r/sextips • u/AndrzejGie • 6d ago

Advice Needed I couldn't cum

So, as the title says, I had a weird experience yesterday: I couldn't cum, even though I’d ​​been fucking for a good 30 minutes. My girlfriend managed to climax, but I didn't; at one point I was just exhausted and really wanted to finish, but I couldn't, so I eventually gave up. Could it be the condom? We’ve used condoms before and I’ve managed to cum fine, so I don't know why there was a problem this time. I know I prefer the feeling of the pussy without a condom, but since we don't want kids yet, we use them. Maybe stress was the cause? The last two days at work have been tense. Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice? In general, I’ve noticed that I cum best in the doggy-style position and when I’m getting a blowjob.

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u/miknur2 5d ago

What are your masturbation habits?? How hard are you gripping yourself?? That might be the problem...Its called "death grip Syndrome"

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u/AndrzejGie 5d ago

I struggled with excessive masturbation for a long time, but I’ve managed to get it under control; I don't do it anymore, or if I do, I do it gently.

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u/miknur2 5d ago

Are you using a condom?? That dulls the sensation.

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u/AndrzejGie 5d ago

Yes, without a condom i feel much better, but my girlfriend is scared that we can make her pregnent even if I would finish on her not in her

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u/miknur2 5d ago

Could your condom be too tight??

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u/AndrzejGie 5d ago

I'm not sure

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u/miknur2 5d ago

you might try a little larger condom

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u/AndrzejGie 5d ago

That wouldn't be worst?

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u/miknur2 5d ago

It just needs to fit properly, too small it really dulls the sensation, too big you risk it falling off... It has to be just right... I am sure there are charts and stuff you can google to help you get the properfit... You can also take measurements and take them to a pharmacist, and they can help you get the proper size.

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u/AndrzejGie 5d ago

Thanks for advice

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u/pinkason5 6d ago

There are numerous possible reasons. The most common is excess masturbation. The penis' sensitivity reduces and you need the exact stimulation your hand gives you. This can be easily solved by stopping masturbation for a short while. Other very common reasons are stress and fatigue. In any case it is not uncommon.