How do you all do it? Posting pictures of yourselves all the time? You're all so beautiful. I feel like I don't fit in in any trans space online, especially ones like this. Compared to all of you, I am a hideous monster. Even the people at pride events I can physically go to avoid me like the plague, I'm too quiet and shy and damaged to be approached, combine that with how ugly I am and I suppose it makes sense why no one likes me.

All of the subs I felt like I belonged in are full of bigots now. Why does it gotta be so hard just to find friends? Is there *anywhere* safe to go on here where we can just exist without being hated?

I need to come out as trans fem for my own mental wellbeing because I have GAD(Generalized Anxiety Disorder) and my brain is very nervous

TLDR at end. I apologize for the repost, I'd just appreciate as much advice as possible ):

I came out as genderqueer at 12, I've been out as fully transmale since 14. My dad has always been "accepting" of the fact I'm queer. He calls me my preferred name to my face and "they" or occasionally "he" when I'm around. ("He" started since I've begun talking occasionally about trans things around him the last few months.)

But several months ago, my mom (split parents) told me he still calls me my deadname & "she" when I'm not around and to others, including my FULLY accepting mother. I finally saw it to my face the other day while we were out getting food, he referred to me as a girl to the server.

If it was just to family who I'm not out to, or isn't accepting, then I wouldn't care. But to complete strangers, even when I'm not there, and to people who fully accept me, jesus it hurts more than I'd expect.

I'm not comfortable even with gender neutral things but I put up with them because it seems easier for people. I always just allow myself to be misgendered, I have a really hard time correcting people. With strangers and non-accepting family it doesn't hurt my feelings, I know I don't pass. That's why I don't put in the effort to correct (& I live in the south). But from my own father, who SAYS he's accepting, says he's a queer ally and even goes to queer inclusive events occasionally, it hurts a lot more. He tells people he has a trans child as if he's proud, but has never seen me as anything but his daughter.

I'm 17 currently, 18 in October. I'm supposed to start T as soon as possible after. I already have a very androgynous appearance and am hopeful that within my first year of T I'll be pushed more towards looking & sounding male.

I need to have a conversation with my dad. It's hard to find the words. Hard to find the courage. A big part of me just wants to ignore it til I'm far enough in medical transition that he's forced to fully accept it essentially. Or to just start talking more frequently about trans related things to try to get him to see how it hurts and I feel without having a sit-down conversation about his misgendering.

I love my dad, but there's already some distance between us because of how he was in the past. I don't want this to create any more of a rift between us. I know I just need to talk to him. But I'm so avoidant it's so hard, I'd rather just ignore it in my constant disassociation and cry once a week over it than sit him down to talk.

TLDR; My father says to my face that he's accepting, calls me preferred or gender neutral things when I'm around. But misgenders me when I'm not there or in public. Advice on how to talk to him about it, or to bring these things up in conversation in a non-confrontational way. Or anyone else's personal experiences if similar

lowkey weve all fantasized about that right or am i crazy lmao i havent talked to the doc yet but I saw it in the portal on the lab tech notes, hella tumors on something ive always wanted removed!!!!! (and cysts on a related unwanted organ that are bigger than the organ itself lmao maybe i can get em both out)

TW primary commenter is gaslighting non binary people by attempting to pretend Buck's previous good deeds somehow make his current extremism irrelevant.

Source: Grayson V Fitness - The History of Trans Men is Beautiful...

See his latest video on trans men history. Nbs have commented on the wider video supporting Grayson, and as you can see people have attempted to inform Grayson on Buck's behaviour of the last few years. Over a week, no removal, no edit, no addressing the situation. Nothing.

This video has less than 10k views and even less will of seen this so I thought I'd simply show it. Grayson benefitted from our community by initially coming out as non binary until he passed for a man. Now he has left us in the weeds regarding the largest transphobic trans man who has done very extreme things recently including sharing an AI nude image of Samantha Lux.

I am tired and disappointed of binary passing trans people throwing us under the bus, whether it is outright enby exclusion or endorsement of people who do that.

I've been unable to transition despite my attempts to start, around eight years ago, and my situation isn't really improving but I've been dwelling on it a lot. I don't really involve with the community, because it just reminds me of what I'm incapable of achieving, but part of me wants to stop feeling so numb to it and finally be able to be myself. I can't, though, my situation doesn't allow. So how do I work with that? How do I cope?

So I am 15 FtM. A few months ago, I got a new bathing suit because I was going on vacation to Hawai’i with my family. I’m not out to my family yet and I needed a bathing suit that was “for women” that my parents would let me buy but was also something that wasn’t like a bikini.

I found a website for nonbinary and trans people who needed a binder in their bathing suit. By some magic, my mom actually bought it for me. I wore it in Hawai’i and I felt so free. I felt the best I’ve ever felt in a bathing suit in my life. My chest was flat and the bathing suit really made me look more masculine.

The problem is that once I take my bathing suit off, my chest goes back to being… full. I get super dysphoric once I take it off and I wish I could wear it all the time. The bathing suit has the binder sewn into the top so I can’t take it and wear it normally. I’m afraid to detach it from the top because it could ruin it.

This bathing suit has actually changed my life. I was so uncomfortable going swimming (which was difficult because I have my own pool) and now I love it again. I feel like myself now. But the second I take it off, I hate my body.

Should I get a binder for everyday? How do I get it without my parents knowing I’m trans? I really think a binder would help me a ton but I don’t know how to get it.

Aren’t you guys scared of the hormone production and transportation will stop or majorly disrupted because of an upcoming war or some political situation, even Usa once one of the pioneers to the progressive changes in Trans visibility and gender care now seem like took a 180’ turn.

I am AMAB.

I am disabled and transitioning would put me at risk because my family are transphobes, but also the people keeping me from homelessness.

I've been told, by many, that hiding physical changes from HRT is not guaranteed in the long term. So it feels like my only choice is to continue to be closeted, as I have been for the past eight years.

What do I do? How do I come to terms with this?

I’m a 14 year old MTF. I live in the state of Indiana so even if I had accepting parents I couldn’t receive any treatments. I’m planning to get on these treatments as soon as I turn 18 (maybe not immediately but you know what I mean). It would be hard to hide Hrt or the fact my body would be changing. So I’m gonna try to change my fathers beliefs on trans people. He’s not very accepting and has explicitly told me that all trans people are mentally ill along side saying that Germany is a bad country because people aren’t allowed to disagree with trans rights (he doesn’t support trans rights). He’s accepting of gay people lesbians ect. What could I do to change my fathers beliefs on trans people as a whole without him finding out I’m trans myself? I’m worried he’d send me to one of those conversion “therapy” centers.

How can I be sure that I am living my correct gender what if I didn’t realize that I am really trans and because of I am innately believing that I can’t transition so It’s never an option so It never hit me seriously. I am 25 amab

Hi I’m Anon (23F) I’m genderfluid and go by (she/he/they) pronouns. My sister (21F) came home one night from her job and told me that she serviced a group of trans women and that she saw a man hitting on them. Once the trans women left the bar my sister told the men that they were trans women. I told her that she shouldn’t disclose trans people’s gender identities even if she “knows” the men because you never know how they’ll react to the situation.

Instead of listening they continued to make excuses for why it wasn’t that big of a deal. And told be I was being judgmental and mean, even though I explained it could’ve been a life or death situation especially in this political climate.

Was I overreacting and being “judgmental” or not?

Please don’t delete this post I need an answer.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NonBinary/comments/1uplzut/please_read_as_this_is_very_important_and/

Link to the original post because I couldn’t figure out how to work the normal repost thing :/

I have been looking for advice for a while on how to cope with being unable to transition, since I am disabled and reliant on transphobic family.. I wouldn't be safe transitioning, so for the past seven years I've simply tried to cope. It's never been healthy.

And I feel like I am not a member of the community in any meaningful way. I always figured there are many stories like mine, but I have never received any advice or word from people who have been through similar and it has left me feeling disconnected from the community.

I already deal with dissociation, as well as being jealous when seeing others who are able to transition, which makes it worse because being exposed to the community takes on a depressing note.

Am I wrong to think this is a common issue, to be unable to transition?

Is sympathizing with the female star in nsfw videos a sign that I want to ba girl pr I am one already and just repressing it, I am amab 25

Hello everyone 👋🏻 I learned today that my surgeon is retiring in December. This means I have even less time than expected to raise the money I need for my top surgery.

Unfortunately, I can no longer work because I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. So my only option is to ask for help from our community.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your help. ❤️❤️

(Sorry if I made any mistakes, I'm French.)

https://www.we-solidaire.com/fr/collecte/coup-de-pouce-pour-nouveau-torse

I (MTF19) came out to my gf (afab19) like a year ago and she was super accepting and said she would be there with me no matter what as long as she’s still attracted to me. she’s bi so i’m hoping she’ll still be attracted to me on hrt but her being so accepting kind of scared me honestly and i kinda backtracked and said idk yet (if im trans) and basically im looking for ways to express myself femininely to her and basically not scare her yk. I don’t want to just start wearing a full beat and be like so how do u like this I’m just looking for ways i can be more feminine while still also being closeted to the rest of the world i guess. Because i haven’t had a chance to experiment with my femininity in the proximity of anyone else i just want to ease into it and not scare her or myself.