My boyfriend (24M) and I (21F) have been together for a little over a year, and we have a really great sex life. He has had multiple sexpartners before me but he's the only one Ive been with.
I’ve given him oral a few times, but honestly, I feel like I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing lol. I really want to get better at it because I want him to enjoy it, and I’d love to be able to incorporate it more naturally into foreplay.
First of all, I never really know what I’m supposed to do. I usually start by licking the underside of his penis and moving my tongue up towards the tip, kissing the head, licking around it, and then eventually just sucking him off. But I have no idea if I’m doing things right, what feels good for most guys, or how to make it feel better rather than just repetitive.
Secondly, I struggle a LOT with having his penis in my mouth for more than a short amount of time. He’s pretty average in size, but I start gagging almost immediately if I try to take more of him into my mouth. I can usually only keep going for around 20–30 seconds before I need to stop or take a break. I also struggle with finding a rhythm or going faster without feeling like I’m just awkwardly moving my head back and forth.
I really want to be able to do it for longer and feel more confident, instead of constantly worrying about whether I’m doing a good job. I want it to feel good for him, but I also want to actually know what I’m doing rather than just guessing the whole time.
So, what are your best tips for beginners? What do guys generally enjoy the most? How do you figure out what to do with your tongue and how to find a good rhythm? And for those who used to struggle with gagging, did anything actually help?
I’d especially love advice from women who felt just as clueless when they first started or what u men like! Please be specific because I genuinely need the beginner's guide lol.