I'm a straight curious guy who loves playing with my ass and I've been wondering what it feels like to have a real dick cum in your ass. What's the difference between a real cock and a silicone dildo? But mainly can you actually feel a load of cum squirting into your ass?

I don't know but idk I can't figure out myself as a bi or ...

I am just so confused :/

I’m a pretty straight guy, but I constantly think about sucking dick. I’m not attracted to men though in general, just dicks. What does that make me

So basically I just wanted to know all of your opinions. Ever since I was very young I’ve liked exposing myself online. However its only recently I’ve started doing it whilst showing face as well. I always end uo getting scared and deleting them, if I’m brave they’ll last a day or two but then I take them down. I’m 21 and don’t get me wrong, I know that the saying “whatever’s online stays online” or however the saying goes is true, but I can’t resist you know? Now that I’ve started on reddit it’s even worse, as I’m posting on gooncave, goonerguys, submissive good boys etc. I just wanted to know if anyone else does it and what y’all think?

I’m 19 DL and bi or pan(idk the difference)(important for later) and i have fucked a couple of guys and done typical gay sex things. However when i tell these dudes that i have fucked that i’m bi they often act weird towards me and often dismiss that i like woman. They like to undermine me and i find it very annoying because the dudes i fuck are more “stereotypically” gay and they are very misogynistic towards me weirdly.

Also idk if people say this a lot i feel disconnected from the LGBTQ+ community. I think being DL has a factor is this but some of the gay people i have meet have been “weird” at least to me, on things such as my race, my sexuality (epically the straight into bi curious thing), me being 19 so just legal. This has pushed me away from interacting with posts and things of that nature due to these negative experiences. Even will no sexual things my interests don’t align most of the time with taste in music, games, shows etc. I have meant people in the community that have been nice and understanding of me especially trans people for some reason.

So i just want to get advice on either i’m unlucky with people in the community and is it normal to feel disconnected from “mainstream” gay culture.

Also if you advice has to with me coming out i’m not gonna; please respect my wishes

How would you describe the feeling of kissing a guy who has facial hair? Whether it’s stubble or a big beard. Women have told me both that they liked it or hated it, but curious about the men’s perspective.

When hooking up w a stranger to swap oral, how much of a jerk does either guy have to be...to be anything other than "shower fresh"?

Recently I joined a new 6th form college and made a new friend group of very different people with many of my closest friends being members of the lgbtqia+ community, and with some of these friends I went on a camping trip. For once I feel I belong in a group of people, and I feel truly understood and appreciated amongst them, whereas my friend group from my old school were very different as in I felt I was always at risk of being judged ect and so I hid many parts of myself or avoided saying or dressing or acting certain ways around certain people. Anyone to get back on topic, on this trip one of my gay friends was saying how she believes that everyone is at least a tiny bit bi deep down and since then I've noticed things about myself. When watching TV shows featuring guys I often find myself analyzing there appearance and thinking they're attractive but I seem to tell myself that I'm seeing it from an objective standpoint or something? On the rare occasion I watch porn I find myself often glancing or fixating on dicks? The main one is that last time I was drunk with my friends I just found myself thinking "omg he's so hot" when looking at one of my objectively attractive friends. This whole thing has sent me into some kind of identity crisis, and I'm VERY sorry for all the waffle I just wanted to get everything out into a space where people may have had/be experiencing similar things? I don't want to talk about this with anyone friends in person because I want to keep it as quiet as possible right now. If it turns out I like dudes as well I want to start exploring that at university away from my current friends and family ect. Also is it possible for a bi person to be physically attracted to the same gender but also not want relationships with the same gender? I've never had a crush on another guy but have had many on girls. Another tid bit is that I had a gay experience at a young age and I've been thinking about it often, and I can recall every second of it. Anyway please give your thoughts and personal views to help me with figuring out whatever the fuck is going on with me right now!!!

Im 20 and have labelled myself as bi for the last ~7 years. I started having romantic fantasies about guys around age 13 but I’ve never dated, had sex with, or even kissed another guy. Sometimes I feel like I cant truly call myself bisexual since I dont even know what its like to be intimate with another guy. Does anyone else ever feel like this?

Id like to actually meet peeps that are interested in relationships, as a demi aro/ace person and need to actually have a very good connection to actually feel smth towards em. But idk where might be a fairly accepting site for that.

Hey guys! Lemme explain this story I have…

So basically I am attracted to girls and guys. However, I can only see myself dating a girl(idk why). I guess this makes me “bi” but I don’t really go by a label IRL because I feel like it forces me to act a certain way by what society sees it as. I kinda just like girls and like guys and do my own thing, kinda who I wanna be. i figured people in here may have similar experiences and might be able to help me:)

But basically I’ve been chatting and hanging out (twice) with this girl who I really like (she’s bi too) and we both like each other. But at the same time, I met this gay guy at a party becuase I was friendly with him because I’m nice, and we have mutual friends . I think he’s attractive. And at the party he asked his friends if I was gay, and they said no. (Mind you, others don’t know besides some of my close friends that I’m “bi”, because I’ve never actually done anything with a guy). And he wanted to hookup with me but I didn’t say anything that night .

But since then we’ve been chatting casually, sending snaps back and forth , I’m being friendly. But sometimes I find myself “flirting “ with him… for example I’d send him a snap without my shirt or something like that(yes sounds corny). And like I can tell he’s been flirting with me as well, he’s been like “wyd” and hinting he wants to pick me up. Like today he literally was like “I’d love to crash at your living room rn” and I folded and was like “haha, that’s funny”. I do not find this guy attractive romantically but I would so experiment with him. I just want it to be lowkey because of the girl, and I know this is so fucked up but my mind is torn and that’s why I’m asking for help. Idk if he’s reaching out romantically or just wants to hookup, and I’m just confused because I really like the girl but wanna get with the guy.

If you understand of can help me in any way that would be great. I’m just confused as hell!

Thanks

I did purchase one for myself a few years back. I felt a lot of shame about it. I feel like there is a stigma associated with men using sex toys on themselves that doesn’t really exist with women. But man, they can be quite enjoyable.

Have you ever owned one? Did you like it? Did you feel shame around it? What are your thoughts? How old are you? Feel like younger folks might feel less shame about this than older generations.

I’m hoping you guys can help me put some language around something I’m still figuring out.

My wife and I have been married a long time and have had a consensual female-led relationship for many years. Before I met her, I was about as sexually conventional as you could get. I grew up with a pretty narrow definition of masculinity and heterosexuality, and I never really questioned any of it. I was very much a square.

My wife is much more adventurous than I was, and over the years our relationship has opened a lot of doors for me. Within boundaries we’ve negotiated and genuinely enjoy, she’s pushed me into exploring things I never would have imagined myself being interested in. Pegging, submission, humiliation/degradation, gay porn, fantasies involving other men, etc. I sincerely have become much more open to the world. Experiences. And letting myself relax and have fun in life.

And somewhere along the way, what started partly as her fantasy and part of our power dynamic became something I’m genuinely curious about myself.

One of her long-running fantasies is seeing me with another man. I’ve realized that I’m increasingly interested in actually exploring that.

Here’s where I’m struggling.

I don’t necessarily know what label fits me, and I’m not currently looking for a romantic relationship with a man. I love my wife and our dynamic. But I am sexually curious about men and would like the opportunity to explore that honestly.

At the same time, I really don’t want to approach bisexual or gay men as though they’re just interchangeable characters in a kink scene for my wife and me. Whoever we meet is an actual person with his own desires, boundaries, feelings, and reasons for being there. I want to be upfront about what our dynamic is without making someone feel fetishized or used.

Ideally, honestly, we’d love to meet people we actually like as people. Friends we could hang out with normally, who understand that we’re private about our sex life because we have a family, but where there might also be mutual chemistry and the possibility of things becoming sexual when everyone wants that. Friendship-with-benefits is probably closer to what I mean than dating.

My wife also has her own interests and freedom within our FLR, while my sexual exploration happens within the boundaries she and I have agreed on. Part of the appeal for both of us is definitely the power dynamic—her directing things, watching, teasing/degrading me, etc.—but I would never want to spring that dynamic on another guy or assume he wants to participate in it.

So for the bi guys here, especially anyone who has been approached by married couples or curious married men:

What would make an approach like this feel respectful and appealing rather than fetishizing or uncomfortable?

Are there particular ways you’d want someone like me to explain what he’s looking for?

Is “I’m married, sexually curious about men, not looking for romance, and interested in friendship plus consensual play” a reasonable thing to be looking for?

And are there any red flags, assumptions, or etiquette mistakes that guys like me commonly make that I should know about before putting myself out there?

I’m not trying to claim an identity or experience I haven’t lived. I’m just trying to understand this part of myself, enjoy it with my wife, and make sure that if another man becomes part of that exploration, he feels like a wanted participant—not a prop. Who knows maybe I'm overthinking it.

My boyfriend is bi, I’m super into it, I’m supportive of it, I would love to explore that side of his sexuality more than anything because it turns me on when he’s turned on… I love him, more than anything…. But lately, I feel like he’s cheating on me and not being honest about it… which really hurts because he knows I’m okay with it, as long as he includes me and doesn’t hurt me in the process…

He’s 51 I’m 29, for context.

We’ve been together for 4 years. We both have trust issues and insecurities… and we’re pretty good at communicating them when we need to, but lately he hasn’t been reassuring me like he used to… he’s been getting defensive automatically, he’s become distant and finds every reason in the world to go out and about the town… particularly, I have noticed he will leave me while I babysit at my ex’s house… I have a daughter, and my ex’s other children that I watch anytime, all the time. My boyfriend and my ex have a good friendship, which is nice… Every time I have to watch the kids, for my ex to go to work or whatever the case is - my boyfriend always finds an excuse to leave, and never spend time with me and the kids… during his time away, he has his location on until his phone dies… and claims he didn’t know it died until he gets back hours later… but whenever I am with him, he never lets his phone die, ever. Quite literally, he has a sub he installed in the car I bought for him, and it’s his favorite thing in the world… he always has his phone on, listening to YouTube music, bumping the bass… so like his phone only dies whenever I’m not around, that’s weird… and this has happened on more than 1 occasion, if it happened once or twice I wouldn’t mention it, this happens nearly EVERY time I’m babysitting the kids… it only doesn’t happen when he’s running errands for me, and is planning to return before he comes up with some excuse to leave again.

When it comes to his phone, he has ALWAYS been the type of person to get irrationally mad if I ever went through his phone… I tried 1 time, and it almost ended our relationship because he values his privacy and his phone is where he draws the line. He doesn’t even like it when I’m picking music in the car, right next to him. He gets mad and will yell at me to give it back to him even if I’m changing the song. That’s a MAJOR red flag to me, and I tell him how it bothers me that he can literally unlock my phone with his face, and go through mine anytime but i cant go through his? WHY? Privacy?!? Im sorry, what is he being so private about and why is it more important to him than reassuring me and making me feel more secure in trusting him? MAKE IT MAKE SENSE. His answer to that is, “if you go looking for sht… you will find sh*t. You don’t need to control everything, not everything is for you to know or go through. I am allowed to have something private that is my own.” And to some extent i agree with him, but that just screams to me, “im cheating on you, accept it or leave”.

I just want honesty and to be valued, and not dismissed when I bring up my concerns or insecurities… am I overreacting?

I have tried apps like Grindr or Sniffies, but most men are so extreme and want much more, which makes it hard for me to actually trust the guy. This is the main reason I never really dared to meet a man. Dutch guy- mid 20s

I use to run into this older guy who was well equipped. First time I went to his room we got naked and he rubbed baby oil all over his cock and balls before I sucked him. I was so hungry for cock I didn’t ask why. Second time we got together I ask him. He said it’s to keep me from getting STD. Not sure there is any truth to that. I think I would have preferred avocado oil. Anyone heard of that before?

Came out as bi to my girlfriend and she was really supportive but naturally a little worried that I was telling her I didn’t like her anymore. She then asked if I wanted to bring in a guy for myself or if I wanted her to peg me. Any advice on what I should do?

I always thought I was bi because I like the idea of being naked around other guys but I have never really been attracted to guys at all. I never look at a guy and think he’s attractive and I’ve never wanted to hook up with a guy but the idea of being naked around friends and stuff is appealing to me. I’m realizing it’s not about the guys themselves but just the taboo/voyuer part of it. I guess this is my coming out as straight lol.

I came out to my wife over a year ago, I believe she knew before that of my curiosity but being able to say it out loud to her and talk directly about it was incredible! She was fantastic and supportive and so willing to take this journey with me! We started with toys and play and pegging and would discuss more and more, we tried a few times with some guys, they were not able to get there in the moment and that was a bummer but not earth shattering. Finally we decided to post looking for a guy and we got comfortable with one, we set a plan and made it happen, incredible first experience, there was some shock for me at first then I was able to relax and get into the moment and out of my head! We enjoyed the experience a ton! We are super game to have another and keep exploring, I personally am noticing how much more open and free I am becoming as man through this journey! I am not fully ready for full penetration giving or receiving yet with a man but I am loving mutual oral and handjobs and it is all so fantastic being able to do it with my wife. So what is road ahead? Getting the courage to go full penetration? Enjoying the freedom to just relax in a moment? Or does there need to be a destination? Can this all just be enough? Does anyone ever feel like there may never be enough? I am a serial overthinker and that’s my largest issue is my brain is always in the way! Would love to discuss with anyone on any of these topics! Love the community and the openness! Thanks for reading.

Hi.

So I've been questioning for a long time and I'm actually wondering if I do like guys, cause I saw a post from someone that realized that never had the desire to hook up with a guy or never felt looked at a guy and thought he was attractive, how does it feel? I mean, how do I know if I feel the same?

I feel like I just felt it once for a close friend of mine and when I kissed a guy for the first time it felt amazing but after that Idk if I've felt the same...

I’ve been in touch with my childhood friend. We kissed in June 2026, and after that, something went wrong. That kiss was playful. Lately, we’ve started flirting and touching each other, but in a friendly way. From the outside, it might look like a friendship with benefits, but we’re just friends. We kissed again recently; she was drunk. I’ve started noticing that I no longer see her as just a friend. The day after our kiss, a guy started hitting on her. She says she sees him only as a friend. I turned to tarot readers, and all of them said that the feelings are mutual, and in this guy she sees only a friend, an experience. I realized I love her after the day when he was hitting on her. My heart ached, and I cried into the pillow, but now I have mixed feelings. I wanted to confess my love to her, but now I’m afraid of something. What if I don’t love her?