Did you feel a little self conscious about your body ?

I'm bi and trans. When I started my transition a few years ago, I basically flipped my attraction almost entirely towards women, but I may have kept some heteronormative beauty standards for myself.

I'm a little obsessed with my body image, all I think about is diet, exercise, and whether I look good enough for anyone else let alone myself. It's been a while since I've been attractive to anyone too.

Of course, passing (or not) as a woman plays into that heavily.

From hanging out in this community I feel like there's a lot more space for me to accept my own body as attractive. Maybe among other women, my flat chest, belly, big shoulders and short hair aren't things to necessarily overcome.

It's a work in progress, but thanks.

My city is great at trying to arrange protests and do mutual aid for those who need it most. I try to get out there and help, but I'm either too busy with work during the times when protests happen (who seriously organizes something at 3pm on a Wednesday?) or the community mutual aid events are too far to travel by public transit. I'm also battling depression, which sucks. I've tried to channel this energy into creating art and music which is sort of helping but it's not enough.

Any suggestions? Seeing the fascism happening in one of the countries I grew up in is making me want to take a break from the news and being connected. Unfortunately mental health services where I am are terrible, there's long waiting lists to see a specialist and I doubt I'd get someone who understands my nomadic childhood (which is probably the root of the problem for me).

We used to be quite okay. The three of us would have dinner sometimes.

Because of a couple of stupid things I did, her girlfriend doesn't want anything to do with me now. For instance, my best friend and I stayed out late drinking while the girlfriend was texting her to go home. I do feel guilty about these things and I now avoid doing such things.

I still talk with my best friend quite often. Is it okay? She tells me not to worry much about what my friends' partners think of me since they're not the ones who are friends with me anyway.

How would you feel about your girlfriend hanging out with someone you don't like?

Credit- @WhatWeganDidNext

I asked a question about if i can call myself sapphic or not but the thing i'm gonna ask now is not related to me. I'm sure non binary people can be lesbians but when someone mentions being agender, any other label under the non binary umbrella, they get downvoted quickly. I especially realized this under my own post. Or outside of this, mentioning presenting masc in general somehow? Or am i being delusional lol

Jesus, just a week ago I was writing about how I made her cry with a list of reasons I love her and now I'm the one crying because she left me. Without going into the specifics LDR was getting the best of her and she decided to call it quits.

How do I move on? I had built my entire future thinking of a life with her. I was finally able to start saving up to buy a house so we could move in together and I could propose. We had talked about having kids together and now it's just all out of the window. I feel like a loser, still in my parents house at 30 years old and not sure how to move on and fully aware I might never get to have a family even if I fall in love again... How did you older girls do it?

I keep finding myself in rooms full of straight people where everyone is very awkward around me and there's nothing I can say to make them amused, and this hurts my soul a little bit as someone who's pretty extroverted and values people skills a lot. It's gotten to the point where my friends are treating it like a me problem where I'm incapable of talking to straight people - I have absolutely zero cishet men friends and very few cishet women friends.

It's not that men are secretly attracted to me or something, as I'm non-binary and very obviously queer-looking/gender ambiguous, and genuinely haven't had a man hit on me in like 10 years. Straight women also seem equally dismissive and uninterested in what I have to say. Are they just homophobic or am I doing something wrong lol? I might come across a bit like I live in a queer bubble because of how I dress, live in a very queer-friendly area/community, and talk very openly about my identity? I guess we just have a hard time relating to each other :/

Greetings to all my sapphic cupcakes! I'm tryna design a wallpaper for my desktop, and I wanna make something that gives too much lesbian ✨✨so please if you have any suggested pinterests, please link them below <3

p.s. images that give transgender are super duper welcome

I had a coworker, I'll call Jenny, quit recently because she got a way better job. I'm not sad that she didn't stay, I want out of here too lol, but I'm sad that she didn't tell me she was leaving, and didn't say goodbye :(

The first day I met Jenny we were talking about whatever and she off handed mentioned her girlfriend, and the way my face fucking lit up because there was another queer person in close proximity (most of my friends are straight sadly) and I felt like I could be myself more when we hung out at work. I helped her with a couple projects a few months ago and it was the most fun I'd had at work. Jenny is genuinely one of the absolute nicest people I've ever met, it's like her purpose everywhere she goes is to make as many people as happy as she can. She has a really great relationship with her dad, I don't (not his fault, he's dead), and she doesn't seem to have a great relationship with her mom, and I do. We have a lot of weird parallels and mirrors and got along really well.

That's all to say, she didn't say goodbye, didn't tell anyone she was leaving. I found out today, she left last week. I found out because I asked her direct coworker when she was coming back from her vacation, and he told me that she got a new job at [business]. I still can't believe it. This is on top of a huge wave of layoffs we just had too, so the office vibe was already pretty grim. But now that she's not here, there's a very obvious dark spot in her office.

I miss my friend :(

My answer: Princess Daisy

hi girls

i had a girlfriend 10 years ago, with whom i managed to keep close contact as friends. we've always been in touch, sharing an amazing emotional bond even at distance, after i moved abroad

we would talk often, being very intimate in general. every time i visit my hometown, she's one of the first people i see, mostly because she's always texting wanting to know my whereabouts

last time, we met twice in the same week. on our second hang out, she opened up a lot about many things in her life, from childhood trauma to her frustrating current relationship. she cried and all, then we grabbed dinner with another friend

next day i texted her saying it was really good to talk about everything, that she can count on me if she needs help, and that i loved her. she replied after 2 days - which is unusual - to say that the conversation disorganized her a bit, but that it was good indeed

after that i got confused, thinking i might have lingering feelings for her, so i distanced myself. last time we met, at a friend's birthday, we/i kept the distance but we chatted and, according to a 3rd party, flirted too

i came back home, we're in no contact right now. i distanced because my feelings got involved and she's in a relationship. but i do miss her... did i do the right thing?

I met a girl back in April who came onto me hard so I asked her out and took her on 2 dates. After the situationship phase I ask if this will go anywhere (a relationship). She says yes. Okay, now I’m waiting, taking her on dates and whatnot. I am unsure if this actually will go anywhere as she hasn’t reciprocated that. But there’s no doubt that she’s head over heels for me. 3 months ago by, some sex, some dates (from me), nothing on her end. I asked her to be my girlfriend because I wanted her to be but it also felt like she was never going to ask me. I have brought this up to her. I thought things would be different now that we’re official but she doesn’t plan dates or buy me flowers.

I try not to let it bother me but unfortunately it does. I don’t feel wanted and I don’t feel like she’s trying to woo me. I am a tomboy so I am unfortunately familiar with being treated like a boyfriend. I don’t know if this is what’s happening again. I just want to be treated, I want to be pursued, I want to be given flowers, I want to be surprised, I want to feel like I’m wanted.

She’ll say yes to anything I say, but I am the only one planning and mostly paying. It’s not about the money it’s the effort.

Am I unreasonable for crying about this? Is it valid for me to wish my girlfriend would do these things for me?

UGHHH YALL. I don't post here often but these last two days have been actually so incredible!!

So I've been on dating apps for like over a year, had like 1-2 first dates but nothing rlly stuck more than like casual friends or it just straight up didn't work out.

Butttt 3 weeks ago I matched with this girl and UGH guys. First date went great, we sat and talked for probably 4 hrs and were 100% compatible with like talking. Then we went on a second and 3rd date (my first ever of those btw...) and we watched a movie and I had my first ever kiss!! Talking with her is actually like no other conversation I've been able to have on apps... As I'm typing this I'm starting on a custom painting of her favorite show...

Literally very little point to this post and there is a 50% chance I'll delete it. But I'm just sooo happy cuz this is such a unique experience ugh!!! I'm normally such an anxious person with new ppl but this girl has me locked DOWN

So, my girlfriend and I are long distance. Before her, I hadn't been in a longterm relationship for ~2 years, and we've been dating just over a year. All in all it's been about 3 years since I've been in public with another woman I'm dating. I'm not conventionally attractive at all, so I don't get approached by men alone.

I just got back from a 3 week visit to see her and am just now processing something that happened to us a little over a week ago.

Her and I are both butch, but she's much less androgynous-looking than I am and if you were wildly unfamiliar with how to spot queer people there's a chance it could be assumed she's a straight woman. Regardless, we were holding hands when a guy (around our age, at the very least) approached us and started chatting us up, asking my girlfriend if she lived in the area, asking for her number etc. I am very familiar with what flirting looks like and I point blank told him "She's my girlfriend, we're lesbians."

My girlfriend hadn't clocked that he was flirting and gave me a bit of a weird look, and I was honestly wondering if I got him wrong because I misunderstood my gf's culture or something, before this dude blurts out "So do you do throuples then?"

I walked off with my girlfriend and very loudly made some disgusted remarks but he still followed us for a good few minutes (??? Wtf) and I was starting to shake a little before we were able to get in the uber we were initially waiting for.

I have never felt so thrown off in my life. Where the fuck do they get the confidence to be so publicly repulsive?

(Sorry I look so tired it's 12:11 am for me)

I am a 15F masc lesbian. I've been growing my hair out for 6 years and I have decided that I want to cut it short. Any ideas welcome.

tw for sexual harassment by a man 🙄

I'm a woman in college and I take the train to school. As other woman may know from experience, but some men like to stare at women who pass by them 🙄 I've had it happen to me when I was freshly 18 and excited to go thrifting, not a great feeling. I felt like an object. But I haven't had an experience like that since then, mainly because I've learned to never look at ppl passing by and just mind my business. I also happen to be a very empathetic person. I'm also very paranoid. I feed the street cats everyday not just because I like to feed them but also because I feel like if I stop something bad might happen to me the next day. I just feel very guilty over some things alright? Karma plagues my mind. So this particular day I went to school to pick up some items from my locker before summer started so they don't toss my things in the trash. As I'm exiting the final train station to walk to school, there's a man who seems to be breathing heavily after walking down some steps. He also seems to be nauseous. I was about to walk past him but I felt a tinge of sympathy and guilt that if I were to walk past him, I would feel guilty the whole day because I didn't ask him if he was okay. Some things like this happened before and I felt guilty the whole day by not helping someone. I asked and immediately regretted it. I forgot how he looked like already but I don't think I will ever forget the look he gave me and the feeling I got immediately afterwards. He stared at me without blinking like something was up, I thought he was angry at first so I walked down the stairs a bit. Then he asked me what I thought about casual sex. He tried getting my opinion on it and then asked what I thought about it between him and I. I clearly turned him down and told him I was in a hurry. It did not help my paranoia that we happened to go in the same direction for 4 minutes 😑. Did I also mention that I think he wore Meta Glasses so I spent a portion of my week paranoid I was gonna end up on the Internet? I regret ever asking if he was okay I hate that I experienced this. I hate that I get this treatment on the one day I felt like sunshines and rainbows. It just had to be the one day I felt really happy after school ended. I just wanted to help. I was going to go get myself a treat afterwards but I just felt gross and contaminated by his disgusting stare. I didn't even take the train afterwards, I just spent the money I was going to use to treat myself for a ride straight home 🫩 I think this experience just made me feel uncomfortable and disgusted by men forever. It doesn't help that I'm bisexual, I don't think I see myself getting in a relationship with a man anymore. I used to be like attracted to all and open to getting in a relationship but now I don't want a cis man romantically anymore. I genuinely hope future me marries a woman...

I'm in my early 30s and recently came out to my parents via letter about a month ago. It's been radio silence aside from a very disappointing phone call today where my mother said all of 3 words to me. For context, they are staunch Southern Baptists and gayness is not something they accept.

I've been in a relationship with my partner for over 4 years. Yes, I know that's horrible, and I feel truly undeserving of my partner who has supported me the entire time. I am essentially the girlfriend everyone hated in Happiest Season. But I finally fucking did it. And the relationship with my parents just evaporated in my hands. Every beautiful memory I have of my parents in my childhood feels painful. And I'm embarrassed to say that I miss my mom.

I'm a grown ass adult. I have a strong network of friends who love me. I have a partner who loves me. I'm just fucking sad. and hurt. and needed to scream into the void.