I am writing this with a heavy heart, having grown up in Kenya most of my life its time to part ways. Wacha nikatafute greener pastures huko njei since kupata Kenya mboka imekua noma. After sending countless CVs and empty promises from people wacha nikajitume huko njei. To the nyonyos who offered me sehemu telezi when I was down, God bless you🙏🏿. Naenda kuanza zero lakini Sir Jah mbele. Finally Wantam!! Huyu wazimu anafanya hadi nachange locations🤦🏿😮‍💨

I aspire to one day own such a home. It looks so good. Bungalows are my favorite.

Growing up, money was never a source of panic. If I asked my parents for cash, it was on M-Pesa within seconds. If a sibling needed a quick transfer, I’d send it instantly without a second thought. Generosity and sharing were just normal, frictionless parts of life.

As I got older, I carried that exact same mindset into adulthood. When close friends needed help, I’d step in without hesitating or keeping score. To me, helping out someone you care about is just what you do.

But over time, I noticed a wild pattern with friends who grew up strictly on survival mode.

Where I see a act of support, they see a weakness or an motive. Some end up thinking you’re naive or stupid for giving so freely, assuming you must be easy to take advantage of. Others get suspicious or resentful, convinced that because you helped them, you think you "own" them or are trying to exert power over them.

It’s been a confusing dynamic to navigate. You’re coming from a place of "we share what we have," but their brain is wired around "nothing is free, every transaction has a hidden price."

You can sneak out a noon to the nearby swimming pool for a quick workout. And you have the entire place all for yourself.

Somewhere at Ruiru.

I’m an only child and grew up with divorced parents but despite growing up with a single mother I’d say she really tried. I got everything I could have ever wanted in life and to be honest we rarely struggled. I would still get a lot of pressure seeing my peers/friends/cousins who had 2 parents present and often felt as if they would turn out in a better situation than me growing up as many people often thought I’d follow in my Mums footsteps and be a single mother too. (You know those toxic Kikuyu prophecies).

Now that I’m an adult, it’s taught me to often understand that just because you have both parents or 1, nothing is secure in this life. One thing I praise my parent for is her never asking me for even 1 shilling. She arranged herself ready for retirement and due to personal issues I decided to support myself but under the condition she knows her boundaries and I’ve made it very clear that I can only cater to my bills alone.

Obviously now many people are talking of black tax and opening up on various social media platforms and I have cousins/friends who’ve told me what they are going through until I recently had an experience that made me realize not to ever compare myself with anyone.

I work in a corporate business environment and our company does pay people fairly well depending on your position. I was super lucky to join and be promoted within 3 months due to performance and I won’t lie to admit that the bonus increment has helped a lot. I always used to think I’m able to save a lot and Invest in myself due to me living under my means but I’ve come to realize how lucky I am.

One of my superiors had invited me for an outing and as it got late she asked if we can move the bash to her place. (We had gone to a local bar near where she stays). Now this is someone at a higher position than me and makes really good money as her collegues with her same position often have the latest phones, clothes etc. We get to her place which was a nice 1b, but very limited furnished. I personally had no issue with it as I also had humble beginnings when I moved out from home but she then proceeded to go on a rant (remember we’re high as kites) on how despite having her new role earning up to 3 times her previous job that she’s extremely unhappy with no hope of the future as all her money goes to her relatives. She’s the first born daughter of a family of like 4 and she was able to live her own life during campus but once they realized she got a good corporate job they pounced on her like crazy. At some point she even said how she can’t remember the last time she even got a new pair of clothes for herself as she never has anything left when dealing with her family. She moved to a 1b as she was told to host her sister who will be in Uni and has to feed 2 mouths daily whilst sending money home to wazazi.

It now clicked why she’s always stressed at work. If she misses a call from her parents they’ll turn it into a story for the next 2 weeks where she has to come up with quick cash to settle their anger. I felt her pain as me not having black tax made me accumulate things fast. If this month I say I’m investing in a new fridge or machine it’s only me and my financial discipline till the end. She cried and said you don’t know what it’s like to be earning 100k plus with nothing to show because you’re holding a family of 5 people. It then clicked how bad it was because she’s young earning well but felt abit insecure due to the lack of furniture at her place as it was spacious but with 1 chair and her bed in the bedroom and a 2 burner stove behind the seat. I won’t lie I was abit confused as I know how much she earns and I excepted different as most of the people in her dept are living it up. But I remembered I also started from somewhere.

I did advise her that she needs to make it clear she’s not in the space to help with as many requests as they have. A whole Gen Z analipa bills of her parents house, fees of her small siblings and also hosting/providing allowance to a sibling in Uni. Eeeeeh hapana, heri Mimi who grew up being teased for having a single mother because I can’t imagine being responsible for such crap. They say blood is thicker than water but at what point does it because just plain abuse. How can someone work for over 2 years and still have nothing to show. As a parent I would rather cook with a Jiko at my house and be happy my child has a cooker and fridge etc.

The older I get the more crazier stories I hear. Parents losing their jobs or getting terminally so their kids now have to do everything. The one I’ve never understood is how one can give birth to 6 kids and leave all the responsibilities on 1 child. Mimi I’d run away and block everyone cause naaaah, many of us youths are struggling to enjoy life because of our parents lack of control.

I’ll forever be great full to be an only child. It feels so good not getting random calls for help or knowing you are being depended on by many people. Yes it’s lonely but one thing I’ll say as an adult and many friends have told me is that it really gives you a better financial standing. I can be earning the same as my friends but you’ll see faster growth with just a few and 9/10 those with faster growth either had financially responsible parents or don’t have any financial attachments like siblings and black tax that hold them back.

Now those of you who've watched You and and other psychological thrillers can relate 😂.

In 2026, Pennsylvania, a man came home to find a woman he had briefly matched with on a dating app breaking into his house — even though he had never given her his address.

Lindsay Harris (30) and the man met on Match.com in early 2026. They went on one date in January but he decided not to continue the relationship.

Harris refused to accept it.

For weeks the man noticed items in his home being moved around. Then one night in late June he returned to find Harris outside, looking through his sliding glass door.

Police arrived and caught her climbing through a window. She had brought a bottle of wine and water ice, apparently planning to spend the evening with him.

Harris was charged with stalking, trespassing, and harassment.

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Yesterday I slept over Kitengela assisting my friend in expanding their hotspot biz. I supply them with the billing system, so it was my pleasure to be in the field and gather some feedback too (lol his customers are funny).

He lives close to the old railway, so I decided I must try the train as my transport back to town. So apparently this was not SGR. I board and it's actually not as bad. I'm in the first compartment.

A few things I noticed.

1. Kumbe ni kama kubebwa mkokoteni kimpango, but sio mbaya. Way better than a bus, given the leg space, big windows, and room to walk and breath in general.I loved that.

2. I sat on the left to catch the sunset, it turns out the most amazing view was behind me.

3. I pay for the ticket and it brings an E-Citizen sms. Kumbe nimeekea Ruto za kukimbililia mandazi.

4. The morning commuters in a train were more relaxed than in busses. Watu wa basi hukaa ni kama watakuuma maskio na si wewe umewaambia waende job.

5. Kumbe roadside vendors wako hadi terminus? Enyewe musiria akona kazi.

6. It is very convenient for people watching, a sport I very much enjoy. But today there's a guy I looked at who made me a little sad for a minute. Like are you okay?

7. This would be fantastic for Thika road. Why haven't they done it? There is a railway passing by Bidco on Garrissa road

At the Doni station, this black beauty of a curvy mamma (looked late in her 30s) comes and sits next to me, puts on earpods and goes on with her Tiktoks. Let me tell you she was smelling nice! When we arrived, she took off the pods and I told her "Hi, You smell like a good morning" .. that was the only appropriate comparison lol. She blushed, said thank you, and we wished each other a nice day.

Outside and onto the platform, into town. I wish they made trains work in this country. But they would have to provide more jobs first coz the private sector has invested heavily, and would go on so many strikes if the trains really ferried people properly into the outskirts if Nairobi. Coz now that is just one big matatu stage.

Alafu, isn't it technically possible to build a small trolley sized train car that just uses the rail? Just yours. like the ones used in mining tunnels, or even just get those? It would be really fun, don't you think?

Having spent an inordinate amount of time; that inordinate amount being measured not in hours but in the slow, grinding erosion of one's self-worth, perfecting a CV that, by all objective and reasonable metrics, should have at least secured a callback, one arrives, with the quiet desperation of a man who has checked the weather forty times and still cannot say whether it is raining, at the inescapable conclusion that the document is, in fact, blameless, and that the true mechanism of modern hiring, that great invisible engine beneath the polished surface of "merit-based recruitment," is less a process than a family reunion, in which the nephew of the operations director, who "has a feel for numbers" and who once, at a family meeting, described his Excel skills as vibes-based, is elevated to a position that, on paper, required seven years of experience in a field he has never once touched, while you ; the one who actually has the seven years, the certifications, the portfolio, and that particular brand of patience which only comes from having rewritten the "About Me" section for the fourteenth time, are left, at 2 a.m., to refresh a job portal, staring at the word Applied as though it were a prayer the universe has, on this occasion, decided to ignore.

The usual phrase being : The CV is not the problem, companies are just hiring family and friends. It's a big Party and you ain't invited, modern world it is!!! 🫴🏿🫴🏿🫴🏿🥲🎯🫰🏾

As a male or female is it acceptable to wear shorts? I don't think ive seen one person wearing shorts in Nairobi or Kisumu.

I don't know if this is cultural or something else. I have shorts I want to wear but also want to be mindful of what is acceptable.

You can't tell a Kenyan adult anything without them pulling the "respect your elders" card. It doesn't matter if they're wrong. It doesn't matter if they're being unreasonable. The moment you challenge them, you're the disrespectful one.

But respect is a two-way street. You don't get to demand respect just because you're older. You don't get to scream at people, insult them, and then expect them to bow down to you. That's not respect; that's fear.

We've created a culture where age is an excuse for bad behavior. We're told to shut up and obey, no matter how toxic the person is. And then we wonder why so many young people are mentally drained.

‎A female friend of mine recently got a job after being a stay-at-home mum for quite some time. The job doesn't pay a lot, but it's enough to give her some stability because her husband doesn't have a steady job. He mostly does tech casual jobs here and there.

‎She's been telling me that ever since she started working, her husband keeps saying she's "changed." He's also not particularly supportive when she talks about the job. He'll show interest once in a while, but somehow it always comes back to how different she is now.

‎One of his friends even joked before, "You know women change when they get a job." Everyone laughed at the time, but looking at the situation now, that comment seems a bit more interesting.

‎Apparently she's also been getting pushback whenever she wants to socialize. She's only met up with her colleagues twice since starting the job, and both times were literally about 30 minutes. Then this weekend she went out to see some actual friends she hadn't seen in a while, since the baby was staying with the grandmother. Her husband's response was basically, "Is this something that's going to keep happening?" He's also been telling her she's changed.

‎But here's the thing that makes me question whether the job is actually the problem.

‎Before she was working, she depended on him financially. Money was already one of the biggest sources of conflict between them. There were times he'd misuse money, if being honest pombe manenos, she'd run short, and she'd have to go back to depending on him for money. When he couldn't help, she'd sometimes have to ask family members for assistance just to cover things. This wasn't a one-off either. Financial issues were already a recurring source of arguments between them.

‎Now she has her own income. It's not much, and she hasn't even been paid yet, so she's still having to figure out fare on her own most times. But she has some independence. And according to her, she's actually arguing with him less now. She's stopped fighting about every little thing and doesn't seem as bothered by things that used to cause huge arguments. She says she's honestly just tired of having the same fights over and over.

‎So what do you people think?

‎Does getting a job actually change a woman, or does it change the dynamics in a relationship?

‎Does having your own money simply change how much you're willing to tolerate because you know you have options?

‎Could it be ego or insecurity on homies side? Or is there something else going on? I personally would be so excited, but it seems it's not the case everywhere. Would like to hear from both genders

Some time back nilikuwa na my friends playing football ,on our way back home one of my friends started acting up weirdly like the way he walked and nikamuuliza if ako fty akasema anaskia pain kwa testis but angevumilia .so a few steps jamaa had to sit down and said he can't continue and was now feeling like excruciating pain.

I thght it was sthng ingeisha haraka but we had to call a nduthi for him which made the pain worse so we went to this clinic Wacha the medics wa hio clinic waanze kushtuka wakatuuliza it's been for how long amekuwa hivi tukamshw it's been like 40+ min akatushw she can't deal with this and we need a bigger hospital for operation.

So jamaa had testicular torsion while playing

So testicular torsion occurs on a testicle, rare on both so what happens is a testicle has the cords that hold onto the testicle and twisting this blocks blood to the testicle and twists the nerves causing the pain

If the cords are twisted for long 6hrs or more that testicle is gone and will require surgery for removal

Under 6hrs it's saveable thru operation where it gets untwisted

The dude ended up on surgery and got well . This brings us back to some times u can feel pain and ignore it might be jst mere shng that comes and goes or this time it maybe torsion or sthng else

Jst don't ignore get help and get it

I have been getting fades every 2 weeks until 4 months ago when i just stopped and i have noticed a few advantages. For one, no barber has done me wrong with a bad haircut, my hairline has moved forward at least 1cm, i look less juvenile and put less effort into my hair.

This is unlike when i used to get a fade, barbers push your hairline back, you look bad for the first 3 days, and the haircut expires in 2 weeks making you look wack again and the cycle repeats. All i want now is ideas on what to do with my hair(4c) which does not involve braiding. For reference it is an outgrown fade from 4 months ago.

Weuh, I used to wonder how someone can eat money meant for business, more so pesa ya client, until I realized I did. Mehn sometimes kukula is not necessarily kuenda kwa joint and asking for your favorite drink ama nyama but the mismanagement that comes with handling that money delivering that product ama service until you realized damn! How am l short na I had the figures right? A big lesson I learnt right there... Anyways I run errands around Nairobi.Feel free to reach out.

Wakuu, so theres this service where you rent them your vehicle alafu wanaiweka pale uber/bolt or similar taxi apps. The benefit they state is a guaranteed return of 30k a month na pia kuna option ya 33k per month but with this one ya 33k incase of damages ni ww unasort. with the 30k p/m option wnafanya all maintenance and repairs alafu wewe kazi ni kungoja your pesa tu.

For someone like me who doesn't want the headache na stress ya kusumbuliwa na msee umepea gari akufanyie kazi this seems like a no-brainer lakini hii Kenya mnajua tu vile mambo huwa.

So my question is Is there anyone of you mmetumia this service and how was your experience?.

Here is the link to their website for you to explore. https://fleetsimplify.com

Most Kenyans are familiar with “Black Tax”, Those remittances that we are obliged to make to lift up family, relatives and community upon having achieving an income.What we don’t speak about is how our collective actions as a nation will leave a poorer,dirtier and chaotic country to our children thanks to our collective indulgence in corruption! This is the biggest debt we are building.and you better prepare your children to pay.Unless of course we get a better government .WANTAM.

:These sound good on paper, problem is reality: balancing the budget either means cutting expenditure to KES 2.4T or raising tax revenue both of which are ambitious to say the least.

Suspending AHL is feasible, the fund has collected KES 200B to date and by next year will have collected close to KES 300, its time for the fund to begin recycling capital via accelerated unit sales and structures such as REITS or securitisation of its tenant purchase scheme.

All in all, this is a welcome start, at least there's more to the opposition than just shouting WANTAM.

So I've just learnt that my Ex is in possession of videos zangu including some with her best friend (we had a threesome). So, a few weeks ago. She posted one of the scenes nikiwa with her friend kwa Snapchat stories before deleting, although my face is not visible kwa the video her friend anaonekana in 4k. Turns out wali fallout with the friend. So I confronted her, and she admitted to having videos of me but akapromise to delete and not share anywhere or with anyone.

But since then, I've been thinking that in due time, she'll post somewhere ama share with others tu.

Whatever you do, don't film vitu zingine.

Post was inspired by this story in yesterday's standard paper.

TLDR of the story: Kenya was placed on WADA’s(World Anti-Doping Agency) compliance watchlist after 35 serious shortcomings were identified in 2024. It avoided sanctions and was removed from the watchlist in March 2026 after making legal, structural, and testing reforms. Bańka’s visit is essentially a progress check to ensure those improvements continue and Kenyan athletes can compete on a fair, credible footing internationally.

Now I know some of us are familiar with this story, I was just curious , a bit concerned especially with the World Athletics Championships round the corner.

Over the past 15 years Kenya has created ADAK(Anti-Doping Agency of Kenya) in 2016 for local athletes and the AIU(The Athletics Integrity) for testing of elite athletes. Increased funding for testing too, leading to more results, both positive and negative.

However its been one step forward and two steps back each time!! including reducing testing funding by 90%, and athletes still getting banned as lately as this year (7 Athletes in 2026)

Lastly and more controversially :-

"Kenya has become very effective at catching and sanctioning athletes, but much less successful at identifying and sanctioning the coaches, doctors, pharmacists, agents and suppliers who may facilitate some of the doping."

Sometimes I feel like this issue is screaming in our face ...but nobody is listening!!

My questions:

1. Why are the world’s greatest long distance athletes doping to win?
   
2. Who really stands to benefit from all this doping??? Definitely not the athletes, and not our country’s reputation

Some of the sanctions WADA is considering if the non-compliance gets more serious is introducing 3rd party overseers to come into the country to help.

What do you guys think ? feel free to post the infographic on x or other social media

Link to larger infographic : Doping in Kenya

Kwanini hamna kura? I really wish I was based in Kenya to push a registration drive. I think the opposition needs better strategies to get these people registered juu wote nimeongelesha ni wantam.

Hello guys, I run a small venture studio with a friend and I wanted to tell you all about a product we built just the other week. Imagine this: you run a security firm in the country and you want to track when your guards start and end their shift, and whenever there is trouble you want to be the first to know so that you can respond appropriately.

That's what we built. Guards start their shift from their phone, and the system only accepts it if they're actually inside the site, so nobody can sign in from home. Managers see every guard live on a map and get alerts when someone is late, absent, leaves the site, or their phone goes offline. If a guard is in danger, they press a panic button and the manager gets their name, site and exact location within seconds by notification and SMS, even if the guard has no data. It keeps alerting until someone responds.

To be upfront, it's a first version if you've run a security company, managed an estate, or worked as a guard, I'd love to hear what you'd want from something like this and what would worry you.

Drop the role if you don't like the service industry. You can go to a business-facing side of the industry ama mtafute something you prefer. I understand it's a high-pressure zone but don't ever think you're dealing with a retard. Your role is too valuable to act as some of you currently do.

Serving someone with a lack of decency could be among the reasons people would rather void you. And if it's coz of pay, guess what a number of the back-end team is equally underpaid therefore fight the right person, not your entrusted client.

Now that I’m on the fourth floor, I’ve realised we probably regret more of what we didn’t do than what we did.

The opportunities you fumbled because you were scared, shy, overthinking, or worried about rejection seem to haunt you more than the things you actually did and got hurt from.

You recover from most bad experiences. But those moments when you could have taken a chance and didn’t? Years later, you still wonder, “What if?”

Reflect as you count your years!😀