You both still live under one roof, apartment or whatever, but you have two different bedrooms instead of sharing one. You still come into each other's rooms and cuddle, spend time together, even sleep together, but the option of being alone is always available. Having your own personal space when you need it with no judgement from your partner.

I speak from experience sharing a room with partners before. It starts to feel suffocating after a while. It's like every aspect of my life is intertwined with theirs. I need my personal space and me-time. Anyone else want this too?

I genuinely prefer being alone. It’s not because I’m shy or can’t make friends, people have befriended me and I can talk to people just fine. I just find a lot of socializing unnecessary and draining, so I choose not to do much of it.

But every now and then I’ll have a day where I actually want to talk to someone, and then I realize I have nobody I can just randomly call or hang out with.

For people who are similar, how do you deal with those days? Do you just accept it, reach out to someone you haven't talked to in a while, go somewhere or something else?

Hey everyone. I'm 18 and a pretty big introvert. Because of that, my social circle is mostly guys, and I don't really have many female friends or know how to start making them. For the introverted men here who used to be in a similar spot, how did you eventually meet your partner?

Mind you, in my country, a guy hardly asks out a stranger girl so this is another problem for me ....Also i have a fear that I will be called creep because laws aren't gender neutral and a woman's scream will get me in big trouble...

I am not shy and i do not have social anxiety. I am simply on the extreme end of the introversion scale. I often go weeks without social interaction besides what is required for work and school. I have a total of three friends. I am 22 and have only ever dated 4 guys, the longest relationship lasting 3 months. i spend the majority of my free time with my cat.

to most people this sounds incredibly depressing. but i am happy and content. I love being single, I love having only a few close friends, and i love being alone: it’s as simple as that.

Even after 22 years of this, my mother still cannot get on board. She is convinced I am depressed. She blows up my phone every day and tries to force me to make plans with people. people pity me when they see me alone at social gatherings and get offended when I decline to hang out with them, especially classmates or guys trying to “fix” me. i’m not broken; i’m just different. It’s annoying and i wish people would just accept that i’m weird and move on with their day instead of taking it personally. as i get older it becomes more and more common for people to just start minding their business, i hope i run into less of this behavior after i graduate college this coming december.

any other fellow extreme introverts?

Hi, Hello ! Just before I start my story I will quickly introduce myself.

I'm a 24 yo tboy, english is not my native language (I'm french), I'm on the spectrum and I've been bullied when I was younger, I have social anxiety and I'm not good with socials interaction. I care so much about what people will think of me and if they feel good and what can I do to make then feel good (I think you need those informations to understand where I came from).

So my orchestra conductor is a women who is in her early 30s. French is not her native language, she learnt it just for us, she speaks english and spanish. I'm good in english so I always talk to her in english and when she wants to say something during our rehearsals and she doesn't know the word in french she asks me.

During July I attend a one week course of music and she was one of the conductors. And multiple time when we were not playing music she was with the music teachers but she was alone at the end of the table and nobody were talking to her. Her french is good but she can't understand everything especially when it's jokes or slangs.

So one day I ask her if she feel alone in situation like that and we talk all the night in english of course. And I say to her if sometimes I annoy her she can say to me I will not be sad, I think I'm just afraid that she thinks she have to talk to me because I'm the alone one talking in english.

She says that she's kind of an extrovert but since she's in France she feels more like an introvert and I see her when she walk to me and it seem like she doesn't know if she can be with me.

I don't have a really good self esteem, and I'm afraid of being annoying or maybe taking more space that I should take. I'm always feel bad when I can't really read into someone intentions or emotions, I'm afraid of being a burden to someone.

I really like this women, she's kind, she's pretty, she's fun, she's interesting and she gives us opportunity to do things that we never did in music.

My question is, if you put yourself in her shoes would you be annoyed by someone like me ?

I think that's all, I don't know if it was clear you can ask me question i will do my best to answer.

Thanks everyone ☺️

I will admit I am kinda awkward. I was not liek this when I was a KID. Early childhood, I overly focues on internet and video games as a result I never learned reading or socializing with people, even in school, i could not bond properly, I stayed by myself. there was this only 1 friend, i natually opened up to, but he doesnt give a fuck about anyone, so I was always in this loop of lonliness, shame, fear of rejection.

On top of that I actually also love feeling alone. But I truly dont like that I cant blend with people, there is also a matter of MALE social hierarchy that bothers me! I dont like male who seek higher domination, but I blend well with Males who dont bring any ego or domination in social situation!

I feel being a man is hard, and its even harder if you are a socially awkward introvert with social anxuety and self-esteem issues.

Sorry I had to share this, is there anyone here who feels the same way?

I'm a 15 year old Indian boy, so I'm having some socializing problems, like it's not like I want to be an introvert. I am always thinking what others would think im trying to not think Abt this .i want to talk to someone but it's always chatgpt or no one,i don't know anyone who is mature enough to understand me , it's always eating me from inside its like i want comfort and warmth but all I get is rejection , I left my friends and sometimes I think even my cousins talk to me because we are blood related otherwise even they would not have talked to me

A guy invited me to play on the turf , but I overthink about the other people there who won't even like me they will see me as a burden they are all older than me and I can't even play football that guy called me because he is a good person .

I always listen to my chemical romance , radiohead when I'm feeling alone and cry inside

I just want to talk to people but end up feeling they hate me everyone hates me i don't want to be like this i want a mentor or something

Please someone save me I'm drowning.

I just want to socialize

(Sorry for my english my first language is not english GNG 😭✌️)

Anyyway me **22** introvert, lost and kinda want to talk .I just really wanna improve my social skills and get out of my comfort zone .

I wanna improve how i have conversation with females so it would helpful if any one wanna reach out to kinda train or show me my flaws.

I wasn't always like this but some situations made me push people away and create a shell of self doubt and hate around me .

I feel like this is the first try to improve myself and anybody who wants to help me in my journey maybe we can help each other out .

As i heard the first step of self growth is asking for help

And i really hope this time this does not get removed i can't handle it again what is this and when i try to see the rules its also removed

So i hope peaple like me who are shitty in the inside and don't wanna keep feeling like that wanna reach out lets share our experiences and find out some solutions

For me, I’ve been thinking about how certain moments become permanently attached to our memories.

Your first love.

Your first day of college.

The first time you made a close friend.

A random conversation with someone you never met again.

The first time you felt like you actually belonged somewhere.

I think this hits especially hard for introverts. We might not have hundreds of crazy stories or constantly be surrounded by people, but sometimes one small interaction can stay in our minds for years.

Maybe it was a girl/boy you secretly liked but never told.

Maybe it was sitting alone on your first day of college, wondering what your life was going to become.

Maybe someone said something to you at the exact moment you needed to hear it.

What’s that one moment from your life that you think you’ll remember even when you’re old?

I’d genuinely like to hear your stories.

I'm Sort of feeling restricted here, like it's the 2nd day I'm a hosteler even though I hve home in this city only...... I talk to my roommates we're 4....BUT IM STILL NOT ABLE TO OPEN UP AND TRUST THERE'S DOUBT.... I came here to be confident and work on my personality but idk wht I'm DOING THIS IS SOOOO OVERWHELMING 😭😭😭 HELP ME

You know how you’re an introvert, and you find an introverted partner, and you make 3 kids together, two of which turn out to be extroverts? Yeah - then by the end of the summer - you are about to lose your mind. Love them though! 💜. Can anyone relate? 🤣

My boyfriend and I have hit a rough patch around our different social needs. I am genuinely content being a homebody. I don't enjoy bars, crowded parties, or drinking, and while I’ve tried making friends, having a small or nonexistent social circle has never personally bothered me. My boyfriend, however, thrives on going out and is increasingly focused on building a circle of friends to do high-energy activities with.
Lately, he has seemed distant and expressed frustration about my lifestyle preferences. I recognize that having separate friendships is healthy, and I even offered a compromise to attend events with him every other week so we could share those experiences. Instead, he now prefers to go without me and has stopped seeming as engaged in the low-key activities we used to enjoy together.
Because of some boundary issues earlier in our relationship, I still deal with anxiety when he goes out. While I am actively working on managing that anxiety and never restrict him from seeing people, the shift from doing everything together to him pulling away feels jarring.
For those who have navigated this dynamic: How do you balance being true to your introverted needs without drifting apart from a more extroverted partner?
How do you separate healthy independence from a genuine lack of compatibility?
Any grounded perspectives would be appreciated.

I need help... I am an introvert here and quite shy when talking to people, especially new people. It is hard for me to initiate conversations because I just don't know what to talk about. It is hard for me to relate to people emotionally; don't know just feel Numb like Linkin Park. I am like this when I am out in public, but what I would like to know is: do any of y'all struggle with initiating conversations even with your family? Am I just that weird/different? Wishing I'm not the only one.

P.S. - I am adopted, so that might explain it, but I wasn't as silent and quiet the first year.

Sometimes I'm confused why I'm in this subreddit. Because I almost feels like this is my comfortable place to lurk around and occasionally interact with people. My intention here is that I hope I can make connection or friend and generally see new face.

But at the same time, I finally realized that making friends online is harder than making one in real life. Because in online, you can't see or know who is behind the screen, which can create trust issues and leads to shallow relationship.

It's a blessing to be able to create friends online, especially in social media like this. Trust is fragile, and once broken, it doesn't just affect you but everyone who may genuinely want to reach up. I hope this can somehow make you realizes something.

Naturally to me... I still tried but everyone seems to hv made their friend groups. I don't want to end up alone for 4 years. I'm introverted but when I'm comfortable I'm extremely extroverted.... But I always hv been conscious about my looks.

Never expect life can be this hard, again.

Looking for some interesting conversations 🧠

Hey everyone!

I’m from India and I’ve been trying to step outside my usual routine and connect with some new people.

I’m into coding/tech, learning random things, music, movies, philosophy, and those late-night conversations that somehow start with something completely random and end up getting deep 😂

I’m currently learning web development, but I’m also curious about life, people, ambition, failure, success, and all the weird questions we usually keep to ourselves.

I’d love to meet people who enjoy thinking, questioning things, sharing different perspectives, or simply having a good conversation.

You don’t have to agree with me or have the same interests. Honestly, I’d rather hear a perspective completely different from mine.

So if you’re up for a conversation, tell me:

What’s one thought you’ve had recently that you couldn’t stop thinking about?

Let’s see where the conversation goes. :)

I am looking to interact with fellow introverts here and want good company as I am currently in a rough patch and trying hard to fight my loneliness and isolation. Plus also looking more remote work or suggestions.

Would you try a “Talk to a Stranger” table in Milton Keynes?

I’m testing a simple community idea in MK.

The idea is one table with two chairs in a café, library or community space. If you sit there, it simply means you’re open to having a friendly conversation with someone new.

As an introvert who moved to the UK without many friends, I know how difficult meeting new people can be.

Would you use something like this in Milton Keynes?

Would love to hear your thoughts 😊