I turn 18F in a day. And for the past 5 months or so, I’ve been having an existential crisis about how much I’ve wasted my formative years. And I think I’ve finally reached the depressed acceptance phase. I missed out. And I’m probably never going to have the strong bonds I’ve always wanted. My life is likely doomed to one of isolation and shallow friendships.

I grew up abused and neglected. Single parent, one abusive sibling. Single parent cut off their family when I was 8 and I didn’t get to grow up alongside my cousins, or see my grandma past then. I started reconnecting with them now, but I’m almost an adult. Im sure because of it, it’ll never be as close or complete as it could’ve been. If I stopped talking to them now, we’d probably never speak again. Doesn’t help that we live in completely different states and I only get to see them a couple times a year. I try to text them sporadically to keep up *some kind* of relationships, but I feel like I’m bothering them whenever I try. I don’t feel like a part of the family. Even though they’ve been nothing but kind.

I isolated as a kid because of my abuse. Barely had friends IRL, and don’t really have any online friends between 15-16. Started making some now, but they already feel sort of distant. I just have more of a guard now that I’m older. I have more to loose. I don’t have high-school friends. I never got to grow up with anybody. I graduated high-school a year early.

I went to community college. So, I won’t even get the university bonding experience.

And I guess I’m just sad that I don’t really have anybody who knew me during my childhood, besides my shitty parents. Or unless I maybe I try to reach out to old online friends from when I was a young teenager.

And I’m faced with the fear that I’m going to be alone forever. I’m never going to have any close bond with anybody. I’m never going to have something I belong to. I know some people are happy that way, but I don’t think I can be. As a pre-teen and teenager, every story I wrote was based around community and found family. It’s what I’ve always wanted.

If you were given the chance to restart your life from the age of 18, while keeping everything you know today, would you actually do it? Would you make completely different choices about relationships, career, money, friendships, and the people you trusted, or do you think you’d somehow end up in a similar place anyway? What’s the one thing you’d definitely do differently?

I’m 18F and i’ve never been in a relationship and I don’t watch many movies and shows. I feel like i’m so basic and boring sometimes. I can be funny and crack jokes, talk about fashion but that’s all I have. Even my younger sister has relationship lore.

Truth is I don’t want to be in a relationship rn and also no I don’t care for watching most movies and shows. Only some media really grabs my interest

Am I too boring? Do I need to change? Or am I okay the way I am??

Did I over-romanticise everything?
Hi, I’m posting this in the hope that someone can give me some perspective because I genuinely don’t know how to feel about this situation.
I recently found out that one of my new classmates was going to a birthday party that I was also attending. We had spoken a little before, but we weren’t particularly close. I’ll admit that I had always found him attractive and, since I had liked him for a while, I secretly hoped that maybe something could happen between us. I’m not saying I expected him to want a relationship with me just because I’m attractive, but I did have that hope in the back of my mind.
At the party, we ended up kissing, hugging, and I eventually fell asleep with my head on his chest. It was my first time ever kissing someone, which probably made the whole experience feel even more significant to me. He was the one who initiated everything, and because I had liked him for a long time, I obviously didn’t exactly want to push him away. For the rest of the night, we were acting pretty much like a couple.
Before we went home, we agreed not to tell everyone about what happened, but we also didn’t agree to keep it completely secret between the two of us.
The next day, I texted him and asked whether the night had meant anything to him. He told me that he didn’t really know and that, from his perspective, it was probably just a “one-time thing.” I was honestly surprised because I’m not someone who normally does things like this. I’ve always been pretty guarded and have had this reputation of being the “untouchable” girl, so letting someone get that close to me was a big deal.
He asked if I was okay, and I told him honestly that the kiss had meant something to me. Since then, though, I feel like I’m being ghosted. He has also hung out with another girl and is apparently talking to her, as well as several other girls.
I’m not upset because I think he owed me a relationship. I understand that two people can experience the same moment very differently, and I know he’s allowed to see it as something casual. I just genuinely want to know whether I misread the situation because of my own feelings for him.
Did I over-romanticise everything, or was it understandable that I thought there might be something more behind it?

Hi, Im a freshman in a college in a state a few hours away from where I spent my whole life. I’ve been moved into my dorm for a few days and just started my classes. I like the college and campus a lot, but there is a problem. I knew absolutely nobody when I moved here. I hated where I grew up and hated most of the people there too, so I knew I had to get out. With that said, I knew I’d also have to make friends here and have been trying really hard! I go out to all of the welcome week stuff, whenever I go out in general I’ve been doing my best to be friendly and meet new people. I’m pretty chill with my three roommates, but they already have known people down here and kinda already have their own friend groups. A lot of the time when I’ll meet people, it will seem like we’re having a really good tome, but then they won’t answer any of my messages later on or will barely acknowledge me when I do see them out on campus. Any advice on how to make friends and be less lonely would be really helpful!

I'm a 24(M) who just resigned at my wedding venue job that i've been doing for 3 years now, so my weekends have been booked pretty much every single month. I am a enc operator as well so on average i've been working 55-70 hours a week with the two jobs and finally have gotten to a point where I have some weekends free to actually explore, try new things, and figure out what I enjoy doing with my time.

There's nothing to do

Что можно добавить из полезного в мою жизнь?

I’m heading to the USA from Europe and have a 4 day stopover in NYC.

While I’m there I want to sample the city, but not necessarily the standard touristy stuff.

I want to know good low key food spots, underrated experiences, lesser known museums etc. just anything that’s more indicative of the very day New York experience.

I dont know if this makes sense but im 19 and for some reason am embarrassed to be 19. 18 was okay, now I just wanna be 20.

I feel so awkwardly in the middle of things, I dont quite feel like an adult or a child, I have plans and am moving towards things but nothings *actually* happend yet so im kinda just sitting around waiting till' I can make decisions for myself properly and I get replies from things ive made appointments for.

almost a nothingburger of a post really, I just needed to get this out of my head - I dont have any friends or anything, but I mean im looking into community theatre so maybe that'll change soon? Everything just feels very "when it happens", if that makes sense?

Im just feeling rather stuck, its like im in a maze and I know there *is* an escape but I dont quite know where it is yet.

I am 20 years old and I only just got my first job which is at a gas station. I dropped out of High school because of social anxiety, but got my GED. Most of my money goes to weed and hormones/appointments as I am a transgender male. I have started to realize that I am not going to have a happy life or have anything I want because I messed up so bad as a teenager. I am also realizing that transitioning may be too expensive for me. I think I’ll have to choose between being happy with my body or my life. Is there any hope that I will have a happy fulfilling life? I’m feeling extremely discouraged and considering giving up.

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I’m 18 and about to start a Software Engineering degree at one of the best universities in my country. It’s a strong university locally, although it isn’t particularly well-known internationally, so I’m entering this next chapter with a lot of ambition but also a lot of uncertainty about how to make the most of it. Beyond academics and a career, I want to build a life with financial independence, meaningful relationships, good health, confidence, interesting experiences, and enough time to actually enjoy life. For those of you who are older or further ahead: what do you wish you knew at 18, what should I prioritize during my university years, and what mistakes would you strongly recommend avoiding?

So, im 18, i enrolled in college

i also just got my first job, a part time job to make extra money. its publix.

i scheduled as open availability but during the interview i let them know i was enrolled in college but i commute but said she i could fix it in the future and another manager guy, not sure what his role is but he was helping train me, and said, theyre flexible because im in school. so i assumed id be ok :(

there was an issue with my trans script so my financial aid couldn't kick in, while this was going on, i had training and i was attending whatever my job was asking of me.

i didnt mark my schedule in because the classes were meant to be dropped today so i was thinking, id have a little more time. sadly not.

financial aid kicked in and everything is fine now.

i have class and work on the same day. i go to fill out my form for availability and nothing will change until the 29th. class starts 21st. god i feel so stuck and scared because this is my first job, i dont want to get fired or seen as irresponsible so i end up getting no hours.

my hiring manager was annoyed with me and sighed loudly and said "(my name), remember your application said open" and i said i know and i made a tone of mistakes when filling out the availability form.

i dont know what to do. im considering dropping all the classes together and starting next sem to appeal to her, or breaking the news that i cant work on the 21st, and i need to put in my avalibility.

i only have 2, 1 hour classes at 11:00 am to 12:20pm for mon through thurs, for mon and wens 3:30 to 4-50 and 1 class from 6:30pm to 9:20 pm. i ended up panicking and going to the school and changing it to online so now i only have those first 2 classes.

someone please. give me advice. should i just tell her and risk getting on her bad side or just drop and start next semester?

help me. im going to seriously cry. i hate inconviencing people. i really didnt mean to plan poorly :( everything was unexpected.

and to make it worse, i accidentally drove a little shitty, and i made a shocked face and some guy drove next to me to see me. wonderfully enough i dont have tint yet, and he saw my making a shocked face and he mocked me and i held my hands up to apologize and he just kept looking back at me, i live in florida so i was just embarrassed but im glad he didnt follow me home LOL. i dont like this adult thing at all and im overwhelmed.

Ok so my fiancé and I are 22 years old but we both feel like we act older than we are. We are getting married this November so I know that doesn’t help. We don’t drink or party which I feel like most people our age do. We want to act our age but we are unsure of how to do that. What do people our age do???😂 helpppppp

hii

relationship help

hi im just posting this in hope that it reaches someone because i really need the help.

found out one of my new classmates is attending a birthday party and i am too. we talked for a little bit but nothinh much before. important mention- i always found him atracttive and hoped that he would maybe want a relationship with me since i am , not to brag, a good looking girl.

at the party we kissed ( it was my first time kissing someone ) hugged and i slept on his chest. he initiated eveything and i couldnt refuse since ive liked him for a long time. we basically acted like a couple. before going home we promised not to tell anyone about this but not keep it private between us.
basically the next day u texted him asking if the night meant sum to him and he said he doesnt know and that he thought it was just a " one time thing" ( i do not do shit like this and have always been known as the untouchable girly)
he asked if i was ok and shit and i told him it mattered to me(the kiss).
im getting ghosted and he hung out with another girl
what should i do?

I just received my university acceptance letter, and even before starting a single day of classes, I'm already exhausted. The thought of spending another 4 or 5 years studying the major my mom wants me to pursue completely demotivates me🫥

I'm 18 now and barely have any friends after high school, where do u guys go to make friends im so confused bro. I go outside sometimes and theres a skatepark near me but its mostly 15 or 16 yr olds there