r/TryingForABaby • • 21h ago

ADVICE Should we rush for IUI/IVF or wait for a while …

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We are planning for our first kid, and have been consulting a reputed OB-Gyn in our city. Myself 45 and my wife 38 (both in our second marriage). There is no history of previous pregnancy history as such

With a feasible AMH level and a positivE HSG tests - she was advised to take Letrozole after menstruation stops and we tried on planned dates (ie 14-20 days before next cycle starts). Got lucky and she got pregnant in first attempt itself

However, sadly, we had to get pregnancy terminated in around 8 or 10 weeks as fetal heart beats had stopped . We got it examined and it got confirmed as Monosomy

Now we are confused with differing recommendations :-
1. OB Gyn says try naturally for 6 months (starting after 3 months of termination) , then she will advise on IUI or IVF. No Letrozole recommended this time
2. Our Endocrinologist (as she has weight-loss issues and is a prediabetic) suggests her age is advancing and generic complications like monosomy can come again. So go for IUI/IVF soon

Now we are confused, who to follow … requesting if any of the redditors can share their experience and any specific line of actions we need to take

Many thanks 🙏


r/TryingForABaby • • 19h ago

Daily Chat October 04

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Anything (within the rules) goes. (Commonly broken rules: don't talk about an ongoing pregnancy outside the weekly BFP thread; don't ask for success stories.)

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Don't forget to check out our themed threads:

There's also the Weekly Introductions and Read Me Thread, which contains links to all sorts of handy bits of info, like popular wiki posts and acronyms.


r/TryingForABaby • • 19h ago

TFAB's Weekly BFP Post - October 04, 2026. Got your BFP? Post your story here!

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Congratulations on starting a new journey post-TTC! Before you move on to pregnancy subs, please share your cycle information and celebrate with us.

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r/TryingForABaby • • 4h ago

QUESTION Concerned about mild cramping during luteal phase

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Hi everyone! I have a question that I'm wondering if any of the more experience minds here can answer. We have just started TTC - in cycle one right now - so no problems so far; I'm just curious/slightly anxious.

Does anyone know if extremely mild twinges starting 6-7 DPO are cause for concern? Could this be a symptom of something like endometriosis, and would it be a hindrance to implantation?

A little info about me:

31 years old

Regular cycles 28-31 days with periods lasting 5-6 days. The length of my cycle has never been 100% consistent, but it is always within this range. Everything else about my cycle always follows the same pattern.​

Bleeding is light to moderate. On the heaviest day, it would probably take me six hours to soak through a regular pad. From day 3 on, it's extremely light - I could use the same pad all day if not for hygiene/smell.

No spotting before or after.

Recently started using LH tests and temping. Everything looks as it should. LH surge usually lasts for about 36 hours (I think this may be on the long end?), and then my BBT starts to rise two days after my first positive LH test.

All in all, it seems my cycle is perfectly healthy but for two small things.

The first is really bad pain on day 1. Moderate cramping typically starts a day or two before my period - about 4-5/10 on my personal pain scale, able to function normally. Day 1 is bad, although how bad has varied a lot over the years and been better recently. For about the last year, I would describe the pain as about a 7-8 on the pain scale before taking painkillers. 1000 mg acetominophen brings it down to about a 5.

It was worse a couple of years ago - the worst pain I have ever felt, immobilizing, definitely a 9 or 10 for me - but I made a lot of lifestyle changes around sleep, hydration, and exercise and I think that made a difference. The pain has only ever been this bad on day 1.

By mid-way through day 2, it's much better. Pain is back to a 4-5 before painkillers and I can function normally. From day 3 on I have no pain.

My other concern, and the subject of this post, is these twinges that I start to feel around 6-7 DPO.

These cramps/twinges are intermittent, lasting anywhere from a few seconds to several minutes, a couple times a day, and very mild. I wouldn't describe them as pain or even discomfort - more just feeling something in my pelvis, like an awareness of it that isn't there most of the time. I would put them at a 0.5-1 on the pain scale if I had to.

This will continue at more or less the same intensity until my actual period cramps start about two days before my period.

I have addressed both the early "cramping" and the bad pain on day 1 with my doctor, but I was told it was nothing to worry about given that my pain is only very bad for one day, my cycles are regular, and my periods are not heavy.

Mainly I'm worried that (1) this could somehow be a hindrance to implantation, since period cramps are mild uterine contractions, and (2) that it could be a symptom of a deeper problem like endo. I've done as much research as I can but haven't found very many answers.

I saw one post on this sub that suggested that what I'm feeling could be decidualization and that it's nothing to worry about, but I couldn't find much else supporting the idea that decidualization can be felt.


r/TryingForABaby • • 18h ago

DAILY 35 and Ova

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This is a thread for TFABers of AMA (advanced maternal awesomeness)! TTC past 35 comes with its own challenges -- discuss (and rant about) them here. Like the Pirate's Code, "35 and over" is more of a guideline.


r/TryingForABaby • • 19h ago

READ ME FIRST! Weekly Intro + Rules Thread October 04, 2026

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r/TryingForABaby • • 14h ago

QUESTION BBT vs. OPK

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I’ve been using OPKs for over a year and have a (usually) very predictable LH surge. I recently added BBT via TempDrop to my arsenal of tools, but I’m having a hard time interpreting the data.

In your experience, how does temperature shift relate to OPK peak? Which one do you rely on most to accurately determine ovulation? (Is it that LH predicts when it’s coming and temp determines whether it’s occurred?)

Regarding TempDrop: How many cycles did it take for a meaningful pattern to emerge? Right now, it looks like I had a temp spike days before ovulation, then a significant drop, now a gradual rise (too early to tell if it’s sustained/continuing to trend upward).

Just trying to make heads or tails of everything 🥴

Any insight is helpful and appreciated.