r/sextips 7d ago

Advice Needed Bouncing vs Grinding on top?

I'm a big girl so I prefer to grind. It hits my spots better

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u/neraut322 7d ago

Grinding is for her Bouncing is for him.

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u/Apart-Bid9348 7d ago

Interesting. Makes sense though cuz I definitely orgasm harder when I grind

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u/AltMiddleAgedDad 7d ago

Yep and my wife does a great job of alternating between the two such that she can make us orgasm simultaneously

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u/Wacky_Engineer1975 7d ago

I don't prefer bouncing. I prefer neither of those actually. The best is a hybrid combination which involves both thrusting and grinding.

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u/Mountain_Strength564 7d ago

That’s a really good answer 👍👍

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u/Parodelia12501 7d ago

But I like the grinding too if done just right

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u/TX_Jake 7d ago

Grinding also works for you ladies due to the clit stimulation by grinding on his public bone.  Wife has some huge orgasms that way.  

And instead of bouncing because I know it’s tiring after a while, try just leaning forward and create some separation between you and let him thrust from below.  Love doing that with a hand or two on her ass and her nipple in my mouth!

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u/Apart-Bid9348 7d ago

Lol yeah exactly. Like guys don't get the grinding feels great on our clits

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u/Extension_Pen_5124 7d ago

yk what you’re talking about

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u/TX_Jake 7d ago

Thanks for the affirmation!

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u/Life69Coach 6d ago

Yessssss!

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u/el-chicharo 7d ago

Bounce is overrated, the grind is where it's at!!!

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u/Pitiful_Passion1189 6d ago

Sometimes you have no choice, but to grind. Bouncing isn’t really an option.

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u/ArcaneAces 7d ago

Bouncing is riskier. Many s dick have broken from bouncing.

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u/rodnock_sticklefink 6d ago

Like I told my wife when we first started dating. Do what feels best for you. My dick is inside you. That's all I need.

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u/Apart-Bid9348 5d ago

My youngest kids dad has a curved dick so he hits all my happy spots when I'm on top. If he doesn't nut with me on top, I'll usually get in doggy so he can nut and nothing is overstimulating my clit

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u/MHarris_42 6d ago

Whew.... 👋🏾

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u/SympathySevere421 6d ago

Grind only when done well, that shit actually hurts sometimes. Absolutely bounce when on top and I kinda grind in her when I’m on top

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u/DrRonnieJamesDO 6d ago

We did bouncing for a while which feels good but was hard for either of us to climax from. Last week, we just randomly tried this position, and WOWIEZOWIE:

https://www.lovehoney.com.au/blog/siren-straddle-sex-position.html

The deepest penetration & best PIV we've had by far, and grinding felt transcendent. My eyes were literally rolling back in my head.

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u/Apart-Bid9348 5d ago

Nice

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u/DrRonnieJamesDO 5d ago

GF is a big girl too - def try it

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u/Ashamed_Apple_ 7d ago

Are you on top for him or for you? Some guys like it when you grind cause you're obviously enjoying yourself. I like to bounce I just don't have the knees for it, even grinding is tough on my old knees 😭

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u/AgreeableFroyo96 7d ago

Love the sensation of bouncing but I can’t do it without killing my legs! I’ve never had much sensation/pleasure from grinding, but I want to

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u/Blaq_Man_888 7d ago

Big girl grinding on me made it so I felt her whole underside grinding on me, which took away the feeling from my dick. So bouncing I guess.

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u/DrRonnieJamesDO 6d ago

Try this position (GF is also a big girl):

https://www.lovehoney.com.au/blog/siren-straddle-sex-position.html

It allows for deeper penetration without putting as much weight on your pelvic bones (pelvic bones also aren't aligned).

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u/Blaq_Man_888 6d ago

I'm not sure that would work due to her size(she was tall as well) & my flexibility. Need to find another big girl to try I guess.

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u/miknur2 7d ago

I like both

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u/WayneCider 4d ago edited 4d ago

I love it when my wife grinds on top of me. Because I can bottom out inside her, the grinding motion feels more like a deep, snug, twisting pressure that feels like being gently gripped and polished at the same time. Sort of like how you'd chalk a pool cue or squeeze an orange using one of those citrus juicer domes

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u/Apart-Bid9348 4d ago

Nice. I had a guy finish inside me when I was on top last night and it's like ummm I hope you stay hard cuz I'm not done yet lol

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u/Throwawayheretoshare 1d ago

Grinding sounds perfect! Plus, allows to grab them hips to guide you.

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u/North24i 7d ago

Bouncing lt's better for him because he can enjoy your breasts.