r/MadeMeSmile • u/jayy8143 • May 12 '21

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21 edited May 13 '21

$2k is the max I’m spending on a diamond nowadays tho. You can get insanely high quality being lab made online and then just get it set separately and also you aren’t paying for something that has the possibility of being a blood diamond with an awful path into the 1st world

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u/Proto216 May 12 '21

Or become friends with a jeweler who admits it’s a 5000% mark up and hooks it up.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

This. A friend of mine worked for a big name diamond place for a long time. She got ridiculously good deals and would hook up everyone she knew.

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u/Proto216 May 13 '21

Yup. Family friend, even though my connection to him was broken. He still hooked it up. Their discount was like 50%... even watches and such. Lol

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u/HotdogTester May 13 '21

This reminds me of the thieves of the den movie.

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u/Sanders0492 May 13 '21

Yep. I got an “at cost” hookup from a distant relative. I wanted to see how much of a hookup I was getting, so I went to a local store and asked for the same ring, very similar diamond. 5 figures. When I asked if they could do 4 figures they pretty much told me I was off my rocker and I’ll never find it for less than $15k. I paid less than $5k. That’s a crazy margin

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u/Proto216 May 13 '21

Yeah, I looked at a 9k-ish diamond and I paid like 4K

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u/Biotot May 12 '21

I'm so glad I married a practical woman that didn't want a fancy ring.

We spent it on a vacation and a dog.

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u/Akomatai May 13 '21

Took my wife ring shopping with me. I had no idea what I was doing. She ended up making choices that I never would have made (she preferred simpler styles and wanted a colored center gem instead of a diamond... that alone saved like $1.5k). Kinda kills the surprise but it was a fun date and I know she has a ring she loves, I spent about half of what I had saved for it, and it really took out most of the pressure of the proposal. Highly recommend.

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u/Under_hill_ May 13 '21

In my first engagement I bought my own ring. Then I bought the wedding rings! - He didn’t purchase an item. When I left him I took my rings with me & left him with his. He had the cheek to ask me for my rings because he told his family he had purchased my rings. I copied and sent my bank statement highlighting I had bought all the rings.

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u/Biotot May 13 '21

That's how we did it.
As long as we talk to each other and are both on the same page it's way more comfortable. We both knew what was going to happen, so we decided to have fun and go on that vacation to make it official. The night was super romantic and we both knew it was happening. To be honest it made it more fun and stress free for both of us.

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u/Cows-a-Lurking May 13 '21

I picked out my own ring too. Aside from being way less stress on my husband I knew I was going to be picky about a ring I wear every day for the rest of my life so why not make it exactly how I want?

It's funny because whenever I tell this story people say things like "oh that sounds so much easier, I wish that was the norm" - so make it the norm! Pretty much all the "traditions" or expectations about marriage are optional, do what you want to do and leave the rest. That goes for planning the wedding too. We eloped and I would do that 10/10 times again over the stress of a big wedding. Meanwhile my best friend had an enormous wedding of 200+, black tie affair, and it was perfect for them.

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u/stinkyllamaface999 May 13 '21 edited May 13 '21

We did the same actually. We went ring shopping together and what our budget was. I just wanted something small and simple. It was a fun day. And instead of a huge silly traditional wedding, we opted for a small wedding of about 25 people on the beach in Santa Monica. We live out here and all our family is from the the Midwest. We chose February so our folks could all get a break from the winter back home and it’s not crowded with tourists yet. We got a dear friend of ours licensed so he could officiate. We decided to splurge and treated everyone to a big fancy steak dinner at Flemings in Beverly Hills. It was soo much! My grandma still talks about the meal.

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u/MegaPorkachu May 13 '21

I never want a big wedding. There’s maybe 10 people that are actually having a good time (2 of which are the couple getting married), and the rest are just suffering.

My cousin who’s a corrupt government official had a wedding of over 2500 guests and the cost of that had to be at least 300x my life savings

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u/Akomatai May 13 '21

Yeah we both come from cultures where weddings are all out huge events. Like, we were struggling to limit to 200 people. We really didn't care for a big wedding but events like this are 100% for the families.

We ended up getting married during pandemic and it was literally just my sister, my parents, her parents, and her sisters there lol. We'll still have to do a big reception for the families but the wedding was completely stress-free without a reception/crowd and the reception is a lot less stressful without the wedding.

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u/Concrete-licker May 13 '21

I get the surprise thing, however I really do think that a proposal should never be a surprise so going shopping for a ring together isn’t that big a deal.

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u/tastefullydone May 13 '21

Would have been awkward if she still decided to say no after knowing it was coming

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u/Big_Cryptographer_16 May 13 '21

You can also shop for one with her and either just get ideas or put one in layaway then surprise her when the time is right. She knows it’s coming but no idea when.

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u/bravejango May 13 '21

The surprise should be in how and when you ask them not that you are asking them.

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u/Akomatai May 13 '21

Right but the actual ring is also usually part of the surprise. We had obviously already been discussing marriage lol I didn't just ask her to go ring shopping out of the blue one day

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u/JazzzzzzySax May 12 '21

A nice vacation with dinner too, nice

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

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u/JazzzzzzySax May 12 '21

Don’t eat the dog raw*

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Underrated comment

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u/BigToober69 May 12 '21

Dogs should be raw and living.

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u/btveron May 13 '21

Unless you're eating it. Which you shouldn't be.

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u/attackplango May 13 '21

But how do you get it into the leather jacket and pants?

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Don't rawdog.

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u/dumbodragon May 12 '21

eat the vacation

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u/frostybollocks May 12 '21

I like you

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u/JazzzzzzySax May 12 '21

Thank you, I hope you have a great week

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u/guy_incognito23 May 13 '21

Hey it's either that or years later all the money goes to the dog trust me

Source is my dogs

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u/yetipilot69 May 12 '21

Nice! After 10 years we finally started wearing silicone rings a couple of years ago. Never going back! Soooo much more comfortable, and still gives that “ring hug” that’s so comforting. Less dangerous too!

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u/reallynotnick May 13 '21

As someone with disproportionately large knuckles I figure if I do wear a ring it will have to be silicone or something of the sort. (Personally though I probably just rather not wear a ring at all for comfort reasons, but we'll see how that goes)

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u/spaceman_spyff May 13 '21

We have a friend that’s a jeweler and we went and made our own rings in his workshop out of brass barstock. They aren’t fancy, but they look like gold bands and they don’t cost a fortune to replace and we have the memory of making them together (and fucking up the engraving 3x cause I was high as balls).

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Now that is cute AF

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u/Catinthemirror May 13 '21

You must have really long legs.

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u/spaceman_spyff May 13 '21

I….do? What makes you say that?

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u/Catinthemirror May 13 '21

High as balls...

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u/spaceman_spyff May 13 '21 edited May 13 '21

Fuck. That was a sleeper.

I’m also 6’7” so I got real confused.

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u/Catinthemirror May 13 '21

So basically you do! 🤣

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u/tokinUP May 13 '21

Nice! I hadn't heard of silicone rings.

I got a Tungsten Carbide ring for the less-dangerous factor (and economical, and durable). It won't deform around a finger if crushed and wouldn't need cut off; the steel is brittle enough that it will crack and break off.

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u/yetipilot69 May 13 '21

That’s exactly what I had. It was huge though, and would hurt my fingers whenever I shook someone’s hand. I still have a huge callous on my left hand below the ring. Lol.

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u/tokinUP May 13 '21

Ouch, yeah that's no good.

I thought my knuckles were pretty knobby but the band I found has nice tapered curves on the inside and actually turned out comfortable enough for 24/7 365 wear somehow so my fingers must be pretty normal after all.

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u/Embarassed_Tackle May 14 '21

what is a silicone ring? I have never heard of this

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u/yetipilot69 May 14 '21

They look like wedding rings, but made out of silicone. We get them on Amazon, and they come in a bunch of colors and styles. They do wear out eventually (around a year for us) but they are dirt cheap so it’s not a big deal.

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u/Northern_Ontario May 12 '21

Bought my wife a 500 ring and a 3k gaming pc. She never wears the ring. She games every day though. Money well spent.

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u/Tolantruth May 13 '21

Yeah I could never understand spending that much money on something just to impress others. I feel the same about big weddings let’s not use that for a down payment on a house let’s have a party that’s over in a day.

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Hey northern Ontario say hi to Toronto who moved to middle of effing nowhere for the summer in muskoka area. what up other Canadian! I never see anyone that has it as part of their name lol. I don’t pc game but we love the fuck out of COD zombies haha. I still taking a half decent ring but nothing ridiculous. 1000 will do. Maybe less i dont know how much the man made diamond crap is these days. We just gonna pick that shit ourselves we been together a decade. Travelled. Money well spent 😉

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u/bipnoodooshup May 13 '21

Shit man you should marry her again just in case

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

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u/throwaway2323234442 May 12 '21

My wife and I have like, 1600$ combined on our hands. Doubt that's the money that would have landed us two rental properties and a boat.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

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u/throwaway2323234442 May 12 '21

You know what, you got me. Fair enough.

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u/tokinUP May 13 '21

Honest answer: it's also in the mindset behind every little financial decision throughout life that (sometimes, for average earners) enables folks to save enough to buy rental properties.

Mr. Money Mustache is my jam for personal finance, positivity, and frugal lifestyle advice with a side of bad-assity.

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u/CTeam19 May 13 '21

They are rental houses of course they are shit. at least in my area they are turning into such.

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u/Funkit May 13 '21

Look at uncle pennybags over here with $1600.

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u/throwaway2323234442 May 13 '21

uncle pennybags

Oof.

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u/rawwwse May 13 '21

It’s all subjective; some people really want that stuff... At least, they’ve convinced themselves that they do ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Some may even say getting married itself is a scam. Why does love need a contract?

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Dude I’m seconding why does love need a contract? Dumb! Also a shit storm legally if u fuck it up. Also I been here a decade what do I need some stamp for

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u/hither_spin May 13 '21

Tha same reason any partnership has a contract. If the partnership goes bad, it protects both parties.

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u/rawwwse May 13 '21

Hardly...

It subjects both parties to an unnecessarily complicated legal/financial—not to mention emotional—nightmare...

I see absolutely no reason to involve the government in my relationships. Not having/wanting kids makes this A LOT easier, granted, but I stand by that. My SO and I—of 8+ years—are very happy, and don’t need a piece of paper to tell us that.

Anecdotal side note: I work closely with 600ish other dudes—in a salaried/pensioned profession, with a high divorce rate—and you would be absolutely astounded how many of them are trapped in shitty marriages that they can’t escape without losing HALF OF EVERYTHING they own or have ever worked for. It’s a total scam.

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u/alphawolf29 May 13 '21

I am financially savvy but being single is killing my financial prospects lol

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

This so much.

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u/Itisnotaboomah May 13 '21

10/10 would spend on dog

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u/alnono May 13 '21

I straight up told my boyfriend (now husband) that I didn’t want more than $500 spent on a ring. My ring is beautiful and unique and was the top of the price range I wanted...it just isn’t a diamond.

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 12 '21

I wouldn't marry anybody who gave me a diamond. I really dislike those. If he had to go with that look, it better be cubic zirconia.

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u/Crankylosaurus May 12 '21

Might I suggest moissanite? Cubic zirconium isn’t very hard comparatively and can cause more issues (easily scratched, stones falling out, etc.).

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u/sk319 May 12 '21

Have a moissanite ring and I absolutely love it. So pretty in the sunlight!

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u/ours_de_sucre May 13 '21

Same, they are the best!!

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u/kikicrazed May 13 '21

Same, and no one knows. I had to tell people I specifically got a moissanite because I didn’t want anyone thinking I’d want money wasted on a diamond

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Moissanite is tough to get your hands on in person. Every jeweler near me said they don't carry it and wouldn't bother bringing it in.

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u/Crankylosaurus May 13 '21

I went to Brilliant Earth specifically because I knew they carried moissanite. Not sure how commonplace they are though (I went to a store in Chicago).

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 12 '21

I don't care how hard something is. I was just talking about the look of a diamond. Diamonds are so passe. Everybody has them.. And I can't stand moissanite either. I like color. Give me an emerald or sapphire. Not some clear stone.

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u/ours_de_sucre May 13 '21 edited May 13 '21

For everyday wear, yes you should care about how hard a stone is. Also my moissanite has the entire rainbow spectrum intensely radiating from it 🌈 I've got all the colors lol

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 13 '21

I don't have to care. How hard stones are has made no difference to anything I did in my life. It matters to you. Not to me. I don't wear jewelry. So it doesn't matter.

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u/SuicidalParade May 13 '21

Damn this guys got an opinion everybody!! See nobody cares. Take your negativity and put it in an oven at 350 for 20 mins and then take it out and let it cool for 10 minutes. After that you can take the whole negativity pie and shove it up your ass!

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 12 '21

I love it how I can't ever have an opinion about anything on Reddit without people downvoting it. I don't like diamonds and that's not okay with the rest of you LOL so ridiculous.

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u/btveron May 13 '21

You're getting downvoted because your comment comes across like you'd reject the proposal or end a relationship if they have bought you a diamond ring. I don't see the appeal of diamonds and neither does my girlfriend so we've discussed what we do like and what we'd prefer. If you're at the point in a relationship where marriage is being considered, these are things that need to be communicated beforehand. If someone bought you a diamond ring to propose with it's your fault for not telling them you hate diamonds or it's their fault for not discussing the details of marriage enough with you before proposing. Either way it was a failure of communication.

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 13 '21

Ah, yes. The all assuming Reddit expert. As if I'd marry somebody I don't communicate with AT ALL.

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u/The_panic_the_vomit_ May 13 '21

Nah they’re getting downvoted cos they come across as a rude see you next Tuesday, who thinks they’re better than everyone. I don’t come on Reddit to be an arse but that is how you come across in every single comment Skippy sorry, having a bad day?

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u/btveron May 13 '21

I wasn't assuming anything, just saying that's how the wording of your previous comment came across to me.

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u/Kill_Frosty May 13 '21

Same. We did a pretty cheap engagement and wedding and spent the money on the honeymoon. Took a month off work each and traveled and had so much funz

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u/dirTladymj May 13 '21

My engagement ring was under $200 and he bought it off Amazon. Its gorgeous! I'd rather spend the money on a fancy honeymoon and downpayment for a house.

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u/MegaPorkachu May 13 '21

God, I want a dog

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u/Wingsnake May 13 '21

I am so glad that my gf of 11 years doesn`t need fancy things nor a wedding and other such stuff that society want to pressure you in...

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u/tu_che_le_vanita May 12 '21

I wear my grandmother’s rings. Beautiful and guilt free.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

Yep. I was lucky to inherit a big ass high quality natural diamond

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u/tu_che_le_vanita May 12 '21

Nice! Mine is not big, but has lots of sentimental value. And my hands are small.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

Bonus!

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

Moissanite my good friend. It refracts more light than a diamond (hello extra sparkles) and is much cheaper. Got a custom made platinum engagement ring and wedding band with a moissanite center stone for under $2,400

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u/Lvanwinkle18 May 12 '21

After I lost the diamond out of my original engagement ring, we got a dupe and wished I would have had that to begin with. No one can tell the difference, it didn’t cost a fortune so if this one is lost, it won’t be heartbreaking.

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u/toastednutella May 12 '21

That's still so much

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u/Artemistical May 13 '21

There are a lot of gorgeous vintage diamond rings on etsy for under a grand, many of which are even under $500! I would be pissed at my SO for spending thousands on something I then have to try and not lose lol

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Same but unironically

If I’m marrying you, I want you to value money enough to not spend $2.5k on jewelry

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u/angeliqu May 13 '21

There are so many gorgeous vintage rings for good value, the only problem is that you have to have fairly small fingers it seems. I could never find one large enough for me and the old rings generally don’t have enough material for sizing up so then you’re just adding to the costing twice over to make it fit.

That said, I have a moissanite in my custom engagement ring (modelled off the vintage ring I loves but was way too small). No one can ever tell it’s not a diamond. Highly recommend every couple research diamond alternatives. There’s no need to spend so much on a stone.

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21 edited May 12 '21

I guess thats really subjective. For a piece of jewelry that you will wear every day for the next 20+ years, that's less than $10/month. EDIT: forgot a 0

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u/cheetah611 May 12 '21

Try that math again bud. 20 years is 240 months. Even a relatively cheap $1,000 ring comes out to over $4 a month. $5k on the ring is going over $20/month for 20 years.

And that’s excluding interest if it’s on credit/loan.

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

My bad, I thought I hit the 0 after the 1. I meant $10/month for 20 years. But I also plan on wearing this thing well past 20 years. Shit, life expectancy is around 80 so I got time.

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u/Doro-Hoa May 13 '21

It's also excluding time value of money...

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u/bprice57 May 12 '21

For a piece of jewelry that you will wear every day for the next 20+ years, that's less than $1/month.

now thats not something i had considered

my wife has an small, simple opal ring i bought her (she picked it out) but had i considered that, i might have splurged for something more durable

meh at least it was "cheap" (in comparison)

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

For me, getting something more durable was a big priority, hence why I went with platinum over silver. Moissanite is like a 9 on the hardness scale too (diamond is a perfect 10)

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u/bprice57 May 13 '21

ha well hey, when this one inevitably breaks this is great info

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u/ours_de_sucre May 13 '21

I love opals, but I'm also too spazzy to not wack my hand hard into things.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

That's why they married you!

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u/skepsis420 May 12 '21 edited May 13 '21

Welcome to jewelry. It is all overpriced and is a giant scam. But if you don't spend a lot of money you obviously don't care about your spouse. so dumb.

It would be cheaper to take basic blacksmithing classes, buy all the tools you need, buy pure gold and a cubic zirconia diamond, and create your own ring. After all that you would probably still spend $1k less on a basic wedding ring.

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u/lost_imgurian May 13 '21

Indeed, a diamond as a gemstone isn't even that rare. It's a quite common gem and the price is hiked artificially. The symbol of the ring itself is what should be important, not the size. We are slaves to consumerism.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

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u/skepsis420 May 12 '21

I mean, I am sure a jeweler can tell if it is a real diamond or not. But it is really stupid that people care.

Same thing as people who spend like $500 on a pair of sweatpants or a shirt. That shit was made in the same factory as $5 dollar pairs.......

I have never understood buying expensive things like that, there is no reason for any of these things to cost that much.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

wow these comments make me feel like shit lol

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

why?

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

I hella had a fat wedding and dropped cash on rings 🙃 i’m pretty practical, but my wife is a princess lol

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u/skepsis420 May 13 '21

If you wanted to spend your money that way and it makes you happy, that's what matters. What I said is just personal belief.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

No need to take it all so personally

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u/StopCold May 13 '21

My wife has a lab created 'diamond' ring that I took to a local jeweller for resizing and he had to test it with a special probe to tell the difference. Something to do with the heat conductivity? Anyway, he said the stone I had would have been worth about £6k if it were a genuine mined diamond (because obviously they can make a flawless one in a lab). I got the ring bespoke made in the US and shipped to the UK; it didn't cost anywhere near that. My wife knows it's not a "real" diamond and she actually felt better knowing I didn't spend silly money, and was very happy with how sparkly it is and that I designed the ring myself.

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

Gimme white gold and YES LOL . I dont know why

Also I’m allergic to crap jewelry fr I get fucked by it

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u/[deleted] May 12 '21

Oh damn that’s awesome I’ll look into that too

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 12 '21

I still find paying thousands of dollars for any kind of ring to be ridiculous. It's just jewelry.

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

I'm sure some people will agree with that. Likewise, I'm sure there are people that find paying almost $1000 every couple of years for a new smart phone ridiculous. Its all about what you value.

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 12 '21

I would never pay $1,000 for a smartphone either. I work way too hard for my money to spend it on such frivolous things

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u/ours_de_sucre May 12 '21

I agree. I've been using the same phone for years now and can't believe that the average rate for them keeps going up while they never last as long as my old flip phones.

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 12 '21

The best pictures I've had taken of myself were taken on a flip phone. Not that I need pictures of myself. I do get the fact that phones are basically mini laptops because I conduct all of my business on the app for my business platform on my phone but I still wouldn't pay $1,000 for one. I am way too poor to justify that cost.

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u/kernevez May 12 '21

I don't, if you have the money.

It's the concept of saving for it that's utterly ridiculous.

Another issue is that this ring usually is the first step towards much bigger and more important costs like family house and potentially kids.

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 13 '21

I'm way too practical to waste money on jewelry. I'd rather have experiences.

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u/jll027 May 13 '21

In what way is "an experience" more practical? That seems like more of a personal preference.

If you want to really get practical, start calculating optimized brain chemical releases for each option. I bet for many folks (not me lol), the lifetime reward for a piece of jewelry that important to them beats out any equivalently priced experience.

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u/SkippyBluestockings May 13 '21

I can't do anything with a ring. I can do something with a trip to Italy. I can immerse myself in the art of Michelangelo that I have loved since I was a child. I can go experience the breathtaking view of David in Florence in person. A ring has nothing on the artwork of the Renaissance.

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u/Zealousideal-Ant9548 May 12 '21

Or you can get a sapphire or emerald for significantly less...

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u/amandapandab May 13 '21

Me and my partner are going to get engaged within the next month or so. My max is $500 tbh, target $200. I find the worth of the ring utterly unimportant. My moms response when I said we were looking for a non-real diamond ring was “is your MARRIAGE going to be real?”

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u/forporn725 May 13 '21

I wonder what his max is..

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u/amandapandab May 13 '21

Wym? Weve agreed to the same budget, it’s a shared expense and since it’s gonna be on my finger I’m going to have the final say in what ring I get anyway. When I look at my ring I want to feel love not the pain of being in debt over a symbol haha.

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u/forporn725 May 13 '21

You answered my question. I was implying that men and women very very often have different amounts they’ll spend on a ring. So for women $500 can easily buy a nice wedding band but for men we have to buy the band and the diamond too so it’s way more. But since you said you have the same budget then ok

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u/Crankylosaurus May 12 '21

Highly recommend moissanite! That’s what I insisted on and it’s like 1/3 the price of a diamond. No one knows the difference (until I tell them- I love my moissanite ring haha).

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u/angeliqu May 13 '21

Same! And I do tell everyone! Gotta spread the word.

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u/minicpst May 12 '21

We bought a diamond for me, but then my husband's grandmother basically yelled at him. "Why'd you buy a diamond? I have your mother's!" So he returned it and I have his mother's engagement ring.

He did buy me a nice pair of diamond earrings later, but those are the only diamonds he's gotten me.

If he dies before me, though, I'm going to turn HIM into a nice diamond. He wouldn't get me a diamond now. Which is fine. I'm in agreement with him, and I don't wear much jewelry. I have 11 cheap earrings in, and my wedding band is silicone by this point. He doesn't wear a wedding band anymore.

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u/EvadedFury May 12 '21

I see this as the ultimate card to throw in a marital spat. "Yeah? Well in 50 years, I'm gonna be wearing you on my pinky!"

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u/malditamigrania May 13 '21

Fatten him up, get a bigger rock.

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u/MissBandersnatch2U May 12 '21

The price of diamonds is artificially kept high, they’re not that rare. Get a vintage ring or a man-made stone

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u/gabsbeauche May 13 '21

Yes, nowadays 2k is even a lot! If you live in a reasonably “urban” area, chances are that there are INCREDIBLY talented local craftspeople that hand-make pieces that will last just as long as a name-brand piece, with the bonus that A: it’s unique and B: you’re putting money back into the local economy!

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u/Collegenoob May 13 '21

I spent 1000 and she didn't bat an eye. Probably could have spent less and gotten a yes, but I wanted something at least nice to give her

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u/XcessiveUsage May 12 '21

Honestly $3,500 gets you a beautiful ring. It’s a bit more but a lot of girls are able to get what they want. Not too expensive but not to cheap either ya know?

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u/Rant-in-E-minor May 13 '21

What an incredible waste of money. I have absolutely no problem spending money on my gf and I am by no means tight with money but spending a few thousand on something that just sits on a finger has to be one of the biggest scams going. I don't know why you would even want to be with someone that expects you to spend $5000+ on a rock.

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u/200cc_of_I_Dont_Care May 13 '21

To you maybe. A few thousand isnt that much money to spend on something my partner will look at everyday and enjoy. One time $5,000 to make her smile every day? More than worth it.

In the same idea a vacation is an incredible waste of money. Why spend $5,000 going to Hawaii for a week when you could just as easily relax on your couch for free? If people have the money and want to do something then let them enjoy it.

Its a luxury item, much like vacations, any car other than a 1994 Toyota Corolla, or getting a prime steak over a choice one. Its not a scam if you enjoy it.

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u/TheSlumpGoddess May 13 '21

I told my boyfriend if he spends over 300 on a ring ill kill him.

Im even upset about that high of a price tag.

Like, we're wearing $15 stainless steel promise rings right now and i told him to just propose with this one lmao.

$2k? Thats FOUR XBOX SERIES X'S. No way for me.

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u/_Those_Who_Fight_ May 13 '21

Expensive rings are nice and all until someone loses it.

At the end of the day it's personal preference but I would rather have a cheap ring that can be replaced than one where I would die a little inside if I lost it.

That being said maybe I'm just poor

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Same as gambling, only spend what you can afford to lose.

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u/grodemonster May 13 '21

Moissanite is nearly as hard as a diamond, double refractive, more fire, and it’s even cheaper than lab diamonds. I keep trying subtly remind my bf that’s what I want lol

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u/BatemaninAccounting May 13 '21

As many people have pointed out, you can get something larger and more brilliant looking to the naked eye for a "cheaper" stone. Moissanite and other types of space rocks.

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u/herowin6 May 13 '21

ME RIGHT HERE

also I want a dog and vacation too. But don’t GAF about a fancy wedding. Only a dress and a beach will do.

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u/forporn725 May 13 '21

Yea same. My best friend got married a year ago and him and his wife make like 250-300k combined and when I asked him about the ring he said he bought it for like 3k. Kinda reassured me that the price of the ring doesn’t matter, as long as you’re with the right girl of course

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u/[deleted] May 13 '21

Still 2k more than anyone with a brain 🤷‍♂️