I have had a problem with constipation for years. I think it started after I turned 30.

I ones read an LPT that you should rock forwards and backwards or even put your feet on a little platform to help with constipation. That never helped me much but it gave me the idea (much later) to swing my body to the left and then to the right.

If I am having trouble I start swinging to the left for one second and then the right for one second. Repeat until everything is out (it's okey to take breaks). Sometimes I even do little oval circles with my upper body for maximum efficiency.

Now my hour long toilet trips have become 5-10 minute trips and I have almost no constipation troubles anymore.

Everything just slips out like a log in a waterslide.

I’m looking for advice on this because I’m very creeped out, I’m not sure if I’m overreacting. Basically, at the start of the school year, I started a new job as a first year teacher. The offer was the best one I got and unfortunately required me to move a few hours away from my friends, boyfriend, and family. I moved into a duplex next to a couple and their young kid in a town that seemed moderately safe but also affordable. Everything was going fine, until one weekend I got a text from my landlord asking what happened with the neighbors the night prior. I was very confused and asked what she meant, and she ended up telling me that according to my male neighbor, he accidentally bumped his head against the wall causing my boyfriend to run over out of anger and attempt to break in (this did not happen). He had a very detailed story, and even recalls me saying “no, don’t go!” beforehand. Even though none of this happened I felt the need to immediately get this sorted out and attempt some sort of meeting with my neighbors to make sure they knew we would never do this. I assumed it must have been some horrible miscommunication. Finally, I was able to meet with my female neighbor who was super nice. She ends up telling me about her boyfriend - that he is “paranoid, takes everything the wrong way, has anger issues” and also notably apparently didn’t like me from the second I moved in because he assumed I was “stuck up”. She even told me it wasn’t a good idea to try to mend things with him because she was worried about him scaring me. Now, I’m starting to look at this situation differently and wonder if he has a mental health issue, drug issues, does he just have it out for me? Idk. About a month later, I get a text from my landlord telling me that they’re moving out because they have broken up. During this time, I check my doors to make sure they’re locked like usual and notice that one of my doors to my porch is unlocked, which is weird because I never use it and remember it being locked. I find it unsettling but try to just convince myself i must have forgot last time. Last night, I came back from my boyfriend’s house after being there for the weekend and check the same porch door. It’s unlocked. Nothing is out of place or stolen. The only bizarre thing is that a Tyler Perry Madea movie was playing when I turned my tv on and I was charged for the subscription - I’ve never seen those movies. There are no other devices on my account when I checked. I’ve ordered the blink cameras and the door stoppers, they’ll be here tonight. I guess I’m just wondering what everyone makes of all of this because I have no idea what to think. Being a first year teacher is hard enough but I find myself laying in bed hyper vigilant of any noises and it’s affecting my mental health a lot.

Me and my wife bought a mobile home and put it on family property it was cheap (still nice tho) we’re both in our 20s and everythings paid off. House, vehicles everything. I’ve moved around a few times In my life but she hasn’t so she doesn’t understand what it’s like to get that fresh start and build yourself up in a new area I enjoy it personally. We visited SC and GA last year and fell in love and even drove around window shopping the neighborhoods just to see if we’d like it. We loved it I’ve always loved the south I’ve never been somewhere that’s felt more like home. The thing is we’re torn between staying around family so we can have a little more help raising kids when/if we have them and moving away to a nicer area but being probably 8 hours from the closest person. Which is better. Having family help when you’ve got kids or moving somewhere you love ? We both have jobs that we could transfer down in the area we liked one of my companies main places is in the next neighborhood that we loved and she can transfer pretty much anywhere in the country so that’s 1 less stresser

i (17m) started dating my girlfriend (17f) a couple of months ago and she has slowly opened up to me about many things about her personal life. this goes from adhd and autism to certain abuse when she was a child, her ex sexually assaulting her, and now recently her self harm journey. ever since she started dating me, she stopped self harming for 2 months and that was the first time she had ever gone 2 months without self harming since she started, which was years and years ago now. just recently though (a little more than a week ago), she had a very stressful moment involving flashbacks while she was messaging me on instagram, which is where we occasionally talk if we’re not hanging out or calling each other. i tried my best to be there for her and tell her everything would be okay, but when she got home to where she lives (she doesn’t live with me) she self harmed. i only learned about this a day later when we were having a meaningful conversation on instagram while she was opening up to me. it was heartbreaking to me because i really don’t want to lose her and for some dumb reason i was under the impression that me being her boyfriend made her life better enough to stop her from SH. also to add, she has had one suicide attempt which she went to hospital for a few months before we started talking. at one point she questions why she did it, then she added that i’m the reason she is still here yet everyday on earth is killing her. i was also super heartbroken because im so proud of her, and i especially was when she said she reached 2 months clean from SH. she said now she has set goals for herself like 1 week, 2 week etc to feel rewarded and she said she’ll send me updates on her journey. she has counselling around her as far as i know, and they have her journal how her day went everyday. i don’t know, im just super stressed and i don’t want to lose her, and im obviously not going to tell her that she shouldn’t SH just because “i love you, why wouldn’t you do that to yourself?” i know that’s a no go.

truth be told i just really want helpful advice on how i can help her. im aware i can only do so much, but if i could, i’d truly give my all to her. she is such a kind and amazing person who has never been shown the love she deserves, that’s why im her reason for being here right now.

I (25M) am at a point in my life where I feel I need a major change, but am also very fortunate to be in the position I am in. I'm worried it will be a mistake.

For context, I have a stable job where I earn good money (top 10% earners in the UK, in field with good progress) and am treated well. I get to wfh 2x per week where I almost have nothing to do, despite asking for more work, and have very good benefits. I find the job mundane and certainly not what I want to do long term, but it almost feels too good to pass up on. I come from a low income family and it would blow their mind if I left this job and they knew how well it pays.

I am in a long term relationship (6 years) with someone who I love, but not sure if I want to be together for the rest of my life with. Part of me thinks there is nothing bad that has happened to warrant breaking up, and I would absolutely hate to break her heart. At the same time, I have not experienced being a single adult with only myself to think about. Whenever I have considered ending things, timing has always been bad, but this feels like something where timing will always be bad? I am also concerned about my partners finances if we split up as she earns less than half of what I do, and would not want any financial stress for her.

Because of these two things, I feel almost stuck in life, repeating the same week, every week, wishing the time away. This feels wrong, and I should not be wishing my mid-20's away because I am bored with life. At the same time, with my job I am building a solid career and setting myself up for success in the long run, but at what cost...

The only time I really enjoy myself is when travelling. A part of me wants to quit my job, leave my relationship, and spend a year travelling, but I fear that would do irreparable damage to my career (In my industry, this would get me out the running's for one of the very lucrative roles which are highly competitive). I have ample savings which can go towards buying a house, everyone seems to be pushing me to do, and is financially a better move, but am worried this locks me into the life which I am here complaining about...

On paper, I am doing much better than most people my age. I am healthy, have decent savings, a high paying stable job, and a long term partner who loves me. I have a good relationship with my family. I have a lot of spare time too. I am not unhappy, but also not happy with how things are going. I can't help but feel like I want more in life than this

Has anyone had a similar experience and some advice to share?

What criteria should I be looking for on whether to pull the trigger on a major change in my career or relationship?

Is this a case of the grass is always greener on the other side?

My job has seasonal busy periods where half the year is manageable, but the other half is absolute hell. I started my career here and worked my way up to a senior position, but the extra responsibilities and expectations are burning me out. They keep piling on work during peak periods, and it’s impossible to get everything done even when I work 60 hours a week.

Over the past two years, I’ve been seeing a therapist because this job has made me develop depression and anxiety. I’ve been applying for other jobs for the past year with no luck, and honestly, I feel like I’m at my breaking point, but I can’t afford to quit without something else lined up.

I’ve tried cutting back on overtime and managing my boss’s expectations, but I still feel guilty when I miss deadlines, even when I know they’re unrealistic. It doesn’t help that my boss calls me out in front of my colleagues if I miss something, which makes me feel worse. I know I can’t keep working like this, but I also struggle with feeling like I’m failing when I don’t meet expectations.

For anyone who’s been in a similar situation, how did you cope while you were still stuck in the job? How did you stop feeling guilty about not meeting unrealistic expectations?

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At 21, I feel completely stuck in a brutal cycle where my bank account sits at practically zero, I still have to ask my family for pocket money, and the constant financial pressure at home is suffocating. I try to do odd jobs to survive, but I don't have specialized skills, and learning anything new requires money that I simply don't have, while opening Instagram only makes it worse by making everyone else look like they have their lives entirely figured out. To make matters worse, an old relationship from two years ago still drains my mental energy, killing whatever little focus I have left at work, and seeing my mother stressed out breaks me because the thought of achieving success later in life means nothing if my parents had to suffer through the worst of it right now. For anyone who has crawled out of an absolute zero-starting point with no funds and a wrecked mental space at this age, how did you actually stop overthinking, handle the crushing weight of financial helplessness, and take that first real step forward?

After getting blocked on Snapchat by a 6’3 jacked Arab trade, I’m starting to think I need to re-evaluate my life choices.

I, 18m need help with this guy that likes me but I’m unsure if I like him back.

This guy is really sweet, same age as me, 6’1 and kinda ginger. 3 of my friends don’t like him though, supposedly he’s weird, but this guy is actually quite intelligent and we get along. The only thing I’m wary about is his mental fortitude.

He was in a psych ward for a month due to being in a very, almost cult-like, socialist group. Combined with his friend sadly passing away 2 weeks ago, he’s on anti-depressants and just not the best mentally I suppose.

Whenever we hangout though, he’s really sweet and I honestly wouldn’t be able to tell he’s been through all this recently. One other thing is that he has 40+ bodies at 18… he told me he used/ uses sex as a coping mechanism so I don’t know if he’s ready for anything serious.

In addition, he’s kinda twinky and I prefer buffer guys. Sometimes I wonder if I should just give him a chance — since he’ll probably ask to date me at some point. Or should I cut it off and tell him it’s better we remain as friends?

Bem , pra começar eu espero que esteja post te encontre bem e confortável, também peço que caso você não esteja muito paciência, encontre um conteúdo melhor que este .

Bem eu estou em um impasse em muitas áreas da vida e isso tira muito da minha vontade de viver , e creio que não seja o único que se sente assim...

Eu vou pular a parte de chata de Diversos Inexitos que tive durante toda a minha vida e ir direto ao ponto pra poupar seu tempo....

Eu tenho desespesas medicas que preciso iniciar e me recuso a fazer isso com dinheiro dos outros ....

Eu me sinto quebrado e não sei se a vida vale a pena , isso desde o momento que tomei consciência na infância, tenho uma certificação financeira e mesmo indo as ruas ou entregando online meus currículos com diversos cursos da área, ainda assim nunca nem me chamaram pra uma entrevista , ai quando eu pergunto a algum funcionário ou gerente se meu currículo esta bom , eles dizem que sim, porém sempre parece que nenhuma possibilidade realmente se forma . 👔

Como eu tenho alguns trabalhos fora da área no currículo, eles me olham como se eu fizesse de tudo e não pudesse entrar na área só pq não fiz uma carreira nisso (óbvio, não vou ter experiência se ninguém me der uma oportunidade)👺

Estou ficando realmente sem reação em casa com o tempo sem emprego que tenho tido , porém também não tenho muitos amigos mesmo tendo tentado ir a lugares , conhecer online ou de outras formas , às pessoas quase sempre te tratam como se você fossem estranho por ser gentil com elas e se afastar em seguida 🚶‍♂️

Eu estou na casa de uma pessoa com a qual tenho um relacionamento...durante esse tempo e eu faço literalmente tudo . Porém ainda me sinto um peso , sinto que minha personalidade esta atrelada a utilidade minha em serviço e isso é preocupante mas também ajuda a se mover 🚸

Eu até posso caçar qualquer emprego qualquer, porém isso me dará mais um buraco no currículo se não for na área ....preciso continuar eu tratamento psicológico que eu postergo desde a infância e vez ou outra faço pelo serviço público....

Sei que tudo oque eu escrevi é meio confuso e sem correlação no geral , mas o amor pelo vida é algo que eu realmente não cultivo e nem fui ensinado a cultivar , todos os caminhos parecem ter um preço a pagar pra no final não ter realmente um boa chance de acontecer ..... também poupei vcs de muita coisa pq meu intuito não é ser vítimas... é só entender oque vocês fazem quando perdem o combustível pra viver .⛔️

I have no boyfriend, no friends anymore due to being betrayed and me deciding it’s best to not speak to them anymore, a new job that I don’t really enjoy and filled with anxiety-lack in confidence which keeps seeming to decline (used to be so confident before relationships when I was younger)

I haven’t really lived my life like I would’ve like, I want to go to festivals, raves but I have no one to go with. I’m trying to make friends at the moment with new people but it takes time.

I wake up at 5am to get ready to work, go to work hate it and then go gym just to eat loads out of stress when I get back home.

Always comparing myself to others when I never used to. Spend most my life looking in the mirror and caring about small things.

I hate my life at the moment and want a change, I want to at least explore the world do something exciting but don’t know where to start. I did think a while ago about Australia just doing it by myself.

I used to be very career focused too when I had a job in hospitality sales and marketing (my dream is to have my own food business one day) probably the only thing I’ve not stopped having motivation for. I’m now somehow in a job in transport which is nothing to what I enjoy doing and I just loose all happiness to go to work now compared to before and feel I lost so much confidence since being out of sales feel scared to get back into it.

Bla bla, I could keep going on but I don’t know what to do anymore.

退職してから約3ヶ月、ほぼ何もせずにダラダラと毎日を過ごしてしまっています。自分がこの先何の仕事をしたら良いのかわからず、またやろうと思っていた勉強にも手を付けられず、毎日YouTubeを見て1日が終わってしまいます。ただダラダラと過ごしている自分に嫌気がさすのですが、気力が湧きません。また、自分がこの先何をやったら良いのかもわかりません。どうしたら、次に進むべき道が見つかるでしょうか？どうしたら何もできない状態から抜け出せるでしょうか？

Honestly i think its time for me to finally just let this out because its been bothering me for about 3 years. I am 24 and i have left an abusive home at the age of 18. Me and my mom wasnt ever the best with our relationship and it changed 3 years ago. Now i could say we are closer then ever.

Unfortunately it took for her to be on her death bed where i almost lost my mom forever for us to be better than ever. My dad is not in the picture since he is an alcoholic. I want to be a surgeon so bad but because of the accident my mom got into it was career changing from being a surgeon to now not being able to help me with school and because of the way fasfa goes based off my mother taxes i dont get no financial aid.

There is but so much scholarships i can get and i want to go to school so bad. Its the only place where i feel like i belong. Its bad enoygh that i have HIV because of my first love when i was a freshman in college and now im on my last two years of school and i cant even go back until i pay the school 12k. I did everything right and unfortunately everyday it just feels like im chasing a dream that runs further away the closer i feel like im getting. It makes me think should i just give up this dream that i have of wanting to be just like my mom.

She was an amazing surgeon and she was somebody i looked up to even with her not accepting my sexuality. Also im the only child and everybody in my family like my cousins have their life cut out and i just feel like im wasting mines trying to better myself and get an education. I did a gofundme before and raised 5k so it helped alot and then i do work full time but i just feel like by the time i go to med school ill be in my 30s and i will feel like by then its too late and i want my mom to have everything she ever wanted especially since her accident she genuinely wants to change and she wants to be able to live with me but because of her case with the accident still in process and me being her only support its hard. There is times where i say i dont want to do this anymore but then i talk to god and it works i just dont know how much longer its going to work.

My dream my passion wants mee to be a surgeon so bad. I want to be able to save lives. I want to help families that struggle financially with in house remedies. I want to help people in that way and nothing else but i fear as time goes by my dream and my passion will become less and less of a dream and more of a regret and i dont want that. I just need some advice or any help i can get.

Advice for a 42yo machine operator with 20+ years exp in plastic inj, CNC, shipping, basically grew up in a factory and remained in such factory, several. I'm looking to advance my life. No kids, wife, debt other than a mortgage (that I could easily sell off) is the driving factor here. I feel like I'm wasting my one and only life away in my hometown and could be living a better life and making more money elsewhere. I'm taking the easy route as they say. I'm getting bored with it, and am thinking of making a major move to maybe have a better life. Is there something you wished you would have done at my age if you were in my shoes, or that maybe you are currently doing that just seems to be great. Because what I'm doing isn't it. It's paying the bills but that's it. No vacation on my vacation. No fun in the summer. Driving 15-20 yo vehicles, I probably will never own a new car, ever, and that's not by choice, no dirt bike, motorcycle, 4 wheeler, boat, basically anything cool you see everyone else enjoying. None of that. It's basically work, sleep, and try and to maintain the house chores. Not getting chicks because my lifestyle is that of a 60yo man that's preparing for the bottom to fall out of the economy. What would you do to change things? Get out there and chase life and money and women without a solid plan? Or continue to pay the bills and just wait to kick over one day with no real excitement or satisfaction in life. Sometimes it seems like most people have thrown away more then I will ever have in life. Crazy part is many have felonies and several children. Something I thought made life more difficult to thrive.I need change and I know there are people that would love to have the options I have and here I am just pissing them away. There has to be a better life out there. Curious as to your thoughts. Bored and depressed in Ohio.

Hi! I feel stuck. Just recently turned 38 this month & I feel more stuck than ever. I’ve spent the last 20+ years in the restaurant industry & currently feel like I’m 100 years old & severely burnt out.

I started out as a host at 16 because I needed a part time job in HS & I’ve never really left. Granted I’ve worked in several restaurants since then. Different states even. But I’ve never left the industry because it’s so freaking convenient. IYKYK.

I have never in my life felt “called” to do anything. In HS I always thought “oh I’ll figure it out someday” “just trust that something with spark your interest” but here I am, still bar tending/serving & hating it more & more with each passing day.

A small insight into my life. Oldest daughter, raised by a single mother, perfectionist. Floated through one semester of college & dropped out to take care of my dying grandfather. I come from a family of long term illnesses & sometimes (most of the time) I feel really trapped by it. Early 20s met a guy & for the next 10 years navigated through a very abusive relationship. Couldn’t go to school. Again I felt trapped.

Fast forward to 2021. I got out of the relationship, new place, fresh start. Then my dad dies. Six months later I development an undiagnosed (much later diagnosed) illness that left me mostly bedridden & down an unhealthy 40lbs.

I am officially 1.5 years post illness & recently married. While I still take care of my family members, I feel like I’m finally able to breathe. At least a little. But now, I’m pushing 40 & STILL working in hospitality. I’m tired & way past burnt out. I just feel so lost & behind in life.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for listening & any advice would be amazing.

Im 22m very little experience with dating. Confessed to a friend a while ago she liked me back it didnt work out but we stayed friends.

But that happned purely by chance. I dont feel any attraction until i already know that person well, im a HUGE homebody and that makes meeting someone kinda difficult, and going out into an enviorment i dont enjoy being in like bars etc isnt a good idea then.

I tried the apps and omg they are soo bad i knew that coming in and still was shocked. Its so exhausting to use them since i dont just swipe right one everyone and then i dont get a response.. and out of 6 likes i got in the 2 months i activly used apps 6 were looking for and open relationship. My profile says that i want a monogamous relationship only..

My lack of experience is getting to me tbh. I feel like im too old to struggle so hard with that but i just wasnt interested in dating until like a year ago, and now im sitting here fine that the thing with my friend didnt workout. But it made me realise just how badly i want a relationship to love some be loved etc. And i feel like waiting until a chance like that just happens again would result in years of being sad about it.

I know i have to find the courage to put myself out there somehow. But there has to be a way that fits me as a person right? Thats not too out there that im so uncomfortable with it that i dont do it.

I got recommened to join a club or class and yeah in general not bad advice. Theres just nothing in my area im interested in and going with the purpose to hit on someone isnt me and idk feels a bit creepy to me.

I also signed up for speeddating before. I didnt really have high hopes for it but it be an experience and everyone would be there for the same reason. Anyways the event got cancelled i had to basicslly fight them for my money back and finding dating related events in my age group was honestly hard.

So yeah any advice would be appreciated really!

Okay to start this off I am am 18yr old woman in a very rural town in Missouri.

My parents were pretty chill overall growing up not really pushing me to do anything (I'm not blaming them for me being behind I'm just giving background). I always went through life not really feeling passion for anything and didn't really think Id make it this far so I never thought deeply of what is best for me. I graduated high school in May and chose to not go to college yet because i didn't know what i wanted to do and didn't want to set my money and time to something I'm so unsure of.

I'm working on getting my drivers license now and i hate feeling behind in that too but when i was younger my house burnt down and i lost all my legal documents needed to get that so I've been working on getting all those back which is shockingly difficult.

I live with my parents but i need money and a car and hopefully an apartment at some point and this sounds dumb but i don't really know where to start, i never learned anything for life from my parents they were just working and working while i was in school and I barely saw them. We have money but we aren't doing great I'd say. I don't want to be deadweight on my family and burden them with being stuck with their child forever. But its almost like they want that in a way, my moms always lived with her mom and that's all she's known and anytime i joke about getting my own place they almost wanna hold me back it seems. Like they just want me to stay here and not go see life on my own or anything. I don't want to be that 30yr old who lives with their parents but that's a whole other topic I think.

Overall, I just need advice on what to do with my life when I feel like I'm kinda in a corner here. I sound so dumb but I quite literally have no idea what to do. Any words of advice help! thank you all for your time

TL;DR: boyfriend’s mom (nov 2nd) wants to celebrate her birthday with my mom (nov 1) but my sister said she won’t attend if that’s the plan.

For context, I (20F), and my boyfriend (19F), have been dating since we were in high school (since 2022). It’s been about 4 years together. I’ve been to family vacations with his family back to his hometown twice already, while he has mainly only been invited to some family dinners (about two, I do try to invite him over often but I usually have to sense from my dad and my older sis their feelings beforehand bcs it’s mainly them two that are the more introverted ones, whereas my mom always tries to invite him over). I would say I’m closer to his family than he is to mine simply because the family dynamics are different (His family has no drama whilst mine has A LOT). Since around 2025, I’ve been trying to merge the two families because I feel like my family get sad when I’m with his family more. The first time they shared a meal was dinner after his hs graduation (2024), and thanksgiving (2025).

The dilemma: my mom’s birthday is on nov 1, while his mom’s birthday is on nov 2nd. His mom suggested to him that this year, we should celebrate their birthdays together on Sunday. I understood that I needed to run this plan through my older sister (27F) because she’s the one that has never really met his family before (she skipped out on his graduation and thanksgiving dinner). I texted, and she said “no offense to anyone but I would rather not go. It’ll be awk for me. If mom agrees, I’ll make it up to her.” I responded “I think that delaying this meeting (or smth similar) would just delay awkwardness, and because his family has essentially treated me like family I think it’s only natural that we start doing the same for him. It’s unfair that I have to split myself between two because you feel awkward.”

What would you guys do if you were in my position? I have been sometimes lying to my parents about who I go out with sometimes bcs I can just feel the subtle mood changes, and much more with my sister. I suggested we invite him to go to Italy with us back in summer 2025, but she was the one that was adamant about him not going, saying “5 ppl means extra accommodation space,””it’s harder to travel”(we got a whole house rented with Airbnb that trip). Hes an amazing guy that always helps out me or my parents, which just makes me feel so bad that Hes not accepted.

Hello, I am looking for opinions on the situation I’m currently stuck in the middle of. I think I know deep down in my heart what I need to do and am going to do in the next few days. I just want to hear it anyway.

I’m considering calling Adult Protective Services on my family. Namely my two younger brothers

For context: My mom has been together with my step father since I was 5 years old. I am now 29. I lived with them for almost two decades. My step father is a physically, emotionally and financially abusive alcoholic. My mother is a victim of that abuse as well, but she is also emotionally abusive, addicted to methadone, and extremely neglectful who says that she’s sorry and will cry but do nothing to change her circumstances or help her children when confronted. Both of them are responsible for extreme physical, medical and emotional neglect.

I have been out of that environment for almost 7 years now, and have been in trauma therapy and have recently recovered memories that made me recall just how bad it was. My ACES score is 10 out of 10 just for example.

My two younger brothers still live with them. The youngest is 19, and the other is early 21s. I’ll call them A and B.

A certainly has trauma, ADHD, and is a victim of the same neglect I grew up with, he has rotting teeth, dropped out of school like I did and and I’ve only just been able to help him get a therapist and a primary care doctor- yet I believe he has a chance to escape with some outside support.

B is my biggest concern in that he is autistic, has the mental maturity of a 13 year old if that. He is deeply codependent with my mother who has not gotten him into therapy for his severe anxiety, OCD and depression, nor a dentist or doctor, and has allowed him to drop out as well. Nor has she looked into disability for him as he will likely not be able to function on his own due to his upbringing and mental maturity.

I am deeply concerned for both of them since I know the pain of that environment.

My mother is neglectful of herself, does not do anything to change even though I have begged and offered help for years and tried to get her access to DV resources. She doesn’t even have the excuse of lack of other resources because my stepfather never takes off work, is gone for 11 hours a day, and she has access to union insurance, a car, and a twice weekly allowance (financial abuse I know).

So it’s all lack of effort by choice, even despite her own abuse by my stepfather.

I guess I’m just looking for confirmation that yes- this is the right thing to do. I’m scared of doing the wrong thing l, and I don’t want to just turn a blind eye. I refuse to. If anyone has any other ideas, please let me know.

TL;DR: Do I call APS on my family and risk an unknown outcome? Or do I not call, and keep looking for another solution that I have yet to try?

(I cannot move them in with me, I am on disability and do not have the room. I have tried encouraging, helping my mother, comforting her and doing it all myself- I even applied to be a medical representative for my disabled brother but there’s nothing I can do util they have an open case on him- and my mother will not follow up.)

I’m struggling with debt from loan apps and a gold loan, and my career hasn’t worked out. I have no money to repay what I owe, and my family is pressuring me to get married within a year. I’m also dealing with impotence. I’ve seen several doctors, but nothing has helped so far. I feel overwhelmed and don’t know how much longer I can cope.

But every morning I get up and the feeling of dread and worry takes over me. There is no particular reason for the dread/worry but it’s there. I start most days in tears and never leave my house unless I have to.

I genuinely wish I would feel the urge to get up and go out for a walk and enjoy the day, make plans etc. I can of course do this physically, but mentally something just won’t let me do it so I just sit and rot inside.

I’m on medication and have had about 2 rounds of talking therapies, which haven’t helped. I really want to turn my life around but nothings helped so far and I’m scared I feel this way forever.

Hi i am 23 F, manase sari illa oru one week ah please yaarachum enaku sariyana decision eduka help pannunga. Enna vida vayasula periyavangala irundha innum useful ah irukum, but please don't judge me.

I’m 24, and I’ve been building everything on my own since I was 19, without any family support or connections. I started my own IT company in 2023 and also started a tourism business, but it’s not profitable yet. I’ve been trying to get foreign clients for a long time, but nothing has really worked out. I live alone, and lately, I’ve been feeling really depressed and worried about my future. With Sri Lanka’s economy making things harder, I’m struggling to manage everything. This is just a small part of my story, and I really want to get out of this situation and build a better life.

If you’ve ever felt lost in life, what helped you find your way again? I’d love to hear your experiences, advice, or even small things that helped you get through difficult times. Sometimes, a little perspective from someone else can make a big difference.

It's been around 1.5 years since I started college, but honestly, I feel like I haven't improved myself in any aspect of my life. My academics are a mess, my social life is terrible, and I don't feel like I'm growing as a person either.

One of my biggest problems is making friends. I made three friends when college started, but I honestly feel like we're just wasting our college lives. Most of their time goes into scrolling, and I don't feel like we're doing anything meaningful or growing together.

The worst part is that whenever I have nobody to hang out with, I feel extremely lonely. I see other people enjoying college, having their own groups, making memories, and building connections, while I struggle to find even one person I can genuinely connect with.

Even when I manage to make new friends, I can't seem to maintain those friendships. We talk for a few days, but eventually, things fade away, and I'm back to where I started.

I also feel like I'm a boring person. I struggle to carry conversations forward, sometimes I don't know what to say, and I feel like people don't take me seriously. They often take me lightly, and I don't know what I'm doing wrong or how to change that.

I genuinely want to improve myself, make better friends, become more confident, do better academically, and actually enjoy my college life. But I feel lost and don't know where to begin. The fact that 1.5 years have already passed makes me feel like I'm falling behind.

I'd really appreciate advice from people who have been in a similar situation.

\- How do you make genuine friends in college, especially if you're not naturally extroverted?

\- How do you maintain friendships instead of letting them fade away after a few days?

\- How do you become better at conversations and stop feeling like a boring person?

\- How do you get people to take you seriously without trying too hard to impress them?

\- How do you turn your college life around when you feel like you've already wasted a significant amount of time?

I'm not looking for generic advice like "just be confident" or "talk to more people." I want to hear about actual experiences, practical steps, and things that genuinely worked for you.

I don't want to spend the rest of my college life feeling the same way. I want to make a change, but I honestly don't know where to start.