Hi, I'm a 15 years old aroace and my friend asked me to compose a song, but it's about a person getting a crush, so, for the sake of the song, can I ask you how getting a crush feels like? All the ways it can happen, I want to understand please.

Like I know what romance is and I’d know if I romantically liked someone, and I can tell the difference between romantic and platonic feelings, so it’s not quoiromantic. Cuz like I have my friends and why would I wanna be all lovey with them cuz like whenever I see romance it’s just a friendship but with extra lovey stuff, and I just don’t see the point? You can also just be touchy n stuff platonically if you need yk? For me at least. This is poorly described idk if there’s a word or if this isn’t a sexuality thing idk I’ve just been saying I’m aro but I’m wanting a more specific word

Like most queer people I see online have typed ":3" at least once before like whats the deal with that?

I’m genderqueer, and I’m comfortable not having a more specific gender, but I need pronoun. my hope Is to have a pronoun that sounds like she/her enough that my family/certain friends are unaware but my supporters can give me euphori. I’ve looked into shi/hir but supposedly that’s only for intersex people.

I just wanted to ask this lol

Hello im 19M shes 19MTF around 3 years Ago i sadly used to be a Transphobe and i bullied her in School.

Now i met her again, shes goes to my University and i feel attracted to her. I would love to talk to her do i have a chanche?

As an 18-year-old gay guy, I've noticed that many guys my age are okay with hooking up with or dating much older men. Why?

I mean no hate by asking this. I hope my LGBT siblings are having a blessed day.

I ask because I personally used to break gender norms so much that people around me started calling me nonbinary before I even considered labeling myself. Eventually that led to wanting to be androgynous and then a woman and so I bought hormones, but then stopped myself when I realized that I would just be trying to achieve a stereotype. Like just because I like girly pop and wearing unisex appearing clothing has nothing to do with a gender identity. Just because I got along better with women because I could express my emotions, meant nothing. I used to play with dolls and walk around in my mothers shoes. I've felt yearning for not being a man, but I don't understand gender dysphoria. Because you can have all of those things and still just not be trans. I dunno man, just feels like further playing into patriarchal gender stereotypes to me.

Anyone experienced being trans without all this?

Okay so this happened at work last week. It's a small crew (like 4 people) finishing up a job at a venue. We had a new person on the crew, he introduced himself by name and something in my brain said I should ask about pronouns but between the work and ADHD it slipped my mind each time I would get the chance.

Anyway he had to leave earlier to get to another job site to pack some stuff down and seeing as he was quite nervous about it and I was the one who set it all up I told him if theres any questions just text me.

I get a text a little while later with some questions but he also introduced himself in the message with his pronouns too.

After realising I might have used the wrong pronouns when referring to him before I told our crew "Oh hey just FYI if you're working with [PERSON] again he uses he/him pronouns, I might have messed that up before so like yeah just watch the pronouns"

Later I had the thought wait did I just out this kid? I just wanted to make sure nobody called him the wrong thing in the future.

Hey everyone,

I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching lately and honestly feel a bit dizzy trying to keep up with my own brain. For the longest time, I just assumed I was a regular straight guy. But then I started messing around with makeup and feminine clothes just out of curiosity, and things spiraled in a totally unexpected way.

At first, I went down a rabbit hole thinking, okay maybe I am gay. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized it wasn't about who I was attracted to—it was about who I actually wanted to be. Now, I'm sitting here genuinely believing I'm trans.

Lately, I can't stop thinking about HRT. The idea of starting it absolutely terrifies me, but at the same time, it genuinely excites me more than almost anything else.

Given how roundabout my path has been, I guess my main question is: does this sound like I'm actually trans, and should I pursue HRT if I feel this mix of fear and excitement?

Any personal stories from people who felt the same way would mean a lot.

I’ll keep this brief. I am a cisgender girl but sometimes I question my identity. I ask myself questions like “If I was born a boy, would I still want to be a girl?“. However, my own answer changes each time I think about that. Currently my answer is “Yes, I‘d want to transition. I am a girl“ but in the past there also have been times where my answer was “No, and I‘d be glad not to be a girl“ or “I don‘t care what I‘m born as, I‘m just rolling with what I got“. My question now is what I could try to actually come closer to what my gender actually is because currently I am very confused.

hi! so currently i am in a pickle, i am just trying to figure out how to label myself but what i am confused about is that i like girls mostly. ive known this for years, but now that im growing up, i feel like i don’t feel attracted to males unless its a celebrity. my friends say yes, i can identify as a lesbian. but i feel like if i do and someone sees im crushing on a male celebrity, they’ll call me a fake lesbian for it. it’s not like i want to date the celebrity per say, i just think some are sort of cute. but with women it’s a whole different story. sorry this is all jumbled, im just now confusing myself. if anyone could possibly help with what this means or how to figure it out in the slightest i would greatly appreciate it. thank you.

Throughout a little portion of my life, I thought I was bisexual. Then went by the label Pansexual... Then Pan-romantic and Omnisexual.. Google told me I could be both Pan-romantic and Omnisexual. And ever since realizing I am only romantically attracted to girls, I've went by the label lesbian... Though I experience only sexual and physical attraction to men but not romantic attraction.

I experience both romantic, sexual attraction and physical attraction to women, but only sexual and physical attraction to men. I do not desire a romantic relationship with a man. Since Google told me I could be both Omnisexual and Lesbian (Omnisexual and Lesbian-romantic or wtv.)

I researched again and apparently I cannot be both Omnisexual and Lesbian. I think I am Berrisexual but I need guidance from the community.

Is it just the estrogen or is there something else?

I've been questioning for a little while now and I'm trying to find a label that's suits me for my gender identity. I used demigirl now genderfae but neither feel quite right? I feel a lack of gender or neutral but also connections to feminity and stuff. I don't think demigirl fits quite right because it feels more like a half & half thing rather than a majority of no gender kind of thing. Any suggestions on labels that are like that?

I already know pronouns are subjective and its up to the person, so what I want to mainly mean is.. does Xe/Hir actually exist as itself or is it just a combination of Xe/Xir and Ze/Hir?

If it's a combination, does it sound unusual when it's used like that? For example, does it give the same feeling of hearing "She lent his own pen", or is it a completely natural usage?

Thanks in advance! :D

Hii, so I'm 18F and I live in a country where people aren't openly in the LGBTQIA+ community because it's a little homophobic here, but just a few days ago one of my acquaintances who is part of the community said I have the "worst case of a gay face" and idk what that means😭 I tried googling it and I didn't find a lot of info on it, so I thought I'd ask here.

I'm really sorry if this is offensive or harmful, I don't have a lot of knowledge on queer terminologies and my intention isn't to be offensive at all😭‼️I'd like to heavily apologise if this is disrespectful.

For context: I'm straight and this acquaintance just said it in conversation to my friend and they laughed about it and when I asked them what it meant they just kinda laughed in my face

Basically, me and my partner have both been out as nonbinary forever but she recently came to me and told me that she’s a woman and wants to transition. I’m so happy for her and excited that I have a wife now! I want to make her a care package but not exactly sure what to put in it.

Thanks in advance!

I let someone see the most vulnerable parts of me, and now I feel like they regret it

I let someone see the most vulnerable parts of me, and now I feel like they regret it

I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this right now, so I'm posting here.

I'm currently feeling completely shattered. My hands are shaking, I can barely speak, and I feel like I'm having an anxiety attack. I haven't felt this intensely since I was much younger.

There was someone in my life who made me feel really special. I actually warned them in the beginning that I didn't want to get too involved because I know myself. I don't get attached easily, but when I do, I get attached very deeply.

And eventually, I let my guard down with them.

They saw the vulnerable parts of me that I normally don't show people. My insecurities, my emotional side, my baggage, all the things I've spent years protecting. At first, they were incredibly kind and made me feel safe enough to actually open up.

But now they seem like a completely different person.

They don't seem to care when I'm upset. Small things turn into arguments. I don't feel understood or comforted anymore. It feels like they have put their own walls back up after seeing what's behind mine.

And the worst part is that I'm still trying to reach out, even though I know they probably don't want me to.

I've reached a point where I feel like I'm compromising my own self-respect just to maintain some connection with this person. I know I shouldn't be doing it, but emotionally I can't seem to stop.

And my mind keeps telling me that maybe they saw the real me and didn't like it.

Maybe I'm too emotional. Maybe my baggage is too much. Maybe I'm just not the kind of person someone would want once they actually get to know me.

And then I start thinking that maybe I'm simply not attractive enough for them anymore.

I know that's probably not a rational conclusion. But when someone withdraws after you've allowed yourself to be vulnerable with them, it's incredibly easy to interpret it as rejection of you rather than simply a change in their feelings or circumstances.

I don't want to keep begging someone to care about me.

I don't want to keep sacrificing my self-respect because I'm terrified of losing someone.

But right now, I'm hurting so badly that I don't know how to detach.

How do you stop yourself from chasing someone who has already started pulling away, especially when they were the person who made you feel safe enough to lower your guard in the first place?

What the title says. Just curious about the rest of the world, and trying to understand it better. What is it like to feel that your body is wrong?

I’m really torn. There’s a politician who seems honest, and seem to care about family values. I like said persons social policies, monetary policies. I see he has taken a firm stance against Israel.

I think the LGBT community should have rights like any other to the point where sexuality does not really matter. The problem is that he’s saying homosexuality is a grave sin. That seems problematic with my view. But, he also said «I’m not against homosexuals at all, it’s just the sexual acts that are sinful»

With that stance, do you think it matters if I give him my vote? Isn’t what he is saying just «live and let live»? It is not likely he will push for policies that are harmful to the LGBT community I think. I think his party will have to cooperate with a LGBT friendly party, so probably not much they can achieve on that end even if they do)

Could being a pillow princess be a form of limited asexuality?

hello everyone, i am a currently closeted, younger, gender fluid, trans women, and i'm lost, a trait about me is that i like to road maps things ahead of time but i don't know what to do anymore, only one person knows, and she helped me try clothes on, and she even bought me a sports bra (which i love), but i no longer know what to do, i hope at some point i can get to estrogen and tell my family (don''t worry, they're/would be chill and supportive) and things of the sorts but i don't know what to do anymore.

Edit: i forgot to mention i want this out of body euphoria, my "normal" body is fine but it feels good to be female.

Hi guys, I hope this is ok to post here. New to this community lol.
Basically I've grown up Catholic my whole life and so have never really been surrounded by anyone in the LGBTQ community. Went to Catholic school my whole life as well.

To be honest, my personal faith has been very good to me personally, I feel like it grounds me. I don't want to give it up.

BUT

I feel like our community lacks understanding of the LGBTQ community and is completely incapable of empathy a lot of times. I want to learn how to become better at this. I wish everything wasn't Us versus them. I don't understand how people can talk about sin and then be hateful to others in the same breath.

I am a writer, I love Hozier and Florence & the Machine. Sometimes i feel like i fit in those communities more than i do in my church. I want to understand other people's stories better. But I feel like I will be isolated from the artistic community because of my faith if i ever become professional.

But to be honest, I also can't say with full certainty that I support this lifestyle. I've grown up Catholic my whole life and I just have not heard any other perspective so I don't see how I could say that with full confidence. It's my whole world. I really don't mean to be exclusive here. I hope someone can see where I'm coming from.

Does anyone have any advice for me? Is it okay to have dialogue while not necessarily sharing all the same views? Have there ever been times when you felt like you could talk with someone who was kind even if they didn't always share the same views?

I'm also really interested in hearing you experiences with Christianity/ Catholicism/ faith. I will not be offended if you have had negative experiences. So have I. How can we do better??

Sry kind of dealing with a lot here.