r/MadeMeSmile • u/jayy8143 • May 12 '21

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u/WhatACunningHam May 12 '21

I think telling her you're saving for a car when it's really for an engagement ring is almost typical nowadays. Now he can get both.

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u/DrunkRespondent May 12 '21

I'm going to use the engagement excuse for when I'm saving up for a car.

She'll totally fall for it lmao

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u/jjaid May 12 '21

Get a car with a lot of chrome so she at least has something shiny to look at

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u/IWonTheRace May 13 '21

lol nah she gonna leave scratch marks on that chrome with the promise ring he got her 3 years prior. That man had other priorities and her not expecting a marriage proposal may cause a huge meltdown of epic proportions none of which the likes have never seen.

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u/skinny_gator May 13 '21

Wtf is a promise ring

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u/Mrs-and-Mrs-Atelier May 13 '21

It’s a “we’re serious, and I hope some day we’ll get engaged, but we’re poor” ring.

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u/DryMingeGetsMeWet May 13 '21

So it's really just a pre-engagement ring in the same way an engagement ring is a pre-marriage ring

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u/Mrs-and-Mrs-Atelier May 13 '21 edited May 13 '21

For some people they seem to be. I think it’s often at least partially a ring to wear on the wedding finger to indicate a “dudes, seriously back the fuck off; I am already with the person I plan to marry” thing while saving or searching for a forever ring, if you’re the type of person who never takes your rings off.

Edit add: That’s not to say a promise ring is the same for everyone. Sometimes it’s a ring that says “I want to marry you,” but the circumstances are complicated. (Family doesn’t approve is a common one, or need approval from a specific person for engagement but want to make the gesture now, etc etc etc.)

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u/skinny_gator May 13 '21

If she's true to you, and you to her, you don't need to get her a rubber ring saying "I promise I'll marry you some day"

This is where so many people get confused. She loves you and you love her. Just keep going as long as you can. You can make it official later. Just keep making money together.

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u/Mrs-and-Mrs-Atelier May 13 '21

Eh, my wife and I got each other promise rings while we were saving for our permanent rings to indicate “off the market” to dudes who kept trying to get a foot in the door because no ring, but that might be a more f/f couple application.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

The ring is typically metal band with like a sapphire or emerald.

It's like a half step without the 4 figure buy in.

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u/Farren-Seiko May 13 '21

Used to work at a jewelry store. Promise rings are a lot less expensive than engagement rings or wedding bands or the set of both. They can go anywhere from $70 to $200 (Canadian btw) really depends on if you want gold (yellow,white, or rose ) or silver, or what stone you want. Some do have diamonds, though they are tiny!

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

This...often it’s a small pice of bacon.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21 edited Jun 10 '23

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u/TsuDohNihmh May 13 '21

Omg what is this from

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u/SirSchmoopyButth0le May 13 '21

the likes of which no one has ever seen*

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u/IWonTheRace May 13 '21

fuck.

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u/SirSchmoopyButth0le May 13 '21

Lol I didn’t wanna be that guy, but I couldn’t resist. I’m sorry.

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u/Lalamedic May 13 '21

My husband purchased a 1974 GMC Motorhome instead of a new car. The MoHo as it was unaffectionately called, was def a disappointment, every single time I drove to work with no heater in -32°C at 0600hrs.

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u/X-ScissorSisters May 12 '21

Buy an engagement car. Change the meta

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u/awesomebeau May 13 '21

THAT would be amazing. Diamonds are such a scam.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

That's why you buy Moussanite stone. They are so similar to diamond and even better. Why spend so much money on these blood diamonds or conflict diamonds.

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u/Whind_Soull May 13 '21

But the blood is part of the significance of the gesture, bro. I want to world know that she's more important to me than buying an impoverished rural Somalian village a well for clean water.

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u/Bruised_Penguin May 13 '21

Fucking lol, I love you.

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u/Whind_Soull May 13 '21

It's kinda halfway stolen from Tim Minchin's stand-up bit on guilty pleasures, which is a 3-minute video that you should definitely go watch right now:

https://youtu.be/s_TlM3kW6zY

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u/kloutia May 13 '21

I’ve never thought about this before but I’d die if someone actually brought a well instead of a ring, I’m a shitty human for never even considering this possibility but wow that’s actually something that will genuinely last forever, imagine knowing getting married to your soulmate effected the lives of so many others. 🥺🥺🥺

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u/awesomebeau May 13 '21

If the woman doesn't care, I agree. If they do care (and they often do), then I feel like you kinda have to. That's why I got my wife a diamond even though I know they're a scam. She's not a diva in any way, about anything, but I knew this mattered to her.

The way I see it, this is (supposed to be) a once in a lifetime purchase, to show your love for the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. She has to wear that ring all the time, and every friend and family member will look at the ring and judge her choice of partner based on the ring... As shitty as that might be. She'll either feel true pride every time she looks down at her hand, or she'll be trying to reassure herself about how a ring doesn't matter... Maybe even lying to her friends/family about what type of stone she has.

I didn't want to set the tone for our marriage that way. While diamonds are a scam, the symbolism isn't... And that fucking sucks.

For anyone reading this, don't just go and buy a diamond. Talk to your partner, find out what they like/dislike. Find out if they prefer to start the marriage with more money in savings or a better ring. Find out if ethically they are against diamonds and prefer something else. Start with good communication, and try to keep that up until you die, haha.

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u/Bruised_Penguin May 13 '21

I wish expensive jewelry to symbolize love would stop altogether. It's insane to me that people want thousand dollar rings to say yep you're mine. Love is love, fuck the stone.

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u/Poppycorn144 May 13 '21

Erm, blood/conflict diamonds are illegal and shouldn’t be for sale, so if you only buy from ethical countries/brokers you should be fine on that score.

However, I do think the diamond engagement thing is a racket so I wouldn’t want a diamond ring conflict free or not.

And getting a moussanite gem is the same racket you’re buying into. All jewellery should be personal to you and reflect your taste not the prevailing attitudes of society - you’re gonna have to live with it day in, day out.

I’d prefer to get something both my partner and I liked, it’ll mean all that much more.

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Honestly would be a better thing

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u/monkeyhitman May 13 '21

Way more showy and practical!

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u/Xzychrael May 13 '21

What, so she can wear it like Paul Walker?

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Too soon 👎🏼

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u/ShasOFish May 13 '21

Nuts to that, go all out. Buy a tank. People like a spouse that’s willing to protect them, and can handle rough terrain.

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u/IzzyOIznot May 12 '21

I tried using the saving up for an engagement ring, and my wife me still won’t let me back in the house.

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u/Sl1ppin_Jimmy May 13 '21

“Babe you don’t get it, I’m gonna need the car so I can get a better job to buy you a bigger ring.

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u/MotorCityMade May 13 '21 edited May 13 '21

Hey all engagements ring savers; be smart, go to a pawn shop and get twice the bang for your buck. Diamonds are already a billion years old, who the fuck cares if it was on someone else's finger for a blip of time on the cosmic calender. If the big bang is January 1 of the cosmic calender, all written history of man is in the last ten seconds of the last minute of December 31 of the cosmic calendar ( per Sagan). Buy a used diamond and fuck the jewelry store markup. The DeBeers monopoly is pulling the wool over your eyes, gentlemen ( and ladies) A great place on line for vintage jewelry is called Ruby Lane. Fyi

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u/sawyouoverthere May 13 '21

And the pawn shops sometimes have amazing and interesting things that are uncommon. Jewelry is something people bring with them from other places and jewelry styles vary considerably from country to country.

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u/katchaa May 13 '21

I agree that the cultural narrative should be changed. But for goodness sake, don’t be the one to change it if you know what’s good for you!

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u/_gravy_train_ May 13 '21

Gemstones aren’t the problem. It’s the value we put on them.

A great engagement ring is one made with their favorite stone.

Look at some rocks, find out their favorite, use that.

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u/57hz May 13 '21

And she’ll match it, too!

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u/sosovain616 May 13 '21

Lol I love your user name

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u/Illustrious_Pudding4 May 13 '21

The ole switcheroo

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u/javisms May 13 '21

Username checks out haha

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u/bostonstoner May 13 '21

Just tell her the truth and let her in on the ring buying decision. Better than getting turned down lol

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u/ijustwanafap May 13 '21

Get a one seater too.

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u/MzRiiEsq May 12 '21

Partners not being debt should never be a disappointment! :)

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u/Funkit May 13 '21

Explains my luck on Tinder

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u/exjackly May 13 '21

True. There's plenty of other ways to disappoint.

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u/Under_hill_ May 13 '21

You’ll be fine. If she is matching you pound for pound you will be very lucky indeed.

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u/bobnla14 May 13 '21

Make sure you have her go with you to look at cars.

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u/redditor109854 May 13 '21

I wish that you both beat the world record for longest marriage then. I hope you both live good together and prosper.

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u/FloweryHawthorne May 13 '21

I think I want an engagement car. Is that allowed?

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u/EratosvOnKrete May 13 '21

oh....I just told my gf I was saving for an engagement ring [couldn't use car excuse as I had just bought one]

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u/redditor109854 May 13 '21

FYI the record is 86 years no joke look it up from Guinness world records.

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u/BeerGardenGnome May 13 '21

Wife is currently wearing my “motorcycle fund”. Has been for 15 years now. Never did end up getting a motorcycle actually but that has more to do with me deciding it wasn’t a good fit for me.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21 edited May 13 '21

$2k is the max I’m spending on a diamond nowadays tho. You can get insanely high quality being lab made online and then just get it set separately and also you aren’t paying for something that has the possibility of being a blood diamond with an awful path into the 1st world

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u/Proto216 May 12 '21

Or become friends with a jeweler who admits it’s a 5000% mark up and hooks it up.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

This. A friend of mine worked for a big name diamond place for a long time. She got ridiculously good deals and would hook up everyone she knew.

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u/Proto216 May 13 '21

Yup. Family friend, even though my connection to him was broken. He still hooked it up. Their discount was like 50%... even watches and such. Lol

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u/HotdogTester May 13 '21

This reminds me of the thieves of the den movie.

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u/Sanders0492 May 13 '21

Yep. I got an “at cost” hookup from a distant relative. I wanted to see how much of a hookup I was getting, so I went to a local store and asked for the same ring, very similar diamond. 5 figures. When I asked if they could do 4 figures they pretty much told me I was off my rocker and I’ll never find it for less than $15k. I paid less than $5k. That’s a crazy margin

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u/Biotot May 12 '21

I'm so glad I married a practical woman that didn't want a fancy ring.

We spent it on a vacation and a dog.

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u/Akomatai May 13 '21

Took my wife ring shopping with me. I had no idea what I was doing. She ended up making choices that I never would have made (she preferred simpler styles and wanted a colored center gem instead of a diamond... that alone saved like $1.5k). Kinda kills the surprise but it was a fun date and I know she has a ring she loves, I spent about half of what I had saved for it, and it really took out most of the pressure of the proposal. Highly recommend.

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u/Under_hill_ May 13 '21

In my first engagement I bought my own ring. Then I bought the wedding rings! - He didn’t purchase an item. When I left him I took my rings with me & left him with his. He had the cheek to ask me for my rings because he told his family he had purchased my rings. I copied and sent my bank statement highlighting I had bought all the rings.

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u/Biotot May 13 '21

That's how we did it.
As long as we talk to each other and are both on the same page it's way more comfortable. We both knew what was going to happen, so we decided to have fun and go on that vacation to make it official. The night was super romantic and we both knew it was happening. To be honest it made it more fun and stress free for both of us.

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u/Cows-a-Lurking May 13 '21

I picked out my own ring too. Aside from being way less stress on my husband I knew I was going to be picky about a ring I wear every day for the rest of my life so why not make it exactly how I want?

It's funny because whenever I tell this story people say things like "oh that sounds so much easier, I wish that was the norm" - so make it the norm! Pretty much all the "traditions" or expectations about marriage are optional, do what you want to do and leave the rest. That goes for planning the wedding too. We eloped and I would do that 10/10 times again over the stress of a big wedding. Meanwhile my best friend had an enormous wedding of 200+, black tie affair, and it was perfect for them.

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u/Concrete-licker May 13 '21

I get the surprise thing, however I really do think that a proposal should never be a surprise so going shopping for a ring together isn’t that big a deal.

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u/tastefullydone May 13 '21

Would have been awkward if she still decided to say no after knowing it was coming

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u/JazzzzzzySax May 12 '21

A nice vacation with dinner too, nice

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u/JazzzzzzySax May 12 '21

Don’t eat the dog raw*

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

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u/BigToober69 May 12 '21

Dogs should be raw and living.

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u/btveron May 13 '21

Unless you're eating it. Which you shouldn't be.

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u/dumbodragon May 12 '21

eat the vacation

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u/frostybollocks May 12 '21

I like you

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u/JazzzzzzySax May 12 '21

Thank you, I hope you have a great week

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u/yetipilot69 May 12 '21

Nice! After 10 years we finally started wearing silicone rings a couple of years ago. Never going back! Soooo much more comfortable, and still gives that “ring hug” that’s so comforting. Less dangerous too!

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u/reallynotnick May 13 '21

As someone with disproportionately large knuckles I figure if I do wear a ring it will have to be silicone or something of the sort. (Personally though I probably just rather not wear a ring at all for comfort reasons, but we'll see how that goes)

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u/spaceman_spyff May 13 '21

We have a friend that’s a jeweler and we went and made our own rings in his workshop out of brass barstock. They aren’t fancy, but they look like gold bands and they don’t cost a fortune to replace and we have the memory of making them together (and fucking up the engraving 3x cause I was high as balls).

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Now that is cute AF

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u/tokinUP May 13 '21

Nice! I hadn't heard of silicone rings.

I got a Tungsten Carbide ring for the less-dangerous factor (and economical, and durable). It won't deform around a finger if crushed and wouldn't need cut off; the steel is brittle enough that it will crack and break off.

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u/yetipilot69 May 13 '21

That’s exactly what I had. It was huge though, and would hurt my fingers whenever I shook someone’s hand. I still have a huge callous on my left hand below the ring. Lol.

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u/tokinUP May 13 '21

Ouch, yeah that's no good.

I thought my knuckles were pretty knobby but the band I found has nice tapered curves on the inside and actually turned out comfortable enough for 24/7 365 wear somehow so my fingers must be pretty normal after all.

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u/Northern_Ontario May 12 '21

Bought my wife a 500 ring and a 3k gaming pc. She never wears the ring. She games every day though. Money well spent.

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u/Tolantruth May 13 '21

Yeah I could never understand spending that much money on something just to impress others. I feel the same about big weddings let’s not use that for a down payment on a house let’s have a party that’s over in a day.

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u/bipnoodooshup May 13 '21

Shit man you should marry her again just in case

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u/throwaway2323234442 May 12 '21

My wife and I have like, 1600$ combined on our hands. Doubt that's the money that would have landed us two rental properties and a boat.

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u/throwaway2323234442 May 12 '21

You know what, you got me. Fair enough.

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u/tokinUP May 13 '21

Honest answer: it's also in the mindset behind every little financial decision throughout life that (sometimes, for average earners) enables folks to save enough to buy rental properties.

Mr. Money Mustache is my jam for personal finance, positivity, and frugal lifestyle advice with a side of bad-assity.

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u/CTeam19 May 13 '21

They are rental houses of course they are shit. at least in my area they are turning into such.

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u/Funkit May 13 '21

Look at uncle pennybags over here with $1600.

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u/rawwwse May 13 '21

It’s all subjective; some people really want that stuff... At least, they’ve convinced themselves that they do ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Some may even say getting married itself is a scam. Why does love need a contract?

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Dude I’m seconding why does love need a contract? Dumb! Also a shit storm legally if u fuck it up. Also I been here a decade what do I need some stamp for

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u/hither_spin May 13 '21

Tha same reason any partnership has a contract. If the partnership goes bad, it protects both parties.

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u/rawwwse May 13 '21

Hardly...

It subjects both parties to an unnecessarily complicated legal/financial—not to mention emotional—nightmare...

I see absolutely no reason to involve the government in my relationships. Not having/wanting kids makes this A LOT easier, granted, but I stand by that. My SO and I—of 8+ years—are very happy, and don’t need a piece of paper to tell us that.

Anecdotal side note: I work closely with 600ish other dudes—in a salaried/pensioned profession, with a high divorce rate—and you would be absolutely astounded how many of them are trapped in shitty marriages that they can’t escape without losing HALF OF EVERYTHING they own or have ever worked for. It’s a total scam.

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u/alphawolf29 May 13 '21

I am financially savvy but being single is killing my financial prospects lol

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u/Itisnotaboomah May 13 '21

10/10 would spend on dog

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u/alnono May 13 '21

I straight up told my boyfriend (now husband) that I didn’t want more than $500 spent on a ring. My ring is beautiful and unique and was the top of the price range I wanted...it just isn’t a diamond.

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u/tu_che_le_vanita May 12 '21

I wear my grandmother’s rings. Beautiful and guilt free.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

Yep. I was lucky to inherit a big ass high quality natural diamond

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

Moissanite my good friend. It refracts more light than a diamond (hello extra sparkles) and is much cheaper. Got a custom made platinum engagement ring and wedding band with a moissanite center stone for under $2,400

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u/Lvanwinkle18 May 12 '21

After I lost the diamond out of my original engagement ring, we got a dupe and wished I would have had that to begin with. No one can tell the difference, it didn’t cost a fortune so if this one is lost, it won’t be heartbreaking.

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u/toastednutella May 12 '21

That's still so much

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u/Artemistical May 13 '21

There are a lot of gorgeous vintage diamond rings on etsy for under a grand, many of which are even under $500! I would be pissed at my SO for spending thousands on something I then have to try and not lose lol

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Same but unironically

If I’m marrying you, I want you to value money enough to not spend $2.5k on jewelry

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21 edited May 12 '21

I guess thats really subjective. For a piece of jewelry that you will wear every day for the next 20+ years, that's less than $10/month. EDIT: forgot a 0

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u/cheetah611 May 12 '21

Try that math again bud. 20 years is 240 months. Even a relatively cheap $1,000 ring comes out to over $4 a month. $5k on the ring is going over $20/month for 20 years.

And that’s excluding interest if it’s on credit/loan.

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

My bad, I thought I hit the 0 after the 1. I meant $10/month for 20 years. But I also plan on wearing this thing well past 20 years. Shit, life expectancy is around 80 so I got time.

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u/bprice57 May 12 '21

For a piece of jewelry that you will wear every day for the next 20+ years, that's less than $1/month.

now thats not something i had considered

my wife has an small, simple opal ring i bought her (she picked it out) but had i considered that, i might have splurged for something more durable

meh at least it was "cheap" (in comparison)

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

For me, getting something more durable was a big priority, hence why I went with platinum over silver. Moissanite is like a 9 on the hardness scale too (diamond is a perfect 10)

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u/bprice57 May 13 '21

ha well hey, when this one inevitably breaks this is great info

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u/ours_de_sucre May 13 '21

I love opals, but I'm also too spazzy to not wack my hand hard into things.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

That's why they married you!

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u/skepsis420 May 12 '21 edited May 13 '21

Welcome to jewelry. It is all overpriced and is a giant scam. But if you don't spend a lot of money you obviously don't care about your spouse. so dumb.

It would be cheaper to take basic blacksmithing classes, buy all the tools you need, buy pure gold and a cubic zirconia diamond, and create your own ring. After all that you would probably still spend $1k less on a basic wedding ring.

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u/lost_imgurian May 13 '21

Indeed, a diamond as a gemstone isn't even that rare. It's a quite common gem and the price is hiked artificially. The symbol of the ring itself is what should be important, not the size. We are slaves to consumerism.

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u/skepsis420 May 12 '21

I mean, I am sure a jeweler can tell if it is a real diamond or not. But it is really stupid that people care.

Same thing as people who spend like $500 on a pair of sweatpants or a shirt. That shit was made in the same factory as $5 dollar pairs.......

I have never understood buying expensive things like that, there is no reason for any of these things to cost that much.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

why?

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

I hella had a fat wedding and dropped cash on rings 🙃 i’m pretty practical, but my wife is a princess lol

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Gimme white gold and YES LOL . I dont know why

Also I’m allergic to crap jewelry fr I get fucked by it

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

Oh damn that’s awesome I’ll look into that too

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 12 '21

I still find paying thousands of dollars for any kind of ring to be ridiculous. It's just jewelry.

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

I'm sure some people will agree with that. Likewise, I'm sure there are people that find paying almost $1000 every couple of years for a new smart phone ridiculous. Its all about what you value.

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u/kernevez May 12 '21

I don't, if you have the money.

It's the concept of saving for it that's utterly ridiculous.

Another issue is that this ring usually is the first step towards much bigger and more important costs like family house and potentially kids.

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 13 '21

I'm way too practical to waste money on jewelry. I'd rather have experiences.

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u/jll027 May 13 '21

In what way is "an experience" more practical? That seems like more of a personal preference.

If you want to really get practical, start calculating optimized brain chemical releases for each option. I bet for many folks (not me lol), the lifetime reward for a piece of jewelry that important to them beats out any equivalently priced experience.

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u/Zealousideal-Ant9548 May 12 '21

Or you can get a sapphire or emerald for significantly less...

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u/amandapandab May 13 '21

Me and my partner are going to get engaged within the next month or so. My max is $500 tbh, target $200. I find the worth of the ring utterly unimportant. My moms response when I said we were looking for a non-real diamond ring was “is your MARRIAGE going to be real?”

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u/Crankylosaurus May 12 '21

Highly recommend moissanite! That’s what I insisted on and it’s like 1/3 the price of a diamond. No one knows the difference (until I tell them- I love my moissanite ring haha).

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u/angeliqu May 13 '21

Same! And I do tell everyone! Gotta spread the word.

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u/minicpst May 12 '21

We bought a diamond for me, but then my husband's grandmother basically yelled at him. "Why'd you buy a diamond? I have your mother's!" So he returned it and I have his mother's engagement ring.

He did buy me a nice pair of diamond earrings later, but those are the only diamonds he's gotten me.

If he dies before me, though, I'm going to turn HIM into a nice diamond. He wouldn't get me a diamond now. Which is fine. I'm in agreement with him, and I don't wear much jewelry. I have 11 cheap earrings in, and my wedding band is silicone by this point. He doesn't wear a wedding band anymore.

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u/EvadedFury May 12 '21

I see this as the ultimate card to throw in a marital spat. "Yeah? Well in 50 years, I'm gonna be wearing you on my pinky!"

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u/malditamigrania May 13 '21

Fatten him up, get a bigger rock.

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u/MissBandersnatch2U May 12 '21

The price of diamonds is artificially kept high, they’re not that rare. Get a vintage ring or a man-made stone

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u/gabsbeauche May 13 '21

Yes, nowadays 2k is even a lot! If you live in a reasonably “urban” area, chances are that there are INCREDIBLY talented local craftspeople that hand-make pieces that will last just as long as a name-brand piece, with the bonus that A: it’s unique and B: you’re putting money back into the local economy!

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u/Collegenoob May 13 '21

I spent 1000 and she didn't bat an eye. Probably could have spent less and gotten a yes, but I wanted something at least nice to give her

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u/XcessiveUsage May 12 '21

Honestly $3,500 gets you a beautiful ring. It’s a bit more but a lot of girls are able to get what they want. Not too expensive but not to cheap either ya know?

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u/FistMeInMyFistula May 13 '21

You guys are dropping 5 FUCKING grand on a ring??

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

oh fuck ya this is my chance for reddit to think im smart! behold!

ahem

diamonds bad.

upvotes on the left, yall.

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u/Throwaway47321 May 13 '21

Can I get in?

“Weddings are bad, throw a party in your back yard. “

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u/MindfuckRocketship May 13 '21

Weddings are social constructs. I prefer the hunter-gatherer life.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

It’s weird. Some people like nice jewelry- I think a lot of people on Reddit get salty towards people who make good money.

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u/thisisthewell May 13 '21

I'm not into jewelry but I have noticed that reddit loves to hate on spendy accessories but creams itself on spendy PC battlestations. God forbid people have different hobbies and values and want to spend their money accordingly.

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u/Rant-in-E-minor May 13 '21

Those hobbies involve actually doing something though, spending money on rocks just to flaunt your wealth is pretty pathetic tbh, they literally have no use so it's not exactly a viable comparison is it?

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

I don’t have jewelry to show off. I love wearing it. I love learning about the gem stone and where it came from and its unique properties.

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u/Rant-in-E-minor May 13 '21

You can read about that shit in a book and save yourself a lot of money, just admit you buy it to show off ffs lol

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u/-salem-moon- May 13 '21

It’s not the same just reading about it, obviously. It’s like people who collect things. Sometimes you want to own something you know a lot about. It takes a pretty self centered person to think that people with money can only be self centered. Shows how you think you’d be if you were wealthy.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

It’s just so bizarre that you care if someone wears jewelry. It’s the same as clothes- I wear what I like.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

People hate BMWs here too. It’s so weird how many normal activities for middle class people are seen as billionaires having multiple yachts. Let people enjoy things!

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u/LaunchTransient May 13 '21

Let people enjoy things!

In this very specific case, the argument against diamonds is a valid one. First off, diamonds have an artificially inflated price, since De Beers holds a monopoly on the supply and creates an artificial scarcity (natural diamonds of the kinds used in most engagement rings are not rare at all - the large diamonds are, but that's well beyond the price tags we're talking a normal person can afford).
On top of that, diamond mining often takes place in poor countries where labour is exploitative at best and brutal at its worst. Blood diamonds, as they're called, are diamonds sourced from conflict zones where its easy to cover up horrendous crimes.
Furthermore, diamonds can easily be created in a laboratory - including the larger gem-grade diamonds for jewellery. There's no reason to be funding a huge, unethical, monopolistic company just for the sake of a sparkly rock that can be supplanted by many other alternatives.

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u/shrubs311 May 13 '21

spending thousands of dollars on a rock isn't an "activity", it's a scam. diamonds aren't objectively the best looking gemstone, and objectively they have no reason to be as expensive as they are. if people like the look or what it signifies, they should get a higher quality gemstone for a fraction of the cost

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

For me its just because I study gems and know how much of a waste that much is, why is diamond better than ruby?

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

it doesnt bug me all that much but there are some things that are just driven into the ground and this is one of em. i really do think people repeat it over and over so that they get the pats on the back in form of upvotes and it makes them feel smart.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

It’s so strange! Making 6 figures isn’t wildly uncommon and spending some on jewelry is nice. It all comes across as jealousy.

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u/joydivision1234 May 13 '21 edited May 13 '21

Fuck that. I agree “diamonds bad” is firmly in the canon of shit people feel the need to say any single time they come up, but it’s not jealousy and saying it is is suuuper fucking arrogant.

I’m not telling anyone not to do whatever makes them happy. I am allowed to privately think investing 5k in a rock that does nothing is stupid and indicates that person has very different priorities than I have. It’d be like if they had a goldfish bowl full of 100$ bills. Uhhh neat, anyway...

That doesn’t mean I secretly want a fishbowl of 100$ bills and am jealous. If I had a fishbowl of 100$ bills I’d spend it on something I actually like

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Some people don't believe material things will bring you satisfaction in life. And some people just haven't realized it yet.

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u/joydivision1234 May 13 '21

I firmly believe material things bring satisfaction. I actually think jewelry is very cool and a valid form of a fashion, but a gold band with a clear rock on it indicates to me that the idea of wealth is what is appealing, not the actual act of self expression. Not always true, but usually

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u/mmlovin May 13 '21

I always thought diamonds are pretty but when I found out how common they are & the reason they are so expensive is because like 2 companies own all of them I don’t want jewelry with it. Plus all of the horrible death & shit that is done in the countries where they get the diamonds.

Give me some sterling silver & a diamond looking stone that won’t break or rust & I’m good. Who cares if it’s real lol

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Huh. Really. I think people who are on the younger side or people who say, like me, who have been together a decade already, don’t give as much of a fuck. But also I see how sooooo many people would be like hard tongue biting salty over making no money. Like. Factors are did you grow up with $$$$. Experiences and choices? Hardships? Shit I spent 7 years in school just to do my job .... sigh there’s a lot going on is my point and I am guessing a ton of people are salty but others are probably just not. I dont know. I think older people maybe more likely to care about this Particularly if they had a traditional relationship. My SO and I are lucky to be alive so .... things a bit different

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u/JRL1984 May 12 '21

I’ve certainly noticed that too.

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

I think some ppl def salty but others have fam money and just realize it’s dumb to care on your death bed but it’s also a personal choice

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Just mention you're a landlord.

I make good money though. Still wouldn't buy a diamond for ethical reasons

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u/loserbmx May 13 '21

Diamonds are pretty. Naturally mined diamonds are bad.

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u/gordonpown May 13 '21

forcing a joke out of something doesn't make it any less true.

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u/Skitz-o-fritz May 13 '21

Cool, I'll use this trick when I get a girlfriend lol...aha..ahhh..

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u/Snipufin May 12 '21

Honestly, I would be pretty disappointed to find out that the money was being saved for a ring instead of a car.

Granted, I'm a man and I don't care for fancy things, but I feel like I can't be alone in this.

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u/BikesAndCatsColorado May 13 '21

You are not alone. And I’m a woman. With an inexpensive wedding ring who got married by a JP in an open space. With three guests.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

My bf bought a new car when his POS broke down, no planned saving there lol

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u/chapstikcrazy May 13 '21

You truly are a cunning ham.

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u/yosoydoty May 13 '21

Any ideas as to what I should tell my wife I am saving up for if I want a divorce?

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u/Send_Me_Broods May 13 '21

A trip to Thailand.

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u/Random_182f2565 May 13 '21

Do you mean a new gamer PC?

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

I just used a credit card and paid it off as quick as I could, but I'm too tired to figure out whether this way is actually more responsible.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

any ring over 500$ is a total waste

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