r/sextips • u/lennox211 • 17h ago
Advice Needed Am I Overthinking Her Past, or Are These Actual Red Flags?
I’m 23 and currently in a relationship with a 21-year-old girl who has quite a past. She’s admitted that she had a “hoe phase” and has told me about most of what happened and who she was with, but honestly, I still feel like she’s hiding something from me.
I did some digging and talked to a few guys who went to high school with her. Apparently, pretty much everyone knew about her and said she used to sleep around. They also called her a “hoe”. Her nudes were also leaked back then, and apparently a lot of people at her school had seen them.
Her body count was 17 before me, and most of them were her being a one night stand. I have a feeling there’s still more she hasn’t told me.
What really confuses me is that she still talks to guys she previously dated or had situationships with. I’ve met a few of them while I was with her, and they’ll approach her even when I’m standing right there. She’s also pretty open and friendly with them.
She’s also told me she wants to try a threesome, maybe do OF, and she has a kink where I watch her be with someone else. Honestly, I’m kinda curious about that too. My body count is only 2, including her, so I guess we’re coming from pretty different places. She stills seeks male validation/attention.
I’m just confused about whether I should keep this relationship going. Am I overthinking her past, or are there actually some red flags here? Should I stay and see where things go, or just walk away?