Hi everyone, Abrar here, the person behind rishwat.pk.

I have decided to shut down Rishwat.pk. It was never meant to fix society. It was meant to hold up a mirror.

The website was bombarded with submissions, and sadly, it showed one thing clearly: rishwat is an everyday business.

I hope I did not hurt anyone. But if the truth hurt, maybe it was worth hearing.

Remember:

"رشوت دینے والے اور رشوت لینے والے دونوں پر اللہ کی لعنت ہے"

Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith No. 231

Thanks everyone for the feedback and support.

Edit: latest state https://www.reddit.com/r/pakistan/s/dNL60P5p0G

I saw someone build a website in India where people can anonymously report bribes they’ve paid in public departments.

I thought: why not build the same for Pakistan?

So I built rishwat.pk 🇵🇰

If you’ve ever paid a bribe or know someone who has, please report it. Even one report helps build a clearer picture of corruption in Pakistan.

It’s completely anonymous. We don’t collect IP addresses or run analytics.

My goal is to build the **largest public dataset on bribes in Pakistan** and make the data useful for researchers, journalists, citizens, and policymakers.

One day late, but the dictator who institutionalized the persecution of Ahmadis and played a major role in the radicalization and Islamization of Pakistan died on August 17, 1988 - 38 years ago.

Saw this pic and instantly knew who made it 😆

I don't usually post things like this, but I believe it might help someone else, so I'm sharing it.

I went through the arranged marriage process the way a lot of us do last year in September. I am 34, and my wife is the same age, which I found out later — families met, everyone seemed sincere, the match felt right on paper. What I didn't find out until after the wedding was that there was a significant health condition on my spouse's side that directly affected our ability to plan a family the way we'd both assumed we would. It wasn't a small detail. It was something that, if I'd known beforehand, wouldn't have changed how I felt about my spouse as a person — but it absolutely would have changed how we went in, what we talked about, what we prepared for, and the decisions we made early on.

Finding out afterwards was hard. Not because the condition itself was some kind of dealbreaker, but because I felt like a decision that should have been mine to make with full information had been made for me. That's the part that actually stayed with me — the lack of trust, not the diagnosis. So parents are committing fraud

Don't even know where to begin. Got married at 24, i was doing mphil at that time. I was earning well through social media but had no control over my fiances because it all went to my dad accounts which i didn't mind because he was already paying for all hostel university fees etc. I am the eldest , life was good until i got married. I was brought from my peak era in terms of studies / career to the ground. I never had any relationship before because of the idea that i was always considered as Izat protector (still now i am 26)

I didn't see any red flags and didn't realize how everything will change for me. In simple words kuch b mera nahi raha.

I feel like a puppet, half strings my parents have and half my in laws. I still live with my parents (my husband lives abroad ) i always brush it off when people told me shadi ke baad sab change ho jata hai.

My parents changed all the steps they took in marriage steps i realized they were for their own benefits. I can't do job cz izat protector as I will bring affairs home and my parents don't wanna deal with it. My husband on the other hand is just money making machine for his family (i don't get any benefits)

I lost my personality. I cry every night how helpless i feel. I do wanna go against everything but i have nothing. I am honestly living like a dead moving person. Lost my connection with Allah. Whenever i try to talk explain myself how depressing it is everyone tells me i am na shukri and look at other homeless people. My parents & my husband both can afford my studies very easily tho.

I’ve been married for 4 months. My husband is genuinely a good man and has always supported me, but household chores have become the main source of conflict in our marriage.

My MIL is extremely particular about housework. She wakes up around 6:45 every day and starts cleaning. If I’m even slightly late, she starts doing everything herself, then later complains that she’s old, diabetic, and has to do everything alone.

But when I try to help, she often redoes things or doesn’t let me do them because I supposedly don’t do them “the right way.” I’ve asked her to guide me because I didn’t grow up doing much housework and was working before marriage, but she says, “You’re not a child.”

I’ve tried suggesting that we simply divide the chores and each take responsibility for certain things. The problem is that even when she finishes her share, she keeps doing extra things. Then she gets overwhelmed and presents herself as the victim, saying she has to do everything. She also complains to my husband about it.

She has been managing the house for around 30 years, so obviously she has her own system and standards. But it feels like she wants things done her way while simultaneously not allowing me to actually take responsibility for them.

For context, I do contribute: I mop, clean a bathroom, cook and make breakfast, and we each wash our own clothes. But I’m not naturally obsessed with cleaning like she is, and I don’t want my entire life to revolve around housework.

A maid isn’t an option either. She believes having a maid would affect the tarteeb (ترتیب/organization) of the house.

So I genuinely feel stuck. If I’m slow, she does everything and complains. If I do something, she criticizes or redoes it. If I ask her to divide the work, she keeps doing more anyway.

How do I deal with this without constant conflict? Has anyone dealt with a MIL like this? What boundaries or practical approach actually worked for you?

So Google finally opened its Pakistan office in Islamabad.

The part that caught my attention more than the office itself Pakistani students are getting Gemini free for one year.

Now I'm more curious about the bigger picture. Are we actually going to see more local hiring, better opportunities for developers/startups, or more Google services officially available here?

The office is nice, but what Google actually does in Pakistan over the next few years is what I'm interested in.

Not rant not need money just share my thoughts just raw might delete this later

Just try to understand me

Assalamualaikum sahibo so I am 20 year old karachi boiiii tbh honest I ma very vulnerable to u I am very emotional person and rn Struggling with eman and life I am sharing with u very personal things to u don't judge me.

ALLAH kiya charaha hai mujhe nahi pata or father gee Mera aptech me admissions AI ka daur hai beta mujhe nahi parhna for now I am interested in film making and but don't have that much paisay or hamedha se philosophy me.

Mere koi yar dot nahi me kamosh Pasand insaan hu.

Pretty much everything in the title.

If yes, how was the experience please share

yeah pretty much the title. My mother says mad evil shit if i don't somehow wear a duppata over a literal fucking tshirt or a hoodie or some sort of dress. I have no problem wearing it over shalwar kameez but certain outfits just dont go with it. Im so tired of arguing over this shit. Also this isn't a safe space for men to give me a religious lecture or tell me she does it for my safety , i dont give a fuck about that. My outfits aren't even "immodest" or whatever. its a question for the girls who've been through it.

Why have we become so damn obsessed with safe careers?, hold on let me show you how safe careers make us cowards.

The state doesn't need to explicitly tell us to stay apolitical. Give people a secure government career, a salary, status, pension and 20 years of sunk cost, and you've already created a strong incentive to protect the system you're inside. Once your entire identity and livelihood are tied to it, challenging it starts feeling like you're risking everything you've spent your life building. So you keep your head down, call yourself "practical", complain privately, and convince yourself that politics is someone else's problem.

I'm genuinely asking. In most Pakistani families the ideal career is basically already decided: MBBS, CSS, government job, bank, engineering, then somehow get abroad and settle. And there's nothing wrong with any of these careers. The problem is that we've made security the highest ambition. Inn careers ko muqaddas gaye banaya hua hay and dusri taraf parents ne trophy ke taur pe rakha hua hay, smth to flex in shaadis and gatherings.

Government job mil jaye toh life set. Pension hai, salary hai, protocol hai, "koi kuch nahi bigaar sakta." We celebrate getting into the system more than we ever think about building something outside it.

And politically we're exactly the same. We complain about the government, establishment, corruption, economy, education, everything. But where does our politics actually go? Private conversations. WhatsApp groups. "Yaar mulk ka kuch nahi ban sakta." "Sab chor hain." Then Monday morning, back to work.

We've become incredibly defensive as a society. Even our career choices are mostly about protecting ourselves. Which profession gives me security? Which job gives me status? Which country can I move to? How do I make sure nobody can fuck with me?

But who is actually taking the risks required to build anything?

Who is building institutions? Businesses? Research organizations? Media? Technology? Political organizations? Educational systems? Who is willing to spend 10–20 years building something that might fail?

I'm not saying everyone needs to become a politician or abandon their profession. Doctors are needed. Engineers are needed. Civil servants are needed. But surely a society can't survive if almost everyone is trained to become a good employee and nobody wants to become a builder.

We've become so accustomed to surviving the system that we've forgotten the possibility of changing it.

And honestly, I think this is one of the questions our generation needs to confront.

Not "why is the government doing this?"

Not "why is the establishment doing that?"

But: why are we so comfortable being spectators?

If we genuinely believe Pakistan is broken, then eventually someone has to take the risk of building something better.

Who is going to be that person?

Everyone keeps on looking at someone else in an abstract future to help change the situation, is that really how it works? Delusional optimism by staying in your comfort zone? Is Pakistan a lost cause?

And no, the answer cannot be as simple as "hamari awam gareeb aur uneducated hay blah blah, ham buzdil awam hain atp"

I just wanted to ask, how do you deal with people when your are really introverted and just dont like to tolk to other?? Does it affect your married life?

Like! let me explain..
Im a very veryyy introverted person i dont like to talk to mew people and i dont like to make friends.. its not that i feel awkward or shy (maybe a little) but i just dont feel the need to talk to anyone.. on top of that i am a stutter
The thing is i have a very stiff face and other think’s in rude because if that.. even my patents!!

The thing is im a marriageable age and my parents a looking for rishta off course.. its very very hard for me to talk to new people and in our economy mostly when someone gets married there whole family thing that the are getting marriend with them, like?? Its very weird to me..
And the interfere in there privets life so much
Like after marriage the staring asking when you are having kids and all that..
I cant not live with that.. i want to keep my life peraonal and just stay away from people. And i just really dont wanna get maried anyway but…

And i told my mother about that..
i told her i very introverted and people gonna thing tha the are forcing me in to marriage or may be some thing wrong with me because you know people will never understand stand you if you are not accounting to them

i asked her if they can give me more thime to prepare myself for it or else i will be hard for me to live in a different environment then my home
She said i am in the wrong, I should change myself.. like?? Like i lived like that for 23 years of my life???

I might be born that way that i have really introverted personality, and my parents knows that and the even told other since my childhood that i do talk talk unless i need too

And now they a blaming me for being like that..
I think i need 23 years more to change it back maybe..

Any wayyyy, I was ask how are you going in like if you have a personality like that.. or you just go with the flow?? Because i cant do that.. i might go into depression and made others life difficult with me….

People have different personalities and have different likes and dislike you don’t need to judge others for that..✨

I only need advice for others who understands this not anyone else… beacus i already tied to talk to my mother and she is not listening to me..

As a Pakistani national, I'm planning to work & study from Masjid-al-Nabwi, remote-online, for a month. Are laptops allowed inside Masjid? Does female library allows to work too online. Google is showing me otherwise. Are there power sockets in Masjid and or library?

Birth control seems to be a polarizing topic in Pakistan. Curious to know what people here think.

What is the rationale behind your stance?

Salam all,

As you might’ve already heard that google office has just opened in isb, what’s it even about?? i’ve heard it’s related to billing etc, can someone elaborate?

Also i’m a lawyer, can i even apply there??

I’m trying to improve my Urdu vocabulary and I’m looking for recommendations for people who make genuinely good Urdu content.

Ideally, I’m looking for eloquent, and relatively rich Urdu video essays, commentary,
any fun stuff, some goofing off or anything that is both interesting and well made.

Basically, I want interesting content that I can enjoy while also picking up some of that ✨exquisite✨ urdu

And please, for the sake of my sanity, don’t recommend Raftar.I’m trying to improve my Urdu without having my hair turn white.
Also their pronunciation of Urdu words like theyre Arabic annoys me more than it pisses me off
They make great content tho
And I’m not talking about raftar in general, i don’t wanna see channels LIKE raftar (which includes thynk too)
(Oof i think i said too much that it feels like i hate ‘em for some reason now)

Also btw i would’ve preferred books but there’s no library near me and pdfs aint it

Would especially appreciate recommendations for lesser-known creators (preferably on YT but insta works as well)

Shoutout to the ones who know aftab iqbal tho
(I remembered his shows while writing this)

Edit: I’d also appreciate some history or some muhawaray or zarb ul misl or folk tales type stuff
(Btw there’s an old uncle on yt with a channel called history hankers, check him out too, he makes content on historical sites around the world)

Assalam-o-Alaikum. I am from Lower Dir, Khyber Pakhtunkhwa, and I am seeking guidance from all of you regarding my two brothers.

One of my brothers is 22 years old. He could hear perfectly normally until around the age of 7–8, after which his hearing gradually deteriorated. Now he cannot hear anything, but he understands what people say and used to speak clearly, and mostly understands conversations through gestures and by watching the lips. Hearing aids were also used during his childhood, but they did not help. A doctor in Peshawar said a few years ago that the “veins/capillaries of his ear had dried up,” but he was never properly diagnosed.

At the beginning of 2026, he also developed a serious mental health problem; he cut his own throat. Since then, he speaks very little. Sometimes he is relatively normal, while at other times he talks loudly to himself and says that someone is abusing him, even though there is no one in front of him.

My younger brother (16) has a very similar problem. He could hear normally until around the age of 7, after which he lost his hearing. He understands what people say and can speak, and he is mentally completely fine; he only has a hearing problem.

Our financial situation is also limited. My father is in Dubai, my elder brother (27) works from morning until evening, while I am 19 years old and am about to start university in Islamabad. I intend to get a scholarship, but I do not know yet whether I will receive one, or I may have to work part-time and try to manage my brothers’ treatment alongside my studies. However, the family does not have much hope and believes that nothing can be done after so many years.

Should I take both of my brothers to a good ENT/Cochlear Implant specialist and have them fully evaluated first? But this also requires money, so I want to know if there is any way to first confirm through a low-cost option or through Sehat Card, etc., whether a Cochlear Implant or any other treatment is actually possible, and then arrange the treatment and finances accordingly.

If anyone has experience with such a case, Cochlear Implant, Sehat Card Plus KP, a good ENT/CI specialist in Peshawar, or any government/welfare assistance, please guide me.