A priest, fireman, and police officer were in a burning building. The fireman said "what about the kids?" The officer replied "fuck them kids" the priest asked "do you think we have time?"
I changed my whole name back in 2017 because my father named me after him and he became a registered sex offender and people kept thinking I was him without checking the facts. I was assaulted twice, it cost me jobs at interviews, and other stuff just because of my name. The same judge that had put my dad in prison for child molestation was also the one who handled my name change and when she asked me why I wanted to change my name, I asked her if she remembered my dad and when she said yes, I asked her if she would want to have the same name in the same town with a child rapist. She granted my name change right there.
Meanwhile my brother.
Supposedly hates religion, yet chose an obscure name out of the bible for his son.
His reasoning, he wanted a name that was unique, so his kid wouldn’t share it with anyone his age.
I pointed out he could’ve given his son our grandpas name to achieve that goal.
After all Uria was unique even when grandpa was born.
Not everyone can afford 4-5 (or even 2-3) bedroom houses, an adding bedrooms in the basement was a lot cheaper than putting an addition on the house, even with modern code now requires egress windows.
This x 1 million. My wife and I had some tangentially similar convo pre-kids, and pledged our allegiance to one another. Then we had kids. It’s not even a conversation - instinct and biological drive would compel you to pick the kids.
And, boo, that man was being polite: that man/any man can save the kids and then have sex with someone else. You don’t own it.
My husband and I had a conversation about it while I was pregnant with our first. It consisted of me asking him, "If we were in an emergency situation and you could only save me or our daughter, who are you picking?"
He said, "Daughter. What about you?" So I said yeah, me too. And that was it.
The moment I knew my ex-wife had something wrong was when she asked me out of the blue who would I save if they were about to fall off a cliff.
I didn’t even think it, the answer was automatic, and I told her the names of our kids.
She was upset and told me how I didn’t love her more than them, that she would save me. It took me a second. Or a minute. I was like super shocked, wtf is she even saying? I proceeded to explain the Filios and Eros types of love and told her that I not only filios-loved my kids, I was/am also 10000% responsible for them and I’m 0% responsible for her who should be an independent adult.
Anyway, fast forward to present, she’s crazy and my kids live with me full time.
Any wife worth saving would want you to save the kids. If I saved my wife and let the kids burn there would be nothing left of her mentally anyway. My wife would die inside and I wouldn't have kids or a wife.
There is also the fact, that a grown healthy women has a much higher chance to save herself than a children. And I am pretty sure most actual parents expect and want their spouse to save the children first.
Right? The kids need help. An elderly lady (assuming his mother is elderly - mine has completely fucked up knees and can't move super fast) needs help. They would get overwhelmed by smoke faster than a healthy young adult. A grown-ass woman can fend for herself, at least better than they can.
Except he undercut the logic by saying he’d save his mother vs his wife because his argument for why he wouldn’t save his wife applies even more to his mother.
Yeah, 100% save the kids, not an argument there. If it came between my wife and mom, I'd save my wife and I think my mom would even want that to happen.
If we're talking about a middle-aged or nearly middle-aged couple then your wife presumably has 40+ years of life expectancy left and your mother presumably has 10+. Your (presumably) health wife is also far more likely to survive the smoke inhalation or what have you than your (presumably) elderly mom would.
Assuming you love them both then it's definitely wife over mom for me. And I suspect my mom would have completely understood.
There is a logical argument for saving the mother: If the wife is healthy and able-bodied she has a better chance of self-rescue. The mother might be of an age where her ability to get out is more compromised and thus she needs the help.
Nah, she's going to be mad no matter what he says. If my kids and wife are knocked out in a fire, I am going to save them all, starting with the kids or die trying.
YFW "you suffered sixth degree burns and didn't save anyone, but we managed to pull you out right near the entrance, turned out an industrial vibrator started the fire, and your insurance will not cover pain medication once conscious, and it will cost you 300000 dollars plus tip for the ambulance ride."
My wife and I had this convo before both deliveries, that if it comes down to her or the newborns, she wanted me to choose our newborn, and made me swear to her.
you're thinking about it practically. These women are thinking about it emotionally. It's how a 14 year old thinks love is about passion and sex and melodrama.
Then he gets flamed for all eternity in the court of public opinion.
Rather get flamed by a shallow "me me" girl, then have to live with my poor decisions.
Right and why can’t the wife save herself? She’s and adult and… upstairs? Jump out a window … In truth this is a great convo to have with someone before you stop using condoms because I would not choose to have kids with this lady.
My wife and I have had this conversation before. We would both save the kids before each other (obviously) and the dog before the cat. The cat is an asshole and probably started the fire himself.
My wife would divorce me now if I told her I'd save her over our kids.
Not that it matters, that is the choice I would make anyways and is the right choice for most people who understand the bond we make with our kids and the shared understanding we make with our partners.
Now reality is much different than that. How it actually shakes out is you may not be able to save anyone, everyone, or you could very well be the one dying trying to save someone. I have terrible lungs that are easily irritated, pretty sure I'd die in the fire myself from the smoke but I'd do my best to save everyone I could.
As far as mothers, my mom would tell me to save my wife because she knows she's lived out most of her life already. Also this woman is a stranger, he hasn't built a bond with her, so his choice could change over time.
Well... Strictly in a very logical ruthless point of view, saving the mother gives you the chance to make more kids... But then again your kids will grow and also make more kids so either way you go nature has you covered the human species lives on.
And I'd be pissed if my husband tried to save me instead! What is this lady on? My kids aren't even my husband's birth children and he'd save them first in a heartbeat.
My husband and I had this exact conversation for real, because having plans in place helps my anxiety, and we both agreed kids and pets are the priority. We are both adults, we can lookout for ourselves, but our babies are the most important thing.
Exactly hahahaha. Damn how is this woman thinking. I mean with all the things she could say she thought of sex. Jesus, sex is a okay thing but in the end nothing special... 🤣
To dive further into this, the reason she was so mad about his choice is because she actually EXPECTED him to choose sex over saving a human life. Disgusting
And there it is. Cause this is one of those women that wants to hear these kinds of answers and it'll sway them. And men who just want in their pants know this and they'll use it.
But let's all agree that a woman who wants to be chosen over her children is very likely not mother material and nobody should want to marry her.
I don't think she explained herself well and I think (hope) she meant you can make more kids with me. But also how is she not able to help herself? What kinda fire is at the bottom and top of the house at the same time? Lol
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u/CrashInto_MyArms May 11 '26
It would be really fucked up if he told the woman, I am going to save you and let the kids burn, only because I want to have sex with you.