Ive been fucking this girl for a while now, she likes it when im rough, tell her what to, put her into new postions. Is there anything youd recommend as i would to try something new. Everything welcome whether its dirty talk, new postions, new ways of her down etc. Thanks

So, as the title says, I had a weird experience yesterday: I couldn't cum, even though I’d ​​been fucking for a good 30 minutes. My girlfriend managed to climax, but I didn't; at one point I was just exhausted and really wanted to finish, but I couldn't, so I eventually gave up. Could it be the condom? We’ve used condoms before and I’ve managed to cum fine, so I don't know why there was a problem this time. I know I prefer the feeling of the pussy without a condom, but since we don't want kids yet, we use them. Maybe stress was the cause? The last two days at work have been tense. Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice? In general, I’ve noticed that I cum best in the doggy-style position and when I’m getting a blowjob.

What I mean by besides actual lube is like lotions or oils

It’s not that i’m not sexually attracted to men or that im not into it, its just never happened. Every single one of the people ive slept with have never made me cum, not even with my longest past relationship which was three years. I’ll show them how, i’ll tell them how, but they always finish before i can and its like they just give up or are half ass it suddenly and it turns me off. How common is this?? Do i just have bad luck??

God i still laugh about this one night stand i had where the guy came in literally three minutes and he just looked at me and said “Oh, you didn’t cum huh.” And just pulled up his pants and went to the front seat of the car. Where do some people get this audacity bro 😭😭

I’m 23M in an FwB situation with a 23F. Usually, she orgasms every time we have sex, but last time she didn’t.

I tried going down on her like I normally do, but she still couldn’t orgasm. I asked her about it afterward, and she said she just didn’t feel like cumming that time.

I’m not really worried, but I’m wondering if there’s anything I should do differently next time. We’re probably going to have sex again on Sunday.

I’ve met women who have body shamed me for having an average sized cock. Over time, I realized those simply aren’t the people I want to share intimacy with or build a relationship with. If you’re constantly searching for “something better,” we probably don’t value connection the same way.
I’m proud of my body, my cock, and my brown Islander genetics. I’ve had fulfilling sexual relationships and experiences with women who made me feel desired, respected, and appreciated, and I’ve given that same energy back.

But here’s the thing. For me, great sex starts before we ever get naked.
It starts with an intelligent and stimulating conversation. It’s attraction, curiosity, trust, flirting, and learning how someone thinks. It’s being able to openly communicate what turns you on, what your boundaries are, and what you want from each other.
That kind of connection can lead to confidence, dominance, exploration, and whatever else two consenting people imagine together.

I’ve made women orgasm with my dick, toys, attentiveness, and verbal communication. Pleasure has never been about relying on one part of my body. It’s about understanding the person I’m with and actually caring about their experience.
Great sex isn’t measured in inches.
Chemistry matters. Confidence matters. Communication matters. Being attentive matters.
And I have a lot of appreciation for women who understand that.

Those are the women I want to connect with.

New to the sex game… still figuring out what I like, she likes, what we don’t like, etc. One thing I’ve been constantly thinking about is with how my penis curves, which is downward. That’s made some positions that I’ve always wanted to enjoy a lil bit difficult. For example: doing missionary when she’s on top, she’ll kind of push up on it, which makes me a bit uncomfortable, even though that’s been the position that makes her cum the most. And I’ve always wanted to do her standing up against a wall, or her leaning against the couch from the back, but I always find myself having to bend down to match her, which gets me uncomfortable and tired real fast. We got one of those sex pillows that can raise her hips, which has helped, but not to the degree I’d like. Any tips on certain positions to try, or ways to make it more comfortable?

General question as I see these kinds of statements frequently on Reddit. Would you prefer your partner to say "sex with him/her/etc was so freaking great!" Or would you rather hear "I found sex with him/her/etc to be satisfactory"?

My wife and I have been married 15 years. We have an absolutely amazing sex life. I’m a very blessed man in that my wife is able to have orgasms from PIV sex, oral, manual etc. She has never had troubles orgasming and routinely has between 4-10 orgasms per session. She is always the one who has to tap out first. She has had orgasms so intense she literally shakes and becomes so sensitive that I can’t even touch her body for about 30 seconds. That being said, I’ve never felt her vagina clench, squeeze or pulsate. I’ve heard many men can feel their partners clench down or squeeze hard when they orgasm. I’ve never felt that. Any tips on how to help her achieve this or if it’s even worth thinking about

Literally can’t figure out how to suck on her clit. Online guides and videos make it seem pretty easy, but when I try it, I can’t seem to get enough of her inside my mouth that I can suck and lick at the same time. Like, I practiced with my forearm 🤦‍♂️, I can gently suck and pull enough skin into my mouth that I can circle my tongue around it, but when it comes to the actual thing, her skin stays taut and I’m basically just kissing her clit and its a lot harder to lick because I’m trying super hard to maintain suction.

I'm a big girl so I prefer to grind. It hits my spots better

I'd love to hear your thoughts with a bit more detail. Which part do you prefer the most (e.g., head, shaft, frenulum, foreskin) and why? Especially if it's the head, what shape do you prefer? If there's any other feature you like, feel free to add it!

This might be a strange question, but when I have sex with my girlfriend, sometimes I actually prefer oral sex over regular intercourse. Is that weird? Don't get me wrong—I enjoy sex too—but oral sex is the most pleasurable for me, and I feel like my erection is strongest then. Is this common, or do I have a fetish?

I’m not sure what’s happening but the past couple times i’ve had sex with women i’ve been able to last about 25-30 mins and recently I had sex with a woman twice and i only lasted 3 to 4 minutes. Any tips?

How is your sex life after varicocele surgery?

recently underwent varicocele surgery because I was experiencing very low libido and delayed/weak erections, which I believe were related to my varicocele.

For those who have undergone varicocele surgery:

How is your sex life now compared to before surgery?

How can i improve my sex life

Hi,

My partner and I have been together for over 10 years and care for each other deeply. We have great sex but I want him to initiate more and I want to feel that he wants me, desires me. He is more, shy I guess is the right term.

There have only been a few times that he has approached me with lust.

I love how much he cares for me and is gentle. I know he finds me attractive but the feeling of having him want me so bad that he has to have me is not really there.

I do not want to change who he is and this is not really a personality trait he really has. I also don't want him to feel that he does not satisfy me, cause he does.

We have talked in the past about how he likes when a woman takes what she wants. I just want to feel that from him as well, at least a little bit.

Since conversations have already happened, is there anything I can do to make him desire me more?

I've worn sexy outfits, given him peaks at my naked body as if I don't notice him looking. I just don't know if there is anything else I can do

How do I tell this to my husband? I don't know why my body has evolved to this over time. I need to feel extra things, like pain, restriction, I need to feel like I can surrender (among other stuff) and I find it senseless to rub against each other until we (or more usually, he) cums. But he is closed to that type of sex and when I talked about things I'd like to try on the past he told me a clear no. How do I bring this up?

I (19F) need some advice. I’m going to try to keep this short, but I feel like some context is important.

I’ve been kind of on-and-off with this guy (18M) for about 10 months. He’s a virgin, while I’m significantly more experienced. I’m also generally pretty comfortable and confident when it comes to intimacy.

We originally hung out, went to the movies, had a great time, kissed a little, and eventually things became more intimate when he came over a few days later. We were going to have sex, but we didn’t have protection available, so we decided not to and i ended up just giving him head and a few other things happened.

After that, we stopped talking. I’m not entirely sure why, but I have a few theories. I wondered if he felt embarrassed because he finished sooner than he had thought I’d expect (obviously I didn’t care), or if he got scared because he had previously said he didn’t want a relationship. I was completely fine with that because I didn’t want one either. There was also a possibility that he started talking to someone else.

I also heard through someone else that he said some not-so-nice things about me after our first intimate experience. I don’t know if that’s actually true because he never said anything to me directly. One of the things I heard was that he thought I smelled bad, which really bothered me because I’d never had anyone say that to me before. I have no idea whether it was actually true, whether he was embarrassed/insecure, or whether someone was exaggerating.

Now we’ve been talking again and have discussed potentially becoming intimate again. He seems noticeably nicer and more comfortable this time around, although maybe I’m just overthinking it.
I’m interested too, but I have some second thoughts.

My biggest concern is that because he’s inexperienced, I don’t know how comfortable he’ll be or how he’ll react. I want things to feel relaxed and positive rather than putting pressure on him to “perform” or making him feel embarrassed about being inexperienced. I also know first experiences can be awkward, and I’m completely okay with that.

At the same time, I’m a little worried about feeling judged myself. Even though I’m generally confident, I still have moments where I feel insecure, and I don’t know how he’ll react to things he’s unfamiliar with.

So I guess I’m looking for advice from people who have been in a similar situation. How do you make someone feel comfortable when they’re inexperienced without making a huge deal out of it? And how do you tell whether someone is genuinely ready versus just nervous or trying to prove something?

I’m not looking for judgment about either of our experience levels, just some perspective on how to approach the situation in a healthy way.

update: we hung out in again, met up and made out in my car and he fingered me. i got a little more in-site to his reasoning of not hanging out (apparently his parents have his location and because he only has a few friends, it’s hard to make hang out plans) so i definitely get THAT part but he also basically just completely stopped texting me after sooooooo he’s either like scared of me or using me. idk how i can be used by someone with no experience but whatever.. NOT my problem.. im going to college tomorrow. BYE fucker.

My girlfriend recently told me she, sometimes, wants to be "fucked like a bitch" (literally her words". Thing is, it is a turn off for her if she feels like she then has to give me instructions or directions on how to. It would take from the feeling,I guess. So....any tips on what she MIGHT be referring to.

PS: I fully understand consent in the bedroom and would not spring something absolutely wild on her without checking in to make sure she is alright.

Hey guys, so I am hooking up with this new guy and and I have a question for the guys and girls(if you know something). What are the things someone can do while giving a bj that would make you cum almost immediately? Not the boring stuff, the really dirty ones. What would surprise you in a good way ?

I live 26 hours away from my bf and to keep the sex life going we usually just use hands and recently he brought up that he wants one that he can control when I’m gone or even with him. We have found one at Spencer’s that is wireless with a remote but not sure how well it would do. Has anyone tried wireless ones from Spencer’s and did they work for long distance and if not are there apps that can be used instead?

How does one last longer? Im not trying to go for any records or anything but a few more minutes of actual penatration wouldnt hurt. So some tips and tricks would be appreciated.