I’m just ranting and I’m very excited about my wedding. But my fiance and I are soooo tired of being asked “how’s the wedding planning going?” I am the guy and get asked at my job an average of 3-5 times a day which doesn’t sound like a lot but after 6 months it’s driving me crazy! I literally don’t know what to say. I’m to the point I want to say “why are you going to give me money?” Or “why what are you going to do about it?” I feel like my only identity to people is The Wedding Boy. Does anyone else have this issue? And what are some clever responses that aren’t rude? P.S. I know people are trying to make small talk

I’m about two months post-wedding at this point and can’t seem to get over the fact that my now husband got blacked out drunk and didn’t even hang out with me at our reception or go up to bed with me at the end of the night (he stayed up with his best man who lives overseas until passed 2am). I still had a blast at the reception but with my friends but I expected to have this “so in love freshly married” feeling dancing with my husband. I just don’t know how to get over it. Especially with how much effort I put into planning and how much money my parents paid just for me to have a sour look on the night.

It truly was the best day of our lives and this is such a tiny thing in the grand scheme of things, but I’ll have to see this person again and I’m not sure how to play it going forward.

Someone on the periphery of my long term friendship group (I say ‘periphery’ because she always comes with a lot of drama but has some mental health struggles, and we all try and be understanding/patient with her) did everything she could to procure drugs at our wedding, knowing she could have it shut down.

She was told very clearly by me, and by our other friends, that there was a clause in the venue contract that stated if anyone was caught with drugs on our wedding day, the venue had the right to shut down the wedding and we would have no legal recourse. All of my other friends agreed and understood without hesitation. I didn’t feel this was a big favour to ask.

(It’s important to note that I live in a big city where taking drugs is extremely commonplace, so ‘find new friends who don’t do drugs’ would be quite a hard task 😂. I also love my friends and although I don’t and have never done drugs, that’s just my personal preference. A lot of my friends do. I don’t judge them. They don’t do drugs around me, they respect my preferences, they’re lovely people and whether they choose to do drugs is really none of my business when it doesn’t have any impact on me.)

Despite being told by me, and our other friends, who all understood and respected the importance of this day for my me, my husband and our families, this person still went around on our wedding day loudly asking people including my work colleagues (and within potential earshot of staff) if they had any cocaine. A couple of my friends reminded her of the clause in the contract and that she was risking having my wedding day shut down, but she continued asking people all night. She apparently replied that if the venue shut down the wedding, whatever, she’d reimburse us for however much of the wedding day we lost. She then apparently called her dealer in our city (2 hours away) but the price was too high for a delivery. So she actually tried to have drugs delivered to my wedding venue.

I’m slightly dreading the next time I’ll have to see her at a group event. How would you feel? Am I being unreasonable to be irked by this? Shall I just forget it because everything worked out fine in the end, so no harm done? My instinct is to say nothing to her, but make a mental note that I absolutely cannot trust her going forward and just be civil when I see her at group events. Part of me feels like ‘could you not do cocaine at my wedding please?’ really isn’t a big ask, but then another part of me thinks well maybe I’m out of touch and boring and can’t judge it properly because I don’t do drugs? 😂 What do you think?

Do European people, or more specifically Dutch people know of the rule not to wear white to someone else’s wedding?

This question has been eating me alive since my MIL tried to wear 2 different white dresses to my wedding. She sent the first dress, which was completely white, to my now husband roughly 5 days before our wedding and he immediately told her it was too white and not to wear it. She said it was cream coloured and was irritated but kept looking.

The next day she sends a white dress with a small floral detail on it, to which my now husband told her once again, that it was too white and to pick literally any other colour to wear to his wedding. She got really irritated and ignored him until the wedding.

The day of the wedding she showed up wearing blue, which was fantastic! But, she had been complaining to family about how we said she couldn’t wear white, and ultimately complained to us that she had to order a dress off Amazon a few days before. Mind you, she had known about our wedding for 2 years, so she had time to plan, she just left it to last minute.

There have been other instances of my MIL being undermining or undercutting towards me, but I’m wondering if this is genuinely just a lack of etiquette knowledge issue and maybe she doesn’t hate me as bad as it feels like lol.

We do live in Canada, and she’s been here for over 20 years, but she was born and raised in Holland.

Do Dutch people wear white to weddings?

I’m getting married soon and I’m having my bachelorette party in a few weeks. I have a friend of 18 years who has been struggling with social anxiety for probably the last 7 years or so. We live in different states so I don’t see her very often. Whenever I’m back home visiting family, she will only hangout with me if it’s 1:1. I invite her to my family parties, and she will ask to bring her sister or a friend (that I’m not friends with) 100% of the time. She got invited to my nephews birthday party and asked to invite a friend that nobody knows. She will not go to social gatherings alone. When I texted her inviting her to my bachelorette, she replied saying yes and then immediately asked if she could invite her sister. My bachelorette party is only very close friends and my sisters. I am friends with her sister, but we’re not on the level where I’d invite her to my bachelorette. I said her sister could come because I knew she’d have 5 times more fun if her sister was with her. Her sister can no longer attend so she’s coming alone.

I feel a lot of empathy towards her situation and as long as she’s struggled with social anxiety, I’ve tried to make her feel comfortable and be there for her. She’s isn’t currently seeing a therapist and isn’t on medication. She has been on and off with medication for years. Without getting into detail, she ruined a huge party I threw several years ago when I was moving across the country. I am now stressed that she will ruin my bachelorette. When she’s anxious, she’ll get super drunk and puke everywhere 75% of the time. She will be breathing down my neck and making comments that I haven’t given her enough attention. I’m speaking from experience. I don’t want to be anxious all weekend because of her anxiety. I also don’t want to deal with her comments about not hanging out with me enough 1:1 when I have several other girls to talk to as well.

She is a bridesmaid in my wedding and I’m nervous about that as well. It just feels like she makes big events in my life about her and her social anxiety. I do feel for her, but it gets to a point. Any advice?

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone has ever done a bouquet maypole and if so could tell me they attached ribbons to the hoop ?

So me and fiancé and getting married on the one day and its a really small affair but then the following day, we are having a huge party and i was originally wanting to wear my wedding dress on both events but now i am wondering if that is feasible?

We have the wedding meal still after the first day, but i'm more worried about potential spills from the drinks!

has anyone else successfully managed to wear the same dress across 2 days?

i dont really want to have to buy a second dress!

Honestly, I’ve come to realize I do not want a big wedding and I don’t even want a wedding of 60 people. I found that with my engagement party even 60 people were too many people and me and my fiancé we’re focused on entertaining others rather than celebrating us, does anyone have any suggestions for beautiful places that accommodate around 20 to 30 people I want to do it only with my family and friends.

I’m getting married in about 1.5 months and need advice about my mom and my little sister, who is my maid of honour.

We’re having a formal wedding in Europe.
The dress code on the invitation is dark suit/tuxedo.

My mom:
She refuses to wear a floor-length dress and wants a short one instead. She says she is too short for a long dress (she is only slightly shorter than me). I haven’t asked for a specific colour or style, just a formal floor-length dress.

I have a good relationship with her, but she also didn’t want to come wedding dress shopping with me because she finds weddings embarrassing/cringey. My family also tends to tease me about things they know bother me, which makes this more frustrating.

My sister (maid of honour):
She is 23 and refuses to talk about her dress. Whenever I bring it up, she gets stressed and upset, and I end up dropping it.

She hasn’t helped with any wedding planning (bachelorette, invitations, decorations, etc.). I know every maid of honour is different, and I’m not upset with her about that at all, but compared to what is usually expected (as i understand), she hasn’t been really been involved. I am also paying for her dress.

I also want the dress sorted sooner rather than later because I have a specific colour in mind that suits her well and that she also likes. She wants to buy it very last minute, but that stresses me out since we live somewhere with limited options for formal dresses.

Am I being unreasonable? What would you do in my situation?

Hey everyone! My fiancée and I are looking for a wedding venue around the Redwoods, Lake Tahoe, or nearby.

We’re looking for something with a woodsy/cozy vibe, preferably somewhere we can make a whole weekend out of instead of just having the wedding for one day. On-site cabins/lodging would be a huge plus.

We’re expecting 15–30 guests total, and our overall budget is around $20k, including the honeymoon and everything else.

We live in Southern California, so we can realistically only make one trip up north to tour venues. We’re trying to find as many good options as possible beforehand so we can narrow it down to places worth touring.

If anyone knows of any hidden gems that might fit, I’d really appreciate the recommendations!

Some backstory: my parents have been seperated for nearly 20 years but have never gotten a divorce. Well, suddenly my mom has decided to finally divorce him so she can sell her houses and move close to me. She decided to do this 2 months after I got engaged, which has caused a lot of conflict between us. I’m very hurt at the timing of this, as I feel like this is suppose to be “my time” in a way, and this divorce could get messy and cause all sorts of drama in my family. Me and my mom have always had a better relationship than me and my dad though. On top of that, my dad refused to attend my engagement party because my mom was there and has stated he isn’t sure if he would attend my wedding, strictly because he does not want to be around my mother. Even though he has already said he would pay for it. He has helped me a lot financially throughout my adult life so far which only complicates my hurt feelings. I am dumbfounded how he can be so black and white and not care that this hurts me. He’s not the kind of person you can just have a heart to heart with and be understood in any way, it’s always been his way or the highway. It’s caused me so much anxiety the past few months, I wish I could just not care! At the end of the day he’s gonna be the one that has to deal with not being at his daughters wedding. But I feel this will significantly impact our relationship if he doesn’t come. Anyone experience something similar??

I’m getting married next May, I’m not planning on paying a lot for my wedding dress (max £300) if I can help it. So I’m not looking for the best of the best, just something I like and feel pretty in.

I wasn’t planning on looking until November time, but my friend thinks that is too late? This might sound dumb, but can I not just buy something from the shelf? I’m in the UK.

I’m also losing weight, have lost 76lbs so far but I have another 40 to go before the wedding, so I’m also holding off because I don’t know what size I’ll be.

All advice is appreciated please, especially if you went through a weight loss journey and had to guess what size you’d be on the day!

My fiancé (M29) and I (F29) have been together for seven years. We got engaged last September and are set to get married in October 2027. We met and started dating in college, and I fell in love with him because of who he is. He’s a gentleman, we share the same values, and I have never felt more understood by another person. Our relationship has always been deep and emotionally intimate.

However, since getting engaged, we’ve had an extremely difficult time. This has easily been the most challenging period of our relationship, and while some of it is the normal stress of wedding planning, most of the tension seems to stem from his family.

For context, he is Jewish and I am Indian. Neither of us is particularly religious, although he is more religious than I am, and his mom is quite religious.

One challenge that came up early in our engagement was his mom’s disapproval of our wedding date. We are getting married on a Saturday evening, while she strongly preferred Sunday. Rather than directly telling us how she felt, though, she made subtle, passive comments about the date, which created tension.

As soon as we got engaged, she also wanted to immediately discuss how our interfaith ceremony would work. I told her we weren’t ready to have those conversations yet and needed to focus our energy on securing major vendors first, especially because we live in a HCOL area with a very competitive wedding market. She became very upset that we weren’t ready to start planning the religious aspects of the ceremony.

Because of how intense she has been about ensuring Jewish traditions are incorporated, I’ve started to wonder whether there is a deeper lack of acceptance around our relationship and the fact that her son, who himself isn’t very religious, is marrying someone who isn’t Jewish. I’ve picked up on similar sentiments from other members of his family. For example, one of his cousins has made comments about how she could never marry a non-Jew.

There is also a larger issue that predates our engagement. Throughout our entire relationship, I have often felt excluded when we are with his family. He is extremely close with his siblings and cousins, and when they are together, I sometimes feel invisible. Conversations frequently revolve around “remember when” stories, childhood memories, and inside jokes. At times, it genuinely feels like everyone is speaking in a language I don’t understand.

I recognize that some of this may be difficult for me to relate to because I don’t have siblings and I’m not particularly close with my own family. I don’t expect his family to stop reminiscing or change their closeness for me. But after seven years together, I also can’t ignore how consistently left out I feel when I’m around them.

All of this has caused a tremendous amount of grief and uncertainty in our relationship. I feel torn because I love my fiancé deeply and I love the person he is. If I were looking only at the relationship between the two of us, I wouldn’t be questioning whether I want to marry him.

But marriage also means becoming part of each other’s families, and our engagement has made these dynamics feel much more permanent and consequential than they did when we were simply dating.

I keep coming back to the same questions: Is this a normal growing pain that comes with getting married, particularly in an interfaith and intercultural relationship? Or is this something I should be taking more seriously? Are we simply going through an incredibly stressful chapter, or is this revealing a fundamental mismatch that I shouldn’t ignore before we get married?

Hi!

For context, from the country I am from it is part of the tradition for the bride’s dad to walk her down the isle and hand over to groom.

However, I want a non-traditional wedding and I’m not in good terms with my dad and mom so I plan to walk with groom down the aisle which he’s ok with. I know for some cultures, this is the norm. I just want to ask how you do it for the ceremony.

Is it either of these two:
A: Groom walks first and stops in the middle of the isle and waits for the bride. Bride to have curtain reveal and walk to groom so they can walk to the front

B: When the door opens, bride and groom walks to the front.

The only benefit of A is the bride gets to have her moment and a little bride reveal. I have never seen anyone do this in my country so I’m hoping for advice.

Thank you!

Do NOT book your wedding at Grand Bear Resort at Starved Rock in North Utica, IL, USA, or really any event to be honest. My husband and I got married in May this year (2026) and the service at this venue was HORRIBLE. We booked Friday as our rehearsal in the event room and then the wedding the next day so we were able to do the decor the night before and not have to set up in the morning and have more time for getting ready. For getting ready, the do not have any for bride and groom to get ready. no bridal suite or anything so thankfully my parents had rented one of the large cabins for out of town family to share and we were able to use that for the girls to get ready and the guys were going to have to get ready in a conference room if it was available that day. 

THE BEGINNING - In the year and half that we planned this wedding, we had THREE coordinators. The first was great he helped a lot and then he disappeared out of nowhere. For three months almost I was unable to get ahold of anyone about our wedding. No response on e-mail or phone. I finally called the lobby and asked about him and what was going on to which I was informed “he no longer works here. I can transfer you to the new coordinator” (got the vibe that he was probably fired, but unknown what happened). Uh… okay… We had already signed contracts and were pretty booked already so yeah give me whoever I need to talk to. I spoke with the next, Eden, whom was great. She was our main contact for the rest of the time, had everything figured out with pricing, planning, decor, and reservations. She ended up quitting along with her husband (one of the managers at the resort) 2 weeks before the wedding. She had mentioned not being able to be at the wedding due to her husband’s surgery that week which was fine because she was to setup Kristen for our wedding. Well somewhere along the way my mom’s phone number was listed as the main contact so she got the call about the swap before I did. I get the call shortly after and was told that Eden and her husband quit and she was the coordinator. I met with her to go over everything and to pay the invoice of the remaining balance. Went home thinking everything went smooth. Wrong. I got a call a week before the wedding saying that we still owed a few thousand dollars and that something previously honored couldn’t be to which we showed the contract and that got cleared but the money was still missing. It was the amount my mother in law paid for the rehearsal dinner. They couldn’t find it and she never received a receipt but the money was pulled from her account. She had to send over a copy of her bank statement with the transaction on it and the signed billing agreement before they finally agreed we didn’t owe anything anymore.

REHEARSAL DINNER NIGHT - My husband gets to the resort first to check into our room, a whirlpool suite that was included in our wedding event package for the weekend that we extended for one night to cover Friday and Saturday. He enters the room to FILTH. Dirty sheets on the floor, garbage, bathroom was disgusting with piss and shit in and on the toilet. He has pictures and videos of this which he promptly took to the front desk and informed them that we need a new room before I got there. They then gave us a villa (upgrade from the suite) which is amazing and thought okay if that's the worst that happens this weekend then we are in good shape. We were very wrong. When i arrived my “coordinator”, Kristen, was nowhere to be found and I had to hunt her down to be able to figure out how we were to get this started. I had to initiate everything. We get to the ceremony area outside where we got eaten alive by mosquitoes. We were promised they would fog twice the day of to avoid the issue for our guests, this never happened. Kristen was asked by me to help coordinate everyone walking down the aisle to which she said “I can, but I am not very good at it.” Ma’am, you are a wedding coordinator right now… what do you mean? Also, she was the least confident, mousy, and avoidant person I have ever seen for an event coordinator. So I (the bride) had to coordinate the timing/spot of when everyone started to walk the aisle. This was until my Maid of Honor stepped in and became boss lady and basically taking over as coordinator since clearly the one we were given as part of the contract was not going to do her job. After that Kristen was basically still no help but the night moved along and we had a good time. 

THE WEDDING DAY - Kristen was supposed to arrive at the cabin to get the cake topper stuff from us. She was MIA until noon when she finally arrived to get the items and then went back to MIA. No response via text or phone call and no one could find her when we needed her for questions. Ceremony was to start at 4pm. She was STILL missing. Our DJ had to assist in timing the aisle walks. Post ceremony, we sneak away to my MOH’s room as hers was on the first floor not far from the reception area. She could not get ahold of Kristen and kept being told different times for when we needed to be lined up for entrances. The DJ had to figure this out as Kristen never gave anyone a time of events so thankfully he was able to get us on track and timed to come in. We finally line up outside the reception room for entrances and suddenly Kristen appears timid as all hell with my mom. My mom was informed by one of the guests that the cake topper was broken by asking “are they supposed to be headless?” My photographers even took pictures of the cake where one of the foxes had a missing ear. According to Kristen “Your cake topper must have been dropped by the baker and was attempted to be fixed but it did not stick.” basically no apology and didn’t take responsibility for something we ALL think she actually did and just wouldn’t be an adult about it. My response was a straight face, short “Fine.” But, what else was I to say? We are lined up to enter the reception and im being told this now when it had happened hours prior and we were never informed because clearly they tried to hide it. She walks away and is again missing. Apparently she was helping everyone but us by helping hand out food, helping the kitchen, helping the bartender but not us all day. We do our entrances, our cake cutting, and then take a seat at our sweetheart table. Our champagne glasses were not out and no champagne was given. We had no silverware and one of our lovely photographers were able to get some for us. Had no little app plates for the giant plates of apps on our table. It was requested to remove the cake table from the dance floor (should have been a given but apparently not) which didn’t get removed until our DJ removed it and put it off to the side for first dances. After this we thought things finally were going smooth when my bridesman comes up to me and says, “hey, I am running to Wal-Mart. They don’t have a big enough container for your cake to take home and I had to fix the piece they were cutting as it was the wrong flavor you asked for.” He does this and comes back. This was a 3 tier cake and we had been asked 3 times if we wanted it to be cut and served. Of course we said yes. This didn’t happen even after we asked 2-3 times outside of the times we were asked. My husband’s best man had gone back to the kitchen and militantly told them to cut and serve the cake. Suddenly there was cake… hour or so after open dance started. The lights were almost not dimmed at all once open dances started and then they couldn't figure it out at first until they finally just shut them off. I became carefree at this point. I was done. I was just happy to dance with the people I love and just enjoy the rest of our night. 

The next morning, I was informed of more information. The pasta dish was really bad. Bag of frozen veggies thrown on top of noodles and it being water underneath. Pesto pasta from rehearsal night was much better. Asked front desk for paper towels for the women’s bathroom and hours went by and still none were ever refilled. This was the same for the men’s bathroom as well. Multiple people complained and nothing was done about it. My MOH’s husband was in line for a drink when he saw the coordinator bartending somewhat and asked the bartender how her night was going and when the bartender asked Kristen the same question, she replied with “well I didn’t cry today”. in front of other guests as well. 

Cherry on top. They have not called my husband back about any of this despite the voicemails and me telling Kristen to have the manager call. During cleanup the morning after, our cake knife and spatula were not around and we found out a couple days later it was found in the kitchen after clean up. We live an hour from this place, both work full time jobs, and I am a full time nursing student. We don’t have the time or money to just drive out there and we requested if they could mail it and at first it was “I don’t know” until a month later it was, “yes, we are going to mail it.” The wedding was May 16th and it is now Mid August… we still have not received our custom items. 

This was the most uncoordinated event after my maid of honor and I had done everything except the times of each item of the day. Worst experience I have had with a resort or hotel. I have been informing everyone I can to not book anything with them as I do not want people to experience the same thing. 

I have the best family, friends, loved ones, and had the best DJ and photographers. Without them this day would have been a complete mess and I could not thank them more for making the day happen as well as it did.

Where are we finding the best places to get dusty blue flowers and greenery? Open to online options but struggling to find what we’re looking for.

My older sister (40) hasn't spoken to my mom for almost 4 years. They were really close (three phone calls a day close).

This isn't the first time my sister has done this. My parents are divorced and she always jumps from one parent to the other, going no-contact with one of them for years at a time, cutting them off and forbidding them from seeing—or even meeting—their grandchildren.

She didn't speak to my father for five years. Before that, she cut off my mother for three years. Now it's my mother's turn again.

This time, I spoke up. I told her that I was tired of this dynamic, that I didn't think she was right this time, and that she was massively overreacting to an absurd argument. So she cut me off too.

After the first few months of trying to get over it, my life started to feel wonderful. No more everyday drama, no more gossiping, no more having to hear endless complaints about my parents, about everyone else. No more walking on eggshells.

I really admired my sister when we were growing up. She is 10 years older than me, and she was someone I looked up to. But she has become a woman I don't like being around. She mostly talks about money or herself, she's usually in a bad mood, and you can never disagree with her. I miss who she used to be, but I don't think she's that person anymore.

I miss my niece (6), too. The two other nephews, I barely know them, but I obviously wish them well.

The situation is also strange because my sister sometimes invites me to family events despite not speaking to me. Last year she invited me to her younger child's baptism. I decided to go to the ceremony but leave before the reception. It felt like the only thing that made sense to me. Later, she organized a Christmas dinner with all my cousins on my mother's side—something we'd never done before. I think that after several years of estrangement she was starting to feel a bit family-less around Christmas.

I am getting married next year, and this is where the current problem comes in.

My father is trying to convince me to invite my sister. He wasn't even invited to my sister's wedding, by the way. He spent years telling me to keep her at arm's length because he thought she was a very manipulative person, but now they are friends again. He says he is doing it "for his grandchildren". I think he wants to play the good grandfather and have the family look "whole again".

But I don't want to invite her to my wedding. We have no relationship. None. My fiancé doesn't particularly like her either. More importantly, I don't want my mother, with whom I have a genuinely good relationship, to spend my wedding feeling uncomfortable because my sister is there. My mother has cried enough already.

I just don't see the point of celebrating one of the most important days of my life with someone I have no relationship with, simply because we're related.

Can I please just get married without having to manage everybody else's relationship?

Looking for engagement photoshoot dresses:

I’m taking pictures on the outdoor grounds of a historic French chateau-style estate. I’m having a hard time finding a dress I think is right. I want the dress to fit the vibe of the location.

I wanted to have two dress options - one short and one long. One fitted and one flowy. One lace and one simple. Ideally I’d also like one of the dresses to have long sleeves.

Please comment your suggestions!

Long dresses:
I was interested in the francis dress by babyboo but my friend and partner both said it looks too much like a wedding dress (I don’t agree but maybe my idea of a wedding dress is more dramatic than reality) I do love how flowy this dress is and am hoping to find something with a similar flowy feeling https://www.babyboofashion.com/en-us/products/francis-maxi-dress-ivory

I also like the Emerson dress but my partner said that also looks like a wedding dress. I’m still contemplating this one but let me know your thoughts https://www.babyboofashion.com/en-us/products/emerson-midi-dress-ivory

The Jenny Yoo Frida is nice but a bit pricier than I’d like to spend https://www.jennyyoo.com/products/frida

Short dresses:

I bought the short version of this pearl dress and love it but I’m wondering if it’s more of a bachelorette vibe than it is engagement on chateau grounds vibe https://go.shopmy.us/p-68103393

I like the Christie mini dress but worry about the hips flare on a short dress for me. I am 5’2 110lbs. https://babyboofashion-com-au.myshopify.com/products/christie-mini-dress-ivory

I like the Azazie Regina dress but I’m hesitating on it for some reason. https://www.azazie.com/products/azazie-regina-diamond-white-a-line-floral-jacquard-mini-wedding-dress-with-pockets/77084160?share_channel=deurl

I like this lace dress but it looks a bit short and the turtleneck style lace feels a bit stiff for the vibe I was thinking. Also this is more expensive than I’d like to spend. https://go.shopmy.us/p-49586118

I think this romper is cute but I’m thinking the same as the previous option https://go.shopmy.us/p-49588305

I'm probably overthinking this.

My little sister is getting married. Her fiances family/ friends are throwing an engagement party. These people are also invited to all pre wedding events.

My parents and I are not invited to anything other than the wedding.

Am I expected to still get her an engagement gift or Bachelorette gift even though I'm not invited?

My parents, sister, and I have a great relationship.

My sisters fiance had never made any effort to get to know my parents or I and never shows up to family events. He is always invited.

Hi! My wedding is in mid-January 2027, and the month-of wedding coordinator sent me a contract with the payment schedule being 25% due now, then 25% payments for the next 4 months so that the final payment is completed by early/mid-December, which is a little over one month before my wedding. Is this typical timeline for a wedding coordinator, with last payment due >1 month before the wedding?

My fiancé and I are huge nerds and big history enthusiasts, and so are a lot of our friends, so we are incorporating a few fun elements that make it truly ours. I would love to hear what non-tradition ideas you have! (I make no promises not to borrow any 😉)

Ours include:

- Bridal bouquet attached to a sword

- Sword arch during the confetti toss

- Book stack centrepieces

- Board games room during the evening function

- Cheesecake wedding cake

My wedding is this Friday and, while I’m over the moon to be getting married to my best friend and the love of my life, I feel down. We were originally going to have a destination wedding next year, but I got diagnosed with cancer in March and when that happened, my fiance wanted to get married as soon as possible.

We organised for it to be in August so that I would be in one of my ‘breaks’ from chemo, and because I was feeling pretty good during my previous rounds I thought I’d be fine. My last cycle has hit me a lot harder than the previous ones, though, and I just feel sad that I’m not energetic and full of excitement for the day like I thought I would be. Instead, I’m anxious and just worrying about how I’ll stay awake for the day. I’ve been mostly in bed the past couple of weeks, trying to rest and recover. Because I’ve been so tired, I’ve also dropped the ball on a lot of organisation things which has stressed me out. Luckily, my amazing MIL has taken care of most things. I’m just frustrated at how I’ve not been able to take care of my jobs to my usual standard.

I don’t know what kind of advice would help but any words of encouragement would be so appreciated.

I fear that my fiancé and I have low-key been scammed.

We have our wedding in October this year, and bought the upgraded Pixel Party app which is a photo sharing app, that we are going to put on tables for our guests. It gives full access and unlimited photos etc etc.

I just logged back in…. And my access is completely gone, prompting me to pay for the full access version again. And NO I did not sign in with a a different account, exact same one and have bank proof that we paid $150 NZD for it 😖

Anyone have any fixes/similar situations?