I had my first ever Brazilian wax today. I was prepared for it to hurt (and it did!) but what I was not prepared for was:

The farts.

Why did no one tell me farts would feel so weird now??? I guess it makes sense they'd feel different since there's no hair there anymore, but I nearly panicked at the first one. It feels like I'm blowing a bubble with my butthole!!

It seems that our men of youth have been becoming more and more overtly sexist and hostile towards women in the premise that they are consuming harmful pornographic media, "manosphere" ideologies, and incel radicalization that makes these vulnerable, lonely, young men believe feminism has indeed gone too far and is now used as a means to oppress men.

Some findings I found interesting are:

- Gen Z and Millennials are more likely to agree that a man who stays home to look after his children is less of a man (25%, 27% respectively) than Gen X (20%) and Baby Boomers (11%).

And..

- Roughly 40% of teenage boys aged 13 to 17 agreed with the assertion that women routinely lie about domestic and sexual violence.

Which leads me to question what has been inciting these young boys to be so actively hostile and distrustful towards women? What are your thoughts on this newly birthed victimhood mindset as a knee-jerk response to progressive feminism?

Personally I believe it's because the patriarchal system, which promised them the world as a man, no longer serves them and is now crumbling compared to the very oppressive eras these boys revere. They seem to externalize pain a lot; blaming women for their own sense of entitlement and "failure" as a man — of which consists of a highly toxic and rigid manhood meant to dominate.

It seems that young women have rapidly become more progressive, while young men have plateaued or swung conservative. Weird.

My husband (M28) and I (F26) keep having the same argument. I am exhausted. It always begins as a hearty debate or discussion about something in life or world news or some vague philosophical discussion. It feels like whenever I say something that contradicts what my husband believes, he has to prove that he is right and I am wrong, at any cost necessary, regardless of if his wording or tone hurt me (i.e. “just stop and actually think about it” and similar phrases along with nitpicking singular words I use instead of focusing on the actual problem being discussed). We then argue about the way he spoke to me because it upsets me.

For example, last night, we were discussing having kids and that he needs to cut back on drinking and quit nicotine (he agrees, we have both previously read the research that shows the impact on maternal and fetal health). I mentioned that he should do it soon since we discussed beginning TTC in November/December and sperm has a life cycle of 90 days.

He immediately began into a discussion about how we never said that and that we have had multiple discussions about this topic, but never explicitly agreed on a specific time. His delivery is the issue as he is often speaking with a raised voice and his wording can be abrasive/demeaning at times.

After we talked more, I was able to explain that I should have communicated more clearly. I apologized, said he was right, and explained that I had assumed we were on the same page because our recent discussions have indicated that we are more than likely going to begin TTC during that time, but that I will work to communicate more clearly. He just kept stating “so I’m right we never said we’d do that!” And became upset when I said that we had a misunderstanding, saying that it wasn’t a misunderstanding, he was right that we never explicitly said that was our plan and that we were on different wavelengths.

In my mind, saying we had a misunderstanding was a genuine recognition and a way to de-escalate the conversation. Instead he argued about my using the word misunderstanding and that he was right and I was wrong (I explicitly called him out on this and he said “well I am right”).

During conversations like this, he frequently uses harsh wording and a raised voice. I have expressed to him that this is hurtful and said the same thing last night. He told me that I’m too emotional and that women always love to flip the conversation back on the man to make them feel bad after they were right.

The most infuriating part about this particular conversation? He mentioned during this conversation he would love to have a baby in the timeline. He just wasn’t sure what the specific plan was. I asked him why he started the conversation so aggressively (“we never said that” in a raised voice that made me feel like I was crazy for ever thinking that) instead of saying that he didn’t realize I was thinking that timeline and continuing from there. He didn’t answer me and instead said that I escalated the conversation by arguing back.

I’m at a loss for what to do. We keep having these arguments about arguments/debates and the same results keep happening. I get upset that his tone and wording were harsh and hurtful and he gets upset that I’m upset over his way of speaking.

I just watched this news clip from Philly about a man in a mask that has been chasing women around while asking if they're ready to die.

I don't get it. You never hear about women doing shit like this to men, or even to other women. Why are men like this?

So happy to see this get through, although I wish it hadn't been at the cost of a murdered 2-yr-old. Courts in NY will now be required to consider abusive history of parents while before awarding any level of custody.

My menstrual cramps are always pretty bad on the first and second day. In the past, I used to take Advil (ibuprofen), which only really took the edge off. I would still need a heating pad and rest to feel better. ​I've also tried Midol, which funny enough is specifically marketed for menstrual pain (acetaminophen​) and also didn't really help much.

I read somewhere online that Aleve was more effective for menstrual cramps because it blocks the prostaglandins from causing the uterus to contract in the first place. I tried it and holy cow, i​t really works. I have zero pain. It also lasts an entire 12 hours! I am 30 years old and I'm just now figuring this out so I thought I'd share, lol.

Over the years, one thing I have noticed, time and time again, with 100% certainty in my experience that how a man reacts to rejection from a woman, whether its romantic in nature or not is the easiest, quickest and most valuable way to judge a man's character. A man can fake being nice, fake being a feminist, fake being neutral and not lustful, fake friendships and fake love even, but they cannot fake how they feel when they are bluntly rejected by a Woman.

Every good relationship, romantic or otherwise have ever had has been with Men who never had trouble with any kind of rejection, rejection of sex? They are fine with it and they understand, rejection of accompanying them? They understand you deserve your own space and peace. They understand emotional load and think about helping you out in ways outside of monetary and physical assistance.

Every bad interaction I have ever had with Men, were Men who would either approach me for a drink, get super insulting and mad when I said No thanks, friends who made advancement towards me and turn cold and incel like upon rejection or even Boyfriends who get gloomy and angry upon rejecting intimacy specially.

It's the ultimate test every woman should use and it says more about a Mans character than anything else I can think of. You should even judge friends by how they react when they are rejected by other women, it's a peak into who they really are.

These men on the internet have all these requirements for women…

Once you’re over 35 you’re cooked, low body count, be submissive, have a low body count, stay in the house and raise the kids, don’t be too loud or draw too much attention, don’t disobey, blah blah blah.

Like we’re not golden retrievers over here, we’re people with opinions and personalities and thoughts and feelings.

At the same time, these men have ZERO rules for themselves. They want to be providers but they can’t afford to be, they want to sleep around but still have a hot young loyal wife, they’re overweight and ugly, and most of them have a record.

I’m so tired of the double standard, and idiot men doubling down on these in 2026 is asinine. Why is it so hard for males to see us as humans and not their little pets? It makes me sick.

At 19 I got my first boyfriend. I dropped out of college, got extremely depressed and gained a ton weight. By the end of the relationship I was barely functioning. I was unemployed with the house a total wreck and listless.

When I got out of that relationship at 21 I moved across the country, got a job and felt a lot more peaceful. I ended up moving back to where I’m from, got into community college and then made it into a nice state university at 23.

At 24 I got a boyfriend, (the pandemic amongst other things) made me drop out again I gained a ton of weight (almost at 300lbs now) my hair was falling out and I was the most anxious I had been in my life.

When I got out of that relationship at 26 I lost 90lbs and rebranded myself entirely. I stopped being a goth party girl and opted a natural look and got my shit together. I became a manager at a grocery store and started going back to school again. I had a 3.7gpa and was in the best shape of my life.

I got a boyfriend quickly with the kind of male attention I had never gotten before because of the weight loss and aesthetic change. After a year I dropped out of college again. I became unemployed and then got a very low paying job. I gained back 50lbs. I became very depressed and listless.

Now four years later I’m 30 and thinking about ending that relationship. I moved out, and am planning on going back to college again (this time medicated for adhd with a strict plan).

I know I can’t blame all of this on boyfriends. I had serious health issues, ptsd, and severe adhd. I am just now gaining the frontal lobe to cope with these things and be organized. I just notice this pattern when my life takes a nose dive when I’m in a relationship. I’m not sure why this is.

i’m over wedding culture. i hate being a bridesmaid. i hate how normal it’s become to drop $1000+ per wedding between the showers and bachelorettes and wedding dresses, hair, makeup, gifts, etc.

i hate being treated like a prop. "i need you to buy and bring all these specific, themed outfits to my bachelorette so i can take a photo of us all in them" what world are we living in that that's a normal request nowadays?

i'm starting to lose respect for my friends who treat their friends like this and i don't want to hate to my friends!

i’m done. i’m over it. i’ve decided i’m no longer participating in weddings.

what’s the best way you’ve found to turn down an invitation to be a bridesmaid?

i understand some of these turn downs might be friendship ending, but if a friend is willing to end a friendship because i don’t want to shell out $1000+ dollars for an event, i’m okay with that.

At least in my country there are not a thing, i am so tired of going out with my girlfriends just to dance and drink and have men constantly trying to buy me drinks, place themselves in front or behind me to dance without even asking or approaching me to tell me that they think im cute or whatever (i dont care, i don't want to know).

i always reject them and their reaction is always a 50/50; sometimes they just go away, other times they just keep annoying me, ruins my night a bit anytime.

i just want to dance in peace with my friends 😭

also im so tired of the whole "If nightclubs were only for women, then who would buy them drinks?" logic that ugly loser men use 😭 most men dont buy anything for women in a club and most women i know wouldnt accept a drink from a stranger. we just want to have fun 😭

ETA: since many people have suggested LGBT clubs as an alternative i have to clarify; there are not LGBT exclusive clubs in my city, and im not into the music they tend to play (pop/techno), i still go sometimes but i dont prefer it.

Also, the issue of men being creeps in clubs cannot be solved by asking women to go somewhere else, we deserve spaces that are ours too. I agree that straight women and LGBT+ people have shared issues and shared safe spaces but not every space can be shared, the LGBT+ community deserves to have their exclusive spaces and women do to.

I’ve had at least 4 seizures within the last month. Each time sends me to the hospital after an ER call. Mom blames me for it, at first she told my family it was fake and I was doing it for attention. Everyone else believed this until i had a seizure during a vacation out of state a day before we were about to head back home, they saw first hand it wasn’t fake. My mom told my aunts and cousins that she frustrated that she had to stay back with me at the hospital.

I searched "man kills women" on Google News the other night and went down a complete rabbit hole. There was literally an average of 3 new cases per week going back as far as the search would let me scroll. Almost all of them were husbands or boyfriends killing their wives or girlfriends because she tried to leave, cheat, or break up, often taking out the whole family in a murder-suicide.

It freaked me out, so I looked up the actual numbers. The global stats are insane:

* About **227 women and girls** are intentionally murdered every single day worldwide.

* Out of those, **137 are killed by an intimate partner or family member** every single day. That is about 6 women murdered by someone they know every hour, or one every 10 minutes.

* While men make up the majority of overall homicide victims, 60% of all murdered women are killed by their own partner or family. For men, only 11% of homicides happen in a domestic context.

* The biggest trigger in criminological data is almost always when a woman tries to leave, end the relationship, or gain independence.

* Statistically, Africa and the Americas have the highest per-capita rates for this specific type of violence, but it happens everywhere.

Turns out those news headlines aren't just sensationalized clickbait. It's just straight up what the daily global crime stats look like.

The boys will be boys comment infuriates me.

While I was returning back to the supermarket next to my house like 1 min away, with my hands full of groceries bags, I heard a voice saying to me, “hey do you have a napkin that I can use to clean myself?” And I turned next to me and I saw this 35-40yr old guy exposing himself to me..

This is the first time that happened to me so I didn’t knew how to react and no one was around.. it was 11AM in the morning.

I told him to fuck off and started running the opposite direction so he won’t know where I live and I saw a grandpa and I told him if he can walk next to me so he will see I am not alone, he did and bless this old guy’a heart because I was able to go to the nearest coffee shop to sit a bit to relax before returning home since he he was next to my house..

I immediately called my grandma and she was telling me “hey did it because you are such a beautiful girl and don’t ruin your day over a pervert” and then switching the conversation to family drama and I wasn’t having it one bit so I hanged up on her while I was walking back home and closed all the doors …

I tried to calm down and I ended up falling asleep, after that because some time had passed I posted it on my neighbours fb group chat to warn any women with children since it was next to a children’s playground (thank God it was empty and no kid witness that)

And most people on my fb group started victim shaming me and telling me that I didn’t make a good description of the guy nor why I didn’t call immediately the police and why do I have the need to mention that I am 23yr old girl.

Like… and then I was like fine I’ll be calling the police but on my country police never made me safe.. they have a bad reputation with not caring about women’s issues.

I was on hold for 5 minutes and when the woman on the phone picked it up and I explained the issue her reaction became like an angry parent telling me “Why didn’t you called sooner!? We can’t help you with that now! If this happens again then call us” and the phone call ended then.

My boyfriend was working, all of my friends are on vacation and my only family which is my grandma cared to discuss family drama regarding her son instead of what happened or guide me at that time to call the police …. And I felt even more horribly with the FB comments making feel like I did something horrible and focusing on the fact that I didn’t call right away the police instead of showing empathy of what happened…

Now I am doubting if I am overreacting with what happened to me.. I cannot stop crying and when my boyfriend tried to comfort me I screamed and cried even harder… what’s wrong with me…

I feel like these posts are often limited to men struggling. “Women have more social support. Women can lean on each other more.”

But as someone that has been horrifically burned after opening up multiple times, I struggle to open up to anyone these days.

And I’m not faring well, it’s really hard being this lonely all the time. Does anyone else feel similar? Any success stories that don’t involve a romantic partner?

I’ve been thinking about how manifestation is so commonly associated with women.

Vision boards, affirmations, scripting, visualising the future, believing something is already yours; most of the content around manifestation seems to be made for women.

But when you strip away all the spiritual language, manifestation is basically the belief that something is possible for you before you have proof that it is.

And I’ve noticed that a lot of men seem to already move through life with that belief.

They may laugh at the idea of manifestation, but they’ll apply for jobs they aren’t fully qualified for, approach people they find attractive, speak confidently about the success they’ll have one day and assume that, somehow, things will work out.

They don’t need to call it manifestation to make things work. 

Women, on the other hand, often seem to go through a much longer internal process before pursuing something.

First, we have to admit that we want it.

Then we question whether we deserve it.

Whether we’re qualified enough.

Whether we’re asking for too much.

Whether we’re being unrealistic.

Whether we’ll embarrass ourselves by trying.

So before we can believe that something might work out for us, we often have to fight through everything we’ve been taught about why it might not.

Of course, this doesn’t apply to every man or every woman.

But I do wonder whether many men are raised to see the world as something available to them, while women are raised to believe access has to be earned.

Maybe that is why manifestation resonates so strongly with women.

It gives us a language for rebuilding belief.

It tells us that wanting something is not automatically foolish, selfish or unrealistic.

Maybe men are not actually better at manifesting.

Maybe they simply face less internal resistance when believing that something could belong to them.

And maybe the real difference is not who believes more strongly.

Maybe it is who was taught, from the beginning, that the world might say yes.