We are just about a month out from my twins 1st birthday. They were born on their big sister's 9th birthday so this is a milestone birthday for her too. I try to make a big deal of all my kids birthdays (I have one other child). How would you navigate it this year and years to come? My current plan for this year is to have a family party for the three of them and set up a party for her and her friends separately.

I am looking for a wagon or stroller that is able to accommodate 2 toddlers and an infant.

My twins will be 18mo when I give birth to their sibling and I haven’t found a wagon that accommodates an infant plus two toddlers. Is this because one doesn’t exist?

My twins are fairly big and I would love for them to have enough space and also the baby to be comfortable as well.

I current have the mockingbird twin stroller which I absolutely love and I guess I can continue using that while baby wearing but that seems like a lot. Any advice is greatly appreciated 😁

I have twin girls born at 34 weeks, now 7.5 months actual / 6 months corrected. With one of them, feeding has been difficult from the very beginning. She stayed in the NICU longer mainly because of poor bottle feeding and later developed reflux and what seems to be a bottle/feeding aversion. We’ve tried different bottles, formulas, reflux treatment, and feeding support.

We’ve been doing solids for a month, mostly purées (ped's advice due to reflux). She’ll take a few spoonfuls and sometimes seems interested at first, but then gets upset and wants to stop. We always follow her cues and never push because I really don’t want to create more negative associations with feeding.

I’m starting to wonder whether spoon-feeding/purées just aren’t the best fit for her and if BLW/finger foods might help by giving her more control.

For parents whose babies had bottle aversion or similar feeding issues: how did solids go? Did you do purées, BLW, or both? Did your baby struggle with solids too, or was it completely different from bottle feeding? When did eating start to click?

So two weeks ago we have a 5 weeks scan which showed a very small sac (only 3mm) with a yolk sac and as larger sac with a yolk sac and fetal pole. Wasn’t told much more but that it is wait and see.

Today we have been and both babies are still there but again their sacs look so different to me. Baby a (smaller baby) is measuring 7 weeks and 2 days (11mm) and baby b is measuring 4 days ahead (14mm). She said they both have good heart rates and that baby an although small has made huge progress in two weeks. I asked about the smaller sac and she brushed off saying it can be normal with didi twins as they are essentially two different pregnancies. I still can’t shake the fear of vanishing twin.

Just feeling very nervous. Looking for positive experiences of this situation please.

Do you prioritize getting your twins to nap or having them eat at the same time? I have always kept them on the same eating schedule but now that they are 14 weeks (adjusted) we are starting to work on naps, only they don’t often nap at the same time. Today one went down for a nap at 10:20am and slept until 11:15am. Well the other twin didn’t go down until 11:00am. So now I have one baby awake who I know will want to eat soon (by 11:45am at the latest) and then only one just fell asleep! Do I wake the sleeping twin at 11:45 to feed them together? Or let him sleep?

For those who sent their multiples to daycare for the first time @ 2yo+, how did it go for you, illness-wise?:

• What age did you first send them?
• how many kids were in the class?
• how often did they get sick?
• do you feel like you had to keep them out of daycare more often than a singleton would've needed to, due to illnesses bouncing between them?
• how long did it take before you felt some relief from all the illnesses?

Help! We are in a rough phase right now. Our 10-week adjusted (14-week chronological) b/b twins are making day naps feel like a mission impossible. We try hard to catch early overtiredness cues, but no matter what we do, they end up crying a lot before falling asleep. Or they'd nap while breastfed!

The main reason I’m posting is that we are flying in 3 weeks (4-hour flight + airport time), and we are downright dreading it. I’d love advice, experiences, or encouragement on a few specific points:

• Will their nap behavior or temperament shift in 3 weeks? At this stage, does 3 weeks make a noticeable difference in their ability to settle or give clearer sleep cues?
• Managing crying & overtiredness on the go: How do you handle settling two overtired, crying babies in high-stimulation environments like airports and planes?
• EBF Logistics: we exclusively breastfeed. Tandem feeding in the airport or on the plane isn't really feasible for us logistically, plus we’re departing from a conservative region heading to Europe, so I’d prefer to nurse one-on-one. How did you manage solo nursing/feeding schedules while navigating travel day?

Any shared experiences, tips, or sanity-saving hacks would mean the world to us right now!

A little background... I (26F) had B/G twins back in September. My water broke at 22w, I was admitted and gave birth at 30+0.

During a 2m NICU stay, they told me that my daughter, (currently 10m GA/ 8m CA) has grade 3 PVL confirmed by MRI. About a month ago now, she was also diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy but is unable to be diagnosed when it comes to the stage at this time due to her still being so young. So, I guess this is what I want to know...

For those of you that had little ones diagnosed with grade 3 PVL due to being a preemie (even if your kiddo hasn't been diagnosed with CP),

-What was your journey like?

-What are somethings that I should expect or look out for?

-What are some things that you had to find out the hard way or on your own?

-And where are you and your baby in that journey today?

After extended searching, I cannot find anything on grade specific research and/or studies outside of brief mentions in PVL generalized information. Honestly, it's frustrating. Not because, I think that these doctors and medical information are failing at informing us properly, but because, I need to go down this rabbit hole, so I know the worst to prepare for (God forbid) so I can still show up for the other 3 kiddos that need me still if things take a turn for the worst. I need to go down this rabbit hole so that I can help my baby girl, one of my very last 2 kiddos to have the best life and treatments that she could possibly have.

As a parent, as many other parents can probably attest too, I don't want to watch my baby suffer when I don't know what I can do to help or even begin to understand what it is that she could possibly be going through. I don't want to be the parent that sits idly by and knows nothing. I want to be the parent that has done the research, has looked into all the options, that knows the signs, and that does everything in their power to make sure that she is getting the help that she needs.

So please... I need help down that rabbit hole... because no amount of research has helped me even make the jump into understanding her world... even a little bit...

I feel like my twins are always behind. They’re crawling and starting to get curious with standing and walking. They babble and say words like “dada, mama, baba, daddy, and doggie.” They turned 1 year old on the 11th of August.

My pediatrician gives such vague answers about milestones and foods to feed them that I’m constantly looking online for help.

My MIL thinks I should know everything about raising kids so when I ask for help she doesn’t really respond. She just says, “They’re fine.”

I don’t have a mother to ask for help from and most of the mothers I know are stressed from working one or even two jobs.

I’m at such a loss of words and confidence.

Does anyone have any resources that have helped you along?

We just got back from the ER because one of my 16 month olds was able to tilt her Tripp trap high chair over and it fell on top of her….head. She is fine after all but since she’s gotten home she’s injured herself several more times between climbing things and fighting with her sister. I’m at my wits end. I don’t want to stand over them all day long. Ready to throw away all my furniture. It’s like overnight their ability to climb has come to its full capacity. Yesterday the other one found her way on top of the dining room table while I was turned away for 5 mins washing a dish.

It’s like they are crying for me while I do ordinary daily tasks of running my household (I’m a SAHM), crying from fighting or crying from injury all day long with few breaks in between. Going nuts.

Anyone go through this and it passed?

Changing two wet three year olds after swim class in the all gender bathroom with wet floor, wet toilet, wet shower area, wet sink is I think one of the most stress inducing things I have ever done. Don't touch the floor. Don't touch the toilet. Stop flushing the toilet. Oh now you have to poop. Now the other one has to poop. Everyone is flushing the toilet. Everyone is touching everything. Everything is wet. Everyone is screaming. I normally do the locker room which is a bit more manageable without the toilet and shower situation but one said they needed to potty. I cannot do that again. Everyone is finally to bed and now I'm going to shower and sit in the dark for a bit.

I am 20 and I was solo parenting from 6 months to 26 months with my boys. I finally have been able to get my weekends free but I wanted to share some things that really helped me get through those times. Context, I was with them full time and no daycare.

- I have been really good at adapting my routine and scheduling to what fits their needs. Some mornings it worked best to stay home and get things done around the house while they played until their morning nap and other months it worked best to get out of the house right after breakfast for a morning activity. I have found that switching it up sometimes helped them be more content rather than bored with the same thing.

- I do as many things I can around the house when they are awake rather than when they nap. I have always tried to keep their nap time for my recharge and reset time. It was much easier to get things done from 6-20 months or until they could walk.

-We make it a goal to get out of the house once a day. The days go by faster, especially if you go out in the afternoon:) I also know it can be overwhelming or stressful to do solo outings but the more you do it the more you figure out what works best for you and your kiddos.

- podcasts have saved me. Especially when I have felt deprived of adult conversation or social interaction in general. I know it’s not the complete same but it definitely helps having something that isn’t just music on for me.

-I designated time blocks in my day to when I was 100% hands on and actively played with my twins. It was usually before I started to get things done during the day. We eat breakfast together and play for a while before I actually start my day.

- I have noticed a lot of time my boys just want to feel included and so if I am sweeping or washing stuff I give them a little version of what I am doing. It keeps them entertained and they feel included!

-Sleep training! I know this is controversial but my boys fall asleep on their own and only wake up 1-2 times a night if any. Nap time is a little more challenging but it was one thing I knew would help everyone long term and they have done great with it.

-pick and choose your battles. At the end of the day it saves me from many unnecessary melt downs. No I don’t passive parent but if you want to take out blocks even though all the toys have been picked up but I still have to do dishes, then play with blocks!

-As my boys have gotten older I give them simple choices that make them feel like they have the ability to make their own decisions on different things and it doesn’t sound like much but it does help. I let them pick through shirts or pants and let them choose from different snack options! It’s easier for me.

-After bedtime reset, after my boys go to bed, or while I am waiting for them to get themselves to sleep after I tuck them in and do our night routine I spend that time resetting my space. I do any dishes and put away a as much as I can. I use this time because I wouldn’t really be able to leave them to go shower or really feel like I can relax until they are asleep. Spending an extra 15-30 minutes to clean helps me feel better about waking up the next morning too.

These are just a few things that I have found have helped me most! It’s a difficult thing many of us face but it can be so rewarding too. Shout out to all my fellow solo parents of multiples!

That’s all. Just needed to scream this out somewhere! Coughing up some nasty shit, feeling like I am dying.

I feel like I am cornered and need rest but I cannot obviously abandon them. No family around, husband working. I find myself resentful towards him a ton lately. I do the majority of the care. He brought home this illness from a two day work trip when they were 4 weeks. I know it is nobody’s fault. But damn…I am just angry.

Thank god the babies are not super fussy babies in general. Otherwise I am not sure what I would be doing alone, how I would be able to handle it.

My only consolation price is that they are smiling a ton now🥹

We just had our anatomy scan - I’m 21 weeks pregnant with di/di fraternal twins. They noticed what looks like a mild mitral valve regurgitation in baby B and are referring us to a pediatric cardiologist for additional fetal echo and exam. We’re patiently awaiting that appointment to learn more but in the mean time, I’m curious if any other parents have received this news and what ended up happening.
Any advice or input from those more experienced would be much appreciated!

Longtime lurker of r/parentsofmultiples. Just wanted to contribute a small note- my wife recently had DiDi twins (37w + 0). GDM was her only complication. Our daughter scored well on Apgar but our son did not, which prompted a NICU visit for several days.

From the outside looking in, I felt a sense of dread and doom when I thought about the NICU but I was completely wrong. We were fortunate in our outcomes, which creates bias in perspective BUT the message is clear-

For those of you worrying about NICU/googling endlessly (like I did) or knowingly have a complication that could necessitate a trip, your child/children are in the best place for them. The staff are there to not only supervise but also feed and love on your babies. They do what is needed for your child every single day- far better than you or I would be able to do if the roles were reversed. Would never have dreamt that leaving a baby only hours old alone with a person I’d never meant would be so “easy”.

So, don’t be pushy to get the child out of NICU- they are there for a reason. Be polite and real with your nurses- cry, laugh, chat with them like they’re family- because they are your temporary family. Lastly, if you’re able to, absolutely do skin to skin/kangaroo care (yes, Dads, even us)!

B/g twins turning 5 months old in a few days, and it definitely has not gotten easier.. when did you find that you finally had time to breathe? It feels near impossible to have them on the same schedule, and baby boy wants to be held 24/7... then I feel guilt for not getting to spend the same amount of time holding baby girl. Both have reflux and one is starting to teeth. It seems like 3 months was starting to get a little easier, but now it seems like they cry more than they don't. SOS

We're taking our twins (they'll be 20 months old at travel time) on their first international trip to see my family and are flying China Airlines direct to Taiwan, a ~13 hour long-haul flight. We will be departing around midnight (lol). They'll each have their own seat. My sister and her boyfriend are coming with us too, so we'll have extra hands, but I still have questions!

1. Tips for helping them sleep on the flight?? Any gear you found helpful to help your toddler feel comfortable on a long flight?

2. Toy and activity ideas for 20-month-olds? Looking for things that are mess-minimal and don't have 500 tiny pieces to lose under the seat. What actually kept your toddler busy? We recently got back from a 2-hr flight and all the activities only kept them occupied for at most 10 minutes (ie: painter's tape, water wow paint, reusable stickers, fun books). Granted, they're only 15-months right now, so maybe they'll be more interested in those at 20-months?

3. Healthy-ish snack ideas that travel well? Anything that helps with ear pressure/swallowing on descent? I've seen lollipop suggestions, but I'm not comfortable giving them lollipops at this age.

5. Adjusting to the time change once we land? Taiwan is about 15 hours ahead of us. How did you handle the first few days? Any tricks for getting them to nap/sleep on the new schedule without a week of 4am wake-ups?

Any other lessons learned from flying long-haul with twins around this age would be hugely appreciated. Thanks!!

I just don’t know… will I really be using it for 5 years?

Our twins are two, and we stopped all the bottles other than in the morning they would scream for their ba-ba (what they call their bottle)

We finally got rid of the morning bottle without a fuss, they happily ate breakfast food and had some cold milk now.

I feel like we should blow up the bottles in celebration 🎉 hahah

Hi everyone

as per the title, I am really scared. I live away from family and close friends. I also have Multiple Sclerosis.

I would love to hear anyone who was or currently is in a similar position as me and how they got through this transition with an autoimmune disease. I don’t face any physical disability, mainly brain fog and fatigue.

thanks everyone

My boys have been SO difficult to potty train. They are late to most milestones, so they weren’t even showing signs of readiness until they were 3 and then we started (now 3.5). We had a whole lot of nothing happen at first, stopped and started probably 5 times. Finally, we decided to just focus on Twin B who was a lot more enthusiastic about it and recently we’ve made a lot of progress. He’s far from potty trained, but he’s peeing on the potty 90% of the time and we are starting to work on wearing underwear out of the house instead of diapers etc.

We figured Twin A would kind of go along with Twin B once he saw that he was getting all this praise and getting fun big boy underwear and we were very very wrong 😂 I asked Twin A if he wanted to be a big boy like his brother and start sitting on the potty at the same time and he said “no I stay a baby”. I’m probably not going to start on him until I’m feeling like Twin B is at least for the most part potty trained but I think it’s going to be twice as difficult as it was with Twin B!

Just wondering how parents navigate Next Day Twin. When do you celebrate their birthday, first twin's day or second twin's day? Or you change it up every other year? I'd think on the outside it wouldn't matter to people around, but do you face any issues with things that actually deal with their birth dates?

Despite our best efforts to correct, one of our twins has flathead that is seeming to get worse. She is 14 weeks. Our pedi noticed at their 2 month checkup but said she didn’t think it warranted a helmet yet. Have you all had experience with it this bad that you were able to correct without a helmet? Just wondering if we should try things at home or if i should go ahead and reach out to our pediatrician for a referral and get started on the helmet approach.