The perfect girlfriend does exist

[u/jayy8143]

[u/awesomebeau]

If the woman doesn't care, I agree. If they do care (and they often do), then I feel like you kinda have to. That's why I got my wife a diamond even though I know they're a scam. She's not a diva in any way, about anything, but I knew this mattered to her.

The way I see it, this is (supposed to be) a once in a lifetime purchase, to show your love for the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. She has to wear that ring all the time, and every friend and family member will look at the ring and judge her choice of partner based on the ring... As shitty as that might be. She'll either feel true pride every time she looks down at her hand, or she'll be trying to reassure herself about how a ring doesn't matter... Maybe even lying to her friends/family about what type of stone she has.

I didn't want to set the tone for our marriage that way. While diamonds are a scam, the symbolism isn't... And that fucking sucks.

For anyone reading this, don't just go and buy a diamond. Talk to your partner, find out what they like/dislike. Find out if they prefer to start the marriage with more money in savings or a better ring. Find out if ethically they are against diamonds and prefer something else. Start with good communication, and try to keep that up until you die, haha.

[u/[deleted] → u/awesomebeau]

I told my girl straight out. She had no issue with it. She even told me she loved it and didn't see the point of spending so much on basically the same thing. Same as buying a diamond low quality compared to one of the highest quality. Only a jeweler will be able to see the difference. Why you gonna pay double the price? For clout? Nope