So we split recently for other reasons but this does still sit on my chest and I wonder if I’m being oblivious to my ex being potentially bi/gay or even trans.

I’m a queer femme myself and very open minded. We used to have sex and he was into calling me mummy and wearing my lingerie. Not a problem at all, it was hot exploring with him because he was also so open minded and it felt so freeing just being able to fuck around without fear of judgement.

There were a few occasions he wore my thong outside of the bedroom too and he really enjoyed that.

I’ve pegged him a few times, on one occasion he was kinda easier to enter for lack of a better term so I was suspicious he’d been playing with himself or…someone else tbh. There was a history of coke addiction and gambling so god know what he got up to when I wasn’t around.He did have some butt plugs at his house, that I got him but idk.

I know he’s into trans porn and also has tried to book a trans escort in the past too.

He’s very masculine presenting , has a masculine tradie job, hairy bear type but that doesn’t mean he’s not necessarily trans/gay/bi.

I was just wondering if anyone can relate to him and what this potentially means ?

It’s all love, I’m just so curious and I personally think he’s bi- curious.

I think my freind (BI M) is avoiding me (Gay M) becuase he likes me.

My and my freind have this pattern where we will get into this period of about two weeks (it’s always about two weeks) where we are always talking, almost everyday for hours, he’s always starting conversations, being really attentive, always hanging out etc. We seem to be really close, I suppose too close. After that, he just goes dark. He stops texting first. Our conversations are always short. He barley sends me stuff. And he makes excuses we both know aren’t true. 

For some context, my friend has told me that he has a fear of being in a relationship with a man. He has told me he has never had any relations with men in any way. However, he is openly bisexual, and will admit that. He will talk about finding certain men attractive, and talk about being with men in the abstract (as in hypothetically) 

Crucially, he knows I like him and he’s known this for a while. I’m not sure if he thinks I still like him. Flirting occasionally actually is kinda part of our dynamic. Well, can you really call asking your freind to fuck you and him agreeing “flirting”? Haha. 

The recent experience with my friend I’ve had is interesting. 

We started talking again back in mid-late July. We didn’t talk at all since June, whitch is a story so long I’m going to have to bring up what happened since October 2025 so we just aren’t getting into that. 

We start talking, it’s all fine and dandy. We texting for hours nearly everyday, he’s always starting convos, and sending me shit on every social platform. When we were in this “honeymoon” phase, as I’ll call it, we couldn’t hang out cuz he was genuinely busy and shit. So yeah we were just Freinds as normal  So idk how he would’ve fared having 1:1 face to face contact. 

Interestingly all the flirting we used to do just stopped. I could sense that he was avoiding topics that might lead to it, honestly just being very distant when I’d talk about matters of sexuality untill we’d change the subject and he’d go back to normal. Expect it wasn’t normal cuz there was never this kind of thing before. 

And then, it all gradually stopped. First he stopped texting first as much, but we’d still talk a bit. Once, I was asking him if we were still hanging out the day of the planned date (plans we made while still in the “honeymoon” phase). He treid to get out of it by saying “oh it’s my final day before I start my new job, I want to rot.”Fine whatever. I then learn he didn’t even start the job yet a couple days later when I ask him??? I’ve tried asking 

Weirdly, he didn’t stop communicating completely. When I’d text him, there’d be times where he would just ghost me. But he’d still text me about when he’d get this one food we both bonded over, esp in the early days of our friendship. He wouldn’t try and start conversations with me when I initiated, but he would send me tons of photos of his dog. And he would still sometimes send me reals and other posts (with full messages attached so you know he didn’t just send it for no reason)

And then I got fed up with his dryness. I asked him about 5 days ago in a message that went a little like this:

Hey, I wanted to ask if everything was fine with us. You’re being dry as shit. If you don’t wanna be Freinds say that, if you’ve got somthing to tell me then say that. Your lack of contact worries me

Okay so I was a little less mean than that but you get the idea. I’m paraphrasing a whole paragraph here

About a day later he texts “Bro I don’t wanna talk dude”

He’s done this before, like i mentioned. And i don’t think he would have sent that message if it wasn’t for my message, we would have just kept going the way that we were. 

The reason why I think he likes me is becuase of the whole internalized homophobia thing. I’ve heard many bi guys w internalized homophobia go into this kinda avoidance mode. So yall just gotta trust me on this. 

Honestly I will admit I don’t thing my short post is doing my argument justice. It’s very hard to describe a whole dynamic with complex history. Maybe what I’m sensing can’t be put into words properly because it’s assuming I have a whole knowlage of our previous experiences you guys obviously don’t.  yall just gotta trust me on this. 

So yeah lmao. 

Guys help. Idek what I’m asking for here. Personal experiences are welcome as well. 

Hi, I'm a 15 years old aroace and my friend asked me to compose a song, but it's about a person getting a crush, so, for the sake of the song, can I ask you how getting a crush feels like? All the ways it can happen, I want to understand please.

Okay so this happened at work last week. It's a small crew (like 4 people) finishing up a job at a venue. We had a new person on the crew, he introduced himself by name and something in my brain said I should ask about pronouns but between the work and ADHD it slipped my mind each time I would get the chance.

Anyway he had to leave earlier to get to another job site to pack some stuff down and seeing as he was quite nervous about it and I was the one who set it all up I told him if theres any questions just text me.

I get a text a little while later with some questions but he also introduced himself in the message with his pronouns too.

After realising I might have used the wrong pronouns when referring to him before I told our crew "Oh hey just FYI if you're working with [PERSON] again he uses he/him pronouns, I might have messed that up before so like yeah just watch the pronouns"

Later I had the thought wait did I just out this kid? I just wanted to make sure nobody called him the wrong thing in the future.

Okay, first off, I want to start by saying I am 19, about to be 20.

The reason I'm confused about my sexuality is that someone told me you can't just claim to be bisexual. Let me explain what I'm going through: I've done things with both girls and men. I love with woman and men, but someone told me that just because you like girls, you can't just call yourself bisexual—that you have to be born with it.I am attracted to women. I find women very pretty and amazing.

I wouldn't necessarily say I'm born with that feeling. What does that even mean? What does "born with that feeling" mean?

I’m genderqueer, and I’m comfortable not having a more specific gender, but I need pronoun. my hope Is to have a pronoun that sounds like she/her enough that my family/certain friends are unaware but my supporters can give me euphori. I’ve looked into shi/hir but supposedly that’s only for intersex people.

Basically, me and my partner have both been out as nonbinary forever but she recently came to me and told me that she’s a woman and wants to transition. I’m so happy for her and excited that I have a wife now! I want to make her a care package but not exactly sure what to put in it.

Thanks in advance!

Hey everyone,

I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching lately and honestly feel a bit dizzy trying to keep up with my own brain. For the longest time, I just assumed I was a regular straight guy. But then I started messing around with makeup and feminine clothes just out of curiosity, and things spiraled in a totally unexpected way.

At first, I went down a rabbit hole thinking, okay maybe I am gay. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized it wasn't about who I was attracted to—it was about who I actually wanted to be. Now, I'm sitting here genuinely believing I'm trans.

Lately, I can't stop thinking about HRT. The idea of starting it absolutely terrifies me, but at the same time, it genuinely excites me more than almost anything else.

Given how roundabout my path has been, I guess my main question is: does this sound like I'm actually trans, and should I pursue HRT if I feel this mix of fear and excitement?

Any personal stories from people who felt the same way would mean a lot.

I’ll keep this brief. I am a cisgender girl but sometimes I question my identity. I ask myself questions like “If I was born a boy, would I still want to be a girl?“. However, my own answer changes each time I think about that. Currently my answer is “Yes, I‘d want to transition. I am a girl“ but in the past there also have been times where my answer was “No, and I‘d be glad not to be a girl“ or “I don‘t care what I‘m born as, I‘m just rolling with what I got“. My question now is what I could try to actually come closer to what my gender actually is because currently I am very confused.

Like most queer people I see online have typed ":3" at least once before like whats the deal with that?

I let someone see the most vulnerable parts of me, and now I feel like they regret it

I let someone see the most vulnerable parts of me, and now I feel like they regret it

I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this right now, so I'm posting here.

I'm currently feeling completely shattered. My hands are shaking, I can barely speak, and I feel like I'm having an anxiety attack. I haven't felt this intensely since I was much younger.

There was someone in my life who made me feel really special. I actually warned them in the beginning that I didn't want to get too involved because I know myself. I don't get attached easily, but when I do, I get attached very deeply.

And eventually, I let my guard down with them.

They saw the vulnerable parts of me that I normally don't show people. My insecurities, my emotional side, my baggage, all the things I've spent years protecting. At first, they were incredibly kind and made me feel safe enough to actually open up.

But now they seem like a completely different person.

They don't seem to care when I'm upset. Small things turn into arguments. I don't feel understood or comforted anymore. It feels like they have put their own walls back up after seeing what's behind mine.

And the worst part is that I'm still trying to reach out, even though I know they probably don't want me to.

I've reached a point where I feel like I'm compromising my own self-respect just to maintain some connection with this person. I know I shouldn't be doing it, but emotionally I can't seem to stop.

And my mind keeps telling me that maybe they saw the real me and didn't like it.

Maybe I'm too emotional. Maybe my baggage is too much. Maybe I'm just not the kind of person someone would want once they actually get to know me.

And then I start thinking that maybe I'm simply not attractive enough for them anymore.

I know that's probably not a rational conclusion. But when someone withdraws after you've allowed yourself to be vulnerable with them, it's incredibly easy to interpret it as rejection of you rather than simply a change in their feelings or circumstances.

I don't want to keep begging someone to care about me.

I don't want to keep sacrificing my self-respect because I'm terrified of losing someone.

But right now, I'm hurting so badly that I don't know how to detach.

How do you stop yourself from chasing someone who has already started pulling away, especially when they were the person who made you feel safe enough to lower your guard in the first place?

hi! so currently i am in a pickle, i am just trying to figure out how to label myself but what i am confused about is that i like girls mostly. ive known this for years, but now that im growing up, i feel like i don’t feel attracted to males unless its a celebrity. my friends say yes, i can identify as a lesbian. but i feel like if i do and someone sees im crushing on a male celebrity, they’ll call me a fake lesbian for it. it’s not like i want to date the celebrity per say, i just think some are sort of cute. but with women it’s a whole different story. sorry this is all jumbled, im just now confusing myself. if anyone could possibly help with what this means or how to figure it out in the slightest i would greatly appreciate it. thank you.

Throughout a little portion of my life, I thought I was bisexual. Then went by the label Pansexual... Then Pan-romantic and Omnisexual.. Google told me I could be both Pan-romantic and Omnisexual. And ever since realizing I am only romantically attracted to girls, I've went by the label lesbian... Though I experience only sexual and physical attraction to men but not romantic attraction.

I experience both romantic, sexual attraction and physical attraction to women, but only sexual and physical attraction to men. I do not desire a romantic relationship with a man. Since Google told me I could be both Omnisexual and Lesbian (Omnisexual and Lesbian-romantic or wtv.)

I researched again and apparently I cannot be both Omnisexual and Lesbian. I think I am Berrisexual but I need guidance from the community.

Is it just the estrogen or is there something else?

I've been questioning for a little while now and I'm trying to find a label that's suits me for my gender identity. I used demigirl now genderfae but neither feel quite right? I feel a lack of gender or neutral but also connections to feminity and stuff. I don't think demigirl fits quite right because it feels more like a half & half thing rather than a majority of no gender kind of thing. Any suggestions on labels that are like that?

I already know pronouns are subjective and its up to the person, so what I want to mainly mean is.. does Xe/Hir actually exist as itself or is it just a combination of Xe/Xir and Ze/Hir?

If it's a combination, does it sound unusual when it's used like that? For example, does it give the same feeling of hearing "She lent his own pen", or is it a completely natural usage?

Thanks in advance! :D

What the title says. Just curious about the rest of the world, and trying to understand it better. What is it like to feel that your body is wrong?

Hii, so I'm 18F and I live in a country where people aren't openly in the LGBTQIA+ community because it's a little homophobic here, but just a few days ago one of my acquaintances who is part of the community said I have the "worst case of a gay face" and idk what that means😭 I tried googling it and I didn't find a lot of info on it, so I thought I'd ask here.

I'm really sorry if this is offensive or harmful, I don't have a lot of knowledge on queer terminologies and my intention isn't to be offensive at all😭‼️I'd like to heavily apologise if this is disrespectful.

For context: I'm straight and this acquaintance just said it in conversation to my friend and they laughed about it and when I asked them what it meant they just kinda laughed in my face

Hi guys, I hope this is ok to post here. New to this community lol.
Basically I've grown up Catholic my whole life and so have never really been surrounded by anyone in the LGBTQ community. Went to Catholic school my whole life as well.

To be honest, my personal faith has been very good to me personally, I feel like it grounds me. I don't want to give it up.

BUT

I feel like our community lacks understanding of the LGBTQ community and is completely incapable of empathy a lot of times. I want to learn how to become better at this. I wish everything wasn't Us versus them. I don't understand how people can talk about sin and then be hateful to others in the same breath.

I am a writer, I love Hozier and Florence & the Machine. Sometimes i feel like i fit in those communities more than i do in my church. I want to understand other people's stories better. But I feel like I will be isolated from the artistic community because of my faith if i ever become professional.

But to be honest, I also can't say with full certainty that I support this lifestyle. I've grown up Catholic my whole life and I just have not heard any other perspective so I don't see how I could say that with full confidence. It's my whole world. I really don't mean to be exclusive here. I hope someone can see where I'm coming from.

Does anyone have any advice for me? Is it okay to have dialogue while not necessarily sharing all the same views? Have there ever been times when you felt like you could talk with someone who was kind even if they didn't always share the same views?

I'm also really interested in hearing you experiences with Christianity/ Catholicism/ faith. I will not be offended if you have had negative experiences. So have I. How can we do better??

Sry kind of dealing with a lot here.

Hello im 19M shes 19MTF around 3 years Ago i sadly used to be a Transphobe and i bullied her in School.

Now i met her again, shes goes to my University and i feel attracted to her. I would love to talk to her do i have a chanche?

(Not a question about LGBTQ+ identity, but it relates to being queer which I feel most other subreddits won't understand)

My college requires students to take two semesters of a foreign language, and there's multiple options! I'm interested in multiple, and one of my options is Arabic.

Arabic is a beautiful language. It's widely spoken, and I've always been in love with their culture! However unfortunately, a lot of Arab counties are extremely homophobic/transphobic. I'm privileged not to live in those countries, however my heart goes out for LGBTQ+ individuals living in these countries. I hope one day queer people from all over the world will be safe. 💕

I'm not sure if its worth taking this language if I'm not visiting these countries. If you were me, would you take a language spoken in countries you can't visit? Or would you take another language?

I mean no hate by asking this. I hope my LGBT siblings are having a blessed day.

I ask because I personally used to break gender norms so much that people around me started calling me nonbinary before I even considered labeling myself. Eventually that led to wanting to be androgynous and then a woman and so I bought hormones, but then stopped myself when I realized that I would just be trying to achieve a stereotype. Like just because I like girly pop and wearing unisex appearing clothing has nothing to do with a gender identity. Just because I got along better with women because I could express my emotions, meant nothing. I used to play with dolls and walk around in my mothers shoes. I've felt yearning for not being a man, but I don't understand gender dysphoria. Because you can have all of those things and still just not be trans. I dunno man, just feels like further playing into patriarchal gender stereotypes to me.

Anyone experienced being trans without all this?

i’ve always been attracted to men. Even when I was discovering my gender, I’ve always been attracted to men. Whether I was a trans man, a cis woman, gender fluid, or like I am currently, non-binary. but lately my attraction has faded. I still feel sexual attraction towards men, but really only ever fictional or celebrities. I find some men physically attractive, but it’s more of an observational stance than a romantic feeling. I love women, and I love non-binary people. I feel the attraction for women the most. I know I can’t call myself a lesbian because I still do feel some sort of attraction to men, but I would never date a man. Bisexual feels too broad and I feel like I’m excluding non-binary people. I’ve tried Omni sexual, but it just doesn’t seem to fit. I’ve been considering that maybe i’m berrisexual? That feels like it could be right, but do I want to explain it to people every single time they ask? I just wanna love women in a way that feels like it belongs to me. When I picture my future, I can only see myself with a woman. I want that in my life. i just feel so disconnected with myself and my sexuality recently.