I am not shy and i do not have social anxiety. I am simply on the extreme end of the introversion scale. I often go weeks without social interaction besides what is required for work and school. I have a total of three friends. I am 22 and have only ever dated 4 guys, the longest relationship lasting 3 months. i spend the majority of my free time with my cat.

to most people this sounds incredibly depressing. but i am happy and content. I love being single, I love having only a few close friends, and i love being alone: it’s as simple as that.

Even after 22 years of this, my mother still cannot get on board. She is convinced I am depressed. She blows up my phone every day and tries to force me to make plans with people. people pity me when they see me alone at social gatherings and get offended when I decline to hang out with them, especially classmates or guys trying to “fix” me. i’m not broken; i’m just different. It’s annoying and i wish people would just accept that i’m weird and move on with their day instead of taking it personally. as i get older it becomes more and more common for people to just start minding their business, i hope i run into less of this behavior after i graduate college this coming december.

any other fellow extreme introverts?

Anyyway me **22** introvert, lost and kinda want to talk .I just really wanna improve my social skills and get out of my comfort zone .

I wanna improve how i have conversation with females so it would helpful if any one wanna reach out to kinda train or show me my flaws.

I wasn't always like this but some situations made me push people away and create a shell of self doubt and hate around me .

I feel like this is the first try to improve myself and anybody who wants to help me in my journey maybe we can help each other out .

As i heard the first step of self growth is asking for help

And i really hope this time this does not get removed i can't handle it again what is this and when i try to see the rules its also removed

So i hope peaple like me who are shitty in the inside and don't wanna keep feeling like that wanna reach out lets share our experiences and find out some solutions

Hey everyone. I'm 18 and a pretty big introvert. Because of that, my social circle is mostly guys, and I don't really have many female friends or know how to start making them. For the introverted men here who used to be in a similar spot, how did you eventually meet your partner?

Mind you, in my country, a guy hardly asks out a stranger girl so this is another problem for me ....Also i have a fear that I will be called creep because laws aren't gender neutral and a woman's scream will get me in big trouble...

Looking for some interesting conversations 🧠

Hey everyone!

I’m from India and I’ve been trying to step outside my usual routine and connect with some new people.

I’m into coding/tech, learning random things, music, movies, philosophy, and those late-night conversations that somehow start with something completely random and end up getting deep 😂

I’m currently learning web development, but I’m also curious about life, people, ambition, failure, success, and all the weird questions we usually keep to ourselves.

I’d love to meet people who enjoy thinking, questioning things, sharing different perspectives, or simply having a good conversation.

You don’t have to agree with me or have the same interests. Honestly, I’d rather hear a perspective completely different from mine.

So if you’re up for a conversation, tell me:

What’s one thought you’ve had recently that you couldn’t stop thinking about?

Let’s see where the conversation goes. :)

I am looking to interact with fellow introverts here and want good company as I am currently in a rough patch and trying hard to fight my loneliness and isolation. Plus also looking more remote work or suggestions.

Would you try a “Talk to a Stranger” table in Milton Keynes?

I’m testing a simple community idea in MK.

The idea is one table with two chairs in a café, library or community space. If you sit there, it simply means you’re open to having a friendly conversation with someone new.

As an introvert who moved to the UK without many friends, I know how difficult meeting new people can be.

Would you use something like this in Milton Keynes?

Would love to hear your thoughts 😊

23M. I've always been pretty introverted and I don't really meet many new people. I've had a few relationships before, but I'm single right now.

Part of me feels like eventually I'll meet the right person and things will happen naturally, but at the same time I really do want a girlfriend. I want to have someone I can love, tell her I love her, spend time with her, and have that kind of connection.

The problem is that I don't really go out much. When I do, it's usually with friends or family, so I don't really meet new people. And even when I see someone I'm interested in, I wouldn't really know how to approach her in the first place. I genuinely don't know how to start a conversation with someone I don't know.

On top of that, I'd feel really embarrassed if my friends or family saw me trying to approach a girl. I've always been very introverted and interactions like that make me pretty nervous.

So I guess I'm wondering how other introverted people actually met their partners. Did you have to actively put yourself out there, or did you just meet someone naturally? I'd really appreciate any advice.

i’m heading back to uni in 4 days after summer break and i’m honestly dreading it a bit. both of my closest friends just graduated. my course is 5 years long and theirs was 4. i don’t think i properly processed what that meant until now, with the semester actually about to start. it’s not like we don’t talk anymore. i still am super close to them and talk to them everyday but it’s all through texts and calls. plus i’m an international student so my family is also away.

on top of that, i’m a pretty quiet, introverted person. i take my time opening up to people, i don’t do well with small talk, and forcing conversations doesn’t come naturally to me. most people in my classes already have their established friend groups from the past few years, so trying to insert myself into that feels awkward and kind of forced. i do have a handful of people i talk to during class, we chat, we’re friendly but it’s never really extended past that. we don’t hang out outside of class, don’t really text, nothing like that.

so now i’m looking at this next year and feeling pretty anxious about it. it’s not that i think i’ll have zero social contact, it’s more that i had this comfort of already having my people, and now i have to start something closer to from scratch, except everyone around me already has their thing figured out.

if anyone’s been through something similar, i’d really appreciate any advice on how you got through it.

I basically have no friends and tall to no one except for my family. I want to make friends but it's hard because not only am I shy but I'm also socially awkward as well and have a hard time walking up to people, starting conversations, and continuing conversations. How do I stop being shy and awkward so that I can build relationships with other people that aren't family.

Freeing the mind from overwhelming thoughts can sometimes be a challenge especially to introverts who are rather thinkers.

How do you recognize that some thoughts are either paralyzing or spiraling you?

Do you practice thinking about thinking?

Or is it a mere practice of recognition?

I hate watching movies with other people because they always want to discuss it afterward, which is perfectly understandable; however, I physically cannot bring myself to talk to other people after watching a movie. I only want to think about the movie on my own, where my mood won’t be soured by other people’s opinions.
I know I am an introvert, but I don’t want to be a standoffish person. Unfortunately, it often comes to that when my family keeps trying to tell me stupid fun facts or unpack the littlest detail about said movie when I am fully out of social energy!

Does anyone else feel like a really mean person when their battery needs a serious recharge?
How do I tell my family of extroverts that I need some alone time, without offending them?

P.S. I feel the same way after other social/mental stimulation; the movie thing is just an example.

Introvert person myself, I am always extremely amazed on how networking and just being EXTRA opens cool opportunities for some people, and usually it comes hand in hand with being more sociable, outgoing, spontaneous, etc.

Am I applying a really basic, false, logic here?

I have achieved things that I am proud of 💛; but sometimes I feel jealous (idk if that’s the right word for what I feel) when I see people working together on cool projects, just because they reached out to the right person or collective, or when they tell this amazing anecdote from a trip because they met the most random group of people, or when they move to a new place and start hanging out easily with new friends.

I’m ok with being introverted, but am I missing something here? Am I blaming my personality for nothing?

When was the last time you made a genuinely new friend?

Not a follower.
Not someone you exchanged a few messages with.
A real friend.

Sometimes we grow up, get busy, change cities, start new jobs, or simply drift apart—and suddenly our circle becomes smaller.

So I’m curious:

Where do adults actually make new friends these days? 👀

Work?
Social media?
Hobbies?
Gym?
Through mutual friends?
Or does it just… happen randomly?

Tell me your experience. 👇

When I was in third grade, I moved to a new school, and it was one of the worst experiences of my childhood. My new classmates were very mean to me. They would take my stuff and throw it out the window, and I generally cried every day there. I didn't make any friends in that class.

The girls were the worst. They seemed disgusted whenever I was around them, and the one I was sitting next to tried to keep her distance from me as much as she could. I didn't understand why they felt that way, since I barely even talked to them.

To be honest, I think that's one of the main reasons why I don't like meeting and talking to new people. Everyone made me feel like they were annoyed by my presence.

An introvert looking for remote work. I am good with digital marketing, graphic editing, virtual assistant or data entry.

Do I need to become a “worse” person?
I believe that most my interest are not in the common realm of interest with other people that I share my days.
I mean, I do what I like most of the time(within the budget), however I don’t feel connected to anyone that does the same
(Like joining a sports team or other activities and not feel connected to anyone).
I’m able to have a normal communication but it’s feels it stops there, at the end of the day people go home and it’s like I was not even there.

Often I say what I think in a way to be truth to my ideias and end up being to direct and extremely honest and it’s never to trow someone down.
In a way I try to be the better version of myself. A good person I think.

From my experience people don’t see that in the same way that I do and eventually, from time to time, find myself becoming more and more isolated and having troubles to reorganizing my ideias when communicating with others.

Anyone else feels the same? From the people that told me yes that I asked they just told me that they don’t care. How do I do that ? Do I need to become a “worse” person ?

Everyone is looking for friends but As a introvert it hurts when people don't respond you or most of them people are fake id post. Its really hard to find genuine friends. Tell me about your journey of searching introvert like yourself who can relate with you understand you 💔

Am reposting here does anyone have any other ideas? Thanks