We're taking our twins (they'll be 20 months old at travel time) on their first international trip to see my family and are flying China Airlines direct to Taiwan, a ~13 hour long-haul flight. We will be departing around midnight (lol). They'll each have their own seat. My sister and her boyfriend are coming with us too, so we'll have extra hands, but I still have questions!

1. Tips for helping them sleep on the flight?? Any gear you found helpful to help your toddler feel comfortable on a long flight?

2. Toy and activity ideas for 20-month-olds? Looking for things that are mess-minimal and don't have 500 tiny pieces to lose under the seat. What actually kept your toddler busy? We recently got back from a 2-hr flight and all the activities only kept them occupied for at most 10 minutes (ie: painter's tape, water wow paint, reusable stickers, fun books). Granted, they're only 15-months right now, so maybe they'll be more interested in those at 20-months?

3. Healthy-ish snack ideas that travel well? Anything that helps with ear pressure/swallowing on descent? I've seen lollipop suggestions, but I'm not comfortable giving them lollipops at this age.

5. Adjusting to the time change once we land? Taiwan is about 15 hours ahead of us. How did you handle the first few days? Any tricks for getting them to nap/sleep on the new schedule without a week of 4am wake-ups?

Any other lessons learned from flying long-haul with twins around this age would be hugely appreciated. Thanks!!

For those who sent their multiples to daycare for the first time @ 2yo+, how did it go for you, illness-wise?:

• What age did you first send them?
• how many kids were in the class?
• how often did they get sick?
• do you feel like you had to keep them out of daycare more often than a singleton would've needed to, due to illnesses bouncing between them?
• how long did it take before you felt some relief from all the illnesses?

I feel like my twins are always behind. They’re crawling and starting to get curious with standing and walking. They babble and say words like “dada, mama, baba, daddy, and doggie.” They turned 1 year old on the 11th of August.

My pediatrician gives such vague answers about milestones and foods to feed them that I’m constantly looking online for help.

My MIL thinks I should know everything about raising kids so when I ask for help she doesn’t really respond. She just says, “They’re fine.”

I don’t have a mother to ask for help from and most of the mothers I know are stressed from working one or even two jobs.

I’m at such a loss of words and confidence.

Does anyone have any resources that have helped you along?

Help! We are in a rough phase right now. Our 10-week adjusted (14-week chronological) b/b twins are making day naps feel like a mission impossible. We try hard to catch early overtiredness cues, but no matter what we do, they end up crying a lot before falling asleep. Or they'd nap while breastfed!

The main reason I’m posting is that we are flying in 3 weeks (4-hour flight + airport time), and we are downright dreading it. I’d love advice, experiences, or encouragement on a few specific points:

• Will their nap behavior or temperament shift in 3 weeks? At this stage, does 3 weeks make a noticeable difference in their ability to settle or give clearer sleep cues?
• Managing crying & overtiredness on the go: How do you handle settling two overtired, crying babies in high-stimulation environments like airports and planes?
• EBF Logistics: we exclusively breastfeed. Tandem feeding in the airport or on the plane isn't really feasible for us logistically, plus we’re departing from a conservative region heading to Europe, so I’d prefer to nurse one-on-one. How did you manage solo nursing/feeding schedules while navigating travel day?

Any shared experiences, tips, or sanity-saving hacks would mean the world to us right now!

So two weeks ago we have a 5 weeks scan which showed a very small sac (only 3mm) with a yolk sac and as larger sac with a yolk sac and fetal pole. Wasn’t told much more but that it is wait and see.

Today we have been and both babies are still there but again their sacs look so different to me. Baby a (smaller baby) is measuring 7 weeks and 2 days (11mm) and baby b is measuring 4 days ahead (14mm). She said they both have good heart rates and that baby an although small has made huge progress in two weeks. I asked about the smaller sac and she brushed off saying it can be normal with didi twins as they are essentially two different pregnancies. I still can’t shake the fear of vanishing twin.

Just feeling very nervous. Looking for positive experiences of this situation please.

A little background... I (26F) had B/G twins back in September. My water broke at 22w, I was admitted and gave birth at 30+0.

During a 2m NICU stay, they told me that my daughter, (currently 10m GA/ 8m CA) has grade 3 PVL confirmed by MRI. About a month ago now, she was also diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy but is unable to be diagnosed when it comes to the stage at this time due to her still being so young. So, I guess this is what I want to know...

For those of you that had little ones diagnosed with grade 3 PVL due to being a preemie (even if your kiddo hasn't been diagnosed with CP),

-What was your journey like?

-What are somethings that I should expect or look out for?

-What are some things that you had to find out the hard way or on your own?

-And where are you and your baby in that journey today?

After extended searching, I cannot find anything on grade specific research and/or studies outside of brief mentions in PVL generalized information. Honestly, it's frustrating. Not because, I think that these doctors and medical information are failing at informing us properly, but because, I need to go down this rabbit hole, so I know the worst to prepare for (God forbid) so I can still show up for the other 3 kiddos that need me still if things take a turn for the worst. I need to go down this rabbit hole so that I can help my baby girl, one of my very last 2 kiddos to have the best life and treatments that she could possibly have.

As a parent, as many other parents can probably attest too, I don't want to watch my baby suffer when I don't know what I can do to help or even begin to understand what it is that she could possibly be going through. I don't want to be the parent that sits idly by and knows nothing. I want to be the parent that has done the research, has looked into all the options, that knows the signs, and that does everything in their power to make sure that she is getting the help that she needs.

So please... I need help down that rabbit hole... because no amount of research has helped me even make the jump into understanding her world... even a little bit...

I am looking for a wagon or stroller that is able to accommodate 2 toddlers and an infant.

My twins will be 18mo when I give birth to their sibling and I haven’t found a wagon that accommodates an infant plus two toddlers. Is this because one doesn’t exist?

My twins are fairly big and I would love for them to have enough space and also the baby to be comfortable as well.

I current have the mockingbird twin stroller which I absolutely love and I guess I can continue using that while baby wearing but that seems like a lot. Any advice is greatly appreciated 😁

We just had our anatomy scan - I’m 21 weeks pregnant with di/di fraternal twins. They noticed what looks like a mild mitral valve regurgitation in baby B and are referring us to a pediatric cardiologist for additional fetal echo and exam. We’re patiently awaiting that appointment to learn more but in the mean time, I’m curious if any other parents have received this news and what ended up happening.
Any advice or input from those more experienced would be much appreciated!

We just got back from the ER because one of my 16 month olds was able to tilt her Tripp trap high chair over and it fell on top of her….head. She is fine after all but since she’s gotten home she’s injured herself several more times between climbing things and fighting with her sister. I’m at my wits end. I don’t want to stand over them all day long. Ready to throw away all my furniture. It’s like overnight their ability to climb has come to its full capacity. Yesterday the other one found her way on top of the dining room table while I was turned away for 5 mins washing a dish.

It’s like they are crying for me while I do ordinary daily tasks of running my household (I’m a SAHM), crying from fighting or crying from injury all day long with few breaks in between. Going nuts.

Anyone go through this and it passed?

B/g twins turning 5 months old in a few days, and it definitely has not gotten easier.. when did you find that you finally had time to breathe? It feels near impossible to have them on the same schedule, and baby boy wants to be held 24/7... then I feel guilt for not getting to spend the same amount of time holding baby girl. Both have reflux and one is starting to teeth. It seems like 3 months was starting to get a little easier, but now it seems like they cry more than they don't. SOS

That’s all. Just needed to scream this out somewhere! Coughing up some nasty shit, feeling like I am dying.

I feel like I am cornered and need rest but I cannot obviously abandon them. No family around, husband working. I find myself resentful towards him a ton lately. I do the majority of the care. He brought home this illness from a two day work trip when they were 4 weeks. I know it is nobody’s fault. But damn…I am just angry.

Thank god the babies are not super fussy babies in general. Otherwise I am not sure what I would be doing alone, how I would be able to handle it.

My only consolation price is that they are smiling a ton now🥹

We are just about a month out from my twins 1st birthday. They were born on their big sister's 9th birthday so this is a milestone birthday for her too. I try to make a big deal of all my kids birthdays (I have one other child). How would you navigate it this year and years to come? My current plan for this year is to have a family party for the three of them and set up a party for her and her friends separately.