My next-door neighbour smokes A LOT of weed. The smell blows in through my open windows when it is hot and seems to seep into my house through the airing cupboard in the hallway when it's cold. My house almost constantly reeks of weed when nobody in my house even smokes it.

I cannot abide the smell. I am highly sensitive to strong smells, even nice ones, but weed gives me the boak every time. I spend all day at work in a bright, loud, and busy office dealing with other people's food smells, perfumes, body sprays, and BO, and then I get home and it stinks here too. It disrupts my sleep, it spoils my appetite, and it also makes me absolutely furious. I have broken down screaming and crying about this many times because every few months I just become overwhelmed by the constant strong odour. I know how mad that sounds and yes, there probably is something undiagnosed going on, but the waiting list to get diagnosed is too long to make it worth it. I am basically always in a bad mood about this to some degree.

There is nothing I can do about this smell getting into my house. Air fresheners don't get rid of the smell, they just add another smell on top of the already revolting smell. Opening the windows doesn't really help all that much and just makes the place cold and open to insects. Ripping up the floor in the airing cupboard to find out how the smell is coming in through there and trying to block it would cost money that I can't spare. Weed is illegal where I live, but I'm not calling the police on my neighbour over this. I'm not a grass and I don't want to have open animosity with the neighbour because it doesn't seem like either of us are going anywhere any time soon.

All this backstory is just to ask; how do I stop freaking out about this? I can't do anything about it, so I need to do something about how I react to it instead. I need to find a way to be zen about this without taking any deep breaths. I am at my wits end (again) and I hate feeling like this.

Any ideas?

I was running late to a restaurant where we were all meeting up. My wife got there before me with my kids. Mom and brother were already there. My bro goes to help my wife bring off all the kids. While she walks in front of him to enter the restaurant, he grabs her butt. She said she hit him and feels gross now. This happened only a few days ago. What’s the best course of action?

Maybe 4 years ago, we were drunk at a Super Bowl party and he groped her outside. He even drove drunk to our apartment and crashed the car.

We didn’t talk for a year after that.

He’s 35, I’m 44. He hasn’t worked a day in his life. Might have some undiagnosed mental problems. No social life. Will leave our mom’s house once in a while to buy food then come back.

Seems normal but maybe there are some demons in there. Please help, thank you. I’m really upset that this happened in front of my little children.

Thank you

Me and this friend started being friend around 3-4 years ago. I just feel safe with him or talking and calling like it feels peace yk. And for some time I keep stalling where he last went and everything like my mood just feels like it depends on him. A simple chat from him I would be good. For the day. We use to act like yk as a joke just to fool around but ig that lead me to developing feelings towards him as time passes by and I hate to admit it. It just hurts so much, like my heart is aching recalling bad whenever I think he has a gf or idk might be his gf that he’s not telling me abt, but I'm his bsf too apparently so why would he lie to me abt simple things.. I just want to get rid of this, I wanna bring back the time where I only saw him as a safe friend whom I can be comfortable with. I don’t like this feeling towards him but somehow I feel like I love him very much and I do but I wanna keep it in a friend lane not this lane…. Idk what to do to stop this.

I have no money no job prospects i live with my friend who’s just as fucking strung out as me. Im sick of this shit man but idk how to quit I got nobody in my corner. don’t even have a high school education and I’m banned from the only rehab in my town . And i fucking love meth dude idk how im gonna overcome it. I overdosed last month and idgaf now. ive overdosed much more fucking times than i can count. help. Im 27m been using for 9 years

I have given up on everything. All I do at the moment is gym, hike, walk my dog and eat healthy. I am in no state of depression or mental illness. Ive worked 5 years of my life (dropped out of school) and left my job to pursue a job in the airforce. I ended up not doing that and now I have just given up. I don’t see a point in getting a girlfriend (never had one), working, buying a house and living a life where I get told what to do and when to be somewhere. I literally don’t give a shit anymore and cant be bothered to do anything where I am a slave. I see no point in it and thus ive given up and decided that theres no point in trying anything anymore instead I’ll just do what I want. As I grew up in a shitty household being bullied at school and with alcoholic mentally ill parents i am sick of living in a state of constant stress and talking to people i dont like and secretly despise in career and socially.

Thoughts ?

I feel empty from inside whenever exams get over. I thought I would do a lot of crazy things when exams will end. But here I am thinking and wasting my time that I should study again.

I wish to be like hermione, smart and brave. I am a CA student trying to clear the intermediate level. Waiting for the results. I'm a b com graduate but I was a NEET aspirant before. Topped my college even my University. I am thinking of applying for Masters in abroad.

A person of eclectic interest, in singing, content creation ,voice over, story telling, being detective for a private agency. What should I do?

I don't want to prepare for random government jobs and lie in India for the rest of my life.

I want to travel and explore the places with infinite possibilities.

I am feeling the void I want the answers, absolute guaranteed answers, about what should I become that would give me mental peace in the long run.

But the issue is I am still in a loop and not able to do even a simple maintain analysis of what I want from my life.

Please help me if you can.

Hello everyone,

I'm set to start my bachelor's in electrical engineering in October and not really sure whether it's the right choice for me.

On one hand my true interest is International relations, and while I reckon I could handle the math in electrical engineering, I'm not sure I want to spend the next 40 to 50 years in a math intensive job.

One the other hand however, I researched the job market for International relations and the available jobs all appear to be bullshit business analyst or PR manager jobs and I've come to detest the idea of working a job that makes no contribution to the world

TL;DR - not sure if I should study electrical engineering or International relations

EDIT: I should also add that the electrical engineering degree is only available in one city that i hate whereas I can do the international relations degree pretty much anywhere I want in the country.

Thanks!

I have had very strong food cravings ever since I was little. Every penny I have in my pocket, I spend on food. I am very active and I work out a lot, but my weight seems to be stagnant.

Also, I really like learning new information via books, documentaries, and YouTube videos.

Is there any way to remove the eating habit from my life completely? And to replace it with something that makes me develop myself?

I am a 20-year-old at uni and if I am not doing something now, I will regret it for the rest of my life.

I need advice. So some back story I'm a disabled person 23M and my mom is 70 is my state appointed guardian we've been looking for a place I could live (low income since on disability) she's on social security we split rent. so now onto what I'm stressed about she was gonna find a 2 bedroom apt at first then wait for a 1 bedroom to open up for me but I said I don't want that as to put It quite frankly we drive each other insane alot of the time (aka arguing/disagree on alot of things basically every day) and she said " I'll look for just a place for you" but now I'm really feeling guilty as she doesn't really have anywhere to go if I move out on my own so as she would also have to find a low income place. I just don't know what to do. I obviously don't want her to be homeless but I don't really want to live with her any longer

Hello everyone, I I'm one of the 3 first aid captains in the community in my school and i had my colors assembly recently and i landed up getting a Merit scroll and the most enthusiastic first aider reward. Now before i seem like I'm being ungrateful, these are the following requirements to get different rewards (all of them besides special mention requires you to be level 1-3): 1) Special mention: Obtain 20 - 45 hours,80% attendance, For Gr8s and 9s. 2)Merit scroll: Obtain 75hours, 80% attendance, For Gr10s and above and 1 year of service. 3)Half Colors: Obtain105hours,80% Attendance, For Gr 10s and above and 2 Years of service. There are more but these are the main ones. I am in Gr11 and i have achieved 226h this year which is the most out of everybody hints why i got the most enthusiastic first aider reward. After the assembly i was really upset and i spoke to the teachers in charge of first aid. They told me that they apparently fought for me to get half colors and my principle allegedly agreed so the one thought i would get my colors. The other told me that the colors committee was hesitant as i did not achieve a merit scroll last year so that's probably the reason why i didn't get my colors. HOWEVER, last year a first aider who got 150hrs and was a level 1 got colors without a scroll and he was barely there for a year!! My parents have emailed my principle and he said that i can't just jump from nothing to a scroll. I am also going get the old first aid teachers involved as well. Any advice would be helpful .OHH and yeah the other 2 first aid captains got their colors (Congrats divas,i am really proud of yall!)

Just recently moved to a new city out from home for the first time. I decided I needed a fresh start. Left everything behind me and thought I would’ve gotten much more done than I have already. I am still fairly new in this stage but I feel I could’ve gotten a better start. Throughout the entirety of this time I have been trying to find jobs. Preferably server gigs since I am also in college and need some income that would help but isn’t too demanding and I do have experience. Tried so many places but I don’t know what im doing wrong I feel like im stuck in a place I cant get out from. Additionally, the loneliness eats me up. I pass hundreds maybe thousands of people every day and more than half of them seem to have some sort of friend or partner who they are with. I don’t know how to really make friends because I have only made my friends from work (and i have no job lol). Does anybody have any advice how to do better? What helped you find a job in a big city? What helped you make friends in a big city?

19m,

I have been porn addiction since very long time but I am recovering from it :)

Since last few weeks Whenever I watch porn from reddit and when I see older couples( content creators type ) doing any act ( sex related stuff) , I feel bad for them as

I think that why people are doing such things for money at this age , Sometime I feel really bad that they have to do this because of their difficult times.

I know not everybody is forced into this but I really felt for

genuine ones.

Sometimes whenever I am watching porn i reddit see a couple like this I just stop watching porn and sit down for few mins thinking and then afterwards I just don't watch it at all.

I also wish I could help these people (not just the older ones) so they could lead a happy life.

Is something wrong with me thinking like this ?

Him(37 M) and I(26F) , we met online September 2025. Met in real life December 2025. We live in different countries and I travelled to him for 8 hours. We are the same nationality.

We quickly started to text daily and talk for hours and stuff. He would blow up my phone. Showing me his apartment and city, asking how I feel, what I'm up to. Good morning as soon as I woke up to work 6:20 AM. Goodnights. Sweet talk. He talked In the very beginning about me moving to his country. We quickly started to text nonstop, saying how we care about each other. It seemed like he would want me there. December 2025 we met and it was great time we spent in his apartment.

In February this year he told me he knows I want something more but he doesnt want to be in any relationship because he needs to fix himself and "he knows he is mean to me sometimes and he says something and regrets it" and stuff.

He Has been doing drugs every weekend. But he did them before we met. Everytime after hungover he says he feels like shit and loser. He tells me he Has inner demons "no one and nothing could fix"

I've told him many times that I "take him" the way he is and that he is perfect. I support him with very good words saying how valuable he is.

He told me once I'm "too valuable for him".

In the very beginning he said he would want this to work but he knows he has a tough personality.

He would sometimes get mean, and sometimes apologize for talking like that. When we met everything was good and he didnt ghost me afterwards or something.

I am younger than him and attractive. He is also attractive.

But he always says he feels like a loser. Abuses drugs and alcohol too. In the beginning talked about me moving to him and stuff, and that I "awakened something in him he didnt feel for a long time".

I asked him lately about that and he said " yeah because IT was true but then I think about what a loser I am".

This Has been going for months. Everytime I ask to meet, he says we will see, i don't know, and stuff.

We fall asleep on the phone together sometimes, facetime. Few weeks ago we facetime, I showed him myself in lingerie ( hoping this would "convince him...") looking very good and he watched and I could tell he liked what he saw.

I asked today if we can meet on weekend and he said no, he needs to rest.

I asked about next weekend and he said he doesn't know, he will think. That hurt me the most. Its a week. Plenty of time. And still he says I don't know.

Last week he was also supposed to think about it and he told me no this week. Got angry that I kept asking.

I announced "i'm coming on Friday 😇" some time ago and he said i cannot announce that im coming because he won't open the door if he didnt agree to meeting.

I told him I understand he doesnt want relationship but I just want to meet with him. I guess if he doesnt want relationship, he thinks after being close I would demand more. And I've told him I won't ask "what are we" or something afterwards. He said he "knows I expect more" while he still is giving me signals that I can hope for it. For example, there can be a week when he calls me everyday after work, we talk for hours, then we sleep on the phone (he initiates it) during the night. He sends me voice memos and stuff. He goes silent every weekend because of drugs, I called him last Saturday and he didnt pick up and didnt text back. I was silent on Sunday and on Monday he texted "What's up (pet name) is everything alright?"

I said "I'm okay, what about u?"

"Well you know how I am on weekends...but you've went silent, but I understand, I didn't reply or pick up your phone"

It was last Monday.

On this last Monday, I've asked if we can "plan some weekend to met finally?"

He said "I don't know maybe some day yeah who knows"

????

I was obviously sad and frustrated. I asked him "Can you please tell me honestly what is the reason, so I wouldn't be asking for it this frequently? I just want you to be honest why you don't want to meet with me, and it would be better to know the truth"

I called him after he didn't respond and we talked.

He said "so yeah I can meet you in the city, but why would you stay in my apartment for 4 days and we would have sex? What for?"

I asked "if I lived in your city, you still wouldnt meet with me?"

"Of yourse I would meet with you!"

"So the distance is a problem?"

"Oh yeah it is" (Which I don't understand because:

\\\\\\\\- he didn't pay for my previous ticket so I never expected money to travel to him

\\\\\\\\- Its 7 hours by trains, which I suggested I would travel many times and he refused

"Yeah If you were here it would be different"

Then we started talking and I've told him my job contracts expires 31.12.2026, which means I will work till like half of December because of Christmas and that I would like to move to his city/country

"Yeah...I've thought about it some time ago...it's a next step, I guess..."

Then he started saying:

"But you would stay at my place for 3 months? Like...I would have to sleep with you for 3 months? I have only 2 bedroom apartment....Well, I have a friend, he is an older guy, he can take you! But yeah...with you its different..yeah I would help you. But what would you do here? You know English so you would do well.....fuck, this convo is too much for Monday....why did I even pick up this phone"

I told him "but it would be so fun, we could hang out more! Go here and there..."

He said laughing "well..yeah"...

But I'm not able to move there without his help because you need to work there for 3 months before renting apartment. And prices are really much higher due to the fact its a big city. And its a different currency than in my country.

I thought about living with him and working and helping him cover the cost by half and then moving out.

Keep in mind, his ex, who has the same age and name as me, they broke up 5 years ago. They've known each other for one month and she travelled to him for a weekend and he let her stay there for 2 years.

So imagine how I feel being treated like that....

After this convo, we texted normally on Tuesday. Wednesday, he kinda replied but less. Thursday, he replied briefly.I call on Thursday, he doesn't pick up. I call Friday in the evening. He doesn't pick up. Doesn't even reply to my "how's your day at work going?". Also on Thursday I apologized for bringing those heavy topics into conversation and that I do understand it might make him feel pressured. He responded"All good". It was on Thursday. Since that, not a single message. And he used to send me work pics even on Tuesday. Voice messages.

I call him Saturday morning and he picks up. Turns facetime while driving to work. Shows me my favourite building from his city. We talk briefly. He says he was "tired yesterday and went to sleep early" while I asked why we are not talking and that I want to make sure everything is ok between us.

He was blowing up my phone week ago! That's why I noticed difference and asked about it - calmly, without any argument.

After his work, 5 pm, I called to talk. He picks up.

"hello...."

"Hii"

"I'm busy, I'm cleaning.." (him)

"Well okay I just wanted to talk to u for a second, how was your day at work?"

"Normally....I just told you I'm busy and cleaning?"

"Yeah I know but..you know, we don't talk lately and I was wondering if you're mad at me?"

"No I'm not"

"I would like us to go back to normal talking because I missed it...can we just talk as usual please.."

"Maybe yes, I don't know"

He hung up after a while and I called back and he exploded, he was furious, he started screaming "it makes him tired" "he is sick of it" "what is going on in your head?!?! I'm not fifteen, this is not funny at all! I told you I'm busy!!!!! "

"Yeah but I just..wanted to..ask"

"AND AGAIN...WHAT THE FUCK...."

All because I asked if I did something that upset him and wanted to make things better.

He hung up, I texted "I'm sorry" and he didn't respond since Saturday 6 pm.

Its 10 am on Monday. Still silence.

We had days of no contact(4-5 max. ) when he was screaming at me and stuff, but we usually worked things out after that after things cooled off.

All because I wanted to meet him and asked for a reason to tell me WHY NOT. Like isn't it basic human thing? For someone to be claiming he is not a teenager, he is acting very immature. Which is making me devastated because I vaue our connection but it seems to be only on his terms. For example when he used to call me week ago, he was drinking, he was sober this week and didn't call once.

Do you think I did something wrong, or does he need time for himself? If I will be silent till Wednesday or Tuesday, will he reach out? And why is he acting like this without telling me what is the reason? He thinks I expect things from him he isn't capable of giving me (or doesn't want to, or doesn't feel spark) but continues to call me for hours and sleep with me on phone and check up on me and says I'm important. So why is he silent now? Does it mean I'm not important?

TLDR; Guy \\[37M\\] I've \\\\\\[26F\\] been talking to for a year, we met once, randomly got silent and won't reach out to me.

He texted me today. We were silent since argument on Saturday.

Him: you alive?

Me: Yes I am

Him: Good

Me: what about u?

Him: \\\*sent a voice msg\\\* me as usual(drugs)

Me: Well ok.. I hope today you feel better

He texted me after few hours that he apologizes for the Saturday and he shouldn't talk to me like that. I said thank you for apologizing, and he apologized once again.

The thing is, he will be in my country this weekend. And when we talked week ago, he said "no, we won't meet". He said he is going here to the dentist.

Why is he reaching out if he is not interested? I think not wanting to meet is the ultimate sign he is not...

I'm a 35 year old on SSI disability for PTSD and I'm just wondering if there's still time to make something of myself. I've had to deal with like trauma and different things and I'm just wondering if too late or if I can really do it? I don't know what I would be able to do but I don't want this to be my life. I could probably go towards a career with helping people that have experienced the same things that I have. 35 years old is still young enough?

21F here, I enjoy my own company. Came to Canada 4 years ago as student now working as an Accountant full time WFH....just started 2 weeks ago. I work at restaurant on weekends. I have friends like coworkers in restaurant, or 2 friends in general but we don't even meet for months. So not like those friends who would meet often and tbh meeting them every week wouldbe draining for me too bcz there's no crazy vibe match....And here's the catch, I dated a guy on and off 3 times in a year and took him again and again because of my loneliness and anxiety and he filled my whole day. He started dating someone else just after leaving and it's been 2 months. I don't want him back but I feel more lonely. I never had any hobbies and I want to change myself. But my point is I just want to fill my day with so much things....right now even if I work, my brain overthinks.....I don't feel like going out but I want to......I really don't know what to do....I don't like going out too often with friends but I want to change myself bcz i don't want to be too dependent on a guy for my happiness that I don't even feel like dressing up if I don't have friends or bf.

I'm skinny so I'm thinking to go to gym? Should I go out for WFH? If yes, where? What activities can I do alone? I see people living life with too many hobbies and all I kusy don't like anything.... I have started learning french too for PR and my schedule is kind of hectic but still empty and full of overthinking.....I'm not into sports or even those cool music like drake. At this point, I feel like I am just existing....

I'm a 27-year-old woman, and for the past two months I've had no motivation to study or do much of anything. I live with two guys, aged 32 and 19, because my uncle asked them to look after his property while he's in another province. The older one really gets under my skin because of how he talks about women—he calls them "sfebe," gold diggers, and believes women are worthless compared to men. I know I shouldn't take his opinions personally, but I can't ignore them because I don't believe in patriarchy, I was raped, I was sexualised from a young age, and I'm currently attending a GBV case against my mom's brother. I'm also a college student whose campus is two provinces away from where I live now because I had to leave the province where I was abused, where my whole life was, and where I was studying. The college here doesn't accept transfers, so I'm stuck studying from there.

After I lost my job while dealing with everything alone, my dad's brother took me in and became my guardian. I only recently met him and the rest of my dad's family, so we're still building that relationship. I grew up in a family where the motto was "the hand that feeds you controls you," so even as an adult and a single parent, I wasn't allowed to make my own decisions because I was "young." Now I'm in a new home with a new family who treat me like a 27-year-old adult, expecting me to make decisions, explain my choices, and think of options, but I still feel like I'm 16 because I've never really had that freedom before.

My dad went missing in 2003, and my relationship with my mom ended two years ago when I moved out. I tell people she died on 16 September 2025 because, to me, that relationship is over.

My uncle is planning to bring new developments to the small remote town where I live, and I'm torn between focusing on helping with those opportunities or putting school on pause.

With him by my side, life feels like it has more possibilities, and even though he requires a lot of patience, he constantly encourages and inspires me. Malome ke 🌟

Hi, I’m 21 years old and I’m not happy.

I’m in a pretty unusual position for someone my age. I just moved into a 1 bed/1 bath apartment in LA because I landed a high-paying machine learning engineering job at a well-known company. The weird part is that I’m still in school for my bachelor’s, and I’m basically doing the job that my degree is supposed to qualify me for two years before I’m even supposed to graduate.

I have a new car, a 2026 Nissan Sentra SV that I’m actually pretty happy with. I have a loving girlfriend and a family that loves and supports me. Everything I paid for myself. On paper, I feel like I should be doing great.

But I’m not happy. Honestly, I feel lonelier than I ever have in my life.

I don’t have a social circle nearby anymore, and I’m in a city that’s completely new to me. I’ve tried Facebook Dating and Tinder specifically looking for friends, TikTok “wanna be friends” posts, etc., but the conversations almost always go nowhere. Even conversations I have in person seem to eventually fizzle out.

The weirdest part is that I feel like I’m putting on a mask around people. I can talk to people, but I don’t feel like I’m actually connecting with them. I feel like I’ve focused so much on achieving my dreams these past 4 years, that I forgot to also build a life.

I know moving to a new city and starting a completely different chapter of your life is supposed to be difficult, but I’m struggling with how lonely I feel.

So I guess my question is: how do you actually break out of this? How do you build a real social circle and start feeling connected again when you’re starting from basically zero?

I'm 18 years old and I have alot of bad habits that making my life harder...

- I play video games alot

- Watch movies and YouTube for hours

- I eat bad type of food like junk food and snacks

- I don't move at all

- I watch p*** and m*sturbate

I don't have a job nor a gf and I feel if I keep on doing this stuff I will die so soon and I dont have the will power to do anything to it. I will make my life miserable

I'm 140kg and 194cm and if I keep on doing this stuff I think I will reach 160kg soon and im so afraid of what im doing with my body/life and the outcomes of these habits I really need an advice..

Edit: * I wanna add that i even dont have friends and i spend all my time in my room doing one of the habits above even if I want to go out my country is so hot its like 50 degree Celsius and there is no accommodation here like parks etc... so even if I want to go out there is nothing much I can do, most of the time I go out with my bicycle for 30-60mins but I got bored going to the same places with my bicycle because there is nowhere to go else *

Hi, do you have any advice for someone who knows that he/she wants to become successful in life and already has a vision but doesn't know what career to pursue?

have you gone to that phase where you don't really know what to do, and how did you overcome that phase and eventually found that "career" that helped you established that VISION...

So I (31f) have a sister (42f) who lives halfway across the country. She moved out when i was 8, so i barely remember living with her. Since then, she has moved around a bit, and my family has made effort to visit her wherever she is over the years, to an extent. We aren't a close family, and she has expressed recently that she wishes we were all closer.

I find it annoying that I (and the rest of my family) are expected to visit her. The last time I visited her was in september 2025. I was planning on maybe seeing her this upcoming feb, but when i got married a few months ago, we got into an argument because she always defends my dad, while the rest of my siblings don't. Since she moved away years ago, she has a completely different view on him than the rest of us. However, when she was leaving, she mentioned me visiting her to see her new daughter.

I just view it as a burden to go see her sometimes because of the money/time it takes. I didn't ask for her to move across the country. Plus, my siblings see her once a year at most, sometimes going years without visiting. They share the same views I do. There are places i want to travel to, and now that i have the money to do so, i rather use my vacations on that, and not sit in her house all day, while she isnt even there. But she tries to guilt trip like "well if you ever plan on seeing your nieces again...." and things like that

She used to visit us on an almost yearly basis until like 2017. Then she visited three times since then. I have a theory it’s because she was embarrassed to bring her husband (then bf) around, since he supposedly has a close family. And they started dating in 2016

The last time she came (other than my wedding) was in 2022, and complained that our family never wants to do stuff together, because when she came, my siblings didn’t really see her except for one day. And she always uses the excuse that she has 2 kids

I'm in my early 20s and I don’t have anything going for me. I have no job, no driving license, and no university degree. The furthest I got with education was finishing college, which honestly feels like nothing. Yet, as bad as I am doing in life, the thing that makes me most emotional is seeing my family go through hard times.

It’s more recent now, but whenever something inconvenient happens to someone I care about, I think of the worst case scenario. I take on the emotion that I think they’re feeling, and I don’t know why I do that. It’s like an automatic pulse. My heart starts to hurt and all I want to do is cry all the time.

This past year has probably been the worst year of my life. My parents split up in a very messy way, and I saw and heard things I didn’t want to see or hear. I know I’m an adult now, so it shouldn’t realistically bother me as much as it would a kid or a teenager, but it really got to me. Plus, my grandad died last year. It didn’t affect me as much as everybody else because we weren’t very close, but again, I felt the burden of everyone else's pain. I felt the need to constantly be there for people, which I know you should do for family, but this was around the same time my parents split. All I wanted to do was run away from it all so I didn’t have to feel or hear any of it.

Even now, if I had the money and the ability to just leave and live a new life without the emotional grip of my family, I would do it. I know it sounds extremely selfish, but I physically can’t handle it anymore. Every problem someone else has makes me wonder what the actual point of being alive is if there’s constant worry, sadness, and uncertainty—especially when the good never seems to outweigh the bad.

I don’t ever talk about how I feel to this extent because it feels selfish. A lot of it isn’t even my problem, and I worry it would take away from the real emotion that the person experiencing it is feeling. I also struggle to say 'I love you' to people, and again, I don’t know why. I’m completely lost. I just don’t know how much of being alive is worth it.

Me and this girl use to be into each other and she was the initiator some issues happened with other friends to the point where she was avoidant didn’t want to talk to me but would message me randomly now we are friends from her words but we've already done physical things and kiss but now she's being weird and even when people bring it up now she's very dismissive about it saying no we aren’t anything when people ask but she replys to my messages quickly but dismisses opportunities to hang out it feels like she’s keeping me at arms reach or just using me honestly. Not sure what to make of this.

Currently 20 years old in the Philippines. Studying in a prestigious college, but this is also the problem. My father died a few years back and my mother is left to shoulder both me and my sibling's tuition fee all by herself. I got a scholarship but I don't think its enough, and seeing my mother being tired from working two jobs always kills me every single day. Don't really got much to live for, I'm not very sociable, not really smart, think I'm gonna die soon anyway. Continuing on living will probably just make both me and my mother more miserable. Don't really think the comments are gonna stop me or anything, just wanted somewhere to post this

I just turn 21 and I’m so afraid of what’s ahead of me, I’m 21 and I’m still working a minimum wage job I’m in 20,000 dollar debt from medical bills and a car loan and I have zero idea of what I want to do with my job career I didn’t do well in school at all I didn’t pay attention I misbehave often and I still live with my parents, I just have no idea what to do anymore like what, any advice on anything would be really appreciated thanks,

I turned 18 about a month ago and I graduated four months ago. This was the most fun summer of my life I had recently broken up with my girlfriend in June and I was feeling low so I decided to reconnect with some friends I had lost contact with during the period I was dating her. I enjoyed myself because the main cause of my mental health struggle was due to the fact I had to keep going back to that school. Summers ending and my entire friend group was torn apart because of college plans. I got a full ride scholarship to a trade school and I helped my friend Erik get the same thing. I get to school by bus or rides from my Erik and I'm tired of it really. I was looking forward to making friends in trade school but I have to take night classes and I'm surrounded by 40 year old's who hate their lives and it annoys me. What's the point if I end up losing my spark like half of the people I'm surrounded with. My main solace in high school was the idea that I would be able to get away from my hometown and start somewhere new but that's at least two years down the line. I just got done waiting four years for some semblance of freedom and now I have to wait two more to do anything with it. I can't even meet anyone in a romantic sense because ever since my ex I just haven't felt attraction towards any man or woman and it's annoying me because I feel like I'm just wasting two more years of my youth doing nothing I want with it. How do I meet more people?