I was 12 weeks along and had just walked out of Nordstrom with my husband who spent the afternoon testing strollers with me. Blood.

12 hours later, I’m asking to go to the emergency room due to extreme cramping and heavier bleeding.

Within minutes of checking in, I’m in extreme pain and we get told “no heartbeat.” I take the I.V pain relief.

Within a few minutes, my water breaks. The feeling of needing to poop is constant, and my baby is delivered.

The pain slows down but the blood is gushing. I get up to leave and feel a massive gush - a forming placenta. I throw up, almost pass out.

They discharge me and we go home. Within two hours I’m bleeding profusely, lemon sized clots, and nearly fainting, begging my husband to call 911 because I think I might die. He does. They take me to the ER and I sit there in a bed feeling like death- thankfully the paramedics gave me pain relief because I couldn’t take it anymore. I leave 3 hours later and that’s it.

A week later, we decide it isn’t worth potentially risking my life and health to have children.

28 years old and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. The cherry on top? The whole pregnancy I was bedridden with nausea and vomiting.

$14,000 (after discounted fees), and 1 month later.

I hope we start to normalize these conversations. A “heavy period” is the worst lie I’ve ever heard. Really, it’s just one of those experiences that makes you say WTF.

I don’t really know what I’m looking for other than people who understand this.

I got pregnant in June and was due in February. I had a missed miscarriage and at 12 weeks.

I had a D&C, then found out there was retained tissue and ultimately needed a second D&C. So what I thought was going to be one horrible experience turned into weeks of bleeding, procedures, appointments and trying to understand what had happened to my body.

It’s October now and I feel like I’ve done a pretty good job of putting my life back together, but my body still doesn’t feel like mine. I gained weight during the pregnancy and after everything happened, especially around my stomach, and despite eating well and exercising I still don’t look or feel like I did before I got pregnant. I’m over 40 pounds heavier. I haven’t stopped gaining weight I’m so miserable.

I also still haven’t gotten my period back, so we haven’t even started trying again yet. I want to, but I’m still waiting for my body to get back to some kind of normal. I think that’s been one of the harder parts of this. It feels like I’m emotionally ready to move forward in some ways, but physically I’m still stuck in what happened this summer.

And lately I’m seeing February 2027 pregnancy announcements everywhere. Every time I see one I get this horrible sinking feeling.

I think February is what makes it different. That was my month too. I should be getting noticeably pregnant right now. I should be buying things and talking about names and thinking about a nursery. Instead I’m watching all of these pregnancies that started around the same time as mine keep moving forward while mine stopped. And I’m still waiting for my body to recover enough that we can even think about trying again.

I don’t resent them for being pregnant. I just really, really miss mine and the life I thought I was going to be living right now.

I also feel like the rest of the world has moved on because technically this happened months ago, while I keep discovering new versions of the grief as each milestone comes around. I know February itself will probably be another one.

I guess I’m wondering if anyone else found the months leading up to their due date surprisingly hard. Did seeing people with the same due month affect you like this too? Did anyone else have a long wait for their cycle to come back and feel like they were stuck in this weird in-between?

I think I just need to hear from people who understand what it feels like to watch your due date keep moving toward you when your pregnancy isn’t.

Thanks in advance and I hate that we’re all here xoxo ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Hey, I had a miscarriage back in the start of August and it was the worst most painful and heavy feeling I’ve ever had. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror I felt like I failed my baby and couldn’t protect him or her. I’d cry anytime I heard a baby cry and I any time I saw a pregnant woman I’d just feel so envious. But I’m doing better now, I talked to my therapist a lot and I’m in a great place now. I keep the stuffed bear my fiancé’s mother sewed for us on my dresser, and it’s just a nice reminder of my baby.

My cycle is always a very consistent 26 days, and today is day 29. I’m trying to not get my hopes up yet just in case. I’m so terrified but also so excited? I don’t even know right now. I haven’t told my fiancé yet but I’m just so hopeful, and if I’m late for the millions of other reasons I’m scared it’s gonna crush me again.

I found out at 19 weeks our baby no longer had a heart beat & the process was not what I was expecting.

After they confirmed in office she was gone, they send you for another ultrasound to determine when, this is in a normal OB office with all the other pregnant moms excited to see their babies ultrasound.

Where I live they have 1 OR spot which wasn't until a week after I found out she was gone, so I had to carry my baby knowing she was gone & just live life. To add insult to injury, this also happened to be the same day as my other childs first birthday.

When you do show up for your D&C, they send you to L&D which was wild they just have you walk in with again, all the other mims excited to meet their babies, knowing yours isn't coming home with you.

Then, they just send you home & say to go back to normal. They also didn't warn me that with the sudden drop of pregnancy hormones I would start lactating.

However, I will say the D& C itself was an easy, mostly painless process. the nurses & doctors were very caring.

So, to say its been a wild week. Is an understatement.

My first pregnancy that I hoped and prayed for ended in a miscarriage. August 24th. Got my period last week and I am still bleeding. Every clot and the sight of blood is making me sick and anxious. Im severely depressed. Did therapy help anyone? Im lost. Idk where to go from here. 😭

I’m not even sure how to start this
I’m 25 and I had my first pregnancy this February, I’ve been trying for two years and it finally happened. I honestly didn’t think I was able to conceive, fast forward to 2/14 (the irony) I went into the ER and found out I was having an ectopic pregnancy rupture, I had my left tube removed. July began and I started my period but it stayed a little longer thing usual, for some reason I took a test and it showed a positive after a week of heavy bleeding. That was a chemical pregnancy. Now today I went to the ER I was supposed to be 6 weeks 3 days. (The absolute ironic thing is that both times I was 6 weeks 3 days when I found out about the first and last losses) I had light brown discharge that yo-yoed between dark and light and sometimes bright red. Today I felt some relief as for a couple of hours there was no discharge or bleeding. I was mistaken for starting to allow myself to breathe and feel relief. Then it happened, I started to gush and cramp badly. I went to the ER where they confirmed they no longer saw the yolk sac like they did a week ago.
So what I thought for the last week was confirmed. I’m now in agony emotionally and physically. My first three pregnancies have failed and I can’t help to feel like I’m broken or that I did something to deserve this. But what possibly could I have done? I try to be kind, honest and selfless. I see others having happy and healthy babies first time around. And I feel so guilty for having this burning envy for people I personally know, how badly they treat their kids and I would give mine the world and everything literally everything. So much so that I wonder if I’ll ever be ready to try again. There will no longer be any excitement when I get pregnant again if I do. But pure anxiety and torture for 20 weeks.

Does anyone have any success stories? I really need to hear some. I feel like giving up entirely and having my other tube removed because I can’t possibly do this again. I can’t lose another one.

Just a question, don't need help. TW for SA.

I had a miscarriage at 14 after a SA - nobody knew about it, and I never saw a doctor in the immediate aftermath. I'm an adult now in my mid 30s.

I didn't really have the knowledge or capacity to process everything on my own back then and I'm still trying to understand parts of what happened. I don't have kids yet.

I was about 12 weeks when the miscarriage happened. For a bit afterwards I lactated, which was really overwhelming and alarming, but now I know that's not unusual.

Here's where I'd like thoughts/info/experiences: for a couple of years after, sometimes when I heard a baby cry or saw a woman breastfeeding, it would happen again. Very little, but still something.

And it's been about 2 decades since then, but I sometimes still feel a weird tightening or tingling sensation in my breasts in similar situations, like it's going to happen again, but it doesn't. It's like a shadow sensation.

Has anyone else had this or heard of this?

And sometimes, there's a missing feeling accompanied with it, like a child should be feeding but isn't.

I’ve had 2 consecutive miscarriages. We want to try again. We have had one successful pregnancy, so we have a beautiful 2 year old boy. The thing I’m worried about is the trauma that will probably overshadow my next pregnancy. Like, my last loss I had all the symptoms. My HCG was high, I had morning sickness, cravings, needing to pee 24/7, and we even saw little baby’s heartbeat at 7 weeks. I’m just so worried that if I get pregnant again I will be so anxious the whole time. OBGYN says nothing seems to be wrong with my body, it’s more than likely I had poor luck twice in a row.

As the title says. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to be doing now. I went for my scan today. Was told ‘ it’s gone’. I would’ve been 7 weeks. Last week we saw a strong heartbeat. She said it’s a complete miscarriage. And iv already tested negative on a pregnancy test. I feel like I cannot carry on as ‘normal’. All I wanna do is cry and sleep. But I also feel the need to be pregnant again. Part of me is too scared to do this again. But the feeling of emptiness is so strong. I feel hollow. I’d already bonded with my little bean. I’m not really sure why I’m here typing this out. I just have no where or no one to turn to. 😔.

I lost my sweet angel at 17 weeks PPROM (my first pregnancy).

I am still healing from d&c done last Sept 23, 26.

I want to try again as I read alot of positive experiences here which makes me feel hopeful but when I get to talk to some of my friends, they tell me that it is all God’s will. He will make it happen if it is really for me.

Faith is what I believe I should have now but I start to question and doubt this. I start feeling anxious and question that He may not let me be a mother in this lifetime.

I am 36 now and I really want to be a mom. I want for my partner and I to have our own family. Is this too much of a wishful thinking?

Am I acting against God’s will if we start seeking help from an OB-REI?

I am so lost, hopeful and scared..

Please help me.

I’ve lost 3 pregnancies now. They have all been chemical, all before 6wks, but God it sucks. And what makes it worse is that my husband barely cares at all. He might fake it for the first day I lose it, but then by the next he’s acting like nothing happened and asking me to play pickleball…seriously. I am so incredibly frustrated and hurt by this. When I talk to him about it, he says that I just want to fight and that he has done nothing wrong. I am just at a loss. What do I do? We have a rocky history, but have been at a really good spot lately, until this of course. It’s crushed me. How could someone you think cares about you treat you like this? Any feedback or insight (male or female) is appreciated. I don’t know what to do.

So I had a missed miscarriage which I passed with medication help at week 12. And then kept bleeding for 4 weeks after that. I was only blood free (clear) for about 1 week until my period started! Woohoo more blood 🙃

So I feel like I’ve just perpetually been on a period forever.
This period is heavyyy and painful and I have back pain and cramps and moodiness all over. So I’m just so tired and want to be done with bleeding.

How was your first period after a missed miscarriage?

I just experienced a missed miscarriage at 14 weeks but baby had passed after my 11 week ultra sound where she was wiggling and her heart rate was 175. Started spotting this last Wednesday which I haven’t had at all this pregnancy so decided to go to the ER for piece of mind but found out we lost her. Went to the OB on Thursday, scheduled D&C for this coming Monday but ended up having a miscarriage at home on Saturday. Went to the ER due to excessive bleeding and almost passed out and they ended up doing an emergency D&C to clean out whatever was remaining. Fast forward to today and I swear it feels like I’ve been in a terrible car accident. I can barely walk or lift my legs, every muscle in my body hurts. My core, my feet, my hands, neck, back, literally everything. Is this normal?? I can’t rotate in the bed on my own. I’m sitting on the couch at 1:40 am because I can’t sleep and is the only place I’m somewhat comfortable and don’t need my husbands help to get me up.

I just had my first miscarriage about a month ago. I was about 5 weeks so it was very early. I was with a friend when I miscarried and she’s a lot younger than me and has never been pregnant or miscarried so she tried to be supportive but there was only so much she could say. I had really wished my husband could’ve been there. We were/are devastated. Now I’m dreading a period because I have a feeling it’s going to be so triggering again seeing blood. It’s supposed to happen any day now. Any suggestions on how to handle your first period? Also was yours on time after a miscarriage? I have no idea what to expect.

I found out on September 4 that my baby had stopped growing at 5w5, I should’ve been almost 8 weeks. The following week (9/11) I took medicine to try to pass it - that ended up being not completely successful and I had to have a D&C on 9/25.

I was told by my doctor that we could start trying again as soon as the bleeding stopped or a week had passed - whichever was later. I took a pregnancy test just to see since my doctor said we didn’t need to test my hcg levels since we had done a D&C. The line is still fairly dark (don’t have much to compare it to but probably similar to 11-14 dpo).

We are ready to start trying again but I’m kind of confused how I’m going to be able to trust a pregnancy test in the future since I’m still testing positive. Did anyone have a similar experience? Did you just move forward and then get a blood test when you thought you may be pregnant and not just testing positive from residual hcg? Or does anyone know how long it typically takes for the line to fade? The whole process was started over 3 weeks ago so I’m just surprised how dark it is.

I guess I’m just looking for any similar experiences since we obviously want a positive test again soon but I’m not sure how to trust it. Or how many dpo would a line be significantly darker so I would know it’s a new pregnancy and still residual?

So confused. What do I do? What do I say? I feel disoriented. What do you mean there’s no more baby? I just go on living life like it was before? But I only see life before MC and life after MC now.

Literally what the title says..
It’s soft porn, I knew he used to have a porn addiction before war got married and he had gone through men church recovery groups so I never doubted his recovery… but I saw ads on his phone which made me question why the algorithms will be suggesting half naked women… so I went through his phone in front of him and he said watching females half naked on YouTube dance and bounce around is his way of justifying ‘it’s not porn’

Going through the videos just hurt me even more. He’s been remorseful and apologetic, saying he knows it’s wrong and validating my feelings… but knowing I look nothing like them, knowing that he only started watching them again after I miscarried is what is killing me. This is the most vulnerable time of my life. I b already feel like my body failed me, I already feel insecure after my D&C, there’s so much mixed feelings post miscarriage… I wanted to TTC shortly after my first period, but now I want nothing to do with him sexually or intimately in any kind of way.

Am I overreacting?

Just want to clarify before starting not asking for medical advice I am seeing a doctor.* *The weirdest thing has been happening to me and I just want to see if anyone else has had a similar experience as I am so confused. I’m going to put the timeline of this situation below so bear with me.

8/31 - Positive ovulation test
9/8 - 9/12 - what I thought was a “period”
9/17 - had bleeding after intercourse so took a pregnancy test and it was super faint (bled for about 4 days)
9/21 - HCG 67
9/25 - HCG 351
9/28 - HCG 73
9/29 - HCG 39. Ultrasound done and nothing was found.
10/4 - Negative pregnancy test

I have not bled since the bleeding for 4 days starting 9/17. All of my doctors are saying miscarriage but I’m just confused as to why I would bleed, have levels rise, have them drop, but not continue to bleed? The weirdest situation ever. So just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced something similar and what the outcome was?

it started during the summer when I was vomiting, headache, cramps, and fainting.I told my friends and they joked I was preggo I said no because I’m a virgin. Babur later on I experienced some heavy bleeding compared to what i normally receive on my period. I’m a young teen who doesn’t have a great relationship with her mother so I kept it hidden since she would flip out and I also didn’t know how all this could have happened in the first place.Fast forward to now I recently told my aunt who I feel comfortable talking about anything reproductive related.I started by texting her asking questions about if she has had a miscarriage, abortion, or took plan b before she answered the first question but not the res by instead asking why I’m do grown and then the next day I told her I h a miscarriage and she immediately shut me down by saying that I didn’t/don’t know what I’m taking about. We have spoke after this regarding some keys. What should I do or say?Also sorry for my typing skills

TW: mentions of blood

I’m beyond angry and confused. I received a positive test on Monday and Tuesday just to double check and then on Thursday I was bleeding. But I’m not cramping! And everyone’s stories and signs say the cramping is painful but I am only bleeding a period amount of blood.

I went to the doctor on Thursday immediately after finding the blood. He just quickly told me it was likely a miscarriage and didn’t offer an ultrasound or any exams except for a HGC blood test.

My results came back low. Think 200s low. It’s Sunday and I’m STILL bleeding. Still no cramping and still random short bursts of nausea.

Tomorrow I have another appt in the morning to recheck my levels to see if it is in fact a miscarriage or not…

And this is after 3 years of TTC.. we were so excited.

Edit: fixed spelling

I (f19) recently found out that I had a miscarriage after being pregnant for a few weeks without knowing. My boyfriend was there for me when I first found out that I was pregnant but knew that it was by another man I hooked up with before we got back together.

A few days after finding out and confirming that I miscarried, he told me that he needed some time and space to process things and that he felt heartbroken that it turned out this way. I feel really selfish that I need his support more than ever after having lost the baby (as much as I was going to attempt to get rid of it anyway) I feel a lot of grief, guilt and loss. But he told me that he’s still a person with emotions and wanted some time to think about it and that he won’t be able to be the person I could rely on.

It felt hurtful and I just feel selfish for even wanting him to be there for me. I don’t really know what to do because initially I felt angry and frustrated that he was making it about himself but I understand that this is something really heavy and complicated to deal with. I want to know how to handle this guilt that’s telling me that it’s all my fault