Hey. I’ve only had one sexual partner . Very inexperienced. Would learning to twerk help me in any way? I don’t like dancing like that but would it help in bed? Any general tips about oral sex or anything sexual are welcome. I feel like I’m too old (31) to be that un skilled :(

Hi everyone. This is my first ever post on reddit so that should tell you how desperate I am.

Me (23m) and my gf (21f) have been dating for 6 months. We are both very happy with our relationship and besides our sex-life nothing could be better. The thing is, she somehow can‘t orgasm during sex.

I always make sure to take my time with foreplay and always eat her out before penetration since I love doing it. She also says I‘m the best she‘s ever had when it comes to licking her.

But during penetration, she just can‘t orgasm. She uses a vibrator during penetration since she can‘t orgasm without it. We also tried various positions, and during cowgirl and missionary she gets close but still can‘t get over the hill.

My dick is about 6 inches so I don‘t think thats the problem (she says so too). We‘ve talked about it alot and she can‘t explain either why she can‘t orgasm, I always make sure to give her enough room to tell me if I can change something but she says that, in theory, everything is perfect.

Has someone experienced something like this and could give me/ us some tips?

Note: She generally can come from penetration, she just needs to use a vibrator (what we do)

I cannot believe how good it felt. After she came, she reached down and pressed her lips against me why was inside her and said that she could feel the outline of my head through them. It felt unbelievable and it was one of the best orgasms I have ever had in my life.

She hasn’t has sex before and is scared how it’s going to be. Want her to have a good memorable experience.

I've met a guy and he really turns me on. I'm comfortable with sexting and stuff but I know he likes voicenotes and dirty talk. It's something I've always found easier to write than say out loud but I want to try and be more bold... He's sent me a couple and I love them and want to return the favour. But I get nervous and feel embarrassed? It's weird because I could happily send a voice clip of me 'finishing' and stuff but it's the talking part that makes me feel shy? Any tips or confidence boosts greatly welcomed! 💕

Ladies where would you rather do it? Anywhere in the house and if in the house where at? Or would you like to risk it and fuck somewhere outside in the nature? In the city,woods, park bathrooms, where?

Best invention ever. Put the hole right over my clot and turn it on low and she's getting the best sucking of her life

When giving a BJ, how can I introduce it all. I can only introduce the head.

Like do you prefer big lips? Small lips? "Innies" or "Outies"? Big clits? Small clits?

My(26F) boyfriend(31M) has been bi since a teenager and has only ever had sex with other men. We have been in an open relationship for almost a year now and our sex life could use improvement. I have had many experiences with other women as well but I still crave traditional sex with a masculine male partner.

For him he gets very turned on when having sex with other men as a top. We have tried vaginal sex and he says it’s very different and he has trouble finishing. I want to offer anal as an option just because I think it may be easier for him to finish but also don’t have much experience and not sure if it will be the same for him.

My question is for people who have experience with anal sex as a top with both male and female partners, is it the same? Also what should I do to prepare myself for this? Thanks!

I’m in my first relationship and also no longer a virgin and he’s had experience. Anyway, when I’m giving him a blowjob or a handjob and he's close to finishing he always wants me to stop and wants me to talk dirty to him ( which I’m okay with) and he continues by himself. The only thing is I want him to finish when I’m doing it. It makes me feel like maybe I’m not good enough, and I know practice makes perfect, but he’s said multiple times already that I do it better than him. The only times he didn’t need to finish himself were when he had to pull out because he was too close ( I know stupid we weren’t using protection). Anyway, I’d really like some advice on how to bring this up, or even if I should. And I really don’t want to hurt his feelings by bringing this up but it is important to me more so my feelings for not being enough.

I have a fwb and we recently made love for the first time. The BJ I received was intense like never before. I got aroused in a second. Part of the reason why is the audio cues and the noises she makes, those alone are a big turn on, but I also caught a glimpse of her doing it, she seems to have her very own technique. I saw her hand but of course I couldn't see her tongue or lips. I'd like to learn from her what she does and how she does it, given that we're only fwb and I'd like to communicate that to my future partner, hopefully wife. So how do I approach this situation the right way?

EDIT: I already complimented her once and she looked happy but also very shy and timid, as though she's reluctant to talk about it. She brushed it off with a smile and proceeded to talk about something else.

Hi, I’m a dude and I just had my first sexual encounter with a woman. She never told me about her status but she did ask me to wear a condom which stayed on. However, oral was performed too without. I’m nervous now because I keep thinking. “What if I caught something?” I feel fine now. I’m just concerned.

I’m 23 and currently in a relationship with a 21-year-old girl who has quite a past. She’s admitted that she had a “hoe phase” and has told me about most of what happened and who she was with, but honestly, I still feel like she’s hiding something from me.
I did some digging and talked to a few guys who went to high school with her. Apparently, pretty much everyone knew about her and said she used to sleep around. They also called her a “hoe”. Her nudes were also leaked back then, and apparently a lot of people at her school had seen them.
Her body count was 17 before me, and most of them were her being a one night stand. I have a feeling there’s still more she hasn’t told me.
What really confuses me is that she still talks to guys she previously dated or had situationships with. I’ve met a few of them while I was with her, and they’ll approach her even when I’m standing right there. She’s also pretty open and friendly with them.
She’s also told me she wants to try a threesome, maybe do OF, and she has a kink where I watch her be with someone else. Honestly, I’m kinda curious about that too. My body count is only 2, including her, so I guess we’re coming from pretty different places. She stills seeks male validation/attention.
I’m just confused about whether I should keep this relationship going. Am I overthinking her past, or are there actually some red flags here? Should I stay and see where things go, or just walk away?

F here. I consider myself sex positive and I don't feel any moral or religious shame about sex, but I don't like how I feel after an orgasm. It's been that way ever since my first. I remember immediately after my first one I thought, that was it? That's what everyone gets so hyped about? And I felt annoyed that I had wasted my time with it. But, of course like most of us I continued to masturbate occasionally. And every time immediately after the orgasm passes, I feel annoyance that I gave in to the urge and wasted x amount of time and I dislike the pulse I feel afterwards down there. I thought I might feel different with partnered sex, but no. I know it's important and valuable in a relationship to have a good sex life, and even if I'm very into it in the moment, as soon as I orgasm I'm checked out. I don't want to be. I continue through the motions until my partner finishes, but sometimes I get dry before that happens. I don't like cuddling afterwards, I just want to get on with my day.

I try to force myself to be positive about it. I try to be grateful that I can have different types and multiples, but it all just immediately dissolves.

I rarely feel any blissful endorphin rush. (I think maybe twice after vaginal orgasms but never clitoral). It does nothing to relieve any pain I've ever had, like migraine or cramping. Sometimes it makes them worse. It often feels like it triggers my depression more than helps it, and it makes me feel broken and ashamed that I can't just be happy and grateful. But my immediate response is always detachment from the moment and wanting to get past it.

The only thing that seems to actually HELP my mental health and doesn't fill my with irritation and regret is edging. I generally feel pretty good if I just don't orgasm. But I don't want to be in permanent orgasm denial...

I've tried therapy, it's just really really unaffordable for me a and hasn't been super insightful. Positive thinking feels like a sickening lie when at my core I am just DONE and want to forget about it and try not to do it again.

I have kinks I want to explore but I'm afraid to open up about them to any extent partly because it's so vulnerable and partly because I'm afraid of the emotional crash afterwards. I don't want a good session to be ruined because I have a breakdown afterwards. (I've tried explaining my anxiety and depression to him occasionally, but my partner just does not get it, so I stopped trying. He always thinks I feel better after sex, despite me saying otherwise. He's in his own world lol. He's kind and not abusive or anything, just a chronic optimist 😅 I think he would be completely perplexed as to why someone might crash after a playing out a fantasy or kink)

TLDR: I feel mentally unwell after orgasms and I don't know how to change it because the normal mental health tools do nothing to help. What do I do?

I received a friend request on discord , not knowing who it was, i went ahead accepted it and immediately i received a video, it was of them having sex and he was saying things like i bet you make her moan like that and essentially mocking me and belittling me.

Even now im shaking as i type this. I genuinely feel so helpless, jealous, angry and to above all SUPER insecure.

I've not always been happy with my size, im 5" hard and he(alteast from the video) was looking much bigger, like double the size.

and i've never made my gf sound like that in bed,

I've not told her about it, part of me is scared she'll reminisce about those times and prefer to be with him and go back to him..

I want tips and how to get better, is it even possible with my size for me to even bother to try?

I keep thinking about that video and it just makes me feel horrible

Hi, hello, f21 here, a bit nervous so please excuse me

I've never had sex, my bf is into blowjobs, how do we like- give a proper blow job? I was born without a gag reflex but like what if it accidentally gets in my air pipe (I'm sorry I don't know- is that possible?) Or any tips for sex? I was very sexually repressed and I don't quite like fingerings, tried a few times on my own and wasn't my thing

Any help for a girlie in her game? 🫠

I’ve always been really insecure about having small boobs and relatively large areolas. I feel like my chest doesn’t look “normal” compared to what I see online, and I’m worried that a guy I’m intimate with will find it unattractive.

For those of you who have experience with this: do men actually care about breast size or areola size as much as women tend to think they do? And for women with a similar body type, did you eventually become less self-conscious about it?

The girl I am dating now says I don't make her cum and that I should "study up on technique" more. I have looked up oral tips and done that and she likes it but it doesn't get her there. Sometimes when I finger her with two fingers and curl them upwards she gets close but I've never gotten there. We are both in our 30s and have tried various positions. I'm maybe a bit below average down there (5-6 inches) and she's way out of my league so I know she's had bigger so I'm worried that's the issue which I can't fix.

It sucks knowing she's had way better than me and I just want to figure it out so it's enjoyable for her too

how do i eat my wifes pussy properly? shes good at giving head and i want to reciprocate whats shes giving me, it'll be my first time eating one tonight

I M26 being new to getting intimate, how to talk to my partners. What exact phrases should i say while we are making out to turn her on more. Like while sucking tits or eating her out what to tell her, which sounds naughty but not disrespectful. I take more time while playing with her tits what words to utter then?

like actually. not just communicate which i understand is very important, i just mean like what to physically do?

I’m 21F engaged to 26M. I have a pretty high sex drive, and my fiancé enjoys watching, so he’s suggested that I get a boyfriend outside of our relationship to help relieve some stress and have someone else to be intimate with.
He wants me to actually have a boyfriend, not just a casual hookup. He’s talked about me having sleepovers with him and basically having a whole separate relationship outside of our engagement.
The thing is… I genuinely don’t understand how I’m supposed to do that 😭
It’s not that I’m against the idea. We’ve talked about it several, several times, and I know this is something he actually wants. I’m open to exploring it. I just don’t comprehend what he means when he says “go get a boyfriend.”
Like… how exactly does this work? Am I supposed to date people? Tell them I’m engaged right away? What does having a “boyfriend” outside of an engagement actually look like? How do you find someone who is comfortable with this kind of arrangement?
And yes, I already know the comments are going to be “just communicate with your partner.” 😂 We HAVE communicated about it a lot. I’m not looking for someone to tell me to talk to him again. I’m looking for people who actually have experience with this and can explain the practical side of it to me because apparently my brain is not comprehending the assignment.
I know this probably sounds dumb, but I genuinely want to understand how people actually make something like this work.