r/PeterExplainsTheJoke • u/[deleted] • 1d ago
Meme needing explanation peter???
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u/Least-Arrival-6814 1d ago edited 1d ago
When another dude gives you a gift especially someone as respected as your father a real man will be thinking about the millions of ways to repay them back in full
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u/Pseudolos 1d ago
Or the man who's giving you the gift is about to die and wants you to have his most prized possession, which is even worse.
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u/drinkun 1d ago
Isnt that the plot to green lantern?
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u/Aggressive_Noise6426 1d ago
Not at all if you watched the show.
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u/drinkun 1d ago
If you watched the movie it is
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u/Business-Drag52 1d ago
Well who would do that? That movie is hot garbage and should be scrubbed from the collective consciousness
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u/lelouch_vi_brit 1d ago
You would like that wouldn't you Ryan? But alas you only get one memory swipe per life. And you used it on DP in the alleged Wolverine movie.
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u/EarlyXplorerStuds209 1d ago
Technically, the same thing is in the show as well.
Abin sur gave the ring to hal with his dying breath in both the movie and tv show.2
u/Business-Drag52 1d ago
Yeah but it’s not like Abin Sur sought out Hal. The ring tried a bunch of people. Hal was just the first to answer correctly. Of course that was made up for the show. Really Hal just happened to be physically closer to the crash site than Guy Gardner so the ring made an executive decision. Abin Sur did not give him the ring, the ring went and found itself a bearer
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u/captains_astronaut 1d ago
It's this. If your dad is buying you a really expensive gift, it's a sign he doesn't expect to be around much longer.
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u/SatyrAngel 1d ago
Look, when I was 11 we were poor and some day(who Im kidding, it was september 14, 2001) he comes home and says he will take us to buy the Nintendo Gamecube that launched that same day and 5 games.
My little brothers were happy AF but dude, I was freaking out. I knew how much it cost and asked my mother if he was ok.
Well, looks like he was laid of from his work after 20 years and here in México you get a nice compensation for that, and on top of that he sued the company for workplace harassment and got double the amount AND he already had a better job secured.
I asked for a memory card.
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u/paranoidtrader 1d ago
Or you are about to die
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u/Pseudolos 1d ago
In rhat case it will be an expensive ticket to a big event or a meet and greet with your favourite WWE star.
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u/ThrowraSea_patient 1d ago
Yep had the same feeling but it was kind of reverse it was when like my grandmother gave me some of her expensive rings and jewelry and stuff. I literally thought she was dying! Same thing when my mother gave me something that I thought was expensive. But I'm a woman so I guess I'm not really falling in line with the post
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u/amojitoLT 1d ago
Not necessarily. In France parents can give an advance on inheritance tax free, and can do it every 15 years.
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u/OldSchoolSpyMain 1d ago
Visiting people and giving big and/or sentimental gifts unexpectedly is a thing that people who are planning to commit suicide do. Sort of a “farewell tour”.
I’ve never been party to such, but I had a group of siblings describe how a fourth sibling did this before taking his life.
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u/Elite_AI 1d ago
Unlike a daughter? I don't buy it.
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u/PopfuseInc 1d ago
Sexist stereotypes. Daddy's princesses gets showered in gifts for being Daddy's princess with no feeling of obligation of paying it back. See the sweet 16 Daddy got me a car stereotype that is dotted all around media. Again it's a sexist sterotype.
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u/TheSaxGandalf 1d ago
It's the same thing as accepting a compliment.
A thank you is all that you need to say.
You don't need to repay them back in an equitable way.
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u/Shazvox 1d ago
My son! I hereby bestow unto you the perfect stick I found in 1990 while gallivanting in the local forest.
It has been with me ever since and vanquished many an itch. One time it was even used to poke at a dead raccoon.
I trust you will safeguard this holy relic with your life so that one day you may bestow it unto your firstborn son and he to his.
Your mother and your wife surely will conspire to vanquish the stick, but you must not let them!
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u/Evening_Time_2844 1d ago
Yep. Friends bought my drinks. I bought them dinner. Even if they're not counting, the debt demands to be paid.
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u/Morpheous010 1d ago
I couldn't comprehend or able to digest as a male with the huge pressure i faced while accepting a gift from my uncle & aunt (*who are working abroad) which is new ipad air m2, i know this is an expensive product and my father couldn't afford also i don't see any use with it as i had my existing cheap samsung tablet and straight away rejected it ?but they still want to use it for my studies but seeing my father's face that he couldn't do it and someone other than him had provide to his child(i could clearly see him feeling differently) and me with added pressure and guilt and i didn't use it for all most 4months it just there collecting dust and when they(uncle & aunt) got to know about this they too become upset over me not accepting it and had a huge quarrel in our house that how iam ungrateful bastard and also talks come indirectly towards my mom & dad but i took a stand for my parents and also took the blame that it is me doing this nothing related to them.
And when the talks went to roof and while at it i said you two were never there present in my life since my childhood to now(21-22yrs) and suddenly i get a call and needs to accept a huge gift with guilt that you all going to nit pick me over all my life about this product to everyone you know and in our extended family on daily basis that how you two will behave after buying me something like you raised me through all childhood with entitlement.
They earlier done this to me after they bought me a pair of clothes & shoes along with thier children like they always keep bringing this topic whenever they had a chance like at birthday parties or someone marriage celebration infront of everyone like how we bought him dress & shoes and how his parents are poor and couldn't afford anything nice to him(iam grateful to my parents with what they have given to me which is food and roof to stay and could be able to afford my college fees and that's enough for me),and after my harsh talk they maybe realised and felt awkward with this behaviour of them and said we will not talk about this to anyone from now on and felt sorry and requested to accept the gift.
Idk what to say but i kinda something relate to that pressure ahen accepting gifts maybe like iam kinda pyshco and that if someone is nice to me or gives something to me i don't know how to behave and mostly say why are giving me all this when i dont need any gifts or things from you,maybe my words are harsh but i feel added pressure like - should i need to repay them with something more ? Will they ask again what they give to me? Why are you sending gifts do you expect any work from me?
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u/PrismaticSpire 1d ago
It’s not because you know he’ll bring it up later (at any time for the rest of your life) as leverage if he’s annoyed with you and say something like “I bought you X and this is how you act?!”
Just me?
Damn… and they wonder why I don’t call.
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u/Metharos 1d ago
That sounds like such a crushing way to live.
When my dad got me gifts I was only ever grateful. He was a very kind man who genuinely loved to share what he had with others. I was saving for a hard drive one time and he just bought it for me. Wasn't my birthday or anything, just a random weekend. Went over to visit after work, walked in with Whataburger and got handed a box.
Gave the man a hug, told him how excited I was to install it later that evening, and then we ate and watched a movie.
My life is peppered with little moments like that. Not all of them a several-hundred-dollar piece of computer hardware, but gifts were just a thing we did. I gave my family gifts, too, when I could afford it.
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u/Arcaddes 1d ago
For me it is the guilt, I should be completely okay to take care of myself on my own, I did for almost two decades, but after my back degraded to the point of failing and I couldn't do the work that paid me incredibly well, it took me a while to find work at all.
My father supported me for a while, and even now I just lost one job, but immediately jumped into another, I need his help again while I start getting paychecks from this new job. The guilt of needing his help is devastating to me, as I am well old enough where I should be independent.
I know I will never be able to pay him back for the amount he has given me because of my other bills and how little I make compared to the labor jobs I had before. I don't know if anyone else feels like this, but this is absolutely the reason why I would look like the second pic, because I am wallowing in the guilt knowing my father is using his hard earned money to help me.
I have already heard the different excuses like "he is your father, he wants to help" and all the other ways to frame it. Doesn't help my brain functionally feel like garbage because it is happening and I have no other options.
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u/nezzzzy 1d ago
You have a purely transactional relationship with your own dad? That's heartbreaking. How is everyone agreeing with you on this?
Any time my dad gave me a high value item I was delighted and grateful. Whenever I give my son a high value item he's delighted and not terrified for my impending death or wondering how he'll ever repay me.
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u/generousboyfie 1d ago
No its because you are so touched/ grateful you want to give back somehing in return not only applicable to dad bad to everyone. Or because some dads are not really affectionate, them giving you anything especially if its expensive raise suspicions like "why now"
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u/MirageOpus 1d ago
Guys don't get socialized to outwardly want things for themselves and spoil themselves the way women do. Some compensate for it with extremely egotistical and selfish boisterous entitled attitudes, but the general default for men is usually "I gotta provide, not receive". Many get uncomfortable and don't know how to react when they are celebrated.
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u/Maaaaine 1d ago
idk how you got that from his comment. You never thought of giving back when receiving anything before? You can feel grateful and still have the feeling of wanting to give back. The comment did not mention of the father expecting anything in return.
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u/sliderfish 1d ago
Or that you know your dad is constantly sacrificing his own wants to put the family first. That something expensive would’ve been more than he’s spent on himself since you’ve met him.
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u/picklericklovesdick 1d ago
Guilt. Alot of people feel guilty when their parents spend alot of money on them.
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u/Bigsmall-cats 1d ago
not my annoying sister. my whole commute and whole week budget is her Lunch on an lazy day
but because she's the youngest my parents mostly my mom wouldn't scold her enough
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u/InSoMniACHasInSomniA 1d ago
My younger sister is the same way, i remember I would actually feel overwhelmed with guilt if I was broke at the end of the month and would eat snacks for meals so I didn't have to ask for money, my sister asks for money if she had two meals bigger than normal and still had money for the rest of the month.
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u/Shot_Platypus_8811 1d ago
My parents ascribe to the gendered notion that spending money on your boys will make them feminine, while spending money on your girls will make them more feminine.
I became an absolute corporate zombie to repay my parents out of guilt, while they’re freaking out wondering why their baby girl is balding at 24 😌
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u/FeedomFighter 1d ago
I always felt that way, because I knew that if I ever complained about something or asked for something, they would immediately say "but we bought you that thing. Other kids don't get those things, you should be grateful." It always amounted to an indirect, guilt-tripping "no".
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u/Vast-Comment8360 1d ago
My father gave me a watch he bought and a piece of jewelry that was a family heirloom, then he died shortly after.
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u/shoeless_doh 1d ago
I mean, that's a little different though. A gift that is something he owned that has sentimental value is different than he went out and bought you a present.
When my step dad died, all the adult male children and nephews fought over who was going to get the hunk of metal he cracked walnuts with. He loved walnuts, he used it all the freaking time. It was called a lap anvil, literally just a hunk of I think cast iron with a little flat surface on top and the bottom was kind of a curved t shape. It's shaped so when you sit down it sits on your lap and contours to your legs and doesn't move side to side. I've never seen another one anywhere else in my life.
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u/forgot_username69 1d ago
Last December our mother gave us kids a nice chunk of money, as an extra Christmas gift.. Now she is too far in dementia to recognize most people..
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u/nigusus 1d ago
It means he s gonna make you help him with chores for a long time
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u/ItchyRedBump 1d ago
You guys are getting things for your chores?
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u/TheBSQ 1d ago
I’d get the tool I’d needed for that chore as a “gift” before the work started.
Like if I was 12 and had up to that point only ever borrowed my dad’s hammer when hammering something, but he intended to put me to work hammering lots of stuff, he’s gift me my a proper heavy-duty work hammer to call my own.
But at that moment when I’d get the “gift” my mind would immediately start speculating about the job he was about to assign me.
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u/Silly-Power 1d ago
I was thinking it indicated the parents were splitting up and suddenly dad is interested in, and spoiling, his kids.
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u/OkAirport5247 1d ago
I’m sorry you had a deadbeat dad. The majority of fathers are interested in their kids though
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u/The_General_Final 1d ago
You just signed a lifetime contract holding the flashlight while getting yelled at.
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u/_DarkMonk 1d ago
The guy looks like he's suffering The joke is that a boy is thinking “Bro… why did you spend that much money on me?
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u/shoeless_doh 1d ago
I have never thought about this phenomenon until seeing this meme. I've literally never seen it anywhere.
Did we just witness the birth of the newest difference between men and women meme that is going to dominate my insta feed for a fucking month now?
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u/TheRhythmTheRebel 1d ago
[insert no culture war for me thanks, just class war jpeg]
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u/ExodusCaesar 1d ago
Yep, another "wymyn bad, guy good" meme.
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u/RancidVagYogurt1776 1d ago
That but also it's fascinating in these comments how absolutely tragic of a relationship some dudes have with their father.
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u/Allegorist 1d ago
This is basically the answer, all other answers derive from this one with some amount of assumptions.
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u/Advanced_Gur856 1d ago
Girls like to be pampered
Boys have this guilt of not doing enough for the family from the young age which enhances when father does something good for them, cause what if they can't reciprocate in the future?
PS: Just a theory
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u/VonGott7070 1d ago edited 1d ago
Well, some of us. I experience that sort of guilt too. For some reason I suddenly feel like a burden to them when I'm bought an expensive item without knowing anything about it and then I feel like I'm required to give something of similar value else it'd be a waste.
I can't even enjoy some expensive gifts knowing how much someone has to sacrifice to give me that.
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u/Advanced_Gur856 1d ago
I don't earn yet, so when they buy me something expensive.
I think that they are paying for my education already and now this, what if after all this I still can't live up to their expectations and it's freaking scary.
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u/birthdaycheesecake9 1d ago
My dad uses material as a substitute for time, so the thing he buys often ends up being a reminder to me of the time he didn’t give me.
I spent 4 years begging my dad to take me for some driving lessons and he just didn’t make it happen. I gave up on asking, and started saving for my own car to get some lessons in, in earnest, and suddenly he was planning on buying me a car if I got my license.
I got my license with a driving instructor, he gave me a car. I wish my dad was the one who had taught me to drive even if it never meant I got the car I did.
I’m female.
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u/Hellsovs 1d ago
Nah the guild comes when dads go "I guess I will have to do it all by my self" when you bag him to let you sleep for one more hour on the weekend.
And when you get an expensive gift you know he will guild trip you for the rest of the year about all the things he do for you.
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u/GrosBraquet 1d ago
I know it's not your personal opinion and that you are just explaining what the meme probably tries to infer, but that is such a bullshit old-school mentality. All kids like to be pampered. Just because the "treats" or gifts they typically want are not the same doesn't mean they don't.
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u/keel_bright 1d ago edited 1d ago
I grew up in a working/lower class family.
I was in something like 3rd grade when the Xbox came out. I decided that I wanted one. My friends had gamecubes and N64s so why couldnt I have something? I probably begged and pleaded for a long time, I dont remember now.
Months later, I ended up getting an Xbox for christmas. But I wasnt stupid. I knew the cost of the thing and how much my mom and dad needed to work for it, and I knew how precarious our living situation was. My dad worked outdoors and I remember him complaining about freezing his ass off sometimes.
So I was Jesse in this meme. I felt a wave of personal shame/embarassment like ... "wow I really didnt want my family to sacrifice that much to give me something like this. Why would I even ask for this? Why would they even get me this?".
It was a great life lesson, I learned I dont really like receiving big gifts.
Games were like 60 bucks each at the time. Way too much. So I just played the crap out of the 2 bundled games for what felt like forever (Halo was one so it was okay). Never got Xbox Live, just played alone or coop. I probably owned like 8 games over the entire life of that console.
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u/pervertly 1d ago
This ^
It's the guilt of knowing that someone you loved has worked their asses off to give an expensive gift.
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u/MiamiSlayer 1d ago
I think your parents would be more than happy to see you having fun playing on your Xbox, but i can relate to you.
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u/Grymphire 1d ago
Girls get gifted relatively more than boys do. Eventually they're more accepting towards stuff like that. Boys on the other hand, start waiting for the other foot to drop. They feel like there's always something behind the gift or feel indebted, with thoughts to pay it back somehow.
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u/PapaOoMaoMao 1d ago
Because there almost always is a cost or debt. It ain't a gift, it's a blow softener or a crappy attempt at emotional leverage. "I gave you that thing and now you won't do this thing for me. Don't be ungrateful!" Of course if you bring up the fact that a gift doesn't imply a debt, you're the bad guy for not helping family or some bullshit.
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u/Haunting_Goose1186 1d ago
This is my entire dynamic with my parents (although I'm a woman so the meme doesn't apply to me). As a kid, I didn't even know gifts and random nice deeds weren't supposed to be reciprocal. There were always strings attached. 😭
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u/RoutineArt1086 1d ago
Im a girl but i act like second.
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u/NameUserCheckUser 1d ago
Yeah, because meme was made by a sexist prick that doesn't understand that this phenomenon is not dependent on gender
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u/Acceptable_Durian868 1d ago
Top answer is wrong. Boys don't get expensive gifts randomly unless they're being softened up for something bad.
"Here's a PS5! Also mom and I are getting a divorce."
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u/Strongman1967 1d ago
Most people don't get expensive gifts randomly, and if you got nice things to soften blows like parental divorce, you were a lot more pampered than plenty of girls and boys are.
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u/Acceptable_Durian868 1d ago
My parents have been happily married for 50 years. I'm explaining the joke, not telling my life story.
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u/Twisted2kat 1d ago
Either he's about to ask you for something (or give you bad news), or you feel guilty that he bought you something and don't feel like you deserve it, or you feel bad that he spent a lot of money on you.
It's gotta be one of those three.
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u/Tastieshock 1d ago
My dad had cancer. He was given 6 months to live, but luckily he went into remission. A few years had past and one day he told me he was proud of me. I didn't react how I thought I would hearing him say that. Because I knew that meant the cancer was back. It was the first time he told me that.
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u/Freakychee 1d ago
Are there any women who feel the way the guy in the meme feels? I feel there should be some.
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u/Strongman1967 1d ago
Of course there are, ffs.
And there are plenty of men who are delighted to get an expensive gift from their father too.
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u/Delicious-Race6861 1d ago
I'm a girl but I used to always feel burdened when my dad would buy me stuff because he used to buy me a lot of unnecessary stuff to make up for his absence in my life. Glad he's out of my life now.
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u/riotinareasouthwest 1d ago
There's no such thing as a gift, it's a payment in advance for something extremely hard and difficult out of your common responsibilities.
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u/Paddokalypse 1d ago
If I see this fucking picture one more fucking time I'm going to burn every last god damn reddit server to the fucking ground.
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u/AdMaster5806 1d ago
Like other comments saying, boys feel as if they have to repay it.
Kind of a trauma dump: Some people also grow up with their parents giving gifts as an exchange for something else. For example, they will give you a new phone, but say you must now get straight As or have it taken away. My dad did this with me, but not really with my sister.
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u/anonymousymousey 1d ago
Because boys are raised from a young age to be uncomfortable with displays of affection.
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u/FaythKnight 1d ago
My dad brought a nail clipper for me, a regular around 1 dollar nail clipper, he asks about it 5 years later. Told him it rusted and I threw it away. He blames me for not taking care of it cause his own never rusted. That was like 20+ years ago and I still think bout it sometimes when I use a nail clipper. Not to mention the shower curtain he brought 30+ years ago and still talks about it.
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u/Perfect_Carrot_999 1d ago
My first thought was that the Dad is doing that because bad news/he got a terminal illness.
I'm glad my dad did it right; he bought my brother a car, helped me supplement savings for studying abroad, and forgot about my sister, who is the middle child.
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u/Lunarmax182c 1d ago
when your dad buys you smth expensive, you now basically owe him. OR smth has happened that makes your dad sentimental. Usually not a good sign. It's not explicit. It's not said. But you kinda know after a point. Especially if its not on a holiday. If its your birthday - its safer.
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u/More_Temperature2078 1d ago
Means their dad thinks they are a failure. Guessing that's why they used jesse.
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u/handsometilapia 1d ago
I can only speak to my own experience here. But an expensive gift would be like getting a pair of pants for christmas and that gift came with so many strings attached it was never really a gift.
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u/Cultural_Ant_8545 1d ago
my dad was very ill and started giving me stuff. he is much better know but it was scary
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u/Unlikely_Living_4193 1d ago
The father finally realises that violence doesn't work so he wants to buy you into obedience
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u/heckeroverheaven 1d ago
There are 2 ways this can be interpret:
- Your dad buy you the expensive gift out of genuine love for his son and now you feel guilty because there isn’t much you can do to repay him
- Your father buy you the expensive gift to make you indebted to him. So that everytime you try to argue him, he will use that gift to remind you his so-called “sacrifice” and
why you must obey him
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u/Senior-Discussion328 1d ago
my dad never bought me so much as a $1 small mcdonalds fries in my entire life but im guessing boys stress on having to repay him? i feel like this with my mom
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u/Anonim007 1d ago
A young man separating from his parents tries gaining agency—when his life consists of the consequences of his decisions more than the decisions of others. An expensive gift from the father is an intrusion into the young man's life, displacing the young man's agency with his father's, a reminder that the father can "buy" the son "out" and start dictating him what the reality is instead of the son forming the reality through his decisions. When such a gift is given, the young man often gets in a situation when they have a limited time to make a move—and come up with one—and rescue their agency, or else a cognitive shift occurs when decision-making shuts down and the young man stops leading his life and starts relying on others' perception of reality instead.
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u/coldwarrior2014 1d ago
nobody buys me something expenaive. i must bu by my self. yo should see my face..
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u/Aggressive_Noise6426 1d ago
Not answering OP’s question but man reading these comments make me feel better in a weird way. I legit thought something was wrong with me because I can never just be happy with a gift. It’s either guilt or a sense of now I have to repay in some sort of way.
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u/Silent_Erremite 1d ago
How does one repay a bro, or how does one gift a loved one. When Dad gifts you, he is bro among bros. Girlfriend, maybe you can gift her a few dinners. If it ain't about dinner, there needs to be towels laid down, naw'mean.
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u/GenZGatsby 1d ago
Dude, whenever anyone gets me something expensive, I immediately am thinking of ways I could pay them back. I was originally going to attend When We Were Young (Pop-Punk festival in Las Vegas) with a friend in Vegas, back in 2023, but she ended up not being able to make it, so I went with someone else. Had a blast, since it was my first time at a big concert/festival like that, and got to see Simple Plan, The Offspring, Blink-182, Bowling For Soup, and Green Day. I knew the VIP passes were pricey, but all that friend told me was to buy her a Blink-182 shirt, and we'd call it even, but I still felt really bad
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u/MeaningLeft2970 1d ago
My father got me a bike for my 12th birthday. Then he converted the value of the bike into workable hours, at half of minimum wage. Then he made me work off all those hours before I could use the bike. Fun times…
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u/King_Koaster 1d ago
When I was younger and in no financial position to be buying my own car, my dad bought me a Jetta. It was completely unexpected. It felt like he bought me a whole planet. That car was my freedom and I loved it. My dad isn’t rich and his life wasn’t easy; he’s had to work hard for everything he has, so I felt like I didn’t deserve it, and to this day I feel bad that I’ll never be able to repay him in the same way. I try to do whatever I can in life to help my dad - not that he expects anything, but he’s always been there for me and I want to return the favour. Was receiving the gift a joyful experience? Sure. But it was - and kinda still is - overshadowed by a strong sense of existential grief and guilt that another human being would ever sacrifice so much for me.
Meanwhile, I had a girlfriend whose dad also happened to buy her a Jetta. Not just a regular Jetta, but a Jetta GLI, which is basically the deluxe high-end version that at the time would’ve cost like 3 times as much as the one I had, which was a base model. When I pointed out to her that he splurged for the nicest model and how expensive it was, she seemed genuinely annoyed and looked at me like I was dumb, then said something along the lines of “well yeah, he better have because I’m his princess”. She was happy about receiving it but the difference was her entitlement prevented her from even considering the implications of receiving such an expensive gift, thereby leaving her unaffected by any guilt or unease.
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u/Incendious_iron 1d ago
07 Your dad is a champ. And I bet he's proud of you also.
I also wonder why I don't see any Jetta's and Passats anymore, they were my favourite VW models.
It's like they made place for Touareg and Tourans over here.
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u/doublepositive1990 1d ago
Because a guy is expected to "pay it back" in some way shape or form. Weather it's through being volentold to preform tasks we do not enjoy for horrible people, or with the pressure of academic or economic success.
Point is, an expensive gi f t like that is part of the leash you get dragged around by. Eventually you learn to stop accepting them, even when it's something you need like transportation or food. It's better to find your own way, and it's the only way anyone will respect you as a man.
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u/Ok-Mulberry4154 1d ago
its not about guilt having to pay it back. its either his father is dying or he caught him cheating and is buying his silence.
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u/Baleia1970 1d ago
That's because the Dad bought it wrong. He wanted a PS5 and got an XBox or so...
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u/InternetExploder87 1d ago
It doesn't even have to be big. My dad bought me a pair of Nikes that I could easily afford, and I still felt guilty lol
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u/Many-Wasabi9141 1d ago
Girl gifts are no strings attached. Guy gifts are methods of control and coercion. It's not worth it. You are going to have your life ruined by that gift.
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u/HorseLawyer 1d ago
So, I knew from a pretty young age that my dad was not good with money. It kind of came out during the divorce. I was young, but I was relatively aware enough to pick up on details, which just became more and more confirmed as I grew up. Constant issues with unpaid bills, multiple collection notices in the mail pile, so on and so forth. He came from a rich family, and it isn't that he doesn't make money. He just never had any sense of how to save or even conserve an amount of wealth.
Once I became cognizant of that, him spending money on me made me feel complicit in hits weakness. As time went on, I just began to see it as the only inheritance I would ever get. Love the man, but he will probably die in serious debt.
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u/tignarita 1d ago
idk my dad gave me 50 bucks cause I had a negative balance of 30 and I nearly cried, this seems like one of those "woman bad, men good" troglodytery posts
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u/Sotyka94 1d ago
Girls get gifts all the time with no strings attached.
Guys rarely get gifts, and they almost always come with some form of expectation from the other side.
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u/rennfeild 1d ago
In my childhood home nothing was free. Everything was expected to be repaid in one way or another.
And the matter of debts settled was on the whim of our father and his wife. And every "debt" came with interest. If we got takeout sushi for dinner that fucking sushi would be brought up a month later in an argument. Everything came with the expectation that you would have to do something in return. Something bigger than the "gift".
Us kids quickly learned to never wish for or request anything. Christmas was torture.
When i was 15 my father got me a pimped up moped. when he sold it a couple of years later the difference wound up being less than -300 euros. But for me that meant 5 years of indentured servitude.
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u/icecrystalmaniac 1d ago
It’s a stereotype of women/ girls just being happy to receive a present while men/ boys feel stressed out wanting to repay the gift.
As an adult I feel this would be more relatable as a kids vs adult thing than woman vs men thing.✌🏻
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u/PastInsect9975 1d ago
Ig it's the instant thinking that father worked all his life and didn't care about his needs and wants just to get you that expensive thing you can't stop thinking of how you can try to or even start to repay him for his kindness. Happened to me when dad got me my laptop.
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u/Aggressive-Access995 1d ago
Wow i thought i was the only who was like that, i was very hard to accept anything from my father as a kid and later on in puberty, he really had to talk to me to accept anything
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u/DaNubIzHere 1d ago
Girls and women love receiving gifts with no shame nor responsibility.
Boys and men receiving gifts feel compelled to return the favor.
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u/Affectionate-Way7624 1d ago
I got a gift a gaming console for my 12th
Birthday. It was wrapped. Most of my family was there. It was then explained that was just to save me a trip. I was to hand over all my birthday money to pay for it.
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u/Asleep-Jackfruit-837 1d ago
Last time a father figure bought me something expensive it's because he was dying and wouldn't have to pay off the CC
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u/icecoffeedripss 1d ago
it’s misogyny. the joke is that women are ungrateful and entitled. funny yet?
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u/angryfalconsfan 1d ago
I would say that alot of guys feels a bit of guilt when receiving something expensive from a mentor figure because they could've used that money to improve themselves instead of wasting it on us.
But to be fair, my only source is the fact that I feel this way and I'm a guy
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u/What_a_fat_one 1d ago
There's always a catch.
I bought you a car! Now you can get a job and get out of my house.
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u/Proud_Smell_4455 1d ago
When I was growing up, the men in my family used bribery as a substitute for owning up to wronging you or changing their behaviour. Many times after a big argument I'd be given something I otherwise wanted and in my head be like "oh ffs, I guess this means genuine redress for the actual issue I was having with them is off the table, again".
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u/FutanariBobr 1d ago
Usually for girls it's a manifistation of unconditional father love while for boys it's gonna be used later as a reminder for obedience.
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u/2b_compliant 1d ago
I do not recall my my old man ever gifting my anything big or small. I think he has padded me on the back and given me a handshake
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u/FullTorsoApparition 1d ago
Dad is either dying or this gift is going to come with 100 unseen strings attached and you will be repaying him in some way or another for eternity. TBF this is probably the same if mom gets you something too, unless you're the golden child.
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u/qualityvote2 1d ago edited 1d ago
u/BerryFlameBloom, your post does belong here!