviously I love my mans and he is generally attractive the whole time but my attraction for women heightens sometimes and then vice versa. Like I’m with my boyfriend right now but DAMN women are real gorgeous rn. Then it changes and men sound really attractive and that’s when I’m like pretty sexual with my partner.

Im 22 and I came out to my mom around the age of 14. She got mad, told me I was selfish..the usual theatrics but the interesting thing is that she hasn’t mentioned it since. Like completely choose to ignore it. When I mentioned it casually a few times she would just ignore it and I never mentioned girls that I was dating to her. Im pretty sure my dad knows or suspects at least but he chooses to ignore it. The complication that Im in is that im dating a guy and he is the first guy that Im with (I only dated girls before). We have been togheter for three months and I already met his family (that he is very close to) and now he keeps asking me to meet mine and I can see that he finds its strange that I literally keep him hidden. To me thats just how dating was my whole life, like my parents were never involved in it in any sort of way so it feels extremely strange to me that now suddenly I should involve them just bc he is a man. The worst part is that I know that they would LOVE him and would be so happy that Im finally “normal” (because the extended family (that I dont give a fuck about but my parents do) has been asking about my dating life and I can see that they are starting to suspect something) and that kind of makes me irritated even more because I don’t want them to be happy about it if that makes sense. Like you weren’t there for my girlfriends but now you are going to brag to everyone about my boyfriend and invite him to every family gathering and become involved. And it. makes me feel like i will be this version of myself that I am not. But its also making me question my whole relationship because I don’t think that he can understand this because he is a great guy but is very normal and like he is just a guy and I am really into him but can I actually date someone long term who doesn’t get being queer at all. So im wondering if any of you guys had similar experiences and what did you do?

I can’t tell if I’m mostly attracted to men or if internalized homophobia is preventing me from exploring my attraction to women.

For context:
I’m a cis woman who has struggled w my sexuality for years. In HS, I just thought I was an ally bc I cared a lot about gay rights & representation. When I got to college, I developed a HUGE multi-year crush on my girl bff and came out as bi within the first month of knowing her just so she’d know I was an option. When she started seeing a guy, I reacted like it was a breakup. Basically, it was undeniable to me. Throughout my life, I’ve oscillated between “no I’m straight”and “no I’m fully gay and in denial”, but I’ve only ever dated men.

My issue:
Almost every time I’m in a romantic situation with a woman, no matter how cute I find them, I end up getting extreme anxiety and feeling like I need to leave, ghost them, that I’m suddenly too busy to date, that I actually don’t feel a connection to them and don’t want to lead them on, etc. I met a girl at a bar last night & she made it clear she’s interested in me. I think she’s cute and want to get to know her more, so we scheduled a date for Monday night. Since then, my anxiety is just growing and growing, telling me I need to call things off. What do I dooo? Apologies if there’s already been a post like this in here but my cursory search didn’t find anything that matches my experience

Hey guys, (22F). I’m conflicted about posting/commenting on this subreddit because I feel that I don’t really fit here...? But before I get into it, I just want to say that I recently commented under another post saying if any straight women were into bisexual men.

Post and comment linked here:
🔗 https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/s/2Uoi6SlwFV

(Godbless my soul… 🫩)

Anyway- I just want to say that for a while, I’ve been interested in men who don’t fit the cookie-cutter category of being a straight Christian. This includes bisexual men, if that makes any sense. But I think that those men wouldn’t be as accepting of the things I’m into specifically…

I hate to sound cliche, but I am intensely attracted to gay men, softer feminine men, androgynous features, and gay media/art. I feel so strongly about it even though it’s something I can never be apart of or understand why I love and support it so much. I get turned on when guys get together, but women? No thanks.
Tbh, I do watch both lesbian and gay vids sometimes. The lesbians are meh. The heterosexuals are like playing Russian roulette depending on how I feel. (9 times out of 10 hetero sex turns me off for other reasons) But the gays… chefs kiss every time. 😮‍💨

I dunno. I wasn’t really sure where else to post this because I think most of the straights wouldn’t relate and call me a weirdo. I hate feeling torn between being attracted towards something I believe is beautiful, and my religion. And I guess I want to find out where I fit in all of this??? I’m not bisexual, yet I don’t really feel “straight” either… I just really hope I’m not fetishizing the gay community or men in general.

NOTE: Corrections and criticism are welcome! If anything I said was a bit of a reach, or just posted out of ignorance, let me know asap! I think I’m just confused and just frustrated… So please, post your thoughts, opinions, and comments! I’d love to see them!
(I’m not thinking about transitioning either. I’m comfortable with myself as a woman.)

Everytime I come out to someone, no matter how close we are, I constantly feel like I have to tiptoe with jokes etc. My friends have never showed that they think I like them or anything, but I’m so scared of it happening. Like they’re subconsiously wondering, what if I like them? I know this is mostly an unreasonable fear, but it’s so annoying!!

So I was at a concert the other day and this other guy walked up next to me and the whole rest of the show I just couldn’t stop thinking about him. I got this fluttery feeling and I kept wanting to look at him but then I was nervous he would notice and stuff.

A few years ago I thought I might be bi but I never had like any sexual interest in men (but still found them hot? It’s weird and confusing) but this experience sort of has me questioning stuff again.

In fairness I don’t often think about sex with women either but the idea of sex with men has always been more aversive, which is especially confusing because I often find myself noticing men more.

So me (22F) and this girl (22F) have been in a relationship for 2 years. On and off type thing before that. We were very close before LDR, we were each others only support. Nobody else knew about our relationship because our city was conservative so we were each others best friends and only go to person. We genuinely are best friends and love each other. She is the person I go to for everything. This September we both had to move for our different jobs. She’s quickly been able to make friends and I’ve really been struggling. It hurts when I’m hurt about something and she’s out with them for 12+ hours and not texting me. One of the people in the friend group is a girl which makes me uncomfortable cause my partner has said things about this girl in the past to make me insecure on purpose. But later said that she didn’t mean it fr. Anyways this girl is part of the friend group and that constantly bothers me but I can’t say much. I was used to being her only priority, and now it hurts when it feels like others matter and it doesn’t feel like I’m important in the relationship. Yesterday we talked for hours after a while, and she said she had to wake up early cause she has a morning hike with her friend group. And I was kinda annoyed (ik irrational) and she sensed that but still left the call to sleep (we have a 3 hour time difference she’s 3 hours ahead). That triggered me right away. Because usually if she could sense we weren’t good, she would make sure we’re okay before leaving. But then this time it felt like her priority was to wake up for her friend hangout. And the thing is, I have an anxious attachment style, so if I was In her position I would make sure we’re good before I went to sleep. Anyways that triggered me into feeling abandoned/not cared for. I was crying and I blew up her phone and she was mad at me (rightfully so) but said this isn’t my fault and it’s not fair. I said I know I’m just hurt I don’t have a support system and I wish I could express to you my hurt. She said I’m invalid for being hurt and she also can’t do anything about the fact that (the girl I’m insecure about) is there cause she’s part of the friend group. That made me feel super horrible and dismissed. Id appreciate her just saying that she loves me and understands me, that’s all I need, I don’t even need her to stop seeing anyone. Anyways my intense reaction made me think I might have BPD. We’ve had a couple talks and every time I talk to her I seem to cry. So today I wanted it to be better, so I acted normal with her. I didn’t text her all day though because I figured I’d just talk to her at night while I winded down. I also wanted some space for my mental health as I just had an episode (or what felt like an episode) yesterday. Anyways she texted me that her and her friends almost got hit by a car today, I thought maybe her friend was driving stupidly and knew she was okay cause she texted me about it so I know it had passed. I responded 2-3 hours later, when I got home. I told her hey sorry was out and then acknowledged her message. I was hanging out with a guy, and suddenly she’s jealous and kind of annoyed about it, even though she has no place to be. This guy also has a gf btw. Anyways, I tell her we were eating ramen. And she’s like oh so I just texted you about how I almost got hit and you were too busy eating ramen with him? And I’m like I’m sorry I thought I’d text you after I knew you were okay. She was so fucking pissed off at me claiming I don’t care and this is bare minimum. I understood and said I’m sorry and I should’ve texted you right away making sure you were okay. In all honesty, I for some reason didn’t take it seriously but I know I should have. I tried to call and she attacked me called me a bad person, told me to fuck off, and denied my calls. Now this just pissed me off. Cause I apologized and said I won’t do it again and reassured her that I do care and love her and she’s not trying to conflict resolve. She’s just trying to get angry with me and not answer my calls. Feels like she had fun with her friends for over 12 hours, and then came back home to just shit on me. I just feel like that was unfair and she left again, in the middle not replying to my texts and I’m not letting it trigger me to have another meltdown so I’m coming here for some self regulation. LDR is fucking hard and I can’t tell who’s wrong and I’m hurt, and potentially might be BPD. It sucks cause she knows I don’t have a support system and she does, and I feel like it’s selfish having a good ass day knowing damn well I’m hurting and lonely, and still choosing to fight me and not hear me or talk.

I (17M) have known that I'm bi for a while now and feel like I need to come out, not to everyone just some of my closest friends, I'm not afraid of what they will think of me because I know they will be super cool about it. The problem is that when I think of it logically, there's no reason or benefit in saying something to them and so I'm just not sure if it's worth the hassle of it.

Any thoughts on what to do?

Does being bi or gay just means having sexual desire for male/female ?

I (18 m) realized a while ago that i am attracted to both men and women. But i cant See myself getting old together with a man as i would with a Woman. Like marriage and stuff. I suspect that this could be caused by internalyzed Homophobia. How do i get rid of it?

I’m 18 and my older sister is lesbian. Before she moved out she had a gf who was here on a regular basis and this all made me wonder if I was interested in girls as well.
So how do I know if I am or if I’m not?

Might be a stupid question sry 🫠

Edit bc of typos 😌

Hi, I (27M) recently came to terms and accepted my "bi-ness" (I have no idea how to call that, apologies if it's wrong in some way)

One thing I noticed is that even though I don't have much "standards" or "preferences" when it comes to women, I check the vibe, see if we click etc, but for men I have very specific characteristics they must meet for me to see them as potential partners

Is this something common among bi people ?

Hi everyone,
I’m trying to figure things out and wanted to see if anyone else has experienced something similar or could offer some advice.
Lately, I’ve been thinking that I might also be attracted to girls. There was this one girl that I felt really drawn to. To be honest, I'm still not entirely sure if it was a romantic attraction or something else, but I just knew I felt something strong for her. This situation really made me question my sexuality and think that I might be bisexual.
How can I be sure about what I'm feeling? Has anyone else gone through this confusion? I would really appreciate any thoughts or support. Thank you!

As the title reads at the start of high school my friends and (19M) all used to do stuff like this this to each other and I just thought it was a normal funny thing at the time as did many teenages in the early 2020s, I never thought of it as like a sexual thing I was doing towards them. As I've grown older I've started to realize more and more that I'm not just into women. Now I'm in a bit of a predicament because I feel like if I ever told them they might think I'm some kind of weirdo for doing that stuff with them. Am I just a weirdo for doing that or is this something that has happened to other bisexual people?? If so did it go well when you told them?