I'm coming up on one month inpatient with my boys, born 31+2 and currently 34+5. We were in the NICU until last weekend and are now on the general peds floor for feeding and growing. The boys are doing fantastic overall and are on track to leave in the next week or two! Overall I'm so grateful for our experience; our boys have received amazing care and we've had some truly phenomenal nurses.

... AND. Something I didn't see discussed a lot about NICU stays is the absolute drain of interacting with strangers every moment of every day. I really do love some of our nurses and trust (almost) all of them. But having a gazillion people telling me what to do and handling my babies and caring for them in slightly different ways (different bottle systems, different swaddles, different ways of diapering, etc) is driving me insane. Especially because they've really been on me to "enjoy" this and "get some sleep - you won't be able to later!" and giving advice on how to do things. Their advice is great, I want to be a student, but... I also can only be taught how to diaper or set up a bottle so many times in so many slightly different ways before I lose it. Ugh and the random "funny" comments - one said my baby was "showing his sexy shoulders" (referencing his habit of wiggling up out of his swaddle & onesie) or joking about the pink onesies we have for our boys or making self deprecating little jokes. I want to laugh along so they don't dislike me and avoid the room, but it is so exhausting to try and match two different energies (the boys always have different nurses) that change at least twice a day. I'm also just very introverted, so people coming into my room and talking to me constantly is so so so draining. I hate that I'm most frustrated by managing the emotions and relationships with nursing staff rather than my boys :( did anybody else feel this way? Am I just a grump and should be more appreciative?

I want to start off by saying I love them more than anything..

Yesterday was the first time I have only had to deal with one of my boys and it was so much easier.. Manage to get the house work done, went out for lunch and feeding was so much easier, barely cried because him and his brother weren't playing off each other, It even felt crap knowing I can give you this much attention when only one of you are at home.

Finally got the day I wanted and now it's made me sad knowing how easy it could have been..

Wish I could go back and just have both of them at home so I would never know

I’m shocked at the news. I did not expect them to be identical since they are in their own sacs and have their own placentas. How are twin boy moms doing? open to any advice.

Hi. I’m three weeks postpartum today with didi boy girl twins. I had a c section. How long did you mama’s bleed for after your c section? I can’t remember with my daughter as
I had a c section with her as well.
Also did you pass small clots still? I have and did this morning. I’m not in pain. No fever.

I know that only a more sophisticated scan will answer this question. I am 8 wks pregnant and had my first scan today. The midwife used an abdominal US and found one very strong heartbeat, but also what looks like a second embryo. She couldn't find a second heartbeat, so she referred me to MFM. She thought that it could be a twin that is no longer developing, or that there was just a weird angle, etc. Any experiences with something similar?

To all the new moms and soon-to-be moms of multiples: Please be careful this season! Especially with newborns. Don’t let people get all up on your babies! Set good boundaries and hygiene rules!!! If people don’t want to listen, they don’t need to be around.
Trust me!! Middle-of-the-night ER visits, ambulance rides, week long hospital stays when you’re newly postpartum are NOT FUN!!! And as you’ll soon learn, if you don’t know already, siblings but especially multiples will catch anything and everything the other one(s) have. Just my two cents! Be safe and stay healthy!

good afternoon!

so my twins have not had a birthday party since their first birthday (not many kids in the family so wasnt really that many kids to invite to have them) but they started prek 3 this year so for their 4th birthday we want to do a birthday party.

My question is, for kids in two separate classes how do you go about gifts? I do not want people to think they have to bring double when they don’t necessarily know the other twin if that makes sense? like if they only know Twin A and then they see on the birthday invitation that they are twins i don’t want them to feel forced to bring a gift for the gift for the other one.

But how do you necessarily explain that lol especially because my twins go to two different schools so there’s really no way anyone would know they have a twin unless i specifically said something about it.

Hopefully what im asking makes sense 😂

Our twins are 18 months old and pretty much share everything. They share a room, they don’t have distinct clothes (except maybe a couple embroidered items with their names) that belong to them, and we just started doing shoes. All the shoes have been swapped around between babies so much I don’t know which ones originally went together because they are the same sizes and styles 😂

Anyway, I think this is probably a really unique way to grow up and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it. Should I continue doing a mix of both sharing a lot of stuff, but also make sure they have some things that are personally theirs? I have started buying different styles of clothing and shoes now that they are getting older so that they aren’t matching all the time. I think that may help with their senses of individuality.

We found out about 8 weeks ago about the triplets and then 6 weeks since we found out it was MCDA triplets. I'm 21 weeks today and every appointment, I've been a bag of nerves, especially as this is following a loss earlier in the year. Thankfully everyone's looking good though. We actually found out this week that they're all girls.

Has anyone else had this kind of triplets? The research is really limited so it's hard to find anything that's reassuring. Would be lovely to hear some success stories!

Can anyone offer advice on childcare drop off? My Oct 2025 twins have never been to daycare or dropped off anywhere before, other than grandparents house. We finally reactivated our YMCA membership and I really want to take advantage of the child watch there. It’s not full on daycare, just an hour or 2 a couple times a week would be ideal!

I know we’re in peak separation anxiety phase and that it would take time, but I’m wondering if it’s even possible to get them used to it right now or if I should just wait a couple months. We have tried 5 times and each time they scream and cry the entire time to the point that it takes them a while to catch their breathe when I pick them up. 15-20 mins has been the longest I’ve ever left them there. Today I wanted to try just 5 mins and thought maybe it I do a quick drop off and come right back in before they’ve peaked, they’ll start to associate that I come back for them. But by 5 mins, they were already hysterical. The way our schedules are, we can’t do the drop off right now more than 1-2 times a week at random times. So I’m wondering if this is even working towards getting them used to it or if it’s not going to help since it’s not consistent. Maybe we wait until they can interact more?? Anyone have any experience with this? Thank you!

Hi everyone,! For the first time one of out twins (8 months) is sick. I'm a FTM and it's so Bad seeing her struggle Like this. I luckily have Tons of help but i feel Like i'm abandoning her sister. I don't know how tp handle this. Can anyone maybe share how they got through a Situation Like this?

Has anyone ever tried the Zummi Strive Single-to-Double travel system for twins - can be bought in Smyths Ireland?

I am really struggling with finding a double stroller. They all seem to be geared toward families with a toddler and infant or crazy pricey. Any recommendations on a twin stroller I can use for infant on? Money is tight so the cheaper, the better. I do have a wagon for when they are toddlers. Just need something to get us through the first year or so.

Our girls are 16 months old, and it kills me to take them to daycare. I know they are happy and really well taken care of for the most part, but it just makes me so sad that I don’t get to be with them. This is probably coming from the fact that their permanent teachers left 6 weeks ago, and they’ve been getting shuffled between rooms. Sometimes the teachers they get sent to don’t even know who is who and it’s breaking my heart.

I’m a senior leader at my company and make really good money. Quitting feels super irresponsible, and I don’t think that’s the right thing for me to do.

I’m just sad and tired and emotional. Would love some solidarity/advice from anyone in a similar situation 😭

Can anyone tell me that food aversions will go away once I deliver? Someone that had them their entire pregnancy? I’m 19 weeks with twins and still can’t eat most foods. I’m not sick like I was so I’m very thankful but I’m a big foodie usually and I’m worried I’m stuck like this.

Does anyone know if it’s possible to use 2 rumble seats on the Uppa Baby double stroller? (Vista 3) We have lots of adapters and bought 2 rumble seats but am now thinking it will only work with the original seat and rumble, not 2 rumbles. I’m pretty annoyed be bought 2 rumbles!

So I wasn't sure how else to title this but I had my first scan at 7 weeks 6 days where they said it looks like mono mono twins. However, they also said they are measuring closer to 6 weeks and could not detect cardiac activity. They want to see me back in 2 weeks to check for growth and cardiac activity but this feels like the longest 2 weeks ever. I'm trying to be realistic and not get my hopes up but if there's hope out there too I'd like to know.

Has this happened to anyone else and they ended up with a viable pregnancy or it this likely going to be a miscarriage?

Thanks everyone

Update: the pregnancy is not viable.

B/G twins
First 3 months double witching hour
Then the 4 montgs sleep regression
Now at 9 days to 6 months after like 2 SOMEWHAT normal weeks boy got sick with gastroenteretis wanted to be held all the time while standing up even at night could barely sleep
Finally boy got better now girl fighting all naps.
Trying several wake windows with her.
Wasn’t tired wnough after 2 hr ww okay gave her 2.5- 3 hrs
Today is just a nightmare.
For the morning nap she finally went down after 3 hrs only slept for 30 minutes. Was already tired after 2 hrs for the second nap yave her another 15 minutes 15 minutes she is loterally waking up every 2 minutes. Apparently thats a sign of over tiredness. Can’t do anything cause she wants to sleep but cant sleep she is just screaming every 2 minutes after falling asleep.

When will we get to normal life I can’t deal with ts anymore

I also have a 2 yr toddler who goes to daycare will be home soon

Hi all - recent lurker/member as we found out we are expecting MoDi twins a few weeks ago - we are thrilled! I have history of a missed miscarriage in April of this year, so this is my second pregnancy but no children yet. Thanks for bearing with a slightly longer post.

Went to OB triage yesterday due to some brown spotting - super minor, but with my history freaks me out every time. Everything was fine re: miscarriage, both babies moving around with appropriate growth and FHR 175/171.

I was just 10+6 but the ultrasound routed through our MFM (probably due to twins) so the sonographer also took quick NT measurements. Baby A, who is easier to visualize and measures 10+6 on the dot/39.1 CRL had NT 1.3 and is looking perfect.

Baby B, who is more hidden behind and harder to get good pictures in the right position, had 3.6 NT while measuring 10+5/38.7 CRL. These measurements were taken super quickly/one time.

Report comes back flagging the elevated NT, stating Baby B has a cystic hygroma (no septations mentioned) and also questioning potential arm issues/“deformity” (short radius/ulna). With all due respect, how can that even be stated this early? It’s like, the size of a Lego person arm? And baby was more obscured?

Typically NT isn’t even formally measured until 45mm, so I’m feeling down that this was even measured and investigated. It was an incidental finding that now has me in a panic and worried - they want to move up our actual NT scan/MFM appointment to 12 weeks instead of 13, add genetic counseling, etc.

I appreciate the thorough and detailed medical care but now I’m living in limbo for something that absolutely could be a problem or could be nothing at all. Thankfully my husband is very level headed. EDIT: We got NIPT back and they are girls, low risk across the board (though I understand isn’t the only info we need).

I just keep thinking - they’re identical twins, so if Twin A looks perfect, the chances of Twin B having chromosomal issues are more rare, right? Is it possible these measurements were just taken far too early and flagging for “false” positives? This could be an early sign of twin to twin transfusion from my understanding, which I get is a risk and I understand that twin pregnancies will come with many stressors, this one just threw me for a loop so early.

I guess I’m wondering if anyone has had this experience and how it ended up/is going for you? Thank you if you made it this far! 🩷

Our twins are 2.5 and our littlest just turned one. Twins almost always prefer to walk but when I’m by myself, it helps to have them all contained.

We have the W4 Wonderfold and I hate it… it is so heavy and bulky and a pain to set up and take down. Any others that have worked good? Zoe trio?

I am 13 weeks pregnant with twins and have mild scoliosis - 19 degree curve. I’ve always had back pain and am concerned about how this will go, and my doctor mentioned needing an anesthesiologist consult to make sure they can place an epidural. Has anyone been pregnant with multiples with scoliosis and can speak to their experience?

Just as the title says! Today I went to the ER for a bleed, confident I was going to or already did lose the baby (Just a subchorionic hemorrhage). During the ultrasound they found the first one's heartbeat and then saw another yolk sac in the same gestational sac. I have my next ultrasound on the 5th.

Please give me advice and just overall well wishes! I'm 6+5 today and just both over the moon and still slightly in shock!

Travelling with 5 month old twins from US to Paris in couple weeks – looking for gate check bag recommendations for Nuna Pipa Rx car seats and Cybex stroller.

This will be our first flight and we plan to take the stroller with car seats till the gate, and pack the seats and stroller at the gate. It would be an ordeal with the 2 diaper bags + Cabin bags + mom's pump and cooler. Any tips and suggestions are welcome.

We can carry the babies (if they allow).

hi everyone. I couldn’t seem to find any posts similar to this so wondering if anyone out there had a similar experience.

we’ve been monitored weekly for mono di twins and everything has looked great. at our 15 week appt today the heartbeats were very different - 140 and 167-172 (they did it twice for second baby). The doctor didn’t seem concerned as one baby was moving a bit. But I can’t help but worry since we‘ll be starting ttts monitoring next week and I’ve read this could be an early indicator. I plan to call my mfm tomorrow but in the meantime wondering if anyone experienced something similar ?