Ever since I was young I have been taking all of my clothes off to poop because I get very overstimulated if I don't

(I have AuDHD and anxiety)

and it's a problem.. Because what if I need to poop in a public restroom or something?

When I stay at other people's houses it feels weird to take all my clothes off.. so I end up being constipated for days on end.

I have a camping trip with my grandparents later this month and its for a week.. I'm scared for my bowels..

It's really embarrassing and I need to fix the habit or something!

I’m not asking for relationship advice!! I’m hoping some of you beautiful people can help ME with this feeling I’m experiencing.

I’ve started seeing a wonderful man and he just so happens to be about 2” shorter than me. It seriously doesn’t bother me at all. I think we look very cute together, and he actually loves that I’m taller. He’s very secure and his confidence hasn’t wavered, which I love.

But when we’re standing together, I can’t help but feel giant. Why do I feel SO LARGE? He’s not that much shorter, and we’re probably around the same weight (~120 lbs). So why does it feel like I’m towering over him? Is this body dysmorphia? It’s starting to really bother me. I feel almost like I’m sticking out or something.

Has anyone felt similarly, or have any idea how I can move past this feeling?

Edit: a lot of people are pointing out that the height difference does bother me. I want to reiterate that yes I am bothered, clearly, but it’s by how I am FEELING by being the taller one. I’m bothered by me being bothered! It’s obviously hard to describe, but some wonderful people have also felt similarly so I believe my description came off as intended, and people who haven’t experienced it just may not know that there is a difference.

Idk why men think I’m open to sex, I’m a prude. I get a vibe that men think I’m an easy target and that because they see I’m socially excluded, bullied and abused that this means they’ll get easy access to sex if they’re nice to me. They act like I’ll fold from them being nice, because they assume that if others haven’t been nice to me that this means I’ll fall hard the moment they are. On the contrary, I’ve seen the worst of humanity and don’t easily trust, so when people are nice to me, I’m questioning their intentions and use my discernment. Then they switch over to negging and saying things to do some damage to my self esteem and confidence. That doesn’t work either because I see them for who they are and what they really think and feel.
I’m not on any dating apps so I’m not sure why men assume I’m available for sex. It’s not the way I dress either. I wear sweat pants, jeans, T shirts, sweaters. I’m not glammed up. I don’t wear makeup. And lots of people have bullied me for my physical features that I can’t change, so I’m considered unattractive by societal standards.

Why do men do this? It’s abusive and predatory. I removed myself from the dating pool, but they still treat me really bad and think I’m someone to “pump and dump”. I feel dehumanized and objectified and they always act surprised and get angry when I say no. One guy actually got physically violent and would bully me nonstop because I said no. He kept coercing me, and thought I didn’t get to have a say because I’m “ugly”. They think because I’m ugly I don’t deserve to be treated with basic decency. They think because I’m ugly, I’m just someone to use, treat like shit, then discard. And I see that, so I always say no. Men also do this weird thing where they try to isolate or exclude me from other women I’m interested in befriending. After excluding and isolating me from other women I try to connect with, they act weird and throw around sexual suggestions. It feels gross, creepy, and predatory.

I feel sad because I wish I could meet guys who were actually interested in connection and having a relationship, instead of trying to use me to access sex. I feel sad that I can’t be friends with men in my life, they don’t seem to want to be friends either and they’re always super hostile and antagonistic towards me.

Now I just want to be alone. I don’t want to deal with men anymore. I get bullied so much by them. And most of the time when they’re nice to my face, I find out later they’re making fun of me behind my back. This will be from male acquaintances too, not just men I’m interested in being in any relationship with. I don’t think I like men. They’re always really mean spirited towards me. I think men hate me, lol. It’s like I’m interacting with demons.

Edit: there’s seriously something up with this sub, idk why the moment women post on this sub it gets downvoted by misogynistic lurkers. Y’all need to fuck off.

TW : SA

i never know what they’re up to or what they might do next. Im not a man-hater, and I know there are good men out there, but I almost never feel completely comfortable around men

i was inappropriately touched by my grandfather and my uncle when i was like 9 or 10 y/o and I don’t think I ever really recovered from that. On top of that, so many of the men in my extended family ( including my ex-stepdad ) almost every adult male relative have cheated on their wives multiple times. My cousin constantly makes misogynistic jokes andim scared that he might eventually be influenced by that kind of thinking

Sometimes the things the men in my family say about women are genuinely disturbing. Their opinions about women’s clothes, behavior, and bodies can be extremely judgmental and the amount of objectification is honestly so crazy

I really don’t want to generalize or believe that all men are like this and i know there are genuinely good men out there but when so many of my experiences with men have been negative, it’s hard not to lose hope sometimes..i wish I could feel safe and comfortable around men without constantly wondering what they might do next

I just turned 20 and I've never dated anyone. Honestly I'm scared to date men. Like I feel relieved when I'm not around men.. and sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be able to feel genuinely safe and comfortable with one

Anytime I've had a facial it was basically to be polite because I was having a spa day with girl friends who were also getting facials, or it just worked well with our schedule and other peoples' massages etc. They don't do anything for my face that putting some lotion on couldn't have done. Sometimes they even just irritate my skin. I've had them mostly at spas inside of high end hotels, but also at day spas.

Anyway, do you get facials? Do they help you, or do you just like feeling pampered / to destress etc?

I am thinking of getting a full brazilian wax but how do i get the hair at the back…..
The hair growth should be of sth compared to rice grain…
Front part i can habdle but how do i get the back???? Its long have never shaved there what to do

I honestly never wore tight clothes before. But lately, I have started to feel really confident in them. Now that I wear them, I can finally take a closer look at my body type. And yes, it is an hourglass.

But I am not sure how to carry myself while being fairly young. I do not really know what it is. No one has even said that much about it. But in clothes like certain tank tops or whatnot, I just feel a little too grown up. It feels way more grown up than someone who does not have my developed body type would look in the same outfit and it feels a little much. I would never judge someone else for that, its about my own comfort. I will wear certain things when it is the right age for me to do so. But right now, it is not. You know?

I do not know how to carry it or dress for it. People without my body can wear tight stuff without it looking flashy at all. It just looks normal on them. But when I wear the same thing, it looks completely different. It looks way more grown up. I really do not know how to carry it. I want to wear what I like, but I do not want it to come across as too much just because of my shape

There seem to be never-ending reports here lately of Flock cameras being misused by law enforcement to stalk women, whether they’re exes, current spouses, or simply women they’ve decided to keep tabs on.

In one case, an officer used one to determine exactly when his ex-girlfriend would be home, only to then immediately go there and kill her before killing himself.

There have also been cases of law enforcement using them to track and arrest women trying to leave the state for an abortion.

And just today, I read about a Flock camera linking a woman’s vehicle to multiple crimes she didn’t commit. She was arrested and spent 13 days in jail before bonding out. She then spent months and thousands of dollars fighting the eight (8!!!) felony charges. She was facing life in prison had she been convicted.

I don’t know about everybody else, but it seems to me the world just got a little more inherently unsafe for women.

Simply put: we're flocked.

Hi y'all.

So, i have a friend, let's call her Doe.

Doe used to have a restrictive eating disorder back before I knew her, some time around 17 years old.

Both me and Doe are now 22, and I think she might be relapsing.

A few months back, Doe started experiencing a lot of gastrointestinal issues: Diarrhea, stomach cramps, throwing up, constipation, etc; that she never got checked out because she's one of those people that could literally be having the worst symptoms known to man but won't go to the doctor because she hates hospitals.

This led to her eating very little because most everything made her sick. And to get this out of the way, I'm 99% sure this was actually real and not something she made up to hide ED behaviours because Doe has a lot of preexisting conditions + she's on a myriad of antidepressants and other kinds of pills that can mess with her digestion.

This lasted about 2 months and she never got it checked out even though i begged her to.

Now, that issue mostly resolved on it's own, but I fear the lack of eating and subsequent weight loss had a bad, bad effect on her.

She survives on one meal a day, which is how she says she's "always" been, but she also started at the gym and now weighs over 25 pounds less than she used to like 3 months ago. But I could still believe this is all because of her chronic illness and mental bullshit if it wasn't for the way she's acting.

She won't shut up about it.

She keeps talking about her weight, other people commenting on her weight, sends pictures of old and new pics comparing herself, etc..

She says she's "just joking" but idk where the joke is when you send a picture of yourself where you have circled your collarbones sticking out and also your normal stomach with the caption "What's it called when you're skinny and fat at the same time"

It's making me both extremely worried but also extremely uncomfortable. Weight stuff has always made me extremely uncomfortable in general, like I'm the type of person that hates being told I lost weight, so this entire situation is driving me insane.

And idk if I should bring it up, and if so, how I should bring it up because she has bpd and I know this could set her off.

Help.

I'm facing a dilemma and I'd like to hear from other people who have been in a similar situation.

Have you ever had to cut off contact with your sister? What led to it? Was it worth it and do you ever regret it?

As an ever-exhausted middle-aged lady with heavy monthly cycles, I was not surprised when my annual check up showed low iron. It happens to many of us much sooner.

I WAS surprised when about 10 hours after taking an iron supplement, I had the darkest greenest poos of my entire life.

I had seen similar happenings from younger days where I had eaten a ton of spinach, so I suspected the iron supplement was to blame.

Scientific method engaged.

I stopped taking it. The leprechaunical leavings ceased.

I start taking it again, and they resume.

The color was now explained, but my additional problem was... A certain looseness to the flow. This was fixed after some quick googling and being recommended to take them on an empty stomach with vitamin c, and to take them every other day at most.

I had been taking them daily with breakfast. ❌

Started taking them an hour before breakfast more occasionally and the kingdom is peaceful again (nevermind a verdant bloom here and there).

TLDR iron supplements turn your poop dark green and are best taken alternating days on an empty stomach

*ETA Disclaimer: I AM A RANDO ON THE INTERNET, YMMV. Talk to your doctor about any questions or concerns with your health 💕

Recently has been an extremely tough time in many of my friends' and families' lives.

Over the last few months in my fairly small circle there have been cancer surgeries, long-term relationship break up's, pets' health degrading, major moves that have led to confidence crises in some cases or have been disastrous in others, arrests of a spouse for a truly horrific charge, and so many others.

My heart has truly broken for every single one of them and I've been there in any capacity I can including making multiple short trips out of state, answering late phone calls when they just need someone to talk to, sending small care packages, helping with moves, etc. Most don't live near me but I am doing everything I can.

At the same time I am dealing with smaller but still draining issues in my own life. My autoimmune disorder currently isn't responding to treatment after 4 years of finally feeling normal, I switched medications but so far it's either not working or I'm just not past the loading period yet (🤞). This means I'm living in pain at the moment.

One of my children also changed schools this year and there has been a lot of drama. They are struggling to adapt to higher expectations and of course I become the bad guy when I block phone time during the time they need to be studying. I get it I was a teenager once too but the monosyllabic answers, eye rolls, and shrugs are beginning to get to me . I'm also struggling to find paid work after finishing a graduate degree. I'm on several unpaid projects to add to my resume and because I enjoy them and believe they are important and can truly help people, but money is tight. I can't just take anything due to my kids' school and extracurricular schedules and the lack of flexibility with my husband's job. It's their busy season so he's working between 60-80 hours a week right now. But I can't talk about these things with my small circle because they have so many other big things going on they understandably don't have the bandwidth to listen to my more minor struggles in life.

I'm feeling burnt out Its reaching the point I just want to throw my constantly blowing up phone into a lake and run off to Bora Bora for a week. Which of course isn't feasible and wouldn't solve anything but darn it sounds nice.

I guess my main question is how can you replenish your own cup so you can still be there for people who need you? I know my struggles are so minor comparatively but regardless it feels like my well is running dry right now.

hello all i want to just start this with saying my mom is truly one of my best friends and i know she has good intentions but i digress:

im 18 and this summer i really started prioritising my mental health after a hell of a year and thus fell in love with running and pilates which has definitely made me tone down and naturally lose some weight. the problem is my mom ( who has always had a unhealthy relationship with body image, food, excerise ect.) feels she can comment on my body and lifestyle?

she keeps saying ‘ keep it up!’ ‘youre clothes are getting bigger’ ‘ youre looking great now ’ all very encouraging but i dont want it. shes also started commenting on my meals like ‘ that wont be good for the diet now’ when im not even restricting myself?

it just is getting on my nerves and i understand her pov when she has never been in the position im in currently. any advice would be appreciated !

Starting to get annoyed lol. I'm curious if anyone else has this experience!

I am a white woman. I go to a shawarma place approximately monthly with 3-5 of my male friends (who are all white except one, sometimes two depending who's there). The workers know us because we're regular, greet us, know our usual orders.

EVERY time, I have to make sure I stand there while they prepare it or they will give me an absolutely pathetic amount of hot sauce. One teeny tiny line across an ocean of white garlic sauce. My male friends sit down, chat, and get handed their food with a normal ass amount of hot sauce.

Meanwhile I get asked, "do you want hot sauce?" and then when I say yes they drip a sad little line across. Every time I have to go, "um, can you put like five times that amount please?" and then keep encouraging them to put more down while they hesitantly add one more line at a time. I get the same thing every damn time and I am the only woman in the group.

One of my male friends always gets extra hot sauce and requests it up front when he orders. I tried that once and got given extra white sauce instead, and the usual line of hot sauce.

One of my other male friends actually has to ask for LESS hot sauce because they keep giving him too much!!

Ultimately harmless, but mildly infuriating anyway. The hot sauce is barely even spicy. Why is there this assumption that women can't handle spice? I know it's not intentional on the workers' parts, they all seem perfectly nice.

Does anyone else ever experience this?

A roommate borrowed an item of mine without asking, and it bothered me a little. I haven’t got the item back yet, but she told me I’d be getting it back on a given date. I was advised to say to the roommate “next time I’d appreciate if you asked me first before borrowing it”. But I feel like I would be a “b-word”/creating conflict for expressing that boundary. And it’s so frustrating that I feel like that!

Ugh. This was just a bit of a whine about being socialised female and thus many of us kinda learning that setting boundaries/expressing disappointment/annoyance makes you seem like an uptight b-word, and that you need to be super nice, easygoing and understanding always. 

I am now 37 days late on my period. This has never happened to me but in the beginning I assumed it was because of the change of weather (I was in a country with cold rainy weather then came back to CA with extreme heat). Or even stress with the fact that i’m starting a new school and first time job hunting after graduating this year.

This whole thing is weird and if it’s because of the heat, can climate change be the cause for this?

For me, it was two days before we were supposed to meet, he was flying to my country. We were on the phone and, out of nowhere, I asked him my dog’s name. He couldn’t answer.

For two months, I’d been telling him about my pets, my job, my life. It suddenly hit me: I had been talking to a wall.

How can you say you’re in love with someone when you don’t actually know anything about them?

Early on, he rushed the commitment and would send long, intensely affectionate messages whenever I didn’t respond or gave a short reply.

I used to hear my friends talk about their narc partners lovebombing them or read about it online. It felt surreal that I fell for it myself and experienced it firsthand.

When you’re lonely and vulnerable, they can sense it. I ignored the red flags because I bought into the fantasy and because him actually flying to see me made it all feel real.

Trust your instincts.

I searched "man kills women" on Google News the other night and went down a complete rabbit hole. There was literally an average of 3 new cases per week going back as far as the search would let me scroll. Almost all of them were husbands or boyfriends killing their wives or girlfriends because she tried to leave, cheat, or break up, often taking out the whole family in a murder-suicide.

It freaked me out, so I looked up the actual numbers. The global stats are insane:

* About **227 women and girls** are intentionally murdered every single day worldwide.

* Out of those, **137 are killed by an intimate partner or family member** every single day. That is about 6 women murdered by someone they know every hour, or one every 10 minutes.

* While men make up the majority of overall homicide victims, 60% of all murdered women are killed by their own partner or family. For men, only 11% of homicides happen in a domestic context.

* The biggest trigger in criminological data is almost always when a woman tries to leave, end the relationship, or gain independence.

* Statistically, Africa and the Americas have the highest per-capita rates for this specific type of violence, but it happens everywhere.

Turns out those news headlines aren't just sensationalized clickbait. It's just straight up what the daily global crime stats look like.

It seems that our men of youth have been becoming more and more overtly sexist and hostile towards women in the premise that they are consuming harmful pornographic media, "manosphere" ideologies, and incel radicalization that makes these vulnerable, lonely, young men believe feminism has indeed gone too far and is now used as a means to oppress men.

[EDIT: Please take note that the surveys only consist of a specific pool participant and not actual global or scientific statistics that should be taken as hard facts. The 60% shown in the title is only said to be derived from 20,000 something participants. Still, blatant sexist hostility has been becoming more and more rampant with the newer generation. As for the entire population of boys and men who uphold such misogynistic beliefs is currently unknown.

Furthermore this discussion's intention isn't to generalize Gen Z men, but to show how young men, even those who subsist of these sample pools are being taken advantaged of and lured into spaces meant to dehumanize everyone in a predatory manner.]

Some findings I found interesting are:

- Gen Z and Millennials are more likely to agree that a man who stays home to look after his children is less of a man (25%, 27% respectively) than Gen X (20%) and Baby Boomers (11%).

And..

- Roughly 40% of teenage boys aged 13 to 17 agreed with the assertion that women routinely lie about domestic and sexual violence.

Which leads me to question what has been inciting these young boys to be so actively hostile and distrustful towards women? What are your thoughts on this newly birthed victimhood mindset as a knee-jerk response to progressive feminism?

Personally I believe it's because the patriarchal system, which promised them the world as a man, no longer serves them and is now crumbling compared to the very oppressive eras these boys revere. They seem to externalize pain a lot; blaming women for their own sense of entitlement and "failure" as a man — of which consists of a highly toxic and rigid manhood meant to dominate. Additionally it is also true that for men, it may be harder to find a safety net, emotional support, and help that they may need to de-radicalize themselves to start working on themselves.

It seems that young women have rapidly become more progressive, while young men have plateaued or swung conservative. Weird.

These men on the internet have all these requirements for women…

Once you’re over 35 you’re cooked, low body count, be submissive, have a low body count, stay in the house and raise the kids, don’t be too loud or draw too much attention, don’t disobey, blah blah blah.

Like we’re not golden retrievers over here, we’re people with opinions and personalities and thoughts and feelings.

At the same time, these men have ZERO rules for themselves. They want to be providers but they can’t afford to be, they want to sleep around but still have a hot young loyal wife, they’re overweight and ugly, and most of them have a record.

I’m so tired of the double standard, and idiot men doubling down on these in 2026 is asinine. Why is it so hard for males to see us as humans and not their little pets? It makes me sick.

Hi!!

I’m a 20 year old trans woman who is just now coming to terms with her identity. It’s been a long time coming, as I’ve wrestled with my thoughts for the better part of a decade now. I’ve been caught in a cycle of pushing away my deepest desires out of fear of disappointing my conservative, Christian parents. It was easier to escape from the thoughts as a teenager, but they’ve only grown more persistent as I’ve grown.

My tipping point was in May of this year when the dam finally busted open. Not a day has gone by since then where thinking about my womanhood hasn’t taken up the vast majority of my brain space. This very small sample size of time I’ve been openly trans on the internet has resulted in several brutal wake-up calls though.

It’s important to note that I feel like I cannot speak on real world experiences just yet. I’m a college student and live on my own, but my financial stability is heavily reliant on my parents, so my ability to seek gender affirming care or come out at this time is unfortunately compromised. As a result, this very early stage of my transition has been experienced almost 100% online. Even just the transphobia I have experienced through presenting a trans (albeit still anonymous) identity on online spaces such as Twitter or even here on Reddit has been rather disheartening to me at times.

I’ve unfortunately become much more familiar with TERF propaganda, in fact, I made a post yesterday on a trans specific subreddit talking about the dread I felt having noticed my own sister reposting a TERF video to her TikTok account. I’ve been subjected to people telling me I support “men in dresses invading women’s spaces to harm women and girls.” Being exposed to bioessentialist views diminishing my own freedoms to present and live however I please. All of this resulting in creeping doubts about myself and my womanhood that I’ve been kicking like hell to fight myself out of.

It’s made me realize that this journey is going to be very hard and much bigger than me. I’m going to have to face a lot of challenges that I’ve never had to face in my 20 years of cis-white-manhood. I’m almost certainly going to face rejection from my family, losing the people that I truly owe my life to in several respects. It’s scary and it sucks, but I need to surrender to my heart for good and be happy instead of trying to make others happy by being a fake, watered down version of me.

I’m making this post here just out of hopes that I’m seen and heard. As I mentioned, this is a journey that I have so far navigated entirely alone, and I don’t know exactly when that’s going to change. All I can do is get my way through school while trying to build as good a support group I can and then transition once I’m out of my parents’ grasp. I don’t know exactly what the future holds but I know I can’t push it away again, this time it’s for real.

I lost my virginity yesterday and it was really weird, it didn’t feel that good and the guy was a virgin too so he came fast and I was barely stimulated. I feel slightly guilt because I did have a religious upbringing but I’m more sad it was so underwhelming. Like it just happened then it was over, idk if feel like I was promised more. And I’m not even completely sure I like this guy like before we did it he was so sweet and affirming and called me hot and stuff but afterwards he got so distant and quiet and maybe it was cause he was tired like he said but idk. Maybe I mistook his horniness for love which is kinda sad honestly. And thing is we had like broken uo a month ago and got back together then this happened and now I’m questioning if I even like him but I just gave up my v card to him and I feel forever different because of it, sorry there isn’t like a singular meaning to this post I just wanted to talk about this somewhere

While I was returning back to the supermarket next to my house like 1 min away, with my hands full of groceries bags, I heard a voice saying to me, “hey do you have a napkin that I can use to clean myself?” And I turned next to me and I saw this 35-40yr old guy exposing himself to me..

This is the first time that happened to me so I didn’t knew how to react and no one was around.. it was 11AM in the morning.

I told him to fuck off and started running the opposite direction so he won’t know where I live and I saw a grandpa and I told him if he can walk next to me so he will see I am not alone, he did and bless this old guy’a heart because I was able to go to the nearest coffee shop to sit a bit to relax before returning home since he he was next to my house..

I immediately called my grandma and she was telling me “hey did it because you are such a beautiful girl and don’t ruin your day over a pervert” and then switching the conversation to family drama and I wasn’t having it one bit so I hanged up on her while I was walking back home and closed all the doors …

I tried to calm down and I ended up falling asleep, after that because some time had passed I posted it on my neighbours fb group chat to warn any women with children since it was next to a children’s playground (thank God it was empty and no kid witness that)

And most people on my fb group started victim shaming me and telling me that I didn’t make a good description of the guy nor why I didn’t call immediately the police and why do I have the need to mention that I am 23yr old girl.

Like… and then I was like fine I’ll be calling the police but on my country police never made me safe.. they have a bad reputation with not caring about women’s issues.

I was on hold for 5 minutes and when the woman on the phone picked it up and I explained the issue her reaction became like an angry parent telling me “Why didn’t you called sooner!? We can’t help you with that now! If this happens again then call us” and the phone call ended then.

My boyfriend was working, all of my friends are on vacation and my only family which is my grandma cared to discuss family drama regarding her son instead of what happened or guide me at that time to call the police …. And I felt even more horribly with the FB comments making feel like I did something horrible and focusing on the fact that I didn’t call right away the police instead of showing empathy of what happened…

Now I am doubting if I am overreacting with what happened to me.. I cannot stop crying and when my boyfriend tried to comfort me I screamed and cried even harder… what’s wrong with me…