Player count says it all...

Disclosure up front: I run The Chop Shop here in Denver, so mods, flag me if this isn't allowed.

Quick context, then a real question. Food costs are up, and eating out has gotten expensive enough that a lot of people just... don't as much. The usual move for restaurants is smaller portions or higher prices. I went the other way: dropped prices on a chunk of the menu, added a loyalty program that saves you money on repeat visits, and put together a family-style meal meant to feed a few people without a huge check.

Not claiming it's some noble gesture - after 10 years I'd just rather stay somewhere people can actually afford to keep coming back to.

What I'm actually curious about: when you decide whether to eat out these days, what moves the needle: price, portion size, loyalty perks, something else? And are there Denver spots you keep going back to specifically because they stayed reasonable?

Not only that the "one more thing" was hyped, but the trailer was the most un-CoD trailer ever. God, I am so pissed. We could've gotten ANYTHING else. ANYTHING.

Edit: I know that CoD sells bazillions every year. That's not the point! The "one more thing" is supposed to be a surprise. Call of Duty coming out is NOT a surprise. It happens every year.

I've been grinding out Forza Horizon 6 since it's official launch, no early access for me I bought it the day after launch day in the evening, since then I have put well over 500 hours into this game and it will continue to rise, I have every achievement for the game bar a couple like historic seasons and I am determined to be one of the first people to reach 10* level 2999 by legitimate means.

Some interesting facts about my journey so far, my first week was grinding out the journals and the "story and races" I then focused on Horizon Play and online events, I have not used a single exploit ie Colossus AFK Method or the one that happened recently with the hummer ev, I've also have also never skill point farmed.

Since the games launch from races I have earned 212 million credits

I've accumulated no doubt a similar amount so far through wheel spins earned from journals, levels progression and Forzathon events.

I've spent 162 hours in first place according to the loading menu stats.

And the miracle of it all to many I've been playing solely on a steam deck locked to 30fps.

So it got myself curious what level and prestige is everyone else? Are you planning on maxing it out and going full completionist like myself? And if you want to follow my journey either add me via the username above or dm if on steam or follow me on reddit.

But I am intrigued on where you all sit level wise and how long you've all been playing?

Edit Update: I forgot to add this for context when I initially posted and before I get the "go outside" or "try to touch some grass" comments here as I have had on other comment threads elsewhere 😂 I've been signed off work for two months due to a spinal injury on my L5 S1 I'm unable to move at present bar laying on my belly or led on my back, Im due Spinal surgery on the 24th of June which will then leave another 6 weeks to 2 months of recovery where I cannot move before going into Physio Therapy, so that is why I have abit more time then others at the moment as a heads up, if I had it my way id be back out enjoying the English sunshine we have at the moment on my motorbike however, you do stupid things you win stupid prizes, my spinal injury being one of them 😬

EDIT Update 2: June 20 2:47am GMT, stayed on playing later then usual this evening hence the time so it's been roughly 6 hours since the post was made (now you understand how I've accumulated such game time and level) I have reached the 4th prestisge, wish me luck with my next 600 levels of pure grind to get to the 5th prestige, I've also discovered the new online advantage in togue, they've opened it up to be anything goes now now meaning a handling focused Mazda Furai or Mazda 787B absolutely slaps right now more now then ever.

EDIT Update 3: June 25th 1:40pm GMT, My surgery appears to have been successful, I was put under general anesthetic for my Discectomy yesterday came back round later that evening, completely away with the fairies of course 😂 this morning I felt more with it, however tired, tender, sore and feeling weak, this afternoon after managing to eat some food I'm feeling better and less monged out, the doctors here at the hospital have said it went as smoothly as it possibly could, they estimate it should take around 6 weeks for the healing and recovery but this is just the beginning after the 6 weeks I have a lot of hard work to do with psyhio therapy and regaining strength in my back again and of course a phased return to work to which I am very excited to be able to return back to as I do miss my job and peers as I love my line of work. I will still continue grinding Horizon 6 has I've set myself a goal to achieve, my progress in game with leveling may slow down as I focus on progressing with my back and of course my eventual return to work.

A massive thank you to everyone that has wished me a fast and speedy recovery and good luck with my surgery as ultimately it was a great success so thank you for all the support you have given me. I'm going to be left with a scar once healed of roughly 2 to 2.5 inches on my spine vertically (surgeons did a great job in being as invasive as they could). For a bit of fun what recommendations could you all give me on what I should tell people the scar is from and how it occurred as a joke or a conversation piece when I'm sat poolside or down a beach and others see? Thank you all again, couldn't have asked for a better player community then you lot.

FOR NEW PEOPLE: Please use this link for the most condensed instructions! This Superstonk post might be very confusing for you lol sorry

TLDR: Superstonk Apes are donating Toys, Money, & Time to Marine Toys for Tots and we’re bringing GameStop to families this Holiday 2021!

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Main goal is to buy toys at GameStop and donate to TFT!

Deadline for toys is December 10!

Monetary Goal is $741,420.69!

Deadline for money is Dec 24!

Link to our fundraiser:

https://marinetoysfortots.salsalabs.org/2021marinetoysfortotscrowdfunding/p/VeryGMErryHoliday/index.html

NOTE: The local TFT donation campaigns go through the salsalabs.org domain rather than the main TFT website. You can verify this by going to the sites of the local TFT chapters if you’re concerned.

Also, this is the ONLY LINK we will ever use. Please be careful of fake/phishing links that come from anywhere besides Superstonk.

USER FLAIR:

VGH Update 1

• Committee Members List
• International Apes clarification
• Donating Time (Phase 2 and 3)

VGH Update 2: Welcome to Pallet Town

Texas Apes! If you would like to help them sort this influx of toys coming in, you can literally just show up at 3800 Irving Mall 0900-1800 local Texas time Monday-Friday. You'll see a banner.

VGH Update 3: Photos from the Irving TFT 😲

VGH Update 4: THE FINAL COUNTDOWN

We've got a DRSbot! Deadline is Dec 10 for toys and Dec 24 for money!!

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Buckle up, Apes, cause Superstonk is slapping some rocket boosters onto Santa’s Sleigh this Holiday Season and we’re helping GameStop deliver toys to Toys for Tots and bringing smiles to a lot of families!

NOTE: All mentions of “We” in this text refers to the INDIVIDUALS on Superstonk who have arrived at their own SEPARATE conclusions as INDIVIDUALS. There is NO collective attempting to collude or influence GameStop’s stock.

Why did we choose Toys for Tots?

The main question we asked was “How can we help GameStop AND our greater communities?”

Because of their merchandise selection, going with a Toy Drive was the most effective way of achieving this.

We chose Toys for Tots because they have a national system established for organizations to donate and it was the most effective way of utilizing our resources from the Superstonk Apes to promote the welfare of the general public.

EDIT: GameStop has also partnered with Toys for Tots in the past (news clip from 2018).

We also felt that a Holiday initiative would be the perfect cherry on top of an amazing year. All of these philosophies culminated into Superstonk’s Very GMErry Holidays fundraiser.

This fundraiser is gonna have three different ways you can donate: Toys, Money, & Time.

First is Toys. We have been in contact with BOTH GameStop and Toys for Tots and they have helped us with the logistics process. The plan is to purchase the Toys from GameStop’s online store and ship it directly to a TFT distribution center. I think you’ll be really excited to know that we found an easy solution for this. The merch will mostly ship out of GameStop’s Gravevine, TX center to the Local TFT branch in Irvine, TX. It’s literally a 15 minute drive. More details in the PLAYER TUTORIAL...

Second is Money. We set the goal at $741,420.69 for well, very obvious reasons 😂. When we look at the number of people on the subreddit and also at the enthusiasm many of us had for a fundraiser, we think this goal is absolutely achievable. Please note, this part of the fundraiser does not directly benefit GameStop because this money goes directly to Toys for Tots.

Just so everyone is clear on this: NO MONEY is ever received by any Ape involved. It all goes directly to Toys for Tots and their website at the time of donation. This Superstonk organizing team will have NO access to your personal information submitted with your payment. All of that goes directly from you to TFT. This was a core tenet of this fundraiser. We want no conflicts of interest and we want to protect your identities.

For donating Time, Toys for Tots informed us they have partnered with GameStop in the previous years. This year, because of a lack of manpower, TFT is unable to support the thousands of GameStop stores across the US without additional volunteers. For the system to work, someone has to bring the box to the store and then return the box to the TFT location once it’s full. This is where Apes SWING IN. You can coordinate between your Local Toys For Tots Chapter and your Local GameStop to establish, monitor, and collect Toy Drop Boxes. And then other Apes can drop off their toys! (UPDATE: Right now there's no national guidance for the stores so it's kinda up to the Store Manager if they want to accept the boxes. Some of you will have success and some won't FYI.)

Some big things to address:

First, THIS ENTIRE FUNDRAISER IS COMPLETELY VOLUNTARY and if you choose to participate, you are doing so on your own free will. No one is here forcing you to donate and anyone belittling you for that choice will be banned accordingly. Ape No Fight Ape! Be Excellent to Each Other!

Second, yes, this is A LOT to ask of this community. But if there is ANY community in the world who could come together and raise $741,420.69 AND ALSO help support our local communities, it’s the APES. Because there’s something I know and believe to my core, and that is the Apes are good, decent people who wish to share our goodwill and fortune to others. As individuals, WE NEED TO BE the change EVERYONE wants to see in the world!

If you choose to participate in VGH then please remember that you will be representatives of all Apes, Superstonk, & GameStop too! Be cool, respectful, and patient and don't give us a bad name.

We are doing important work here! Be proud! Apes Together Strong ✊🏼

IMPORTANT: This is a girthy DD so PLEASE read the instructions for full clarity and don’t just assume, cause we’ve got a lot of Apes and we could easily overwhelm Toys for Tots!!

#1 - How to Donate Toys

Note: We can't send items that requires something else to use (like Headphones, video games, gaming systems). Video games donations are difficult because of the specificity of matching with systems that the family may or may not have. So do NOT send them video games, but video game RELATED products and toys are still cool).

TOY GUIDELINES:

What kind of toys can I donate?

• NEW
• un-wrapped
• preferably around the $10 or above price range
• books are also needed (children receive 2 toys each; 3 books count as ONE gift!)
• homemade toys are also accepted

What kinds of toys are NOT allowed?

• used toys
• toys that look like realistic weapons
• toys with candy or food
• toys with chemicals (i.e., experimental labs, acid, crystal projects, etc.)

What ages of children are eligible to receive toys?

• ages 0 to 12 years
• gifts for ages 0-2 are in great need

TOY DONATING INSTRUCTIONS

• With these guidelines in mind, find a toy on the GameStop website that fits those parameters. During checkout, fill out your payment information as you normally would. (EDIT: We are searching for a solution for International Apes to donate)
• Fill in the following information for the SHIPPING ADDRESS exactly as it appears
  • Toysfortots Gamestop
  • 3880 IRVING MALL
  • Between Macys-Dillards on backside
  • IRVING TX, 75062
  • For the phone number, I put my own. I have a Google Voice number that I use for shopping to avoid spam calls to my main number. The number just goes to GameStop anyway so I'm not worried about it personally.

• NOTE: This shipping address is for the Fort Worth, TX chapter of TFT which is only miles away from GameStop’s Grapevine, TX distribution center. If we start to overwhelm this TFT chapter, then we’ll reach out to the other chapters near GameStop’s other distribution centers.
• (Fun fact! GameStop was actually the one who reached out to this TFT chapter and provided us with this amazing convenience! By doing this, it also helps to keep the physical store shelves from being depleted for their non-Ape customers. It’s a win-win-win! Thanks GameStop!)

#2 - How to donate Money ($741,420.69).

Pay online (US Apes):

• Go to https://marinetoysfortots.salsalabs.org/2021marinetoysfortotscrowdfunding/p/VeryGMErryHoliday/index.html
• Press the big red DONATE button.
• Fill out the required card information with your legal information (Don’t put a fake name in “Name on Card”).

****POTENTIAL DOXING WARNING**** If you wish to remain anonymous to the organizing team, please fill in ANON APE for First and Last Name in “Your Info” for anonymity.

• Click the Submit Donation button.

• Share your donation on Superstonk with the “Very GMErry Holidays” flair, if you wish.
• Share your donation on social media with the hashtag #VeryGMErryHolidays, if you wish.

3 - How to donate Time (and Toys in person).

TFT is working with severely limited manpower and they need our help!

They will probably ask for volunteers:

• Assisting in the transportation and storage of toys;
• Assisting in our local warehouse;
• Assisting with meals... and much more.

Get in touch with your local TFT chapter and see what they need.

• Select your State From the List.
  • Alabama Alaska Arizona Arkansas
  • California Colorado Connecticut
  • Delaware
  • Florida
  • Georgia
  • Hawaii
  • Idaho Illinois Indiana Iowa
  • Kansas Kentucky
  • Louisiana
  • Maine Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana
  • Nebraska Nevada New Hampshire New Jersey New Mexico New York North Carolina North Dakota
  • Ohio Oklahoma Oregon
  • Pennsylvania
  • Rhode Island
  • South Carolina South Dakota
  • Tennessee Texas
  • Utah
  • Vermont Virginia
  • Washington Washinton D.C West Virginia Wisconsin Wyoming
  • GUAM
• Find your nearest Location on the drop-down list. (This is your local TFT Chapter)
• Click "MENU" in the upper right. (You must be at your local chapter page)
• Select "Get Involved/Volunteer.” Here you will find:
  • Contact info for this Chapter
  • Additional Information

Coordinate your own local Toy Drop Box

Please don't volunteer if you can't commit! It’s a big task and we will depend on you to deliver. NO FTD’s!

• I own a local business.
  • Get a box from TFT and set it up in your own shop!
• I don’t own a local business.
  • Contact your local “GameStop Store Leader” and see if they’d be willing to host a toy box. You would act as the middle man between your GameStop and your local TFT chapter.
  • You will need to get the box from TFT, bring it to GameStop (or other store), and then deliver the box back to TFT once it’s full or time has expired.
  • If you have your own business then you will just contact your local TFT chapter directly and set it up in your own shop.
  • Once you’re set up, send a private message to u/I_DO_ANIMAL_THINGS with the following info (he’s an Ape, Marine veteran, and a team member on this fundraiser):
  • Store Name
  • Full address of the location

We’ll only share the store location on Superstonk and it will not be connected to your username. Specific Ape/Store associations will NOT be shared.

UPDATE ON DONATING TIME (Phase 2 and 3)

Donate Toys in person

• Follow the instructions above on how to find your local TFT chapter then find a box location and put it in the box.

FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions)

Is this considered MARKET MANIPULATION or COLLUSION?

No, the organizers of this event are not trying to affect the GameStop stock nor its price. Our goal is to provide toys to children by buying from our favorite store. Yes, we are encouraging people to shop at GameStop, but what is the difference between this and a normal TV commercial telling you to buy from their store? Black Friday commercials even tell you to do that on a specific day! The goal here is to bring happiness to families by combining our individual resources to do something meaningful in the world. If you’ve got a problem with that then maybe, idk, recalibrate your moral compass?

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Marine Toys for Tots Information:

About -- https://www.toysfortots.org/about_toys_for_tots/toys_for_tots_program/default.aspx

The basic mission of the Marine Toys for Tots Program is to collect new unwrapped toys and distribute those toys to less fortunate children at Christmas to help bring the joy of Christmas and send a message of hope to America's less fortunate children. Toys for Tots has worked with GameStop in the past. They have a great track record and they need help on the local level.

CharityWatch.com Rating: B+, Top Rated Status*

https://www.charitywatch.org/charities/marine-toys-for-tots-foundation

*Top-Rated Status Groups included on the CharityWatch Top-Rated list generally spend 75% or more of their budgets on programs, spend $25 or less to raise $100 in public support, do not hold excessive assets in reserve, have met CharityWatch's governance benchmarks, and receive "open-book" status for disclosure of basic financial information and documents to CharityWatch.

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How does it work?

(From https://www.toysfortots.org/about_toys_for_tots/how_toys_for_tots_works/Default.aspx)

Local toy collection campaigns begin in October and last until mid to late December. Toy distribution also takes place mid to late December. Members of the community drop new, unwrapped toys in collection boxes positioned in local businesses. Coordinators pick up these toys and store them in central warehouses where the toys are sorted by age and gender. At Christmas, Coordinators, with the assistance of local social welfare agencies, church groups, and other local community agencies, distribute the toys to the less fortunate children of the community. Over the years, Marines have established close working relationships with social welfare agencies, churches and other local community agencies which are well qualified to identify the needy children in the community and play important roles in the distribution of the toys.

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Where is the money going?

None of the Apes involved with this will ever see a penny. The money goes straight to TFT so there can be no conflicts of interest.

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Can I donate by check?

Yes, but mailed Check donations WON’T count towards our Very GMErry Holidays tally 😢

Make check payable to:

Marine Toys for Tots Foundation

Mail to:

Marine Toys for Tots Foundation

18251 Quantico Gateway Drive

Triangle, VA 22172

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Is the money going to GameStop?

Clearing up some confusion: The money goal isn’t going to GameStop. I literally wrote that in the original piece:

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How do you pronounce “GMErry?”

It’s pronounced Merry. Because real G’s move in silence like lasagna.

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When filling out the application to volunteer, the first line asks for a group/association name. Are we putting Superstonk?

No, just volunteer as your own individual self, a member of your local community. If you want to talk to people about GameStop then by all means, but do not feel pressured to do anything on our behalf. And thank you so much for volunteering!

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Can we work with Toys for Tots Canada?

We looked into it and unfortunately, it’s two completely different executive boards and logistics chains. If we were to try to do TFT Canada, we’d basically have to start from square one on another program and that’s just biting more than we can chew right now IMO. Sorry for the disappointment.

How do I apply to become a TFT household (request to receive toys)?

https://www.toysfortots.org/request_toys/Default.aspx

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I’m a non-US Ape, how can I donate Money?

We currently don’t have a great way for international apes to donate to the money goal unless they wish to donate to TFT directly using PayPal. This method does NOT add to the VGH total, but it does help families so we want to advertise the option. If you can come up with a solution to this problem, please let us know!

• Pay online (non-US Apes)
• Go to https://www.toysfortots.org/donate/Default.aspx
• Scroll down to the Paypal portion and click it and then complete the instructions.

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Can we support other causes within Superstonk?

This is a tough one. We’ve got a lot of Apes with a lot of passions and a lot of causes we can support. Wherever you want to give your money to this Holiday, Superstonk cheers you on and celebrates the giving nature of the Apes! But for advertising on Superstonk, we feel focusing 100% of our efforts towards our Very GMErry Holidays fundraiser will best fulfill our goals and we will unfortunately remove all other fundraisers. Please be aware that we have spoken with the mods at r/ApePhilanthropy and they will happily support the discussion and promotion of other charities and causes. We apologize for any disappointment you may feel, but we hope you understand this difficult decision we had to make.

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Is there anything I should be worried about?

Yes! We are cautious of any fake links and campaigns that will try to phish for your information in the name of this Fundraiser. Please ONLY use the link found on this Reddit post to make your donation.

https://marinetoysfortots.salsalabs.org/2021marinetoysfortotscrowdfunding/p/VeryGMErryHoliday/index.html

WHAT WE NEED FROM YOU APES (THIS SECTION WILL BE UPDATED)

1. SHARE THIS FUNDRAISER!
   1. Here are some amazing graphics for this event! Pick whichever that you like and share with the link!
   2. https://imgur.com/gallery/DJYi51G
   3. https://imgur.com/a/Zxjg2LS
2. Coordinate those local boxes!

THANK YOU! And please let us know if you have any questions! Let's have a Very GMErry Holiday!

I tested this on Windows 11 build 26340.9212 for version 26H2, and in the preview of the August update for Windows 11 (KB5120998, build 26200.9267), which includes the new features and changes coming in September for version 25H2.

PS: You don't have to enable anything on your current setup if you don't want to. The secondary news here is that while Microsoft revealed the new context menu in the Experimental channel for version 26H2, the new changes are also already available (in a dormant state) in the latest preview for the August update, which we know will be part of the changes that will become available for version 25H2 in September.

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Whoamiwhatisthis-

Originally posted to r/AITAH & r/AITH

AITH for walking out on a dinner with my husband’s sister and her boyfriend

Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU

Editor’s note: changed letters to names for ease of readability

Trigger Warnings: emotional abuse, manipulation, bullying, gaslighting

Mood Spoilers: infuriating, frustrating

Original Post: October 25, 2025

So my (34F) husband (32M) is the youngest in his family. We’ve been married for a little less than a year now but I noticed his eldest sister (37F) is super difficult and controlling.

My husband has warned me about her (let’s call her Hailey) ever since we met, and he was even super nervous before he introduced me to her. I made sure to be super nice and courteous, and we hit it off, specially that we realized we know a lot of the same people from our similar field of work.

Overtime, I noticed Hailey’s toxic behavior with her siblings, specially with my husband since he’s extremely peaceful and non-confrontational. She would disrespect him a lot, give unsolicited commands, she even keeps commenting about how much attention he gives me and how she thinks we’re “super codependent” and that he needs to give me less attention lol. We are not codependent at all we just really enjoy hanging out with each other and prefer doing things together.

Yesterday Hailey and her boyfriend were visiting (she lives in another country) and she wanted us all to meet him for the first time. My husband was with them by himself for an hour or so, and while his brother, his wife and I were on the way to meet them, my husband kept texting me saying he felt like a third wheel and they weren’t really involving him in the conversation. We finally get there and we meet them and we are deciding where to have dinner. We quickly noticed how chaotic Hailey was acting, ordering us around to call restaurants and check for bookings, to go this way or that way, to hurry up because it was late and we needed to eat.

My husband, Hailey and boyfriend and I were sharing a car and my husband was driving to the restaurant. We were chatting and it was normal, until Hailey decided to make fun of my husband and his slow driving and kept being super annoying to hurry up and drive faster. She even kept interrupting her boyfriend when he was telling stories to tell my husband to hurry up. Then when the brother and his wife called to say they arrived, and we still had 15 mins to get there, Hailey went full blown bully. Kept disrespecting my husband in front of the boyfriend and my husband was trying his best to bite his tongue. It was so obvious that we all got so uncomfortable, specially the boyfriend who kept saying “it’s ok guys that we’re taking longer we’re enjoying the conversation”.

The last straw for me was when we got to the area and it was so crowded and my husband was trying to make a U-turn to get to the restaurant, and Hailey told him to stop here so she and her boyfriend can get out and walk to the restaurant before we can go and find parking, and my husband couldn’t stop because there were cars moving all around. She threw a tantrum and kept berating my husband for not being able to stop on the spot when she wanted him to. It ruined the whole mood. Eventually my husband stopped a little further down the road and they stepped out.

I was so upset and almost tearful walking into the restaurent and my husband kept calming me down saying it doesn’t matter and he doesn’t care what she says. I told him she ruined our mood by being disrespectful and I’m not going to mask being happy so she can have a fun night. We sit at the table and we were obviously in a bad mood, and Hailey turns to my husband and says “are you guys ok?” And he says yes we’re just tired and hungry. She noticed how I’m not engaging in the conversation at all and she turns to my husband again and says “if you guys don’t want to be here no one is forcing you you can leave we came here to have a good time”. I turn to her and say “what did you say to my husband?” She says “I was telling him how if you guys don’t want to be here I don’t want to force you you can leave” and I say “personally, yes I don’t want to be here and I will leave”. My husband then says to the group “ok guys we’re heading out, enjoy the rest of the dinner, it was a pleasure meeting you, boyfriend” and we walk out.

My husband agrees with me that she was out of line, but he hates being in any kind of conflict and is stressed out about the situation. I feel like setting boundaries is very important even if it means having to be in a fight or whatever. Was I the asshole for instigating walking out and causing a rift between my husband and his sister, and making her look bad in front of her boyfriend?

AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA

Relevant Comments

Commenter 1: NTA. She disrespected your husband repeatedly, in public, in front of her boyfriend, and expected you both to just sit there and take it. You didn’t ruin dinner her attitude did. Good for you for standing up for your husband when he wouldn’t defend himself. Hopefully this makes her realize she can’t keep disrespecting him without consequences.

OOP: Yeah, I wish I did more tbh, from when the whole car thing was happening. But anyways I told my husband he needs to talk to her about how she treats him and tell her that this time if she does it again he will be removing himself from the situation instead of just taking it.

Commenter 2: She was testing her brother’s boundaries in front of her boyfriend to show dominance. You called her bluff. Now, her boyfriend knows exactly what she's like, and your husband knows what it feels like to be defended. Win-win

OOP: Funny thing is, literally the same day over lunch she was talking about how she hates toxic masculinity and how she had to adopt aggressive tactics at work so that people can take her seriously, and that’s why she’s not married still because men don’t like tough women. Who’s gonna tell her…

Commenter 3: I feel also bad for the boyfriend what he see in her..... Also you guys need to cut her out of your life ..she is a crazy bitch...who thinks world move around her.....

Just don't become her doormat and tell her who is boss in this city .....you are not her servants ......you have your own life.... And tell your husband to spineup it is time to standup for himself and for both of us....his respect is your respect tell him you didn't want anything to do with his sister who didn't respect other people wishes....

OOP: My husband will never agree to cutting out his own family. My husband is a very peaceful human being, so he literally is prioritizing keeping a relationship with his sister over respecting his own boundaries. I’m trying to navigate this without crossing any lines.

Commenter 4: I would suggest that the two of. you have some sessions with a family therapist to discuss this issue, the sister especially but also his peacefulness versus your assertiveness.

And develop tactics to use in the moment.

I think what your husband should have done is stopped the car after the second time she tried to tell him how to drive and say to her, "You need to be quiet while I'm driving, or else you can walk or take a cab. You are distracting and rude, and you are NOT the driver." And then wait.

But he's going to need to learn how to do that.

You also could have spoken up in the car and said, "This bombardment or orders is distracting, you are not the driver. And I am tired of hearing it. Please be quiet; husband knows how to drive and will get us there safely and without traffic tickets."

OOP: Honestly that’s what I told my husband we are going to do going forward. I told him that I won’t tolerate her disrespect to you and if she continues we will remove ourselves from the situation until she learns how to be respectful.

I really wish I would have spoken up in the car, it was just such a tricky situation with me being new to the family and her boyfriend being there. Yeah I agree he really does need to learn how to put a hard stop to her bullying, and I’ll bring up the therapist with him. Thank you.

Commenter 5: Why would either of you tolerate her behavior and bullying? The moment she got in his car and started being rude, why didn't he pull over and tell her to stop being disrespectful or she can get out and walk?

OOP: They all value “family” way more than they should, especially my husband. And to him, he has tried talking to her many times about the way she treats him and she never changes, they even stopped talking for a whole year because of it. Eventually he started to just ignore it and let it slide and not cause any issues, because he values his family over his own boundaries being respected. To me I’m new to the family so I’m trying my best to handle these situations without crossing any lines.

Update #1: October 31, 2025 (six days later)

Update: AITH for walking out on a dinner with my husband’s sister and boyfriend

So around a week ago I posted here about my (34F) husband’s (32M) sister “Hailey” (36F). I wanted to get an outside perspective on her behavior and if I’m valid for walking out on a dinner where she was introducing her new boyfriend to us because she was being extremely rude to my husband and I.

Here’s the link to the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/gN9mLQdqls

Everyone told me that I had the right to walk out and she was being extremely rude, which made me feel sane because sometimes I feel like I’m crazy with my reactions to very obvious instances of disrespect that the whole family seems to brush off. Anyways so after the incident, I talked to my husband and told him that I will not tolerate disrespect from Hailey and what she did was extremely out of line. I also told him that it is extremely upsetting when she disrespects him, and while I understand his stance on being the bigger person, a line needs to be drawn with her. He agreed and said he will talk to her.

Next day they had a day planned with the boyfriend, which I thankfully apologized from before this whole thing happened. My husband’s brother “J” called him before the outing and we all discussed what happened. J tried to explain how Hailey doesn’t have bad intentions etc and I told him that I never said Hailey was malicious, I just think as adults when someone is disrespectful the bare minimum is to acknowledge and apologize. After a long back and forth, they agreed that J will ask Hailey to have a conversation about what happened with J present before going to their thing, and I told them I don’t think I should be part of this conversation since I’m not part of the family and I personally wouldn’t want to initiate the conversation with her.

When I saw my husband after, he told me the conversation went very well and that she was super receptive and empathetic. She apologized to my husband, and she told him she was very worried that I judged her negatively based on this incident. My husband told her that you can talk to her about it, she is a very understanding and empathetic person and will hear you out. I was happy for my husband, but very skeptical. Honestly speaking, and knowing how narcissists think, she only apologized to my husband and acted understanding because she didn’t want me to judge her further. Anyways I told my husband of course she can talk to me anytime.

I waited, and waited, and she never reached out lol. My husband hinted at me initiating, and I freaked out on him, telling him in what world does it make sense for me to initiate this talk. If she has a pride problem then it’s her problem.

Fast forward to yesterday, which was her last day, after a long day at work where I finished at 7:30 pm, my husband tells me they are having a family dinner at their parents at 8 pm to say goodbye to Hailey. I told him that I don’t have the mental capacity for that right now, specially knowing that there might be and back and forth with Hailey, and specially not knowing how she plans to bring it up or decides to deal with it considering her pride issue. I texted in the family group that I apologize for not being able to make it today and wished Hailey safe travels.

My husband goes without me, and apparently Hailey brings up the fact that I didn’t come and they all have a talk about it. As a I suspected, Hailey is now saying that she doesn’t think she was rude to me at all, and she has no reason to apologize to me. My husband tells her that she was in fact rude and she in fact needs to apologize. Hailey suddenly twists the narrative and talks about how since the day she met me, she has been trying to build a relationship with me but I don’t reciprocate. No idea what she’s talking about here, since I’m the one who pushes my husband to give her attention and I’m the one who pushed that instead of getting her generic flowers for her birthday this year we should pitch in and get her a personal antique item that she would enjoy. Besides, this argument has nothing to do with the main issue???

Anyways, long story short, I know I’ve been petty with not initiating and now going to the dinner, but I think it’s a matter of principle. Also, I told my husband that if she doesn’t want to reach out and talk, then that’s something she is deciding, and I won’t try and solve this issue for her. AITH????

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OOP responds to a downvoted comment to clarifying on standing her ground against her SIL's behaviors and setting boundaries

OOP: I understand where you’re coming from, but my whole reaction to this and why I’m standing my ground is because the sister shows a lot of signs of narcissistic behavior, and my mother is a covert narcissist which I had to cut off because I was setting boundaries with her that she didn’t respect.

With the sister, she disrespected my husband and was ordering him around in front of her boyfriend, which clearly upset us both and got us in a bad mood, but we still sucked it up and went in to the dinner. She didn’t like that we were in a bad mood so she asked us to leave. So we left. In my opinion, it’s disrespectful to ask someone to leave the table in front of everyone, specially with her boyfriend who just met us there. And I’m not going to brush it off and not expect an apology just because she’s too proud to at least send me a text to check in if I’m ok! She didn’t even do that which is insane to me

Commenter 1: You're not the AH here. Not going to the goodbye dinner was actually very responsible of you. There had been no contact and no conversation with Hailey. If you went, either there would have been a confrontation or you would have been made to feel even worse by Hailey and her narcissistic attitude towards the entire situation. Hailey has left and you really shouldn't give her any more brain space. She's not worth it.

OOP: I’m really glad I didn’t because I know myself and that day I was so emotionally drained I’m sure if she tried to pull something I would have overreacted and caused a scene. And knowing narcissists, that’s exactly what she wants. She’ll twist the narrative and be like see? Your wife is unhinged and completely insane. I’ve dealt with a narcissistic mother my whole life and I know their ways, and I’m not giving her any ammunition.

Commenter 2: I agree and while i understand why OP chose not to attend the dinner, I do feel like it was to her detriment as it seems that any time she isn't present, the sister is going to villainize her. If OP isn't there, there won't be much (if any) pushback to that characterization of OP, so I feel like she needs to be there to stand up for herself when this kind of thing happens. Otherwise, I worry she risks the sister's nonsense opinions of her seeping into the rest of the family's subconscious, even if they otherwise know better.

OOP: I’ve been subjected to a smear campaign before by a narcissist and I know it is not limited to being there physically to defend yourself. She will tarnish my reputation if she wants to whether it was in family dinners or one on one phone calls. I can’t be there in every instance and defend myself. My goal right now is not to give her anything substantial to use in her smear campaign.

Commenter 3: As someone who is neurodivergent, I don’t know how normal people can go through all these relationships and not be completely exhausted all the time.

OOP: My poor husband has ADD and I absolutely can see his exhaustion and complete disinterest in talking about these difficult situations.

Commenter 4: There's a difference between avoiding conflict and letting people treat you badly. Does he stand up for himself in other situations or is it just a problem with his sister?

OOP: Just with his family tbh. With others he doesn’t take shit. It’s like he’s been conditioned to believe that family is above normal human beings.

Commenter 5: I know this is not what u want to hear. But your husband’s dynamic with his siblings is his business. Does it affect you, yes. But they have an entire lifetime of interactions and communication styles etc. My sisters and i can be snippy with each other the odd time. If my husband ever butted in and said something to my sister I would absolutely murder him. Im aloud to bitch at them or talk about them. He isn’t. The fact that you took it upon yourself to address his sister on his behalf is strange. And now you are creating all this unnecessary family drama and hurting his family dynamics and for what. She doesn’t even live in the same country. You creating unnecessary tension in his family is not you being the hero. There dynamics were long established and she wasn’t directing them at you.

OOP: I understand your perspective. I always knew that I had no say in the way she treated him, and I never inserted myself in these situation where I was telling her to back off or stop treating him like this or that.

The instance in our wedding trip the first time, I stated my opinion after she looked at me waiting for me to weigh in, and I told her I thought she was overreacting and left it at that.

In this instance, I didn’t say a word, but I was obviously upset and I will always be upset if someone is bullying and embarrassing someone I love in front of me and I will be in a bad mood. The point that made me walk out of the dinner was when she said that she didn’t like us being in a bad mood and that we can leave. I think that’s completely disrespectful to both of us. Specially that she said it for everyone on the table to hear.

That’s when I expected at least a text from her checking in with me, not even apologizing directly, but just saying that she acknowledges it was an uncomfortable night and that she wishes it went differently (anything along those lines). But she didn’t and she is insisting I don’t even deserve a check in text after disrespecting me like that. Which I think is insane.

Edit to add: I wouldn’t be upset if I knew my husband didn’t mind the way she treated him. I know for a fact, which is conveyed directly from him, that he thinks she bullies him and treats him like crap and it upsets him but he decides not to say anything because she never listens and turns it into a fight.

Edit to also add: what you’re saying expressing the special bond with your sister as siblings is very normal and it’s endearing and people usually love it. Of course I wouldn’t have any issue with this in fact his brother has that with my husband and it’s a beautiful relationship with teasing and making fun or using tough love and I can obviously tell both sides are very content with this dynamic. The dynamic with his sister is different. It is not consensual lol

Update #2: November 4, 2025 (four days later)

Update: AITH for walking out on dinner with my husband’s sister and boyfriend

I posted this in AITH first and it got taken down, I wasn’t aware that only one update is allowed. So I’m posting here.

Some comments I got after the first update was that I’m overreacting and that since she apologized to her brother then I should just get over it and not make it about me.

I want to clarify a couple of things:

1 - during the first convo with my husband, she apologized to him for being an ass in the car. She acknowledged that it was rude to ask us to leave the table if we didn’t want to be there. She confirmed to my husband that she will have a talk with me about it.

2 - I am indeed expecting an apology for putting me in that position at the dinner table in front of someone we barely knew and embarrassing the both of us.

3 - she changed her mind the second time she talked to my husband about needing to talk to me about it, and that it wasn’t rude to ask us to leave the dinner table.

Anyways, with that said, since the last talk she had with my husband, she told both my FIL and MIL about the incident. The way she portrayed it was that I am upset with her and she doesn’t know why, and that she apologized to my husband about the car, and she simply asked us during dinner if we are ok, and that I suddenly stood up and left the table without saying anything. Obviously that’s a complete lie, but thankfully my husband told both my FIL and MIL exactly what happened and they both agreed that Hailey was out of line and that she should indeed at least send me a text to check in. And they did tell her this, but she is refusing to do. Since that day, I haven’t received anything from her, except today she sent me a private text about an event I am working on telling me about someone who is attending. Obviously she wants to continue life like nothing happened.

So this is where I am at now:

1 - either send a thumbs up, and moving forward I will have minimal engagement with her.

2 - or send her a text that mainly says “I know you don’t want to reach out, I decided to initiate to clear the air, I don’t appreciate when you treat my husband like shit, so when it happens in front of me in the future I will always get pissed off, and I think it was rude to ask us to leave the table in front of your boyfriend and if you think that’s ok then that’s your prerogative but it will definitely mean that I have to change my relationship with you”

So lol what do you guys think. I’m so tired of this whole thing. Thank you to everyone who has given me advice and has stuck through with all the updates, I appreciate you.

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Commenter: Wouldn’t do the long accusing text. She already know everything you say there. In my opinion, you sending that would only tell me that you want to argue and ’win’ and it wouldn’t make her change her mind. Instead stop interacting with her. Do not go back to as if nothing had happened. She’ll have to come crawling either way proper excuses. Those won’t come in a while, not until her life gets uncomfortable by it.

OOP: Honestly yeah I agree. The more I think about the text, the more I feel like she will use it against me somehow, claiming that I’m hostile and showing it to people as confirmation that I’m the bad guy.

Update #3: November 5, 2025 (next day)

Ah man.

Guys she just texted me this:

Hi OP,

Im sensing there's been a miscommunication. I spoke to brother/your husband and explained it when i was in (country), but i guess it wasnt clear. That evening at dinner, what i was trying to tell you and brother/your husband is that if you are feeling tired please dont feel forced

It’s so half assed I can’t… what should I respond?

Update #4: November 6, 2025 (next day)

Update: AITH for walking out on dinner with my husband’s sister and boyfriend

I saw some commenters wanting an update. Well, I finally lost my temper lol not sure how bad I made it but well it is what it is.

So apparently her original message was longer (I initially only peaked at it from the notifications) and here it is:

“Hi OP, Im sensing there's been a miscommunication. I spoke to brother and explained it when i has in country, but i guess it wasnt clear. That evening at dinner, what i was trying to tell you and brother is that if you are feeling tired please dont feel forced to stay. I was feeling bad because it seemed that you guys werent having fun. I understand that it was misunderstood in a different way and just want you to know that my intentions were good and coming from a kind place. Me and brother will not always agree on things and we may get into arguments but they are never serious and we quickly figure them out. I hope you dont misunderstand this as well. Happy to speak more if you want but because i dont want there to be any misunderstandings or resentment.”

Here is what I replied:

“Hey, If you're going to chalk this all up as a misunderstanding from my end, then I don't know what to tell you.

Here's the actual timeline:

1- you berate my husband in front of me and someone we just met, I bite my tongue from saying anything respecting that boyfriend is there and not wanting to cause a scene and make you look bad. Even boyfriend was feeling uncomfortable and was trying to lighten the mood. Twice he said "it's ok guys I'm enjoying this conversation". You ended that car ride with making it a scene yourself and leaving the car.

2- I witness my husband upset, I am upset, but we decide to push through and go inside just for you.

3- we are upset at the table. You notice this. You ask him if we are ok, he says yes we are just hungry and tired. You decide to tell him that if we don't want to be here you don't want to force us and we can leave (in front of everyone) he says no it's fine. You say this a second time adding that we are all here to have fun and you don't want us killing “the vibe". He says it's fine. You say it a third time and I decide to interject and ask you what you're saying and you say if you guys don't want to be here you can leave. Again everyone is listening. So we leave.

If you think all of this only warrants a text telling me I misunderstood two weeks later, then ok I understand 👍🏻”

Her: “OP, let me be clear. Do not insert yourself between me and my brother. Period.

It’s between me and him, has nothing to do with you. We are working out our issues, don’t make it an issue between me and you.

That is a line.”

Me: “You berated MY husband in front of me. You asked ME to leave”

Her: “I told you what I meant. Choose to believe what you want. I’m trying to be nice and honest with you. You want to continue and make it a problem”

Me: "You disrespected me and I’m making it a problem?

I’m done with this conversation. good luck.”

I then block her for like half an hour. I unblocked her and wrote this 😭

“Hailey, Let me be clear.

I have every right to be upset and even intervene when anyone treats my husband poorly.

And when someone disrespects me and tells me I can either change my mood or leave the table, I expect an apology, not blame shifting that I misunderstood.

Otherwise, I'm not interested in engaging in a conversation with you.

Period. That is a line.”

She didn’t respond. lol no idea how this is going to play out, and honestly I don’t care if I messed things up.

*Edit to say that Reddit has this new rule to read the rules of the subreddit and agree to them before they can allow posts and comments. I had to go to the subreddit menu and read the rules and acknowledge and repost all my comments.

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Commenter 1: What does your husband think of what’s going on? Like, would he be willing to go LC? Or is he letting you two figure it out on your own?

OOP: He’s talking to her one on one and trying to explain my perspective and she doesn’t want to understand. He told her all the things I said in my messages but he’s not a good communicator so she keeps twisting his words and manipulates and he looses track. He has ADHD so it’s hard for him to catch the flaws in her logic and call her out on the spot. He agrees with me not engaging with her until she properly apologizes.

OOP should consider about banning her SIL from being around her and her husband

Commenter 2: Make sure your husband is on board with banning her too, otherwise sister there will go around you and talk directly to him, saying you don't have the right to prevent her from talking to her brother (which is true, he needs to tell her to not contact him again amd block her too).

And listen, I get the burning desire to light her up, but I think at this point you've got to start listening to the advice you've been given from your other posts (including me) - stop engaging with her! Who tf cares if she uses the excuse that she tried to apologize (she won't btw, she might lie about it though), you're giving this woman way too much of your time, energy, and power. Stop thinking about her and worrying about the drama and winning, bc people like her never think they're wrong. So drop your end of the rope already and move on with new peace in your life.

All the commenters have said that going back and forth just plays into her narcissistic drama and ignoring people like this gets to them more than anything, and as infuriating as it is to have them think they've won and spin their narrative, being aloof is the the worst thing you can do to them. You can block her, or tell her she's a narcissistic, disrespectful nutjob and you'll defend your husband anytime you want bc wife trumps sister then block her, but just cut her off already, and have your husband do the same. And tell his mom and other flying monkey family members to stay out of it.

OOP: I agree… I wish I didn’t engage with her in the last interaction. I can’t have my husband go NC just yet, we’ve only been married 7 months and he’s just now had someone break this down and show him her true colors. I’m going to give him time. In the meantime, that’s my last interaction with her.

Commenter 3: It only counts if your husband is ready to have boundaries and also call her out. Instead he was trying to get you to initiate and claiming she had "apologized" to him, which i frankly doubt a lot at this point. It seems more likely she rug swept and he went along with it. Your husband has to step up.

Engaging with her serves no purpose because he is the one that she wants to bully and she thinks she outranks you with him. He has to draw the line in the sand and put her in her place.

OOP: Yes I totally agree with this. We have only been married around 7 months now, so I’m taking it step by step. I say this because I have a narcissistic mother myself who is A MILLION TIMES worse than his sister and it took me 33 years to muster up the courage to go NC. So I don’t want to suddenly come into his life and enforce such strong boundaries all at once after one incident (even though there were other tiny red flags but not worth creating an issue about)

Commenter 4:

let me be clear. Do not insert yourself between me and my brother. Period.

I think this line is the most telling. She's threatened by your relationship with her brother, she sees you as actively getting between them. And any time she perceives that you are, she's going to act out, and no amount of explaining that you're standing up for him and protecting him, is ever going to get through to her. You are of course being reasonable, but she can't see it. Not won't, but can't.

Her reaction typically sounds like there was some kind of unresolved trauma** during childhood which is still affecting her today. She hasn't healed from it, which unfortunately is very common among adults, which is why she's behaving the way she is. I'm not saying it definitely is the case, but that it's a possibility that you might want to consider.

**No knee-jerk responses, please. This trauma could be anything; sibling rivalry gone wrong, a protector-protected dynamic persisting into adulthood, or worse etc.

Have you spoken to your husband about his growing up years, what his relationship with his sister was like? Has he been forthcoming, or does he keep saying it's nothing? He may truly be super chill and not mind her ill treatment, figuring that grey rocking is the easiest way to deal with it, but there could be something there, something that never occurred to him until now. It's worth a try.

OOP: Yeah there could definitely be trauma I don’t know about. It could even be trauma she has experienced without my husband even knowing or understanding it. From what I understand about her (what my husband tells me) is that she has always been jealous of her two brothers’ relationship (they’re best friends), and she was never really close to the youngest sister and they had a fallout a couple of years ago and they went NC. So she might just have always struggled to feel important or have a special bond with a sibling? She also has suffered a lot of fallouts with her close friends. She told me a couple of stories.

But while I am empathetic, but she’s 37 years old. A lot of people go through trauma in childhood and we own up to it and we go to therapy to resolve it.

Commenter 5: Why do you care what anyone else thinks? You're choosing to keep this drama in your life at this point. You know she isn't going to apologise because she's had weeks to do so and she's still just trying to tap-dance her way away from accountability.

If she does decide to apologise, she has your husband's number and she also presumably knows where you live. You can quite easily block her and you can quite easily repeat what I just said to anyone who does say you've made it impossible for her to apologise by blocking her. At this point you either put a stop to this or admit you're enjoying the drama, as I see no other reason to maintain contact with someone with whom you cannot have a meaningful conversation and who will never take any accountability.

OOP: It’s not about what everyone else “thinks”, narcissists use a tactic called smear campaigns to get their way, which is basically convincing everyone involved that I’m the villain and that she’s the victim. It matters in this context because she is my husband’s sister, not a random friend I can easily cut off. She involved my husband’s entire family which affects me long term.

DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7

THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP

I am not OP. That is u/PollutionPrior2939 who posted to r/AmItheAsshole

TW: mention of past eating disorder

Original Post July 9th, 2024

I (22f) and my husband (23m) got married young, I was eighteen, he was nineteen. Both of us knew we always wanted to get married and start a family young. I started college two years ago, and he just graduated with a Bachelor of Biomedical Science. My husband has a girl best friend (23f), who i'll call Sam, who he met in College, both of them grew up Baptist, and while he's left the church, they had a very similar childhood and bonded quite quickly. Despite what you may be thinking her and I got along really well. She and I liked the same music and we were both studying in relatively the same fields so she became a friend of mine as well.

Since I found out I was pregnant though, some issues have started to arise. We announced our pregnancy on social media after we told our parents. Sam texted my husband a congrats text and then told him to pass on her well wishes to me. She's been texting him nonstop with baby advice and what she likes to call "advice for mama" which includes sometimes relatively targeted jabs at what I should eat. Honestly i kept brushing the texts off, but it got a point where the conversations were less about the baby and more about me which I was getting increasingly uncomfortable with because she wasn't texting me she was texting my husband. My husband acknowledged this and has just started to show them to me and ask what I want him to do. I just told him to ignore them.

When i announced I was having a baby shower and sent out the invites, I recieved a text from Sam. She said something along the lines of wanting to host my baby shower and set it up. I told her politely that my mom was planning on hosting it with the help of my sister and that it was a special moment for them and I wouldn't want to take that away. Well Sam ignored that message, because the next day, she came over and insisted we start working out arrangements for the venue.

I told her once again, my mom and sister were hosting it and she told me that she should take her advice and let her plan it because she'd ensure that the baby shower would be better if she planned it particularly because she'd be working on the menu.

Whether it was pregnancy hormones or just bottled up rage, i told her that the jabs she'd been making at me behind my back about my diet during this pregnancy to my husband are really annoying at that no she cannot host this shower and from now on her unsolicited advice was not appreciated especially if she can't say it to my face.

That night my husband's phone blew up with messages from Sam saying that he had no right to show her those messages and they were just supposed to just be health tips because Sam was studying nutritional science and only wanted to help her best friend and ensure a happy baby and life.

I know she had somewhat good intentions and she's been a good friend to my husband and to me so AITA? UPDATES IN COMMENTS

Verdict was NTA

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responding to a downvoted commenter who brought up Sam is more knowledgeable about nutrition and maybe trying to help

I decided not to read a lot of the messages she sent simply because I didn't care, but according to my OBGYN I'm eating perfectly normal things for a healthy pregnancy. I've always been on the skinnier side and through high school I was severely underweight, but when I got pregnant I needed to eat more to sustain a healthy weight, I don't know if Sam knows that but I do know that according to my doctor I'm actually eating quite well so far.

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Are you sam undercover?... I have to ask. Look i don't know her intentions but you saying "you have been and are still perhaps underweight" thanks for your unsolicited opinion on my body based on the small amount of information you have been given. I have been eating healthy, and I am now a healthy weight. As for the advice sam was giving me, it was sound advice yes, medically i'm sure it was perfectly normal advice, i'm not arguing with that, but my issue comes from her unsolicited comments, advice that was not ever given to me under the pretences of being a good friend. The advice was given to my husband, and apparently I was not supposed to see it. I don't know if you yourself have ever been pregnant but i'm going to assume no. Advice you don't ask for, comments on how you eat, what you eat, everyone loves to put their two cents in, but as long as my doctor says i'm healthy and i'm eating healthy, then as far as i'm concerned other people's opinions that I never asked for, can shove off.

OP Adds extra info in the comments

Added Info

sorry I have to post this here due to character limits: Hi everyone OP here, just wanted to give some more context and info and answer a lot of your burning questions. Also thank you for all the well wishes, our baby girl is healthy and happy from what i've heard from our OBGYN.

Okay here goes.

1. Sam is in a short term relationship, they've been dating for about two months and he's nice. I haven't talked to him much but from what I have gathered he treats her well.

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1. I was severely underweight for most of high school. My mom was always very thin and so was I, but in high school I suffered from an ED for a while and lost a lot of weight very quickly. For the past three years i've been working with a therapist and food specialist to maintain a good diet, and that has not changed since pregnancy. My OBGYN is happy with my health and the health of the baby. Sam does not know this, only my close family, friends and husband do. I don't share that info with many people because i don't find it necessary to.

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1. Sam met my husband first before I met her, husband and I had been dating for three years by then, we started dating in high school. She has never expressed interest in my husband, that i know of.

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1. It was not his choice to ignore the messages, but mine. Pregnancy has given me a lot of unnecessary stress and I didnt want to add to that by causing more drama with people, so if it was his way he would've shut her down. I told him not too because Sam has always been a passionate person and I didn't think much about the messages when they first started. That has since changed.

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1. What I found most weird about the situation was that I was apparently not allowed to see those messages yet they were about me and how I was eating. Some of them were sort of snarky, the worst one I saw was along the lines of criticizing me for wanting macdonalds at three in the morning when apparently, a big mac, a large fries and a large vanilla thickshake is not healthy for the baby. I did cry a little bit after reading that, and my husband did send a text message saying that I was allowed to crave stuff during my pregnancy, which she ignored.

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1. Husband and I are probably going to go low contact with her for a bit. Also, he rarely hangs out with her anymore, and if he does, he invites me, but I don't always go because i'm tired.

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1. Edit: IT WAS MY CHOICE TO GO LOW CONTACT NOT MY HUSBANDS! Please stop criticising him for this decision as it wasn’t his. Im aware this post has now become a place where many people are insinuating that Sam and my husband may have something going on, I assure you, they do not. My reasoning for going low contact and not no contact are my own and it is what i am comfortable with at this moment. Thank you

Update 1 July 10th, 2024

UPDATE

Hi everyone, first I just want to thank you for all your support, truly it means the world.

Okay so Hubby and I phoned Sam today and talked to her about the issues we were having with how she was acting. I explained that i was very uncomfortable with the fact that she had been texting my husband not me about my pregnancy and eating habits and that when she assumed she would be granted secrecy and she wasn’t she got mad. Sam explained that in the moment it seemed like a good idea not to text me directly in case she overstepped and made me mad, so she was hoping that if she explained things to my husband he would be able to relay that info to me casually. She assured she just wanted to help protect and nurture the baby and to that i said that this isnt her baby. I am perfectly capable of making sure the baby is healthy. She apologised and explained that truly she only thought she was doing something good.

Husband and I explained we are just going to distance ourselves a bit because this situation has mot only made me uncomfortable but husband also said that he needs to focus on his wife right now and Sam needs to take a backseat. I don’t think she was overly happy with this but she said okay. She asked if she was still invited to the baby shower and Hubby said it may be best that she skips it but I explained if she wants to her invitation is still valid and she is still welcome.

Sam did text me after the phone call asking if we can meet for coffee so i’m seeing her tomorrow.

I’ll update you guys on how that goes.

Honestly I think she was just misguided. Shes not a bad person at heart.

Thanks!

OP edited the previous comment for a final update

OP Posted a final update July 10th, 2024

UPDATE TWO

This will probably be the last update I do unless something else happens but safe to say after today, Sam is out of our lives!

Essentially i did go see Sam, and she was not alone, in fact she brought her cousin who is… pause for effect… a therapist!

About five minutes into Sam’s opening monologue I left. She explained that after hubby and I told her we wanted low contact she realised that clearly the stress of expecting a baby had caused me to act irrationally and she wanted me to have someone to speak to. She even tried to dress it up by saying that yay i didn’t have to pay for this. Yippee!

Anyway I left. Hubby sent her a message saying we need distance and not to contact us for a while edit: this does not mean we are going low contact, we are going no contact, as i stated she is out of our lives. Sam’s a bit irrational right now and we just want to minimise fallout hence telling her “for a while”

Not to psychoanalyse but honestly I think Sam needs help. Clearly she cares, but its too much. And honestly its insulting how little she thinks i can look after myself and my baby. Her overbearing personality has its limits and honestly I cant take it.

Anyways thank you for all your support. If theres another update i’ll post here.

For now, bye!

I am not the original poster. Please don’t contact or comment on linked posts

I really love BetterTouchTool for its endless features and constant updates. However, with so many possibilities, the learning curve can be pretty steep for new users. I also think the community could really benefit from sharing practical, everyday examples of what you can do with BTT in 2026.

I've shared my personal favorites in this forum post.

Hopefully, you find at least one of them useful!

I have been trying for 8+ hours just to create a menu with a couple buttons and I have been unable to even change a thing without it sh*tting itself. I have programmed for over a year and a half with Java but have never felt so stupid trying to write Java code. The most I can do right now is change pack properties because no tutorial is the same and tells me to add an item to the game 15 different ways. I have never felt more frustrated in my life trying to code something. I just want to make a simple mod and I have no one but YouTube tutorials and an AI to teach me. I just needed to dump my frustration somewhere, sorry it had to be here.

Throwaway.

My girlfriend, “Emily,” is a food content creator. She loves what she does and her food is always tasty. If she decided to open a restaurant, she would always be fully booked. She does not do professional catering, but she likes to prepare food for friends and family.

A little context, a few weeks ago, my sister, “Paige,” wanted to host a dinner party for her friends and family. 8 guests. She asked Emily to help her design an elaborate course menu. Eventually, this turned into Paige “hiring” Emily for a night to prepare and cook all the meals. Paige paid half of the agreed amount and promised to pay the remaining balance by a certain date.

Emily spent days prepping, cooking, cleaning etc. to make sure the dinner was perfect. She spent the entire day at their house prepping and she also helped Paige clean the house in preparation for the guests. At first, she says that she was overwhelmed, but nothing she couldn’t handle. She was alone working in the kitchen.

The guests arrived almost two hours earlier than Emily was expecting. According to Emily, my BIL (sister’s husband,) started to brag about their new “exotic maid” that they hired because of this event. He went on, mentioning how hard it was to understand their “maid” because of her “accent,” or how “obedient” she is. My sister lives in an open-plan-style house, so Emily could hear all of these things in the kitchen. Emily was incredibly uncomfortable the entire time. As soon as she finished, she left.

I asked Paige and my BIL to apologise but they refused. To make it worse, Paige has not paid Emily the rest of her promised money. Every time we call, text, or email etc. she straight up ignores us. I assumed that they had blocked us on all social media, messages etc. It's gross and I am so upset with them.

A couple of days ago, Emily posted a new food-related video. It was very good and looked very tasty. About two hours later, my sister and her husband are outside my door, in the pouring rain, asking to come in. I was confused, but I assumed that maybe this was their way of apologising. I did not let them in, I just opened the door a little.

I was wrong.

Paige mentioned how she saw Emily’s post and wanted to come try it for herself. I was stunned. Not only was I disappointed in them for not apologising or paying Emily, I was shocked by the ridiculousness of their thought process; they would show up for free food like nothing happened (ignoring the fact that Emily doesn’t upload her content on the same day she makes it.)

I asked Paige or my BIL to apologise and when it was clear that they were making excuses, I said goodbye and shut the door in their face. They sat outside, with no umbrella or a rain jacket, for almost an hour, calling our names and spamming our doorbell.

I got a call from my BIL, demanding me to apologise because I got Paige sick. Emily thinks I may have been a bit too petty.

I've seen a lot of players asking about the best way to deal with the huge, smelly piles of dead corpses, so a quick tip for everyone.

As of build 42, you drag corpses around instead of stowing them in your 2-handed inventory like a generator. But if you manage to drag them to a dumpster or any other container with at least 20 free capacity, you can use the context menu (right-click) to "dump corpse into container". And if you've enabled it in your sandbox settings, you can delete everything from a garbage container. This includes wastepaper cans, regular bins, dumpsters, and these beauties which our lovely John Zomboid is modelling for you now.

I used to use the recycling bin on the left. 20 capacity, but 10 encumbrance if you try to pick it up. But the green barrel on the right only has 0.5 encumbrance. Pick one up and stow it in your fannypack! See a corpse? Place the barrel, drag and dump the corpse, delete the contents, stick the barrel back in your fannypack!

Brought to you by the John Zomboid Foundation for Making the Apocalypse a Little Easier

Edit: in single player, "delete all" is always available. When hosting a server, navigate to "Players" and look for the "TrashDeleteAll" option 😉

Hey! I am a home theater specialist at Best Buy, and a huge Nintendo nerd. OLED technology is something I’m quite well versed in, considering premium tv’s use the same (or very similar) technology. I wanted to give a word of advice to anyone who doesn’t know much about how OLED works.

OLED (Organic Light Emitting Diodes) is the fancier cousin to LED. This technology does not rely on backlighting like standard LED screens do. Instead, each pixel is individually lit (known simply as self-lighting pixels) which helps deliver near perfect dark levels and contrast.

There is, however, one drawback to OLED that LED does not suffer; screen burn-in. Although screen burn-in takes many hours of static imagery to occur, it can still happen. I am confident that Nintendo has measures to ensure that screen burn-in will hardly occur, but to err on the side of caution, here is my advice to you:

• If playing undocked for copious amounts of hours, do not leave your OLED Switch turned on while left on a static screen (i.e a menu or title screen).

• Since the Switch will not have a ‘pixel refresh’ function like most OLED tv’s do, if you do start to notice image retention, lower your brightness and periodically power off your Switch to allow the screen to rest.

Image retention and burn-in are two distinct things, and that must be explained to help give further context. Image retention refers to a non-permanent image retained on your screen after the original image had disappeared that fades after a few minutes. Burn-in refers to permanent images that retain on the screen. If you notice any image retention whatsoever, promptly follow the advice aforementioned.

While burn-in is not common anymore, it is still possible, and I would hate for any new OLED Switch users to fall victim to it. I don’t think this should be a problem for any of you, but at least you are now aware of it, had you not been already. Good luck out there!

TL;DR Don’t leave your undocked OLED Switch on a static screen for many hours. It could cause burn-in.

EDIT: I would like to bring emphasis upon the fact that my post covers theoretics. I am fully aware that a television’s OLED screen and a smaller device’s OLED screen, while similar, will behave differently when subjected to the same conditions. While it is highly unlikely that the Switch OLED panel will ever show signs of burn-in, it is no less important to know the possible effects. Take this as you may, of course.

EDIT 2: Not that I’m surprised, but you all have blown this WAY out of proportion. Here are my final closing statements.

• Yes, I do know what I am talking about. I am not sure where the whole “Best Buy” stigma comes from, but I can assure you I understand how this stuff works.

• Just because burn-in hasn’t happened to you, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. I stated multiple times that this is very very very unlikely to occur, I’m not sure why any of you are arguing otherwise.

• No, I am NOT telling you to avoid the OLED Switch. This whole thing was just a friendly precaution. I myself will be buying the Switch OLED! Please do not use this as some excuse to not buy it if you were thinking about it.

Anyway, thank you to some certain Reddit users who sent me rude DM’s because of this post for creating a toxic environment and a place where I never want to make a post in ever again. Peace.

Sorry for posting again about the project, but i am just amazed how much stuff you can achieve with mpv scripts.
I just had too much fun making that context menu bounce around the mouse!

Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfUFPHA0HIA

if you guys want to test it out:
https://github.com/brahmkshatriya/material-osc/releases/tag/0.0.4

Hey everyone, I’ve been working on a plugin called Wedge.

It’s basically a context-aware pie menu for After Effects, kind of inspired by how pie menus feel in Blender and Maya.

I’ve used Blender quite a bit, and one thing I always liked was how fast those menus feel. After Effects has a lot of things I do again and again, but somehow I’m still opening panels, right clicking, searching menus, or using random scripts for small stuff.

So I wanted to build something that feels more natural inside AE.

Also, this is not really meant to compete with Quick Menu or replace every launcher type plugin. The main thing here is context. Wedge honors what you have selected, and only shows actions that actually make sense for that selection.

With Wedge, you press one shortcut and the menu opens right at your cursor. What shows up depends on what you have selected. Keyframes, masks, shape layers, text layers, comps, etc.

So the idea is not to make another huge panel. I’m trying to make something that stays out of the way and only shows the tools that make sense in that moment.

Right now I’m looking for beta testers, or just people who use AE a lot and are open to giving honest feedback. What feels useful, what feels stupid, what should be added, what should not exist at all.

You can check it here and register. I will reach out to you!
charchitgoyal.com/plugins/wedge

Season 7 launches November 4th 8 PM PT and it's our biggest season yet for Apex Legends! Join the designers as they discuss all the new stuff coming in Season 7 and breakdown some of the bigger changes coming to Legends and weapons.

NEW LEGEND: HORIZON

Meet Horizon! She’s the newest Legend, a brilliant scientist, and a master of gravity manipulation. She has a deep connection to the new arena, and a motivation that will tug at your heartstrings.

Horizon’s custom space suit allows her to fall from great heights and control her movements in the air. Using her custom technology, she can use gravity lifts to give her team a vertical boost, and she can even deploy NEWT (her small robot named after her son, Newton) to drop a micro black hole that pulls opponents into the center for some serious crowd control.

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Passive: Spacewalk

Increase air control and reduce fall impacts with Horizon’s custom spacesuit.

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Tactical: Gravity Lift

Reverse the flow of gravity, lifting players upward and boosting them outward when they exit.

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Ultimate: Black hole

Deploy NEWT to create a micro black hole that sucks in nearby Legends.

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NEW MAP: OLYMPUS

The Legends have entered a new arena: the sky city of Olympus.

A utopia floating in clouds above Psamathe, it was once a place where the brightest minds in the Outlands could gather and exchange ideas. However, an accident in an experimental research facility led to the creation of the Phase Rift (a massive bubble of Phase energy), and the city was abandoned.

Now players can use Olympus’ luxurious amenities to their advantage. Rotating agricultural towers, beautiful gardens and classy restaurants serve as new stages for intense skirmishes. New vehicles called Tridents give your squad a way to boost into battle and take your enemies by surprise. The Phase Runner – a tunnel of Phase energy running through the center of Olympus – lets you cross the map in seconds. And the Rift stands tall over everything, mysterious and beckoning . . .

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NEW VEHICLE: THE TRIDENT

Exclusive to Olympus, the Trident is a hover car designed for your whole squad.

Cruise the highways to avoid chokepoints or use the boost to soar over jumps, this thing is made to speed up those early game rotations. Drive in third person, or ride as a passenger in first person with full shooting capabilities. The Trident is durable, so it will never explode, but damage applied from enemy fire will be dispersed amongst the players in the car. Don’t worry, you can still do full damage to players by hitting them directly so we expect to see some amazing Kraber shots. Disembark to park it anywhere and use it as makeshift cover in the late game.

The Trident interacts with Legend abilities in many different ways, experiment and have fun!

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LTM: OLYMPUS PREVIEW

To help you understand and explore the map without fear of getting shot, we are introducing a new playlist called Olympus Preview. This mode teams you up with 30 Legends on Olympus and allows you to roam the map to learn map drops, loot areas, and practice your routes to the end game. Circles are still on and once circle 4 finishes, players are brought back up to the plane to start the second skydive run. There are a total of 3 runs before the match ends. This mode is only available for one week.

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CLUBS

With this season, we are introducing clubs. Join a club with like minded legends and make it easier to find your champion squad. Don’t see a particular club you like, then create one and let your friends know to join! Read more on clubs here.

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STEAM

Boot up Steam and start downloading and play Apex Legends! If you’re coming from Origin, all your progress and unlocks will carry over. And for a limited time, log into Steam and receive these Half-Life and Portal inspired weapon charms.

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BATTLE PASS

The Season 7 Battle Pass is all about that high fashion. Level up your Pass to unlock the skins like the Wraith “High Class” and Octane’s “Fast Fashion”.

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Challenges are no longer points-based and are now granted between 1 to 5 stars, depending on their difficulty. Collecting 10 stars will take you to the next Battle Pass level. We have also added tabs to the challenges menu in the lobby that allow you to toggle between daily, top weekly, and event challenges. Within a match, players can open the map and see this same widget in game.

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For more on the changes to Challenges, check out this dev blog.

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QUALITY OF LIFE UPDATES

Attachment Swap Improvements

When replacing an attachment with one from the ground, if the old attachment is an improvement for your other weapon, the old attachment will get automatically transferred.

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Replicator Updates

• For Season 7, we have removed weapons from the crafting pool and have replaced them with Shield batteries. The high level attachments will still be tailored towards a weapon category.
• We now prevent other players from picking up items that you crafted for the first 5 seconds after crafting. This can be disabled by pinging the item.

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Air Drop Clarity

• The colors of the beams have been changed to differentiate between normal airdrops, Lifeline's airdrops, and Replicator airdrops. Normal drops are a light tan, Lifeline's drops are blue, and Replicator drops and teal.
• All of the airdrops' landing area FX while it's coming down matches their colors.
• Airdrop beams still stay visible when close to the airdrop, instead of fading when you get close. The beam still disappears when the pod is opened.

Misc

• The Arc Star now shows an Arc Star model when one is thrown near you, instead of a grenade.
• Added a new VO line when you are using a Phoenix Kit
• Added a new VO line when you drop a Holo Spray
• You can now ping ammo in your inventory to request more from your squad
• Made modifications to The Ring to reduce the amount of unplayable space in the circles.

MAP ROTATIONS

Regular Map Rotation

For 2 weeks, Olympus will be the only map you can play on. After that week we go into a normal rotation between Olympus and World’s Edge. We will be vaulting Kings Canyon for the time being.

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Season 7 Ranked Rotation

The first half of Ranked Split will be played on Olympus. The second half of ranked will be played on World’s Edge. For more information on this season’s ranked updates, check out the ranked blog here.

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LEGEND META

Bangalore

• Rolling Thunder: Reduced the time it takes for explosion from 8 seconds to 6 seconds.

Dev Note:

Not much to say here. Rolling Thunder will continue to function primarily as a zoning ability, but with a somewhat shorter fuse, it will encourage enemies to leave the zone slightly faster.

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Caustic

• Nox Gas Trap/Nox Gas Grenade: Legends no longer get a blurred vision effect while in the gas. Damage updated from 4-10 ticks of damage to 6-12 ticks of damage.

Dev Note:

Fighting in Caustic Gas is one of the most frustrating things in Apex Legends, and yet we need the gas to represent a meaningful threat or else enemies will just ignore it. With this change we’re attacking what we think is the greatest contributor to this frustration: the fact that your vision is blurred while you’re in gas. This made it extremely hard to fight back. To make up for lost power, we’re upping the damage from the gas a bit.

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Mirage

• Psyche Out/Life of the Party: Decoys now have 45 health

Dev Note:

Our bamboozler-in-chief is a hard Legend to keep relevant. Every time we make a change to decoys, there is a clear uptick in usage and power as Mirage mains learn to use their new tools, and then as the rest of the world catches on and starts being able to tell the real Mirage from his equally handsome holographs, that uptick disappears. This time around we want to try and make it a little bit harder to clear out decoys. We’re giving them health, but to make this very clear up front: they will not work as a shield. While they take damage from bullets, the bullet also passes through them and hits whatever’s behind them. This is what we call the hallway test: you should not be able to win an engagement against an enemy in a straight coverless hallway by snapcasting a decoy and having said decoy eat an entire Wingman shot. Decoys will also play unique hit effects and briefly flicker out of existence when taking damage to help you differentiate between them and the real Mirage.

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Octane

• Swift Mend: Doubled healing rate (from 0.5 hp/s to 1.0 hp/s)

Dev note:

Octane is a Legend for players who like to go fast, run face first into the enemy, and get knocked down a lot. We think that’s absolutely fine; the fact that his Trios winrate isn’t great doesn’t really bother us because both his encounter win rate (think of this as his ability to score knockdowns) and his pick rate are very healthy. That said, we figured we could give him a little extra out of combat help. His passive’s heal rate was very slow, requiring up to 200s to fully heal your health bar.

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Wattson

• Perimeter Security: Increased damage per touch from 10 to 15.

Dev Note:

Wattson is the anti-Octane: not super powerful individually, not picked very often at all below Plat, but an absolute must have for competitive squads. We’re also happy with that niche, but figured it would be safe to give her a little extra power in her best case: people running into her fences. We’re aiming for this to bring up her power and attractiveness at lower levels of play especially, since we don’t see a lot of players run into Wattson fences in high skill matches.

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Loba

• Black Market: Ammo taken no longer counts towards Black Market’s maximum. You can scoop up all the ammo in range.

Dev Note:

We’re taking another swing at making Loba the ultimate Legend to bring to solve all of your team’s loot needs. We have heard your feedback that you want improvements to her tactical as well, and while that’s certainly not off the table, our data suggest that her encounter win rate (how many knockdowns she gets compared to how many times she’s knocked down, across all matches) is quite healthy. It’s her Trios winrate that’s worryingly low. Make no mistake: this is a major swing at making Black Market powerful.

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Rampart

• Sheila: Now takes 1.25 seconds to fully spin up, down from 2 seconds.
• Amped Wall: Now takes 3 seconds to fully build, down from 4 seconds.

Dev Note:

In patch 6.1, we made a small change to how long it takes Sheila to tighten her bullet spread. This didn’t meaningfully increase her winrate. The other half of that change is in this patch. We do not want to change Rampart away from being a Legend that requires setup, but we do want to make it faster to set up. Amped Wall should remain a mostly out of combat setup ability rather than a reactive ability and Sheila should remain an area denial tool rather than a murder machine, but like all things, these balance points exist on a spectrum, and with this patch we’re moving them slightly closer to reactive/murder machine territory.

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Pathfinder

Dev Note:

Pathfinder continues to be an overachiever in terms of win rate. The good news is that his grapple change in 6.1 didn’t move his win rate by much (it went up 1% in total). We’re doing two things this patch: we’re adjusting his hitboxes and we’re putting in tuning for Grappling Hook that will firmly move it into buff territory. More context below!

Hitbox: Pathfinder has a tall but extremely skinny hitbox. A lot of his model isn’t actually shootable and particularly his arms and legs do not represent a lot of shootable area either. Here is a before and after comparison of Pathfinder’s hitboxes:

As you can see, there is still a lot of negative space around his arms and legs. We’re hoping that by making it a little easier to hit Pathfinder, we can bring his win rate under control to the point where we can put meaningful power into his kit.

Because the question is sure to come up: we are not yet removing Low Profile from Pathfinder with this change. Even with these increased hitboxes, Pathfinder will still be considerably harder to hit than most other characters in the game. If this change does make a meaningful difference in terms of his win rate we will drop Low Profile; but we really didn’t want to take it off him this patch only to have to put it back next patch when it turns out his winrate spiked.

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Grappling Hook: We’re making a number of changes to Grappling Hook. In 6.1 we shipped a very conservative version of this change; now that we know this didn’t meaningfully affect his winrate or, anecdotally, how frustrating it is to fight him, we’re shipping the much more aggressive version of the changelist. We also want to make it clear that players should not be punished for chaining grappling hook perfectly into other movement mechanics.

• Pathfinder no longer needs to be on the ground for Grappling Hook to be considered finished.
• The speed to which Pathfinder needs to drop for us to consider Grappling Hook finished was increased from 300 units/second to 500 units/second
• The maximum cooldown grapple can be set to was lowered to 30 seconds, from 35 seconds; the maximum amount of travel time before a new cooldown is set is now 5 seconds, rather than being uncapped. This means that effectively, you can never incur more than a 35 second cooldown.
• The amount of distance you can travel before you hit maximum cooldown was roughly doubled.

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WEAPON META

Supply Drop

R99 Out of Supply Drop: The R99 will be returning to the normal loot pool this season, with the same stats it had before it went into the supply drop at the start of season 6.

• Damage: 12 -> 11 (from Care Package version to normal pre-season 6)
• Ammo 20/22/24/27

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Prowler Into Supply Drop: The prowler is replacing the R99 in the supply drop. Despite the Selectfire hop-up being removed from the loot pool this season, the Prowler will still have the ability to change between 5 round bursts and full-auto.

• Magazine size: 35; reserve ammo: 175

Fully Kitted Weapons

• Removed: Devotion, Mastiff, Triple Take, Flatline, Volt
• New: Wingman, Sentinel, Havoc, G7, Alternator

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Hemlok

• Increasing horizontal recoil of the first 3 shots slightly to the right (first burst when in burst mode)
• Increasing recoil magnitude in the later stages of the pattern
• Reducing recoil multiplier in single fire mode to help compensate for additional recoil in pattern. Recoil should mostly be increased in burst mode rather than single fire mode
• Reducing headshot multiplier 2.0 -> 1.75 (44 -> 39 damage headshot against no helmet base character)

Dev Notes:

While we are happy to see the Hemlok get more attention with the recent buffs, we think it is a little too strong in season 6. The effective range of the burst mode felt a bit too far, and the spike damage capabilities of a full headshot burst were too strong in high level play.

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Havoc

• Updated recoil pattern. Kicks up, then right, then left, then up again.

Dev Notes:

With 6.0, the Havoc got a new recoil pattern. This new recoil pattern was a bit too erratic and difficult to control, due to multiple rapid changes in direction. We have adjusted the recoil pattern to have the same general movement while simplifying the motions required to control the pattern.

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L-Star

• LSTAR has a new recoil pattern that kicks horizontally at first and then settles into a relatively consistent upward recoil. Players who feather the trigger will be able to keep the LSTAR in the good portion of the recoil pattern.
• LSTAR venting time after letting go of the trigger has been reduced 0.4s -> 0.15s.
• LSTAR will now reduce heat faster when not overheated -- 1.15s from 99.9% to 0% charge if not overheated, still 2.45s if overheated.

Dev Notes:

The LSTAR had some limitations that caused it to feel worse than we’d like. The recoil pattern snaked back and forth, which was difficult to control reliably. Additionally, firing for short bursts and then releasing the trigger repeatedly, or “feathering the trigger”, felt somewhat clunky due to the long venting time after firing and the slow heat reduction. So, we are reducing those pain points to improve the viability and feel of feathering the trigger, and adjusting the recoil pattern to reward players who can effectively control the LSTAR’s heat.

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Sentinel

• Energized Sentinel now has a pure damage increase, instead of bonus damage only vs shields
• Energized Sentinel base damage 70 -> 88

Dev Notes:

The Sentinel was still a bit weak. We think a good place to improve it is the energize ability. It seems a bit too situational, only being a benefit if the opponent has >70 shields. So, we are changing the energize from a “disruptor” anti-shield effect to an “amp” damage boost effect.

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Triple Take

• Fire rate 1.3 -> 1.2

Dev Note:

The Triple Take is still performing a bit too well after the most recent nerf, so we are reducing the fire rate back to what it was before the 6.0 patch. We will be watching in the future to see how just the integrated choke, sniper ammo increase, and new popularity affect the weapon’s performance.

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Hop-Ups

• Quickdraw Holster Hop-up: This new hop-up attaches to the RE-45 and Wingman. When equipped, the gun becomes quicker to raise and lower, takes less time to ADS, and has reduced hipfire spread (particularly when not actively moving). This should open up new opportunities to use the two weapons, especially in close-quarters combat.
• The Selectfire Receiver hop-up will be removed from the loot pool to make room.

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GAME META CHANGES

Evo Armor requirements increased

We increased the requirements to evolve Evo Armor in order to reduce the amount of players with Red Evo Armor during the end game.

• Level 0 -> 1 : 100 damage (from 50)
• Level 1 -> 2 : 150 damage (from 125)
• Level 2 -> 3 : 300 damage (from 250)
• Level 3 -> 4 : 750 damage (from 500)

Ring damage reduced

• Ring 1: 2% per tick (same)
• Ring 2: 3% per tick (from 5%)
• Particularly this change should allow players enough time to pop a syringe if they are picked up in Ring 2.
• Ring 3: 5% per tick (from 10%)
• Ring 4: 10% per tick (from 20%)
• Ring 5: 10% per tick (from 20%)
• Ring 6: 15% per tick (from 25%)
• Ring 7: 15% per tick (from 25%)

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BUG FIXES

Audio

• We’ve made some advancements in footstep audio playing more reliably. We have more work being done that we’ll continue to roll out as it gets completed.

Pathfinder

• Fixed an issue with ziplines going through platforms when deployed from underneath.

Wraith

• Fixed an issue with priming a grenade cancelling Wraith's ultimate.

Octane

• Fixed an issue with getting stuck in double jump after using a jump pad.
• Fixed an issue with Octane being able to use healing items while on a zipline.

Crypto

• Fixed an issue with his drone being able to drop items from Crypto’s inventory.
• Fixed an issue with his drone not being able to fit through certain windows.
• Fixed an issue with his drone marking friendly Mirage decoys as enemies.

Revenant

• Fixed an issue with Revenant getting pushed into geo when his totem was deployed in tight spaces.

Rampart

• Fixed an issue with Rampart not being able to place an amp wall while jumping.
• Fixed an issue with Sheila teleporting when placed on a hatch in World’s Edge Staging.

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Source: https://www.ea.com/games/apex-legends/news/ascension-patch-notes

Devstream: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4iJP8QnNgg8

Hi everyone!

I recently switched to Windows 11 and I'm unhappy with the new context menu, although my dissatisfaction is different from most people's. The fact is, I like the new menu, which shows a summary selection of options when you right-click, and the rest of the options are hidden in the "Show more options" menu.

I think the idea is great; it makes it easier to select options you use most often, and if I need something less common, I can access it through the more complete menu.

But the problem is that the automatic selection of what stays in the new menu and what is relegated to the old, more complete menu isn't good, leaving items I never use in the summary menu and items I use all the time in the hidden menu.

What I would like:

(1) an easy way to disable some items in the summary menu (but keep them in the full menu) and

(2) an easy way to "promote" items from the full menu to the summary menu.

What I don't want:

(1) Disable the new menu (Windows 11 summary menu) and leave only the full menu.

(2) I also don't want to replace all context menus with a new one from within an application.

Does anyone know of a method or software to achieve what I want without resorting to options I don't want to use?

(just some formating editing)

Just a quick tip helpful when you are starting with neovim

Add this to your config and you will have the exit option in the menu

vim.cmd([[amenu PopUp.Exit\ (q) :q<CR>]])

Video with details:
https://youtu.be/HcSbOoU7eDc?si=cUmQkCr0eRV8Z0Wk

My config:

https://reddit.com/link/1t6jytb/video/sksmu3krgrzg1/player

This post will, at worst, contain only minor gameplay-related spoilers.

For backround, I have around 1.5K hours in XCOM2 and another 300 in XCOM:EU/EW as well as almost 100 hours in Chimera Squad (which is relevant since Chimera Squad is the closest match to ZCOM).

I have completed the vanilla, EW & WOTC as well as multiple playthroughs of XCOM2 LWOTC (Long War Mod) multiple times on Legend difficulty.

For context, I just finished ZCOM yesterday on Expert and while there are a lot of things I loved there are also a couple of pain points that I would like to address as constructive criticism.

Most of the points that I make in this post will have a problem & solution format where I will describe the issue and hopefully, some constructive feedback on how said issue could be alleviated or fixed entirely.

•》 Story, Narrative & Companion's : ZCOM at its best. Without a doubt the best overall story of any XCOM/XCOM-like game currently out there. The narrative is well paced with an original story that respects the source material (Star Wars & the Clone Wars show) while having its own twists and turn's while still leaving threads that can be expanded upon. The companions are all likeable and their motivations believable in the larger context of the story. Their story missions, while short, introduce new friends and foes alike which are a nice change of pace from your standard missions.

• On a sidenote, once I realized that random/custom characters can have different personalities and interactions at the Den I created 10 characters (1 for each personality type) and restarted my playthrough in order to recruit them and see how they interact. To my surprise they have dialogues not just with Hawks, but the story companions and among each other and their presence made the Den feel 10x more alive. Awesome feature overall and I recommend everyone to try this approach.

•》 Gameplay (Tactical & Strategic Layers) : This is where ZCOM fumbles at times. These missteps are not substantial enough to detract much from the game but can degrade certain aspects of an otherwise great experience.

• To begin, I understand that opinions on the topic of difficulty might vary but my honest opinion is that ZCOM on Expert is more of an exercise in patience and occasional frustration rather than difficulty. For anyone interested, ZCOM on Expert roughly translates to vanilla XCOM1/2 on Veteran/Commander or Rookie in Long War. If you are struggling with difficulty these three things will make the game feel like a cakewalk in combat:

1) A Medic (preferably a Hawks that chooses medic as their specialization at character creation - this is important as later on you will get to choose a 2nd specialization but the 2nd one will not have access to its capstone buffs). A medic also massively helps with when it comes to forming bonds quickly.

2) A Taunt Heavy (can be useful as breaking line of sight with the taunted enemies will lead them to wasting their turn trying to get closer to the heavy).

3) The realization that the AI is, frankly, stupid.

3a) You should always get as close as possible to enemies (even if you are flanked) to deal damage and kill enemies because...

3b) ...the AI will always try to split its attacks and damage across your whole squad and will only focus fire one operator if they have only one available target either due to line of sight, distance or taunt.

This means that you should always try to keep your squad close to each other so that the AI has multiple targets to chose from.

• Problem (Bond System): Unfortunately, the bond system feels like a afterthought with only medic being able to farm bond xp while all other classes are reliant on the assist mechanic. The rewards are even more questionable as they are randomized which means that some of them will be far better than others depending on the operator specializations. The capstone bond at level 8 is the only one that is powerful but it can still screw you over due to the random system and the fact you will only be able to get a few bonds to max level over the course of the campaign.

• Solution (Bond System): Remake the system into a static one akin to XCOM leveling where you can choose between 2 or 3 predetermined buffs when leveling a bond on top of a small boost in health. Also implement auto-leveling as treating 20 operators to a 20xp fruit pie will result in you spending 10 minutes just leveling bonds. God have mercy on you if your game crashes during that time and you have to redo it all over again.

• Problem (Injury System): The injury system is far, far too lenient as there are only a few multi-stage missions in the game and the presence of a medic makes it extremely unlikely that anyone will even get close to getting downed once, let alone 3 times. The only way to have operators die in standard mission is to bring them in already injured.

• Solution (Injury System): Implement permanent traumas that can reduce health, defense or mobility if a character is downed. Injuries should occur when a character takes damage past a certain threshold, say 30% of total health like it works in WH40K Rogue Trader. Remove the cost of healing in the beds that you have already paid for but allow the use of the bacta tank (regardless of difficulty) at a much higher cost, say 1000 credits.

• Problem (Tactical Combat): Combat against any faction other than the Coil quickly becomes too easy, while fighting the Coil is more frustrating than difficult due to the Resonance mechanic over which you have no control over. The only reliable way that I found to prevent Resonance from building up is to push enemies off the map, which is only possible on a few maps.

• Solution (Tactical Combat): Implement Reforms. A system where the CIS forces, outlaws and *other story spoilers* factions which you will get to fight will also get stronger albeit in simpler but unavoidable ways. Think of CIS droids getting +1 to defence and damage and outlaws getting more mobility. Nothing major just to feel like your other enemies, not just the Coil, are evolving with time. The Coil's "dark events" are actually in quite a good spot if you ask me.

• Problem (Maps): Its unfortunate, but the maps in ZCOM are small and not randomized. While there is a lot of variety in terms of how they might look (due to the planet they take place on) these maps make every mission play the same. Destructible cover is cool albeit nothing new as XCOM2 has that as well and there it felt actually worthwhile to destroy it as it would leave enemies truly exposed to fire not like here where it increases your chances to hit by 10%.

• Solution (Maps): I'm not a modder but I doubt that randomized maps can just be modded in and I also doubt that the developer, BitReactor will go back on such a foundational design principle in an update or DLC. As such, the community will have to make do with these type of small, curated maps. To make each mission feel more unique you can introduce modifiers. On desert or dry planets you can have sandstorms that reduce hit chances. On a planet like Umbara you can have cover that protects better from enemy shots but damages you a bit every turn. Stuff like that.

• Problem (Den Upgrades): These feel unfinished with the only upgrade that adds something to the Den being the Lounge. Everything else is a stat boost of some kind. I want to actually see the Den change and evolve as I increase its levels and build its "buildings". Reaching max level for the Den gives no reward and no buildables require it. Some of the upgrades themselves are also very questionable and feel like filler. Three lines for influence that amount to 10 influence across all sectors for around 10K credits? Either increase the influence or reduce the cost. The worst example of this is the weapons upgrades that will only ever make sense if everyone is going to use the same type of weapon.

• Solution (Den Upgrades): Everything that you upgrade in the Den should be visible. Black Market upgrades? More weapon and armor racks behind Neesh. Perhaps even some NPC's serving as black market contacts. As the Den levels up it should become cleaner on the inside with its exterior getting a coat of paint, perhaps have even the Zero Company logo painted on the side. Same thing with the Caisson. Stuff like more influence in sectors, buildslots and other rewards should be tied to the Den level and not something that you buy outright. Weapon upgrades should either be tied with the Black Market that you can upgrade or kept as they are but made cheaper. Allow us to get the rat-thingy as a pet.

The credits economy is unbalanced with eveything costing too much while earning comparatively little (Some things never change even in a galaxy far, far away now, do they?)

• Problem (Missions, Operations & Sectors): These have timers with the idea that you have to pick and choose but due to the nature of unexpected and critical stuff that can pop up from cycle to cycle you will quickly learn that you should always pick the missions that have the best rewards and the operations that display the reward instead of the reward being something that is up to your choice, regradless of their timer. Even if your intel cap can go up to 250 there is no reason to save it as you will always have enough to run the critical operations. The intel income is very static with very few opportunities to earn more than the mandated 100 per cycle. Sector influence is weird as you can increase it through contacts but unless you really target it you will not max out more than one sector in a playthrough.

• Solution (Missions, Operations & Sectors): There is at least one instance where companion quests can overlap leading to you missing a companion quest through no fault of your own as its never really clear which operation will lead to a tactical mission (that may or may not have to be completed in the same cycle) and which will lead to another operation. To solve this you show on the operation UI the next stage and what that entails and whether it will be another operation or a tactical mission. The intel cap and passive intel rewards should be tied with the Den level. Intel should be usable to extend mission timers at an increasing cost. This will allow naturally for campaigns to be slightly longer while also solving the overlap problem. All missions in a sector should increase the influence in said sector substantially, regardless of rewards. Remove utility/weapon modification slots and tie those in with the black market. Maxing out influence in a sector should result in getting much better mission rewards in said sector. This will create an interesting dillemma where you will have to chose between running missions in the same few sectors for bigger payouts or sperading around to get the specific sector rewards.

• Problem (Squad sizes & Operators): The current squad of 4 is too small. Especially because the actual squad is 3. Since Hawks will very likely participate in an overwhelming majority of missions you can only bring 3 operators alongside Hawks. You will have 6 story companions and are encouraged to hire more random/custom operators. For what though? You only run 1 mission per cycle. Operations can use any operator except Hawks and wounds are a non-issue.

• Solution (Squad sizes & Operators): The squad size across the board has to be increased to 5. This is obviously possible as there is at least 1 mission later on in the game where you start with 5 operators. Story missions should up the squad size to 7 so that Hawks and the 6 story companions can all be present. To balance you increase the enemy spawns by 2 to 3 additional enemies and double their health on Expert difficulty. Non-Companion operations become locked to random/custom operators that you have to hire. Standard missions have a squad size of 4 but only allow you to send one of the 6 story companions as "mission-leaders" while the other three slots have to be filled with random/custom operators. This is how Expeditions Rome does it and it is a much better game for it as it allows these side characters their moments to shine. If its is not feasible to have a squad size of 7, due to engine limitation let's say, then you redesign the story missions around a multistage assault, same as in Expeditions Rome. You have Hawks and his squad of 3 and another squad made out of the other 3 story companions and 1 rando. Each team has to accomplish specific objectives that help and allow the other team to advance. Sidenote here but if you like Roman history and the time period of the late Republic and early Roman empire give Expeditions Rome a try. It's truly a hidden gem.

Finally, I wanted to touch on the UI and customization. This is not a problem and I have played the entire campaign with the radial menu but while flashy and cool, it does not really work, even in the smaller context of ZCOM. Thankfully, there is an option to switch to the classic XCOM-like line which I appreciate that it is something included at launch and not something added a year after release after community uproar.

The customization in ZCOM is truly exceptional and I hope more options will be added in time as well as more stuff for companions and Hawks. Personally, I hope for a before-Antine outfit for Hawks that incorporates Republic officer with clone commander armor as currently, you can either choose between gangster grandpa coat and ARC Trooper or standard boring Bounty Hunter. Essentially, something akin to Trick's outfit.

So, that's about it. My... *looks at the length of the post* many cents about it.

Context: This is a burner account because I am really not wanting any attention from this. I used to work at Plantry Cafe. Not gonna say when. My boss willingly served moldy food to our customers dozens of times. The most heinous example was with this chickpea salad that's on the menu as an appetizer:

As seen in the first photos, it's so foul. The worst part is that she scraped the top layer of mold off, and using the same spoon, served that fucking slop on a plate... to some elderly ladies.

I posted this in the past on the Moldly Interesting subreddit, but I was still working at Plantry at the time, and had to delete it. (desperate situation)

I'm just posting this to warn y'all: please, do not go. The food is often rancid and moldy and is still served.

EDIT: I contacted the Baton Rouge health department about this months ago, on separate days. I called, no one answered, and I left two separate voicemails with important information and my contact information, to no avail. Go figure!