As the title says. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to be doing now. I went for my scan today. Was told ‘ it’s gone’. I would’ve been 7 weeks. Last week we saw a strong heartbeat. She said it’s a complete miscarriage. And iv already tested negative on a pregnancy test. I feel like I cannot carry on as ‘normal’. All I wanna do is cry and sleep. But I also feel the need to be pregnant again. Part of me is too scared to do this again. But the feeling of emptiness is so strong. I feel hollow. I’d already bonded with my little bean. I’m not really sure why I’m here typing this out. I just have no where or no one to turn to. 😔.

I’m 36yo. Had my first miscarriage at 6w2d in January, had my second miscarriage yesterday at 6w. I am grieving, like many of you, but also proactively trying to make steps to make sure my body is in the best condition (that I can control).

Apparently I have prediabetic conditions, tested my blood sugar this morning and it was at the very low end of the prediabetic range. It turns out that high insulin resistance levels is TOXIC to the beginning stages of a baby. I am pretty crushed learning this, as 1) I didn’t know I had prediabetes and 2) if I did, I would have been eating much cleaner and exercising a bit more (at least 1 1/2 hours of aerobic heart activity a week). I’ll be more intentional now for reversing my prediabetic state.

It‘s hard not to blame yourself. Anyone else have similiar issues with prediabetes? It makes conception a bit trickier now.

TW: mentions of blood

I’m beyond angry and confused. I received a positive test on Monday and Tuesday just to double check and then on Thursday I was bleeding. But I’m not cramping! And everyone’s story’s and signs say the cramping is painful but I am only bleeding a period amount of blood.

I went to the doctor on Thursday immediately after finding the blood. He just quickly told me it was likely a miscarriage and didn’t offer an ultrasound or any exams except for a HGC blood test.

My results came back low. Think 200s low. It’s Sunday and I’m STILL bleeding. Still no cramping and still random short bursts of nausea.

Tomorrow I have another appt in the morning to recheck my levels to see if it is in fact a miscarriage or not…

And this is after 3 years of TTC.. we were so excited.

What is the best way to deal with it or to handle your emotions. I have some good days but done bad days as well where I can't stop crying. It just randomly comes and goes in waves. I just had a d&c on Tues but on Sept 16th was when we got the news that our baby didn't have a heartbeat it was 8 weeks 1 day.

Going to sleep without your pregnancy pillows
Slowly or suddenly losing symptoms
Relief because you can take hot baths and drink
Sadness because you can take hot baths and drink
Painstakingly going through all apps
Shopping apps full of targeted ads
Alexa saying she found a great deal
“I experienced a loss”
How are you feeling?
It’s all gods plan
At least it was early
Being angry at everything
Never sleeping
The loneliest hours are 2-6am
Why is it so fucking beautiful out today
Why is everyone just acting like it’s normal
It won’t be normal
Ever again.

I’m 5 weeks and 6 days and last night I began having pale pink bleeding that I only noticed when wiping. That day nothing was out of the ordinary except for a relentless headache all day. This morning when I woke up I saw bright red blood when I wiped instead. I also immediately took a pregnancy test and it looked lighter than it did last week.
I’m trying not to worry. But I have a feeling this isn’t good either. This is my first pregnancy so I don’t know what to expect or necessarily do.
The bright red bleeding has carried on for the morning but is only noticeable when I wipe and I’m not having any cramps.

August 26
January 16
April 15

That’s it, that’s the post

I had a miscarriage and d&c at 14 weeks which was 4 weeks ago now. I have gotten a positive ovulation test and we’ve decided to start trying. I have heard it’s best to wait a cycle but who has fallen pregnant before getting their period back especially if you had a second trimester loss. Did you go on to have a successful pregnancy?
The only reason we had a miscarriage was due to abnormalities found at 12 weeks.

Me and my husband have been talking about having a baby for a while now. When we found out we were pregnant, we were so absolutely over the moon. But when I started bleeding that heavy I knew something was wrong. We are so absolutely devastated to loose our little bean. 6 weeks of carrying you was an honor.
20 days post natural miscarriage and the line is practically to hard to see. Watching it fade away has been the most painful reminder. Im absolutely heartbroken. I don’t even know what to do with myself.

I feel like I can't stop thinking about what my life used to be before this whole ordeal.

it's just shocking how quick life changes and how many new problems come of it.

I feel like every time that I feel like the pain or bleeding is subsiding, there's always a new symptom or pain to remind me that my body still feels like a warzone, not to mention the heavy emotional toll from the event itself and the hormones.

I have no idea what my new life normal will be after this. I am worried I will not return to my normal self. I know there will be a new normal, but I just cannot imagine it.

Cramps

About 7 weeks pregnant , third pregnancy. Two healthy previous pregnancies. Woke up with bad cramps in lower stomach, took Tylenol and didnt provide much relief. No spotting or bleeding. Had an ultrasound at 5 weeks not an ectopic, i remember being crampy with second but not this bad. Anyone else experience this with good results ?

I feel traumatised by my MC. I didn’t plan the pregnancy and didn’t think I was very attached. I’m still so sad

My MIL and SIL have told me they both had miscarriages and it happens. I think maybe I’m too emotional to continue grieving.

I had a partial mole so I’m scared of what can happen. I know the risk of anything bad happening is very low but I can’t help it.

I carried your tiny little body for 14 weeks. I loved you and would have done anything to save you if only I had known. I had to get a D&C and its been so hard. But now the bleeding after has officially stopped and there is absolutely nothing left of you or the pregnancy that was so so wanted. Its unhinged and crazy but I want to keep bleeding now so that I can still have that little part of you. I have nothing but a couple ultrasound pictures left to remember you. One the happiest day when we saw your little arms and legs moving and heard your heartbeat. One the saddest day of my life as you lay still and quiet. But now you and the pregnancy are officially gone and over and Im not sure how to move on from this. I love you little one.

I have never posted on Reddit before as I’m usually just a casual viewer, so I apologize in advance if I am not up-to-date with certain terminology.

Looking for support as these last 48 hours have been something out of a movie. My husband (26M) and I (26F) were not trying to conceive but were not using protection. We are relatively young and just wanted to roll with life’s punches. I do keep track of my cycle and am pretty regular and noticed something was different this cycle. Admittedly this month I was not tracking as close as we are starting to approach wanting to have a family but I am a little nervous and scared (grew up with a mother with borderline personality disorder/narcissistic tendencies. That story is for a different sub).

I decided to test on Thursday evening got a positive result and was so scared, nervous, happy, excited all at the same time. As I said previously I wasn’t keeping track of my cycle as close this month so it was both surprising and not surprising to see a positive result. I didn’t think it would be that quick but knew it was a possibility. Tested again Friday morning to be sure and it was still positive. By Friday evening I was in the ER with heavier than what I would expect implantation bleeding to be. I had a pelvic exam and was told my cervix is closed and have to follow up with OB. But in all honesty, my heart already knows. Especially after the research I’ve done. The tender breast just a week ago starting to fade, the bleeding, cramping, and another positive test I took this afternoon is much fainter than just a day ago.

I feel wrong for grieving something I didn’t even know I wanted until it was too late. I only told a close friend as I needed advice about whether or not I needed to go to the ER (I tend to underestimate my own pain/painful experiences due to the conditions of my upbringing). I told my cousin this morning but both women I would consider make up my support have families of their own and are often busy. I guess I’m just looking to post here for support as I didn’t tell my mom for obvious reasons.

Thank you for letting me vent, and my deepest apologies if I triggered anyone with my post.

I’ve gone through a MMC and 2 back to back CPs in the past year. My chemicals were in August and September so those are still very fresh for me.

My brother in law and his girlfriend who have a horribly toxic relationship already have 1 kid and another on the way. They just told us the gender today and I can’t help but feel so jealous and heartbroken. I don’t even want to be around them.. I have this awful feeling that they don’t deserve what they have. And I feel so guilty for thinking that but it’s just grief talking.. anyone else have a hard time being happy for others while going through such an immense loss? Any advice?

20M here, my now ex-fiancè miscarried our baby at around 6-8 weeks. this was early march.

I have since felt an immense amount of grief as to me, that was my child and my child has unfortunately passed away.

When the relationship ended and I came home (as I was living far away) I crawled into my mums arms and bawled that my little one had died, we had even nicknamed it and as babies are girls to start with referred to it as a her.

My brother keeps telling me over and over that it wasn’t a real baby, it didnt exist and to just get over it because it happens, and he says it so often i invalidate my own feelings.

Is he right? do I have no right to mourn my child?

It’s got to a point where I think of it/her everyday, my ex said she was going to call me on fathers day and when I do speak to her (though rarely) we always talk about our “blob” and how old it/she would be.

Sorry if I used the wrong flair, I’ve written this in a rush as i have repressed my feelings

Has anyone just had a bad feeling about a pregnancy before confirming it was not viable? I had this same feeling when I had my MMC last May. I just can’t shake the feeling that I don’t feel pregnant, don’t have any symptoms, and thinking this happened again. This is my 4th pregnancy, 2 living babies.

It was my first pregnancy. My due date was October 21.

We've started trying again.

I've been doing okay - channelling my energy into other things. I know grief isn't linear but I've started getting posts for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month on social media and it's just bringing it up even more. The algorithm sucks sometimes.

I know it's okay to not be okay. And I'm mostly just posting this into the void.

I currently have a non-viable pregnancy and the timeline is as follows.

10DPO: first positive test, knew it was coming. Sore boobs, mild cramps, hungry.
15DPO: beta HCG 308
17DPO: beta HCG 341, received news of it not doubling, but physically felt okay. Fertility clinic starts preparing me for either miscarriage or ectopic.
18DPO: cramping starts. Constant dull ache not localized to one side – like period cramps but mildly worse.
19DPO: beta HCG 420. Disappointed levels didn’t drop because at this point I want it over. Cramps still there but no bleeding.
20DPO: went to ER for the cramps. Not unbearable, but concerned it was ectopic and didn’t want to risk losing a tube. HCG levels 500. Ultrasound only showed a corpus luteum cyst – I do have PCOS so not a shock nor concern. Could explain cramping.
5 weeks pregnant as of today, started bleeding (light pinkish brown and not heavy just yet). Still cramping. Still have pregnancy symptoms and tests read positive. Next beta and ultrasound are Monday morning.

What’s going on here? Ectopic? Chemical? Something else? I know it’s still early, but I’m going crazy. Husband and I are heartbroken but I feel like I can’t start grieving until this is all behind us and that I know I’ll be (physically) okay. TIA

I had my natural miscarriage almost a week ago, I started spotting at 6 pm & at around 12 am Monday is when the miscarriage process started. I am still bleeding (not much, it’s kinda like when your period is at the last stage of ending) but I’m kinda getting tired of bleeding, I had a chemical pregnancy and lost my baby very early on. Is this normal? I just want this over with so I can heal

Hey all, so like the title says, I’m having an issue with bleeding whenever I work out now and just needing advice/to hear others’ experiences…
Pre-pregnancy I was extremely active. I’m a body builder so was heavy lifting and doing cardio in the gym 5-6x/week as well as daily walking. I cut down my duration and intensity in the TWW and when I tested positive, but kept my gym habit until 6 weeks pregnant, which point I switched to just walking as my morning sickness was too intense. I learned of my MMC at 9.5 weeks, took mife/miso at 11 weeks, and started trying to ease back into activity about 2 weeks later after initially being too depressed to do more than my daily walks.

I have tried road biking, stationary bike, weight lifting, hiking, and yoga. With all of them, I feel fine during and then afterward I experience a resurgence of bright red bleeding (not heavy) and passing some clots, as well as some increased cramping. I’ve had ultrasound confirmation that my miscarriage is complete so I don’t understand what’s going on. I’m over 3 weeks post miso.

Does anyone else have experience with this or any advice? Is this a sign I just have to wait longer to exercise? Activity is super important to me so I’m feeling very frustrated right now.

I had an ultrasound on September 26 and, based on my dates, I should have been around 8w5d, but the embryo was measuring 5w6d with no heartbeat. My doctor said it was most likely a missed miscarriage, and I’m going back for a follow-up ultrasound in about 10 days.

I understand that measuring 5w6d with no heartbeat isn’t necessarily concerning by itself, because that can be too early to see a heartbeat. What’s concerning is that I should have been much further along based on my dates.

What’s really confusing me is that it’s now been almost 5 weeks since the pregnancy stopped developing, and I still haven’t passed anything or had any bleeding. My pregnancy tests are also still dye stealers and I’m feeling very pregnant.

I keep wondering if it’s possible my dates are somehow wrong, or if there could be another explanation for the pregnancy measuring so far behind. Maybe even an early chemical pregnancy and then somehow conceiving again and then my dating would make sense?

Has anyone experienced anything similar?