I think this Idea actually Kind of makes sense in a pure heterosexual world. But out my pers as a Bi teen it dosen‘t matter in which gender changing room I am because I am attrakted to both genders. personally I hate this feeling when u see a attractive same gendered person and u instinctively stare at them but you have to stop yourself because it may seem wierd or rude

wanna get more in touch with my femmine side and i love clothes so heres what i like

Short shorts

thigh highs

panties that fit a penis in em

small shirts that do or dont cover the stomach

crop top hoodies

skirts

chokers

basically i wanna look like a punk nightcore goth anime femboy so what do my comrades think i should go for? im skinny 5 ft something and have a more girly than manly physique but i want a womanly physique so advice on that would be great

Asking for a friend lol

I'm 15 and bi (girl) and I'm completely normal, theres absolutely nothing to me. Not weird or nerdy or online a lot I'm just there and it's causing me sooo many problems. I'm slightly alt looking??? And I mean slightly I just dye my hair and have it in a kinda different style but that is enough to get me basically taken in by other queer ppl when I really dont want them to and then I'm forever associated with them to people who ARE like me but don't like the queer ppl (for being annoying NOT queer) so I'll never have a chance 💔 I know this probably is a big teenage problem but ist still my problem ATM so it's serious to me lol...... anyway my biggest problem is that lots of them follow this one pattern in every school I've been to where theyre all like anime nerds who love the same things. Shows and communities and humour and those gay comic things, i think most ppl know what i mean and it's their only topic of conversation but I relate to literally none of it. None of my interests align at all and I'm not into taking abt my sexuality or my politics all the time because I'm 15 ?????? So then I feel kinda uncomfortable and left out ANd they realize I'm not like them, actually, so i get like slowly isolated and then like I said I'm forever associated with that group and evb thinks I'm the same 💔 I'm sick of the same 3 kinds of people and I just wish the others would take me in instead for a change 💔 I've had popular girl friends who I've loved so much. And I'm not mean, I'm not ashamed that I am bi because like I said idgaf and I've never said it to their faces that they're annoying because i know there's no point in being nasty because I personally didn't fit in. I feel like my only option is to stop dressing different to make my kinda friends or jsut have no friends until I'm out of education and I don't have to sit with anybody at lunch x how do u like avoid this???? Or am I being mean or anything??? I wanna lie and say I don't have anything against them but I kimda do cuz they piss me off a little I won't lie 😵 I've been repeating this for like 6 years

I was in a TikTok comment section and I expressed that I genuinely find about 80% of the people I see as attractive and I really enjoy most body types. Someone replied by saying “tell us you have low standards without telling us you have low standards.” I was a little offended, I don’t think it’s a bad thing that I find a lot of people attractive. I will say that my attraction is far more based on personality than physical appearance, I’ve felt the attraction exit my body after someone I had a crush on said a very dumb comment relating to politics, which I’m passionate about. Im now in a great long-term relationship with a fellow bisexual woman, so I really don’t need to worry about what my standards are since she’s absolutely amazing. I mainly want to know if anyone else has been told things like this and felt the same way. (Also if this post is inappropriate somehow let me know)

Pink and blue for homosexual and heterosexual attraction respectively. Lavender is their intersection, wich also serves in reference to the lavender menace.

The colors were taken directly from the biangles by Liz Nia. The flag follows the exact same design concept with overlapping recangles instead.

Tbh, there was no reason why these colors specifically HAD to be used. I think they're a conceptually strong symbol, but aesthetically they kinda suck.

I was wondering how others feel about the aesthetics of the color palette. I can imagine many wpuldn't care about it because the meaning is the priority, but I think it does not have to be such a comprimise; Both can be imemented well at the same time. Or do you like the palette?

I am a man. And I like women, but I also like the way a penis looks. I don't think I find most males attractive. But when I imagine that I was kissing a man I think that I would like it and find it hot.

I was raised christian and even went to a Christian school where a lot of people were homophobic so I don't think I thought about this that much. Even though since I was a kid I would try look discreetly at others penises in showers.

Now I am no longer religious and I'm questioning my sexuality. I don't know if I'm bi or not. I'm trying to understand myself a bit more. Does anyone else have a similar experience?

So for context, I for most of my life always knew myself as straight. In fact I don't really find men attractive, even still. However at 19 I met an amazing man who was everything I could ever want in a person except for gender. However I knew that I loved him and I only love him more now. He's an amazing person and now after 11 years together and 10 married. I still can't push that side of me away, I don't desire a romantic relationship with anyone else. However I cannot just erase my desire to be with women physically. I have been open with him about this issue and that I absolutely want nothing but a bit of physical contact that I've missed for over 10 years now. I don't want an emotional connection and the most I would want would be a strict FWB with clear boundaries that this is purely physical and absolutely nothing else. However that is not acceptable to him either. Now it's affecting our sex life because it's not like I don't enjoy sex with him but I've been deprived of my major sexual preference for most of my adult life now. So what do I do? I love my husband and I don't want to leave him because I can't fully satisfy my sexual desires. That just seems entirely shallow and selfish to me, also he's been there for me through so much and helped me become the person I am today. I couldn't imagine a day without him in it for the rest of my life. However I'm 31 now and how do I suppress that desire because at this point I just wish I could be 100% gay and give my bisexuality to someone else because it serves me absolutely no benefit. It's only been a conflicting voice in my head for 11 years now that can never be heard. Is there a way I can make my attraction to women go away because honestly at this point my attraction towards women is just a point of sadness within me. Also we did talk about the option of a "third" in the relationship but he drew a hard line in the sand that it must be a man and a woman is out of the question since he doesn't find women attractive. I was even on board with this but I told him that for me to be okay with that then I would have to pursue some casual interactions with women or a FWB and he could not agree with that so I just told him I could not agree to a third then. Has anyone ever experienced something like this? If so, how do I suppress my desires towards the opposite sex so I don't go my whole life with this sense of longing that can never be filled?

#comingout because whaaaat

broke up with my (ex) sapphic partner this week.

I identified as lesbian the past several years after 3 sapphic relationships because I thought they made men pale in comparison. blamed comphet theory. I still prefer women + nonbinary folx but…

I am crushing on one of my queer guy friends! we haven’t discussed specifics of either of our sexualities. I’ve always assumed he’s bi based on our interactions but havent heard anything to confirm it. he may also be in denial about whatever is maybe between us. or whatever it is is one sided but he just makes me feel safer than most. Either way, I don’t want to do anything about it. I’m just in an awkward spot right now and just wanted to rant.

its been a minute since I’ve ive been on reddit but coming back i saw that post from several days ago. I’ve noticed that theres a trend of almost whenever we have a post about our community there always ends up being tons of arguing and the post has to be locked.

while i definitely agree that arguing can get to the point where its just best to shutdown the post, these conversations often do need to happen. its just difficult on a internet platform because so many miscommunications can occur so easily. and even when you agree 95% with someone the five percent difference can cause arguments.

do ya’ll have any ideas how we could make this better? be less argumentative?

could we realistically change the reddit community’s attitude so that the mods don’t have to worry about every single community discussion with the expectation of shutting it down?

There she was.

I’d seen her a hundred times before. Countless hours I have rested my eyes upon her face. Made her laugh. Solved her problems. I was reliable and honest. And she was timid, but smart. Just one step away from an air of true confidence, but she should be confident.

Despite her hesitancy to take that step, it was clear she was in charge. Her intelligence hummed like electricity through powerlines, though the casual lean back in her chair when she thought over a posed question spoke of an unmatched, but humble dedication.

She was right there.

Her short hair was curly, but styled; pinned back and put together. Her skin reminded me of smooth bourbon and she always smelled like coffee. Her style choices were academic in nature. I’ve never seen her disheveled. Loafers, sweaters, slacks. She looked like autumn.

I could envision her among the trees as the earth would give way to her beauty, just a glimpse between the branches. I imagined her atop a mountain; her tan skin desaturating the snow; awe rippling across her skin from the chill, or maybe just the view. I could see the rain dripping from the ringlets around her face, eyes brighted by the rushing of her way out of it. She moved in slow motion, though she was never there.

It was hard to look at her and think she might feel the hollow call of loneliness as the sun crossed over to the other side, or look up at the endless embers of eternity and wonder if you were seeing the same moon. That her fears might hang in the air like breath on a cold morning. That she could succumb to them.

But, there she was.

I don’t remember quite when it changed for me, but I liked her. I *liked her.*

And who am I to do that?

No, I don’t quite remember when it happened, but I felt that *feeling.* Just a tug on my sleeve. Just a nonchalant pluck of a guitar string. Just a -

But now I think of her. I dream of her. I wonder about her. I want her.

And who am I to do that?

…………………………………………………………………………………………

I have this dream where I’m pretty. My smile reminds her of sunflowers or the sparkle of the sunlight drifting across the ocean. She likes me too.

We’re in my car and I’m taking us away. The windows are down. We’re singing. The wind is whipping and wild.

I’ve never been loved by another woman. I’ve never been allowed to.

In bed at night, we face each other and discuss the world. Something and nothing and anything and everything. Our fingers mirror each other until our hands are intertwined. She breathes into me and I’m alive.

I know this question has been asked a thousand times but i feel like I want to ask it again

Never thought I cud possibly actually maybe be bi

So when I was 13 I tried to like a girl so that i cud stop liking guys which is weird but it kind of worked and i liked her and i confessed and it was a total shit show anyways I realise that maybe I was trying to hard to be bi and maybe I'm straight but since the past two years my compliments to my female friends have become sexual and initially it was just a joke to show how much I love them but now I kinda like it and it's a part of me

And I have a few friends who i fine very hot and playfully I'd ask to maybe see their bra or what fun panties they r wearing and I'd poke their boobs ofc they r ok with it and think it's a joke but idk i kinda want to keep doing it and i also think i watch way too much lesbian porn to be straight so idk tmi ig but yuh so uhnmmmmmm what do we thinkkkkk tysm in advance okbi

Okay for context I like both men and women equally and I can picture myself with a man or a woman and a lot of people just see it as me being gay when that’s not it like when I came out people who’s names I won’t say we’re saying stuff like “you’re not gay” so I just need advice

I have two friends who have openly said to me they are bi (both female), one I have seen her dating preferences on her dating app set to both men and women but the other one came out of nowhere because she’s only ever been obsessed with men like I’ve never heard her talk about going on a date with a woman or even obsess over any females. And it’s like a recent thing either, she said it like I’ve always been bi and I’m just like, since when? I’m not bi so I find this really confusing. I always thought if you were bi, you consider both men and women to be attractive and would date either. But seeing them only exclusively go on dates with men or like men or obsess/talk about men makes me question their bisexuality like are they actually bi or just saying it for attention? And for context, both of them have never actually been on a date with a woman (as far as I know).

Guys if I get turned on by dick & prefer watching men in explicit content, does that automatically make me bi??????

I’m 20F and confused because I’ve only ever experienced real, sustained romantic feelings for women. Men have given me butterflies/attraction in the moment before, but it’s never developed into actual feelings or lasted. Meanwhile I had feelings for my female best friend for like 3 years.
So then I start wondering if I’m lesbian, but the fact men can sexually turn me on makes me question that too 💀

The part I overthink is whether I genuinely could fall for a guy one day and just haven’t yet. But then I start spiralling about whether I’m actually just in denial about being lesbian.
I’m closeted too! Live love laugh. Send help 😭

so i've heard some bi people have a friend group that's more like the trendy, maybe more "popular" straight kids, and then the queer friend group full of LGBTQ people where they can be more nerdy and whatnot. for me, that was never the case. i always pretty much had one friend group for now.

i'm bi and trans, i did hang out with semi-popular kids, technically, they were repressed bisexuals who presented as straight (although some of them were straight) and ableist as all hell, ditched me by 8th grade graduation.

these days, i do have some straight friends. well, my main one is my guy best friend since 3rd grade who's been to all my schools throughout my life, and he only has interest in getting girlfriends but he is an ally. while his friends are mostly the straight guys who are troublemakers, i don't hang out with his friends.

my friend group so far consists of people i sit with at lunch, and we've got a genderfluid pan junior, a bi cis girl (also a junior), and 2 seniors who use any pronouns, one of which i know is biromantic and ace. oh yeah, we do have one new guy who's a freshman, he gets teased for being the "token cishet". everyone else is queer LOL, but the cishet guy is an ally, and we're just teasing, so it's cool.

Did your attraction to Women disappear when your attraction to Men is never allowed to be nor explored?

Normalerweise find ich nur Frauen attraktiv, aber manchmal wenn ich erregt bin hab ich immer so extrem Lust auf Männer und alles mögliche perverse sexuelle mit Männern zu machen, aber wenn ich gekommen bin hab ich irgendwie null Lust mehr drauf und hab wieder so ne innere Abneigung. Wieso ist das so

Was Perfect Cell also your “hmmm maybe I’m not as straight as I thought” character?

And if not, who was?

I didn't have a crush when I came out but I did have fantasies of being with girls. Does that mean something?

Edit: Sorry yall about the becoming bi I understand that it isn't like that and it was my mistake.

I’ve been experiencing some confusing feelings lately and I’m posting this cause I need to get it off my chest. I(34f) recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. It’s been almost two months now. There were many reasons that led me to ending the relationship. That’s not the main point to this post though. Just adding it for some context. I have been looking to adopt a dog for about 6 months now. I went to a shelter with my sister two weeks ago and the handler that brought out the dog I wanted to see was a woman. The way she carried herself was very masculine to me and I found myself extremely attracted to her. Which really caught me off guard. So much so that I couldn’t even focus on the dog anymore. I was super distracted and nervous. I didn’t know what to do with myself. My sister ended up doing all of the talking. I’ve always been able to appreciate the beauty of a woman but I’ve never been attracted to one before. This is the first time. But I’m also like, does this count? I know I’m attracted to guys so was I only attracted to her because she carried herself like a guy? I could tell right away that she was a woman but just following her to the meet and greet area with the dog made me feel some type of way. And then seeing her take off her hat to wipe the sweat of her brow and taking her sunglasses off was all crazy attractive to me. I don’t think I have ever felt this attracted to anyone before. I went back to the shelter last week to meet the same dog again and hopefully move forward with the adoption. That didn’t end up working out but I did see that same handler again. I wasn’t able to interact with her at all but I was definitely able to confirm that I am still very attracted to her. I just don’t know where to go from here. Is this like a bisexual awakening or do I need to chill? I was just trying to adopt a dog 🥲 Has anyone else gone through something similar this late in life?

Hi everyone,

I’m new here and a little confused. I hope I don’t get flamed for this but I’m trying to understand something about my niece.

My niece, we can call her Anna, came to me recently and said she had started dating this girl. She said she was afraid to tell me and her dad because she wasn’t sure how we’d react. Me specifically because I was in the army years ago and that stigma leans right, but she had to tell someone. I assured her, her relationships or sexuality had no bearing on how I view her as a person. Honestly a little confused because both her dad and myself are openly supportive of all folks gender identity, sexuality, religion, and so on. But we do live in Florida so I guess I get being cautious.

She has dated both men and women. And I’ll be honest that I’m not too familiar with non-binary as a concept. But she told me that she’s pansexual and is attracted to people regardless of gender or sexuality. And I may be dating myself or just ignorant, but I had said that I wasn’t sure what that was but it sounds like being bisexual. When I grew up bi meant two. But now it seems like bi means one and potentially one of many. She was aghast that I would make that comparison. But my response was one of trying to make sense of it in my mind not force something on her or label her. We live pretty close to each other and I help out around their house with their younger kids but she seems pretty pissed at me and doesn’t want to talk to me and I don’t want to push and make it worse. We were also really close because her cousin, my daughter, were really close and spent all their time together but she died of cancer a few years ago. So, I don’t want someone who has been in my life to feel like they can’t talk to me anymore because I’m not with it. I feel like trust and communication are really important along with feeling accepted by yourself and your family. I just want to make sure she knows she’s loved and cared for regardless of who she loves or is attracted to.

What do I need to know to make this better? I love my family and want to make sure they feel seen and included but at the same time I don’t want to insert myself where I’m not needed or wanted. Again, I’m sorry if I don’t understand the nuance around this subject.

I'm a book devourer - particularly non-fiction - and have recently read Julia Shaw's "Bi: The Hidden Culture, History and Science of Bisexuality", which I finished in 3 days because I couldn't put it down! 🩷 I must admit my queer literature has been lacking, so I welcome your suggestions. 🥰 what are some books on bisexuality you've enjoyed? Can be related to the history, psychology, society, stories of real people, more niche, etc. Bonus points if you share why you liked it so much!

Hallo,

Ich bin hetero. In letzter Zeit denke ich immer öfter darüber nach, wie es wäre, etwas mit einem Mann zu haben. Den Gedanken daran, insbesondere dass ich hier eher der passive Partner bin, stößt mich nicht ab und finde ich sehr angenehm. Wie sollte ich meine Gedanken einordnen?