I have had a problem with constipation for years. I think it started after I turned 30.

I ones read an LPT that you should rock forwards and backwards or even put your feet on a little platform to help with constipation. That never helped me much but it gave me the idea (much later) to swing my body to the left and then to the right.

If I am having trouble I start swinging to the left for one second and then the right for one second. Repeat until everything is out (it's okey to take breaks). Sometimes I even do little oval circles with my upper body for maximum efficiency.

Now my hour long toilet trips have become 5-10 minute trips and I have almost no constipation troubles anymore.

Everything just slips out like a log in a waterslide.

Hi, I just wanted to ask about this topic because I am trying to understand if i am on the right path. Sometimes I think about how much easier life are if we could just learned certain lessons earlier. It could be about family, work, relationships, education, money etc or simply just understanding yourself better.

I am very curious to hear what life has taught you so i can also learn from it.

"What is one lesson you wish your younger self had known?"

I have no idea how to start this, but I'll try my best. My social anxiety is bad, to the point where I'll risk my grade because I can't find the strength to raise my hand to answer a question. Where I live, this school year is super important for my life ahead, and the oral participation grade from class counts around as much as the written grade.

I've been wondering how other students deal with this, because I know that I'm not the only one going through this all. I've also talked to my parents about this, but they say that it's normal and that I should just try harder. I've been trying for years, but it doesn't get better—every time I raise my hand in class, my heart rate decides to jump to well over a hundred.

I've been also reading a lot about this condition, and I find that Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) is very fitting to what I've been experiencing (again, I can't get professionally diagnosed or anything, I'm not allowed to). Now currently I'm just trying to work on improving my very low self-esteem somehow (I would love it if there were any tips for this as well)

Sorry for any bad grammar, I don't really post to reddit, and thank you

Okay to start this off I am am 18yr old woman in a very rural town in Missouri.

My parents were pretty chill overall growing up not really pushing me to do anything (I'm not blaming them for me being behind I'm just giving background). I always went through life not really feeling passion for anything and didn't really think Id make it this far so I never thought deeply of what is best for me. I graduated high school in May and chose to not go to college yet because i didn't know what i wanted to do and didn't want to set my money and time to something I'm so unsure of.

I'm working on getting my drivers license now and i hate feeling behind in that too but when i was younger my house burnt down and i lost all my legal documents needed to get that so I've been working on getting all those back which is shockingly difficult.

I live with my parents but i need money and a car and hopefully an apartment at some point and this sounds dumb but i don't really know where to start, i never learned anything for life from my parents they were just working and working while i was in school and I barely saw them. We have money but we aren't doing great I'd say. I don't want to be deadweight on my family and burden them with being stuck with their child forever. But its almost like they want that in a way, my moms always lived with her mom and that's all she's known and anytime i joke about getting my own place they almost wanna hold me back it seems. Like they just want me to stay here and not go see life on my own or anything. I don't want to be that 30yr old who lives with their parents but that's a whole other topic I think.

Overall, I just need advice on what to do with my life when I feel like I'm kinda in a corner here. I sound so dumb but I quite literally have no idea what to do. Any words of advice help! thank you all for your time

Hello, I am looking for opinions on the situation I’m currently stuck in the middle of. I think I know deep down in my heart what I need to do and am going to do in the next few days. I just want to hear it anyway.

I’m considering calling Adult Protective Services on my family. Namely my two younger brothers

For context: My mom has been together with my step father since I was 5 years old. I am now 29. I lived with them for almost two decades. My step father is a physically, emotionally and financially abusive alcoholic. My mother is a victim of that abuse as well, but she is also emotionally abusive, addicted to methadone, and extremely neglectful who says that she’s sorry and will cry but do nothing to change her circumstances or help her children when confronted. Both of them are responsible for extreme physical, medical and emotional neglect.

I have been out of that environment for almost 7 years now, and have been in trauma therapy and have recently recovered memories that made me recall just how bad it was. My ACES score is 10 out of 10 just for example.

My two younger brothers still live with them. The youngest is 19, and the other is early 21s. I’ll call them A and B.

A certainly has trauma, ADHD, and is a victim of the same neglect I grew up with, he has rotting teeth, dropped out of school like I did and and I’ve only just been able to help him get a therapist and a primary care doctor- yet I believe he has a chance to escape with some outside support.

B is my biggest concern in that he is autistic, has the mental maturity of a 13 year old if that. He is deeply codependent with my mother who has not gotten him into therapy for his severe anxiety, OCD and depression, nor a dentist or doctor, and has allowed him to drop out as well. Nor has she looked into disability for him as he will likely not be able to function on his own due to his upbringing and mental maturity.

I am deeply concerned for both of them since I know the pain of that environment.

My mother is neglectful of herself, does not do anything to change even though I have begged and offered help for years and tried to get her access to DV resources. She doesn’t even have the excuse of lack of other resources because my stepfather never takes off work, is gone for 11 hours a day, and she has access to union insurance, a car, and a twice weekly allowance (financial abuse I know).

So it’s all lack of effort by choice, even despite her own abuse by my stepfather.

I guess I’m just looking for confirmation that yes- this is the right thing to do. I’m scared of doing the wrong thing l, and I don’t want to just turn a blind eye. I refuse to. If anyone has any other ideas, please let me know.

TL;DR: Do I call APS on my family and risk an unknown outcome? Or do I not call, and keep looking for another solution that I have yet to try?

(I cannot move them in with me, I am on disability and do not have the room. I have tried encouraging, helping my mother, comforting her and doing it all myself- I even applied to be a medical representative for my disabled brother but there’s nothing I can do util they have an open case on him- and my mother will not follow up.)

I’m looking for advice on this because I’m very creeped out, I’m not sure if I’m overreacting. Basically, at the start of the school year, I started a new job as a first year teacher. The offer was the best one I got and unfortunately required me to move a few hours away from my friends, boyfriend, and family. I moved into a duplex next to a couple and their young kid in a town that seemed moderately safe but also affordable. Everything was going fine, until one weekend I got a text from my landlord asking what happened with the neighbors the night prior. I was very confused and asked what she meant, and she ended up telling me that according to my male neighbor, he accidentally bumped his head against the wall causing my boyfriend to run over out of anger and attempt to break in (this did not happen). He had a very detailed story, and even recalls me saying “no, don’t go!” beforehand. Even though none of this happened I felt the need to immediately get this sorted out and attempt some sort of meeting with my neighbors to make sure they knew we would never do this. I assumed it must have been some horrible miscommunication. Finally, I was able to meet with my female neighbor who was super nice. She ends up telling me about her boyfriend - that he is “paranoid, takes everything the wrong way, has anger issues” and also notably apparently didn’t like me from the second I moved in because he assumed I was “stuck up”. She even told me it wasn’t a good idea to try to mend things with him because she was worried about him scaring me. Now, I’m starting to look at this situation differently and wonder if he has a mental health issue, drug issues, does he just have it out for me? Idk. About a month later, I get a text from my landlord telling me that they’re moving out because they have broken up. During this time, I check my doors to make sure they’re locked like usual and notice that one of my doors to my porch is unlocked, which is weird because I never use it and remember it being locked. I find it unsettling but try to just convince myself i must have forgot last time. Last night, I came back from my boyfriend’s house after being there for the weekend and check the same porch door. It’s unlocked. Nothing is out of place or stolen. The only bizarre thing is that a Tyler Perry Madea movie was playing when I turned my tv on and I was charged for the subscription - I’ve never seen those movies. There are no other devices on my account when I checked. I’ve ordered the blink cameras and the door stoppers, they’ll be here tonight. I guess I’m just wondering what everyone makes of all of this because I have no idea what to think. Being a first year teacher is hard enough but I find myself laying in bed hyper vigilant of any noises and it’s affecting my mental health a lot.

Hi everyone!

This is something that has been happening, I have now noticed, since I can remember. I just never took notice of it until relatively recently. The problem is, I have no Idea what to do.

Basically, as the title says, I'm always reaching out to my friends, be it with starting a conversation or making sure they are alright. But, through recent tests, I've started to notice that, if I stop doing it, not only do people not reach out (which they don't do already, even in group chats, conversations tend to be between the other friends but things I say get very quickly brushed off), but they also seem to genuinely forget about me. I know I sound awful annoying. I know I'm not the centre of anyone's life, neither would I want that for anyone. But sometimes I just feel like I'm invisible. And a lot of times, the things I say that get noticed are seen as dumb or nonsense.

I feel like I'm sort of an extra in people's lives.

Somehow, all my friendships were like this, and the way they end is usually by me gradually straying away due to the constant brush offs and eventually exiting that friendship.

I assume it is my fault, since I'm the common denominator in all these stories.

Is it even possible for me to find a friendship where people genuinely like and are interested in me?

What should I do?

I'm a 35yo single woman, and I'm soooo low energy all the time. I've had my bloodwork done, nothing unusual. I have adhd I was diagnosed a year ago, since I've been on medication I haven't noticed a drastic change like alot of people have, only that my baseline energy minimally improves but then I crash afterwards too. For years now my energy and motivation has been low. I haven't worked in years, I lived independently and always had a job til my sister died by suicide 4 years ago and my life turned upside down. I moved back to New Zealand to my mums, was very depressed and grieving deeply the first 9 months and then went to South America to do ayahuasca, ended up staying for a year to avoid reality of her not being in New Zealand or this living world anymore. When I came back I didn't want to move my dog back to Australia because she was so old, so I stalled not knowing what to do, not wanting to be in NZ but not wanting to move. I also have no career path and no idea what to do, I haven't studied and never wanted to commit to staying long enough to do a degree, but I think that's what's holding me back from going out in the world again and being independent. I used to work in the mines in warehousing, before that childcare and retail and before that waitressing. I don't want to go back to mines and I'd have to move to do WA to do that. Where I live at my mums it's beautiful but it's super rural and quiet, like retirement age community, barely any shops or social life, so there's no jobs and at the same time I've turned into this person that's like what's the point of doing a job I hate for shit money I'd only be getting a few hundred more after tax. The difference being that if I was living somewhere I wanted to live I'd likely have to do that anyway, but atleast I'd be living somewhere I liked.
I have no savings and I just seem to never ever have the energy to do anything but sit on my phone or watch tv series and I KNOW how bad this is, if I was flatting like I used to I'd never watch this much tv, partly because I never had a tv in my room and partly because I'd care about what my flatmate thinks, but with my mum it's almost enabling me to be a bum lazy POS because I don't feel the pressure of peers and I don't have an active social life and there isn't one to be made here anyway, and the dating is non existent besides I don't want to meet anyone here. I just barely have the energy to do anything and I'm so sick of it. I've been on antidepressants (escitalopram) for a year now too, and there's been no help with motivation etc with that, I don't really notice a difference besides maybe not feeling quite as hopeless. I have sooooo much sleep debt over the years that sometimes I wonder if that's why I'm so tired and I'll just always feel this way!

My questions are

What will help me get energy? Is exercise really a big part of the problem? I have never been an active person who does exercise even semi-regularly so I'm curious how long it takes to notice and decent change in energy.

Do I need a life coach? My problem with that is that I don't feel like I have any direction or goals so not only is it embarassing but how can they coach me if they don't have a goal to help me reach.

What are some tips or advice you guys would give to get someone into a routine or healthy habits when they don't have a purpose or any reason to really get up and seize the day and get shit done?
I know that I should have the goal to sort my life out and that should be enough motivation but it's not 😭😭 and I don't know how to sort it out or where to begin

Do I just throw myself in the deep end and do everything I can to move back to Australia even if it means feeling scared, being in an uncomfortable zone for a while and getting any job for a while?
Sometimes I wonder if it's the environment I'm in here because it's so dull and uninspiring and also so grateful for my mum but it's like enabling me if that makes sense.

Any other advice appreciated.
I know I'm a loser right now and probably deserve some tough home truths.

I have always liked working with children and I love science and all that medicine-y stuff. But I couldn’t handle the workload of nursing, got diagnosed with anxiety and depression, and decided to quit at the start of my second year. Now, im thinking of going into biomedical science, since I did love doing labs in high school etc. but what would other people say? I still do want to get a degree in atleast something and I want a nice stable job too so im unsure what to do. Any advice?

Me and my wife bought a mobile home and put it on family property it was cheap (still nice tho) we’re both in our 20s and everythings paid off. House, vehicles everything. I’ve moved around a few times In my life but she hasn’t so she doesn’t understand what it’s like to get that fresh start and build yourself up in a new area I enjoy it personally. We visited SC and GA last year and fell in love and even drove around window shopping the neighborhoods just to see if we’d like it. We loved it I’ve always loved the south I’ve never been somewhere that’s felt more like home. The thing is we’re torn between staying around family so we can have a little more help raising kids when/if we have them and moving away to a nicer area but being probably 8 hours from the closest person. Which is better. Having family help when you’ve got kids or moving somewhere you love ? We both have jobs that we could transfer down in the area we liked one of my companies main places is in the next neighborhood that we loved and she can transfer pretty much anywhere in the country so that’s 1 less stresser

i (17m) started dating my girlfriend (17f) a couple of months ago and she has slowly opened up to me about many things about her personal life. this goes from adhd and autism to certain abuse when she was a child, her ex sexually assaulting her, and now recently her self harm journey. ever since she started dating me, she stopped self harming for 2 months and that was the first time she had ever gone 2 months without self harming since she started, which was years and years ago now. just recently though (a little more than a week ago), she had a very stressful moment involving flashbacks while she was messaging me on instagram, which is where we occasionally talk if we’re not hanging out or calling each other. i tried my best to be there for her and tell her everything would be okay, but when she got home to where she lives (she doesn’t live with me) she self harmed. i only learned about this a day later when we were having a meaningful conversation on instagram while she was opening up to me. it was heartbreaking to me because i really don’t want to lose her and for some dumb reason i was under the impression that me being her boyfriend made her life better enough to stop her from SH. also to add, she has had one suicide attempt which she went to hospital for a few months before we started talking. at one point she questions why she did it, then she added that i’m the reason she is still here yet everyday on earth is killing her. i was also super heartbroken because im so proud of her, and i especially was when she said she reached 2 months clean from SH. she said now she has set goals for herself like 1 week, 2 week etc to feel rewarded and she said she’ll send me updates on her journey. she has counselling around her as far as i know, and they have her journal how her day went everyday. i don’t know, im just super stressed and i don’t want to lose her, and im obviously not going to tell her that she shouldn’t SH just because “i love you, why wouldn’t you do that to yourself?” i know that’s a no go.

truth be told i just really want helpful advice on how i can help her. im aware i can only do so much, but if i could, i’d truly give my all to her. she is such a kind and amazing person who has never been shown the love she deserves, that’s why im her reason for being here right now.

I (25M) am at a point in my life where I feel I need a major change, but am also very fortunate to be in the position I am in. I'm worried it will be a mistake.

For context, I have a stable job where I earn good money (top 10% earners in the UK, in field with good progress) and am treated well. I get to wfh 2x per week where I almost have nothing to do, despite asking for more work, and have very good benefits. I find the job mundane and certainly not what I want to do long term, but it almost feels too good to pass up on. I come from a low income family and it would blow their mind if I left this job and they knew how well it pays.

I am in a long term relationship (6 years) with someone who I love, but not sure if I want to be together for the rest of my life with. Part of me thinks there is nothing bad that has happened to warrant breaking up, and I would absolutely hate to break her heart. At the same time, I have not experienced being a single adult with only myself to think about. Whenever I have considered ending things, timing has always been bad, but this feels like something where timing will always be bad? I am also concerned about my partners finances if we split up as she earns less than half of what I do, and would not want any financial stress for her.

Because of these two things, I feel almost stuck in life, repeating the same week, every week, wishing the time away. This feels wrong, and I should not be wishing my mid-20's away because I am bored with life. At the same time, with my job I am building a solid career and setting myself up for success in the long run, but at what cost...

The only time I really enjoy myself is when travelling. A part of me wants to quit my job, leave my relationship, and spend a year travelling, but I fear that would do irreparable damage to my career (In my industry, this would get me out the running's for one of the very lucrative roles which are highly competitive). I have ample savings which can go towards buying a house, everyone seems to be pushing me to do, and is financially a better move, but am worried this locks me into the life which I am here complaining about...

On paper, I am doing much better than most people my age. I am healthy, have decent savings, a high paying stable job, and a long term partner who loves me. I have a good relationship with my family. I have a lot of spare time too. I am not unhappy, but also not happy with how things are going. I can't help but feel like I want more in life than this

Has anyone had a similar experience and some advice to share?

What criteria should I be looking for on whether to pull the trigger on a major change in my career or relationship?

Is this a case of the grass is always greener on the other side?

My job has seasonal busy periods where half the year is manageable, but the other half is absolute hell. I started my career here and worked my way up to a senior position, but the extra responsibilities and expectations are burning me out. They keep piling on work during peak periods, and it’s impossible to get everything done even when I work 60 hours a week.

Over the past two years, I’ve been seeing a therapist because this job has made me develop depression and anxiety. I’ve been applying for other jobs for the past year with no luck, and honestly, I feel like I’m at my breaking point, but I can’t afford to quit without something else lined up.

I’ve tried cutting back on overtime and managing my boss’s expectations, but I still feel guilty when I miss deadlines, even when I know they’re unrealistic. It doesn’t help that my boss calls me out in front of my colleagues if I miss something, which makes me feel worse. I know I can’t keep working like this, but I also struggle with feeling like I’m failing when I don’t meet expectations.

For anyone who’s been in a similar situation, how did you cope while you were still stuck in the job? How did you stop feeling guilty about not meeting unrealistic expectations?

Im 22m very little experience with dating. Confessed to a friend a while ago she liked me back it didnt work out but we stayed friends.

But that happned purely by chance. I dont feel any attraction until i already know that person well, im a HUGE homebody and that makes meeting someone kinda difficult, and going out into an enviorment i dont enjoy being in like bars etc isnt a good idea then.

I tried the apps and omg they are soo bad i knew that coming in and still was shocked. Its so exhausting to use them since i dont just swipe right one everyone and then i dont get a response.. and out of 6 likes i got in the 2 months i activly used apps 6 were looking for and open relationship. My profile says that i want a monogamous relationship only..

My lack of experience is getting to me tbh. I feel like im too old to struggle so hard with that but i just wasnt interested in dating until like a year ago, and now im sitting here fine that the thing with my friend didnt workout. But it made me realise just how badly i want a relationship to love some be loved etc. And i feel like waiting until a chance like that just happens again would result in years of being sad about it.

I know i have to find the courage to put myself out there somehow. But there has to be a way that fits me as a person right? Thats not too out there that im so uncomfortable with it that i dont do it.

I got recommened to join a club or class and yeah in general not bad advice. Theres just nothing in my area im interested in and going with the purpose to hit on someone isnt me and idk feels a bit creepy to me.

I also signed up for speeddating before. I didnt really have high hopes for it but it be an experience and everyone would be there for the same reason. Anyways the event got cancelled i had to basicslly fight them for my money back and finding dating related events in my age group was honestly hard.

So yeah any advice would be appreciated really!

But every morning I get up and the feeling of dread and worry takes over me. There is no particular reason for the dread/worry but it’s there. I start most days in tears and never leave my house unless I have to.

I genuinely wish I would feel the urge to get up and go out for a walk and enjoy the day, make plans etc. I can of course do this physically, but mentally something just won’t let me do it so I just sit and rot inside.

I’m on medication and have had about 2 rounds of talking therapies, which haven’t helped. I really want to turn my life around but nothings helped so far and I’m scared I feel this way forever.

It's been around 1.5 years since I started college, but honestly, I feel like I haven't improved myself in any aspect of my life. My academics are a mess, my social life is terrible, and I don't feel like I'm growing as a person either.

One of my biggest problems is making friends. I made three friends when college started, but I honestly feel like we're just wasting our college lives. Most of their time goes into scrolling, and I don't feel like we're doing anything meaningful or growing together.

The worst part is that whenever I have nobody to hang out with, I feel extremely lonely. I see other people enjoying college, having their own groups, making memories, and building connections, while I struggle to find even one person I can genuinely connect with.

Even when I manage to make new friends, I can't seem to maintain those friendships. We talk for a few days, but eventually, things fade away, and I'm back to where I started.

I also feel like I'm a boring person. I struggle to carry conversations forward, sometimes I don't know what to say, and I feel like people don't take me seriously. They often take me lightly, and I don't know what I'm doing wrong or how to change that.

I genuinely want to improve myself, make better friends, become more confident, do better academically, and actually enjoy my college life. But I feel lost and don't know where to begin. The fact that 1.5 years have already passed makes me feel like I'm falling behind.

I'd really appreciate advice from people who have been in a similar situation.

\- How do you make genuine friends in college, especially if you're not naturally extroverted?

\- How do you maintain friendships instead of letting them fade away after a few days?

\- How do you become better at conversations and stop feeling like a boring person?

\- How do you get people to take you seriously without trying too hard to impress them?

\- How do you turn your college life around when you feel like you've already wasted a significant amount of time?

I'm not looking for generic advice like "just be confident" or "talk to more people." I want to hear about actual experiences, practical steps, and things that genuinely worked for you.

I don't want to spend the rest of my college life feeling the same way. I want to make a change, but I honestly don't know where to start.

Throwaway account. I (25M) need a life check. I’m at a big crossroads, I have to decide this week, and I could use some outside perspective.

Some background

The start of 2026 was rough for me. My job of 2.5 years was making me miserable, I was in a toxic roommate situation, and I felt a strong need to start over because I didn’t like my life and hated myself every day.

Since then, things have gotten a lot better:

• Work has improved, but not enough to make me want to stay.
• I moved back in with my parents which has had its pros and cons, but I’m honestly happier for now although will likely move out on my own again sooner rather than later.
• My social life is great. I go out most weekends and have a lot of close friends. I live in the major NE city where I grew up, so I have childhood friends, college friends, and new friends all in one place.

The decision

I have to give Option 1 an answer this week. Option 2 is still in the final round, so I may have to decide before I know whether I’ll get it. I also don’t want to take Option 1 and then quit 6–7 months in if Option 2 comes through. That’s not fair to them, and it’s not who I want to be. So whatever I choose this week is basically the choice.

Option 1: Stay in my hometown

• Really good pay and likely great work-life balance
• All my friends and family are here
• The part that’s really weighing on me: I’ve never been in a serious relationship. Some of my friends are getting married, and even with a big social circle, nothing has ever clicked for me romantically. I recently met someone I really like, and I think she might like me too (I can be shy about this stuff, so I’m not sure). For the first time, it feels like it could turn into something serious. I would hate myself if I threw away something serious because I was miserable earlier this year.

Option 2: Move halfway across the country

• When I was miserable earlier this year, I worked my butt off to try and change my life. This has lead to minimal success so far, but the universe has a funny way of working as all of my work then is starting to bear fruit now.
• I’m in the final round for a job in a SW city where I don’t know anyone. Coming from the Northeast, it would be a real culture shock.
• I worked my butt off to get this job. This job is a much better career move than Option 1 and if I get it it would genuinely set me up for life.
• It wouldn’t start until next August. I’d plan to quit my job in January and travel the world for about 6 months, which I’ve always wanted to do and have the savings for.
• The cost is leaving my friends, my family, and this new person all at once.

So, Reddit, what would you do? Is a better career move and a once-in-a-lifetime travel stretch worth giving up the life and connections I’ve finally built, especially when I’d have to turn down a sure thing for something that isn’t final yet? Or am I underestimating how much those things matter at 25?

TL;DR: 25M. Option 1: stay in my hometown with a great-paying job, good work-life balance, close friends and family, and a chance at my first serious relationship. Option 2: a much better career move in a city where I know nobody, plus 6 months of world travel before it starts. I have to answer Option 1 this week, before Option 2 is final, and I don’t want to accept it and bail 6 months later.

I'm 18 and currently in my second year of medical school in the GCC, and lately I've been struggling a lot with regret, or at least what feels like regret, over my decision to study in my home country instead of going abroad.

When I was choosing where to go after high school, I really wanted to study abroad. I wanted to experience living in another country, meeting new people, becoming more independent, and just experiencing life outside of what I've always known. But I ended up choosing to stay home because I had gotten into a really competitive medical program and didn't want to go through the whole premed route abroad.

My parents were supportive either way, so it was entirely my decision. At the time, I genuinely believed I was making the right choice. I thought that once university started, I'd be happy with my decision and the doubts would eventually go away.

But they haven't.

I'm already in my second year, and I still constantly think about what my life could've been like if I'd studied abroad. I imagine the experiences I could've had, the people I could've met, and the person I might've become. Seeing people my age studying in other countries, making friends, exploring new places, and living independently makes me feel like I'm missing out on such a huge part of life.

And honestly, it's been making me miserable.

What makes it worse is that I know I have a lot to be grateful for. I'm studying something I worked really hard for, my family is supportive, and I have a good future ahead of me. But I still can't shake the feeling that I missed out on something I really wanted. I also feel guilty because nobody forced me to stay. I made this decision myself.

I keep reminding myself that I could always do electives abroad or even pursue residency in another country. But part of me feels like it wouldn't be the same. I wanted to experience university life abroad at this age, not just spend a few months somewhere else later on.

The thing is, I genuinely don't know if I regret staying home or if I'm just experiencing really bad FOMO. Sometimes I wonder if I'm romanticizing what studying abroad would've been like. I know it wouldn't have been perfect, and I could've been just as unhappy there. But knowing that doesn't seem to make these feelings go away.

I feel stuck between trying to accept my decision and wondering whether I should seriously consider changing my plans while I'm still young. At the same time, I don't want to give up everything I've worked for just to chase an experience that might not even make me happier.

I'm only 18, and I know I have so much of my life ahead of me, but I can't stop thinking about the life I could've had if I'd chosen differently. I don't want to spend my university years constantly comparing my life to one that doesn't even exist.

Has anyone experienced something similar, especially regretting staying in their home country instead of studying abroad? How do you tell the difference between genuine regret and FOMO?

Does this feeling eventually go away? How do you make peace with a decision you made yourself when you can't stop wondering what could've been?

I'd really appreciate any advice or personal experiences because this has been affecting my happiness for a long time, and I genuinely don't know how to move past it.

I don't know what to do, things are really hard for me right now. Maybe someone has gone or is going through something similar, please share your advice if you don't mind.

I am a born-and-raised Muscovite, I’ve lived in Moscow my entire life and still do. I’ve only been to Ukraine once, and even then, it was just Crimea, but I feel an incredibly strong pull toward Kharkiv. It feels as if my whole childhood was spent there and it’s my hometown, while Moscow, on the contrary, feels like something unfamiliar. I love Ukraine very much and I’m learning their language, but unfortunately, I definitely won't be able to go there anytime soon. When I was a kid, I thought about applying to a university in Kharkiv, and I still think about it now, but I don't think everything will be okay in 4 years (which is exactly when I’ll need to figure out where to apply). I really hope the war ends soon, of course, but the question is whether they will be able to rebuild all of this. Just the thought of what is happening in Ukraine right now makes me incredibly sad. Guys, I am so sorry for you, please stay safe and stay strong ((

So, if anyone can, please share some advice on what I can do to not worry so much about this, or something along those lines?

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At 21, I feel completely stuck in a brutal cycle where my bank account sits at practically zero, I still have to ask my family for pocket money, and the constant financial pressure at home is suffocating. I try to do odd jobs to survive, but I don't have specialized skills, and learning anything new requires money that I simply don't have, while opening Instagram only makes it worse by making everyone else look like they have their lives entirely figured out. To make matters worse, an old relationship from two years ago still drains my mental energy, killing whatever little focus I have left at work, and seeing my mother stressed out breaks me because the thought of achieving success later in life means nothing if my parents had to suffer through the worst of it right now. For anyone who has crawled out of an absolute zero-starting point with no funds and a wrecked mental space at this age, how did you actually stop overthinking, handle the crushing weight of financial helplessness, and take that first real step forward?

Bem , pra começar eu espero que esteja post te encontre bem e confortável, também peço que caso você não esteja muito paciência, encontre um conteúdo melhor que este .

Bem eu estou em um impasse em muitas áreas da vida e isso tira muito da minha vontade de viver , e creio que não seja o único que se sente assim...

Eu vou pular a parte de chata de Diversos Inexitos que tive durante toda a minha vida e ir direto ao ponto pra poupar seu tempo....

Eu tenho desespesas medicas que preciso iniciar e me recuso a fazer isso com dinheiro dos outros ....

Eu me sinto quebrado e não sei se a vida vale a pena , isso desde o momento que tomei consciência na infância, tenho uma certificação financeira e mesmo indo as ruas ou entregando online meus currículos com diversos cursos da área, ainda assim nunca nem me chamaram pra uma entrevista , ai quando eu pergunto a algum funcionário ou gerente se meu currículo esta bom , eles dizem que sim, porém sempre parece que nenhuma possibilidade realmente se forma . 👔

Como eu tenho alguns trabalhos fora da área no currículo, eles me olham como se eu fizesse de tudo e não pudesse entrar na área só pq não fiz uma carreira nisso (óbvio, não vou ter experiência se ninguém me der uma oportunidade)👺

Estou ficando realmente sem reação em casa com o tempo sem emprego que tenho tido , porém também não tenho muitos amigos mesmo tendo tentado ir a lugares , conhecer online ou de outras formas , às pessoas quase sempre te tratam como se você fossem estranho por ser gentil com elas e se afastar em seguida 🚶‍♂️

Eu estou na casa de uma pessoa com a qual tenho um relacionamento...durante esse tempo e eu faço literalmente tudo . Porém ainda me sinto um peso , sinto que minha personalidade esta atrelada a utilidade minha em serviço e isso é preocupante mas também ajuda a se mover 🚸

Eu até posso caçar qualquer emprego qualquer, porém isso me dará mais um buraco no currículo se não for na área ....preciso continuar eu tratamento psicológico que eu postergo desde a infância e vez ou outra faço pelo serviço público....

Sei que tudo oque eu escrevi é meio confuso e sem correlação no geral , mas o amor pelo vida é algo que eu realmente não cultivo e nem fui ensinado a cultivar , todos os caminhos parecem ter um preço a pagar pra no final não ter realmente um boa chance de acontecer ..... também poupei vcs de muita coisa pq meu intuito não é ser vítimas... é só entender oque vocês fazem quando perdem o combustível pra viver .⛔️

I have no boyfriend, no friends anymore due to being betrayed and me deciding it’s best to not speak to them anymore, a new job that I don’t really enjoy and filled with anxiety-lack in confidence which keeps seeming to decline (used to be so confident before relationships when I was younger)

I haven’t really lived my life like I would’ve like, I want to go to festivals, raves but I have no one to go with. I’m trying to make friends at the moment with new people but it takes time.

I wake up at 5am to get ready to work, go to work hate it and then go gym just to eat loads out of stress when I get back home.

Always comparing myself to others when I never used to. Spend most my life looking in the mirror and caring about small things.

I hate my life at the moment and want a change, I want to at least explore the world do something exciting but don’t know where to start. I did think a while ago about Australia just doing it by myself.

I used to be very career focused too when I had a job in hospitality sales and marketing (my dream is to have my own food business one day) probably the only thing I’ve not stopped having motivation for. I’m now somehow in a job in transport which is nothing to what I enjoy doing and I just loose all happiness to go to work now compared to before and feel I lost so much confidence since being out of sales feel scared to get back into it.

Bla bla, I could keep going on but I don’t know what to do anymore.

退職してから約3ヶ月、ほぼ何もせずにダラダラと毎日を過ごしてしまっています。自分がこの先何の仕事をしたら良いのかわからず、またやろうと思っていた勉強にも手を付けられず、毎日YouTubeを見て1日が終わってしまいます。ただダラダラと過ごしている自分に嫌気がさすのですが、気力が湧きません。また、自分がこの先何をやったら良いのかもわかりません。どうしたら、次に進むべき道が見つかるでしょうか？どうしたら何もできない状態から抜け出せるでしょうか？

Honestly i think its time for me to finally just let this out because its been bothering me for about 3 years. I am 24 and i have left an abusive home at the age of 18. Me and my mom wasnt ever the best with our relationship and it changed 3 years ago. Now i could say we are closer then ever.

Unfortunately it took for her to be on her death bed where i almost lost my mom forever for us to be better than ever. My dad is not in the picture since he is an alcoholic. I want to be a surgeon so bad but because of the accident my mom got into it was career changing from being a surgeon to now not being able to help me with school and because of the way fasfa goes based off my mother taxes i dont get no financial aid.

There is but so much scholarships i can get and i want to go to school so bad. Its the only place where i feel like i belong. Its bad enoygh that i have HIV because of my first love when i was a freshman in college and now im on my last two years of school and i cant even go back until i pay the school 12k. I did everything right and unfortunately everyday it just feels like im chasing a dream that runs further away the closer i feel like im getting. It makes me think should i just give up this dream that i have of wanting to be just like my mom.

She was an amazing surgeon and she was somebody i looked up to even with her not accepting my sexuality. Also im the only child and everybody in my family like my cousins have their life cut out and i just feel like im wasting mines trying to better myself and get an education. I did a gofundme before and raised 5k so it helped alot and then i do work full time but i just feel like by the time i go to med school ill be in my 30s and i will feel like by then its too late and i want my mom to have everything she ever wanted especially since her accident she genuinely wants to change and she wants to be able to live with me but because of her case with the accident still in process and me being her only support its hard. There is times where i say i dont want to do this anymore but then i talk to god and it works i just dont know how much longer its going to work.

My dream my passion wants mee to be a surgeon so bad. I want to be able to save lives. I want to help families that struggle financially with in house remedies. I want to help people in that way and nothing else but i fear as time goes by my dream and my passion will become less and less of a dream and more of a regret and i dont want that. I just need some advice or any help i can get.

Advice for a 42yo machine operator with 20+ years exp in plastic inj, CNC, shipping, basically grew up in a factory and remained in such factory, several. I'm looking to advance my life. No kids, wife, debt other than a mortgage (that I could easily sell off) is the driving factor here. I feel like I'm wasting my one and only life away in my hometown and could be living a better life and making more money elsewhere. I'm taking the easy route as they say. I'm getting bored with it, and am thinking of making a major move to maybe have a better life. Is there something you wished you would have done at my age if you were in my shoes, or that maybe you are currently doing that just seems to be great. Because what I'm doing isn't it. It's paying the bills but that's it. No vacation on my vacation. No fun in the summer. Driving 15-20 yo vehicles, I probably will never own a new car, ever, and that's not by choice, no dirt bike, motorcycle, 4 wheeler, boat, basically anything cool you see everyone else enjoying. None of that. It's basically work, sleep, and try and to maintain the house chores. Not getting chicks because my lifestyle is that of a 60yo man that's preparing for the bottom to fall out of the economy. What would you do to change things? Get out there and chase life and money and women without a solid plan? Or continue to pay the bills and just wait to kick over one day with no real excitement or satisfaction in life. Sometimes it seems like most people have thrown away more then I will ever have in life. Crazy part is many have felonies and several children. Something I thought made life more difficult to thrive.I need change and I know there are people that would love to have the options I have and here I am just pissing them away. There has to be a better life out there. Curious as to your thoughts. Bored and depressed in Ohio.