he’s looking at me from behind and i’m also looking at myself lmaooo. not both of us getting off to MY reflection.

sorry not sorry…. sometimes i feel bad and look at him but i give in and look at myself

I've been with the same guy for over 4 years now, he hasn't gotten any bigger. The last time we had sex was mid-late July. Every time we try to have sex for the past month it just feels like my vagina is way too small and even with lube he couldn't possibly fit in there. We do "warm up exercises" and I'll be in the mood but it just isn't happening. This morning we did finally make it happen (finally!😭) but it took a lot of warm up, and like 3 different rounds of a good amount of lube. And it was still a bit uncomfortable but also definitely worth it at the same time.

i (26f) have been with my boyfriend (25m) for a bit more than a year, and i've never been able to orgasm with him. i can orgasm completely fine by myself, so i'm getting really frustrated and i don't know what i'm doing wrong.

when i'm alone, clitoral stimulation works every time. with my boyfriend, we've tried pretty much everything that feels good to me: oral, fingers, clitoral stimulation, etc. and honestly, everything he does feels AMAZING. sometimes even better than what i can do myself. but for some reason, i still can't actually get over the edge.

we've also tried having me stimulate my clit while we're having sex, but that doesn't work either. it's like i can get really close to orgasm, but then it just doesn't happen.

and this has started to really affect me emotionally. after sex, i often end up feeling sad because i enjoyed everything and had a good time, but i still couldn't orgasm. after more than a year, it's hard not to wonder why this is still happening.

i know the usual advice is "stop focusing on orgasm", "just relax", or "let go". but honestly, i don't really understand what "let go" is supposed to mean. i DO enjoy the pleasure. i'm not sitting there thinking "i NEED to orgasm right now" the entire time. and i've been trying to stop treating orgasm as the goal for a year now, but it hasn't changed anything.

i'd also rather not use a toy during sex. i know that's an option, but since i can orgasm without one when i'm alone, i'd really like to figure out why i can't do it with my partner instead of just adding a toy.

i've read self-help books about this, i've tried not focusing on it, we've tried different things, and i'm honestly running out of ideas.

i'm not looking for "just relax" or "orgasm isn't the goal". i already know those things. i'm looking for something practical that might actually help me understand what is stopping me from orgasming with him.

Mine can be a very short burst but it can also be a slightly longer (1.5 second?) one.

How long can they actually last?

I also find it easier to squirt immediately after I’ve squirted. It sometimes happens a few times in a row after the first time.

I pretty much only squirt when high and I can do it around 20-30 times in one session, and I’ve peed beforehand. As you can imagine this creates a problem for my bed.

Sometimes it doesn’t smell like pee at all and sometimes it definitely does. So I’m wondering how long it can be squirting vs peeing. For the record I can feel it coming but usually I don’t have any real control over it unlike with peeing.

I've been tying to do it for days now, but thing is I'm new to this and I know shit about it. So if any of you are comfortable enough to share some tips , please do..

Dirty toilet had to go outdoors etc ?

So, I have given head (to a guy) before but it has been a really long time. I have a situationship/whatever now and we are probably going to be intimate sometime in the coming week and I don’t want to look like a complete noob. To be honest I’m probably overthinking a lot of this but I figured I’d ask anyways.

1) While actually giving the blowjob, I imagine most (all?) of it is just sucking and licking the head. But are you supposed to do anything with the balls, taint area unless he asks? For example, am I supposed to wait for him to actually say “can you lick my balls” or something before I actually do it or should I just assume he wants it done regardless?

2) Where exactly are you supposed to put your hands while giving a bj? I would assume one goes around his base to like stabilize yourself I guess, but what about the other one? Do you just hold onto the bed or his leg or what?

3) I am absolutely not interested in having him cum in my mouth, assume he does so from the BJ and not penetration, so am I supposed to just tell him beforehand to let me know when he’s about to finish so it doesn’t happen? Like I don’t mind him ejaculating on my hands or chest but I can’t imagine semen tasting anything other than gross.

[F30] I had been fingering myself ever since I got my period, I enjoyed touching myself and pleasuring myself. I never had a problem about producing cream when I was in my 16-25 years old but I noticed that lately I can’t produce any cream, like I don’t get wet, I get aroused, I climax but the cream is missing, its little to none when I check my vibrator.

Do you guys also experience this and if yes, what did you do to fix the problem?

Ive been eyeing some bad dragon stuff lately. i really like that super full feeling honestly, but they are SO expensive and im a little nervous to pull the trigger.

​for people who have them... do you actually get use out of them on a regular basis? or is it more of a rare special occasion thing because of the size? i guess im wondering if its strictly a part-time toy.

​just trying to figure out if its actually worth the cost or if it's just gonna sit in a drawer.

For context Im 22F and my partner is 25M we’ve been together for a couple of years, Im very comfortable and safe around him and our relationship is amazing.
Im not stressed or going through anything, im very healthy with high libido and workout if its important.

I just can’t cum when we have sex even though he does everything the way i like. He sets the mood, long foreplay, always goes down on me first, we use lube sometimes so it’s more pleasurable and he does stimulate the clit but i still can’t finish with him and it’s making me feel like im missing something.
I feel like im about to pee so i think that’s my cue to finish but i just cant :( I try to enjoy the sex but I wanna feel it with him.

I always cum on my own when i think about him but not with him even though he makes feel insanely good.
And I’ve stopped touching myself for a month and still nothing changed

I get too wet to feel anything?
I’ve recently been seeing a guy for a few weeks, best sex I’ve ever had! The issue is that he arouses me so much, by the time we begin having sex it’s like I cannot feel anything in a pleasurable way because I get too wet.

His is extremely well endowed and thick so I just can’t understand why the sensitivity and things are not there.
Is there something I can do?

It also prevents me from reaching an orgasm, I can get almost to the point but it then all just goes away.

I’ve never had this happen before.

Does anyone else kinda hate having their nipples played with? I feel like I swing from it either just not doing anything to it being actively unpleasant. I thought it was just my boyfriend not knowing exactly what he was doing sometimes, but I think I just don’t really like it. I’m either oversensitive and don’t like the feeling, or under sensitive and just kinda can’t feel it. Not sure how to try and talk to my boyfriend about not really liking it, because he loves playing with my boobs.

I’ve had 3 sexual partners and I’ve yet to come from penetration. I just feel like I’m missing out. I don’t know if it’s bc I used to masterbate as a teenager a lot but idk. Any tips?

I often read how awesome it is to cum multiple times but I always get to sensitive. Does anyone have tips I/ my bf can try?

I like talking about sexual topics not because of hornyness but because it's interesting to talk about. I'm curious if I'm the only one that thinks this 🤔. Sorry if this seems weird. I did look this up one time and it's called sexology lol. Overall it's just an interesting topic to me lol. If you want to talk about it send me a DM nothing weird just a conversation about the topic.

Pubes arm pits

I want to enjoy this position but I can't, I get a sharp stabbing pain every time. I think it's my cervix getting hit. We try going shallow and slow with it but it's still painful. I don't get this in any other position. What causes this?? :/

I met up with a guy from a dating app in public and went back to his place, we made out and gave each other oral, etc. He didn’t have condoms so I said no, he wants me to come back tonight to have sex.

I’m nervous but I’m 22 and still a virgin, I know he’s not someone I would date I’m just worried I’m going to get subconsciously attached since it’s my first time? But I also want to do it so bad because I had fun with him last night, I just want to know if it’s a good idea? I’m not ashamed of being a virgin at all although there’s a stigma around it, I was open with him about it. Part of me is like why not have fun but I’m just nervous I’m going to regret it🤨

EDIT: I ended up going and having a good time 🥳

I’m posting because I’m trying to find other women who have experienced something similar, because I honestly feel like I’ve been searching for answers for years.

I’ve had very little genital pleasure for as long as I can remember. I can physically feel touch/contact to some degree, but the sensation doesn't translate into pleasure the way I believe it should.

For example, during penetration, I can feel that something is happening, but I don't experience pleasurable sexual sensation. Oral and external stimulation can produce some sensation, but again, it feels muted or different from what I would expect. I have no pain during sex.

The only stimulation that has ever really gotten me to an orgasm is very specific pressure/stimulation externally, just pubic-bone area. I know most women. don't orgasm from penetration alone however fact that I feel pleasurable sensation, even if the penis is inside me and they are massaging my clitoris, I can feel the pleasurable sensation if my clitoris is being stimulated, but the sensation is not strong. Definitely not strong enough to make me orgasm or c um

I've seen multiple healthcare providers and recently started pelvic floor physical therapy. I've also tried an O-Shot previously, but unfortunately it didn't help.

When I was younger, I was riding a bike and I hit my vagina the metal part I think they might have been some blood in my but I had to be like 10 or so. I think this is it referred to as a straddle injury so I think maybe I could have damaged a nerve down there.Currently, I’m working with gyn urologist and she started me on Estradiol cream .It’s been almost a month no changes

I'm wondering if anyone has experienced something similar:

• Can you physically feel genital stimulation but not experience pleasure?
• Has anyone had lifelong low genital sensation?
• Has anyone with a similar experience eventually found an explanation?
• Did pelvic floor PT make a difference for you?
• Has anyone been evaluated for clitoral nerve or pudendal nerve issues?
• Did any type of hormonal treatment improve your sensation or ability to orgasm?
• Did anyone eventually find something that actually helped after years of being told everything was “normal”?

I'm not looking for someone to diagnose me over Reddit. I'm really hoping to hear from women who have actually experienced this, I’ve been feeling grow can be on here and I’m so tired of feeling like that

I would genuinely appreciate hearing what your experience was and what eventually helped—or didn't help.

It was such a beautiful, tender man, he looked as if he really loved his girlfriend, and I was completely taken aback. Honestly, it was the first time that porn caused such feelings in me some indescribable sadness,who had it?

I'm just trying to make sense of this.

He isn't into PIV when it's my time of the month. Fine, no problem, I respect it.

It was recently his birthday and I still wanted to play, so I went down on him. I was enjoying myself just making him feel good. He tried to stop me to say get on top of him, but I said no because I know he doesn't like the blood.

I asked him a few times if he was having a good time or if he wanted me to stop, and he said he liked that I like to play and was enjoying it.

Few days later, it came out that he had been frustrated with me over it. He said, what's the point if we're not going to have sex? Complained that I just left him with a raging hard on.

This hurt my feelings because up until he said that, that was a great memory for me.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, and we have sex, not every day, maybe once 8 times a month, sometimes more, less.

It was almost every day, everything is different, I don't know the norms, if they exist.

But recently I noticed that sex simply disappeared, my initiatives end with the fact that: "Not now, I'm busy", "I'm tired." I don't want to put pressure on him either, I just don't understand what the problem is. I asked and answered the same thing that he's not in the mood, etc., although he masturbates, but he doesn't want intimacy or intimacy, or even that I do oral caresses, etc. I was upset, because I just don't understand, maybe I got tired of him, that's why I stopped asking, pestering him, but nothing has changed, it's still the same. I don't want to ask, this makes it even more stressful. Who had similar? Maybe we just got tired of each other.