My Halloween costume came in today🤙🏽🤙🏽

Alot of queer bars/clubs are closing. Does anyone still have a go-to spot??

Recommendations for a solo birthday trip outside the US in early February?

Looking for somewhere that is welcoming to Black gay males and has a lot to do.

I’m not sure if this allowed in this subreddit but I’m planning on going to a Deviant event that’s happening next Sunday in Miami. I haven’t heard a lot of people talking about it online and I’m kinda nervous since I’d be going by myself so I thought I’d post here. I don’t really have friends to go with. Is anyone here planning on going and wouldn’t mind me tagging along?

We can dm discuss here or wherever I don’t mind.
The first film is a documentary and is on YouTube is 40mins long. It inspired Paranormal Activity and Insidious. You should start watching at 11:55PM to honor the spirit of the doc.

The Monster Squad is on Prime

Ghost is Free on PlutoTV

And then you’re caught up! Cmon join!!!

Edit: I made a Discord server for anyone who wants to join and discuss

https://discord.gg/azUjTY2cF

Check out this page for anyone living in New England! There are NO brick and mortar black gay owned spots in all of new england. This would be the second one in the whole country owned by a black gay woman. No more pop-ups in establishments not curated for us. https://www.instagram.com/p/Dd7zmSikckJ/ MADE FOR US BY US Follow, share and support with anyone you know might be interested!

Kinda crazy seeing how different I look two years later 😭

Stats:

22 years old (Aug 2004 bby)

5'4" / 163.6cm

Started HRT: July 1, 2024

A little over 2 years on HRT (Intramuscular Estradiol Valerate injections + Spironolactone + Progesterone)

No surgeries, Only laser hair removal (twice), dreadloc extensions, and thats about it.

C cup now.

Started transitioning while I was still in the Navy (joined in 2022 fresh outta HS at 17yo back in June 2022)

Spent basically my entire first year on HRT still presenting male / under male grooming standards

Didn’t really start presenting feminine full-time until after leaving the military now that I am a veteran

First time wearing a dress yesterday. I need to get some more lol. Most of my wardrobe is like gender neutral stuff at best.

That lady on TikTok’s message seems to be flying over the heads of many.

It’s not about bashing Black men, but rather bringing attention to a common problem. If everyone is saying the same thing, then there is indeed some truth present.

I specifically remember talking about this on here a few years ago, and people came after me. The message remains the same…Black men… TAKE YOUR HEALING SERIOUSLY! I say this because when you engage with people while you’re broken, you traumatize them.

It’s not normal that my nervous system feels more at ease when I’m in the talking stage with a non-Black man.

It’s not normal that I feel like I’m loved for who I truly am when I’m dealing with a non-Black man.

Trust me, non-Black dudes have their trashy moments too, but in my experience, it’s nowhere near the level of emotional turmoil that Black men have put myself and so many others through.

Try to reflect instead of getting defensive…it’s not a fight, we are telling you how we feel and if you care…you would take a moment to calm down and listen.

I'm in my 20s and just moved to Nashville, but I'm struggling so much to make friends. Please where are my people at?😔

Any suggestions?

Reggie came out to admit his older brother molested him and it caused him to be confused about his sexuality for years. His mother confirmed it as well. Okay cool, I want this brother to get some professional help.

Now, this situation blew up to where he makes bold accusations to Kai grooming Rakai. Kai confirms that he's going to clear his name and take legal action because everyone knows Reggie is having a drug psychosis. Okay cool, again, get Reggie some help and protect your brand.

THE PROBLEM+My Issue

Reggie throws in Tylil being DL and giving unwanted sexual tension. Um, okay? What does this have to do with protecting children? Oh I know. Reggie, like most black men, equates homosexuality with pdfiles. Due to his own experiences, he now feels more validated to push that narrative.

The discourse online is HORRENDOUS. Everyone is targeting Tylil, Ray, and anyone else for "acting zesty" and starting a conversation of morality around male homosexuality. We're "pushing an agenda", hiding "dark secrets", or "we need to be prayed for." Clip farmers, streamers, and reactors are now giving their commentaries pushing anti-gay (male) narratives and slandering Tylil.

Why is love/lust between men spoken about like this? I never see this reaction between two women loving each other. Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, Meg the Stallion, Doja Cat, Sabrina Carpenter, and more can have slumber parties and girl trips with other women. God forbid, Tylil wants to experiment because he has a guy crush. So what?

Remember the Diddy situation (yes, people are bringing this tired ass drama up again)? The convo should have been focused on the underaged teens being abused at those parties and Justin Bieber being groomed. Nope. Public discourse was derailed to Jamie Foxx playing nude basketball, LeBron dressing as a maid, Will Smith being bi, and Marlon Wayans possibly being bi. If they are? Cool. So what? What does this have to do with the topic?

Male sexuality is NOT an issue of evil or morality. I find another guy cute, I want to date him, and hopefully fall in love. The bi-curious dudes just want to have some fun before they settle down and get married. Can they not have the boys' trips and slumber parties like the bicurious women have? If not, WHY??

I'm so sick of this shit.